So what kind of man should we marry? What's love rat like?

I interviewed the stories of three divorced women, and they all told me the same answer. The most important quality of a man in marriage is three words-sense of responsibility.

Their stories are bloody and wonderful. Let's listen to their voices.

Ms. Wang, 36, is a bank clerk.

I met my ex-husband on a blind date, and he was very kind to me. He will buy me all my favorite bags, clothes and jewelry.

His advantage is generosity, but his disadvantage is that he spends too much money. Every time he makes money, he spends it everywhere, and his pockets are soon empty.

Then, all my salary is used for family expenses. We have been married for three years and have almost no savings.

Because his earning ability is still quite strong, I have always tolerated him, but then something happened, which made me desperate. At that time, I was pregnant and was about to give birth, but he told me that I had run out of money and I wanted to give birth with my own money.

I just can't hold on. At that time, I thought he was an irresponsible man. Later, he asked a friend to borrow money to solve my baby's expenses.

After giving birth to the child, I asked my mother to help me take care of the child. After confinement, I worked hard to make money just to leave him one day. Now, we have been divorced for two years. I take care of the baby alone, with an annual salary of 200 thousand. My mother and I have a good life.

If I meet the right person, I will still remarry, but I will definitely think about it. A man with no sense of responsibility will never marry again, preferring nothing.

Ms. Qi, aged 45, is an executive of our company.

My story is so wonderful that I can't bear to look back.

I am an ambitious woman. I didn't go to college at that time, but I always went to night school by my own efforts, got into college and got an MBA.

At work, I have worked in a big company for more than ten years, and I am still very satisfied from a small salesman to today's top management.

But my married life is simply the biggest shame of my life.

In fact, I have very low requirements for my lover, as long as you are good to me. I never thought how much money he could earn. In fact, I also found someone who loves me. My ex-husband was very kind to me when he was in love. At that time, people around me envied me. He takes me to work every morning. Without a car, he rides a bike, drives a battery car, buys me breakfast and milk, gives me a scarf in winter, gives me a sun umbrella in summer, and makes me soak in brown sugar water when I feel unwell.

In short, he can think of everything I can think of, and he can think of everything I can't think of. Later, I married him despite my parents' opposition, thinking that I had found happiness all my life, but only after marriage did I know that his warmth was not only directed at me, but he would also be kind to others, as long as that person made him profitable.

My ex-husband's own salary is very low, so he relies on being kind to me, eating mine, living in the house I bought, and even bringing other women to our wedding room. At first, I knew nothing about it. Then I noticed it slowly, and finally I caught it.

At that time, I was hysterical and almost depressed, and I didn't even want to go to work. Later, my best friend woke me up and said it was not worth it for such a person.

Finally, we divorced. I was 35 years old and used to living alone.

At the age of 38, I met my current lover, which can be said to be like-minded. Maybe it's a gift from God. At the age of 40, we got married and had no children. Now we are very happy.

Ms Zhao, 30, is a designer.

My story is short but bloody. I met my ex-husband at the age of 28 and got along well when I was in love. After getting along for half a year, we are crazy about getting married.

At that time, neither family was ready, but we couldn't wait to get the marriage certificate, so we were waiting for the wedding.

At this time, the problem came. The family wants the other party to pay 200 thousand bride price, hoping that the other party can provide a down payment to buy a house. My family paid for my car.

But the other party is very simple, with only two words "no money". The ex-husband's family is in the countryside, and the economic conditions are average, but it is really too much to say that there is no money. After all, it is unrealistic for us to buy a house in a big city without the support of our families. In the end, the ex-husband's family was only willing to pay 300,000 yuan, while the down payment for houses in our big cities needed 6,543,800 yuan.

Obviously, we can't talk properly, and both parents have already broken up. We are both embarrassed. My ex-husband also said that it was not easy for his parents to stand firmly with me and didn't see how responsible he was to work with me.

Finally, I decided to give up. Fortunately, I didn't have a baby, but I just pulled a card for nothing. I was depressed! I think this is the biggest stain in my life. I hope everyone will learn my lesson and don't get a marriage certificate casually. It's not too late to wait until the banquet is opened.