All emotions and behaviors that require restraint are anti-human, but because of that restraint, people have the opportunity to become higher human beings.
The whimsical alchemists who tirelessly test the existence of a constant flow of gold, the ambitious scientists who explore the possibility of "perpetual motion", the countless romantic poets and novelists who write about the eternity of love, can only prove that imagining the infinite is the ideal benchmark of the spiritual world, and the finite and restraint is the order of existence in the material world. the order of existence in the material world. Unfortunately, in the new age of consumerism, the impulsiveness and impulsiveness have turned into a desperate resistance.
In the face of the huge black hole of consumption, impulse is the key to unlock it. This key is dangerous but fascinating, knowing that it will devour people, but the endless joy of falling y into it is still fascinating. Because of the pleasure, it is willing. The mood of "I'd rather buy more than buy wrong, can't miss" is no less than the love attitude of "I'd rather be sad and cry than let go". Weaving reasons for consumption, creating opportunities for consumption, creating rationality for consumption, subconsciously are actually looking for reasonable excuses for the urge to consume. The only thing that will make you happy is that you will be able to get your hands on some of the best products and services in the world," he said.
While money and happiness cannot be equated, this second, money can buy happiness. Today's portion of joy is that 599 limited discount double-faced tweed coat in the live room. Even if there is a cabinet of the same color similar style coat, but it does not hinder the order of the hand speed and the speed of payment.
Thus, the wallet will be violently thin success, open the balance of change to be careful, the credit card bill has an incredible amount of repayment, in order to escape from the situation of being chased by the repayment figures desperately, so the impulse to spend must be restrained.
When advertisements fill elevators, subways, and shopping malls; when the windows of busy shopping malls are constantly changing with new products of the season; when favorite celebrities are endorsing up-and-coming luxury brands; and when all kinds of fashion and beauty bloggers are calling for a certain piece of single product, we can't avoid being exposed to the most trendy shopping messages, and even more so for the ideal piece of single product, but we can choose to avoid being exposed to the media that induces impulse spending. But we can choose to avoid exposure to mediums that induce impulse spending, such as: shopping platforms, live broadcast platforms, including girlfriends who like to buy and buy and buy.
This is the first step in restraining impulsive consumption, cutting off the purchase channel.
Don't underestimate any shopping platform, don't scorn any live broadcast, and don't belittle the special girlfriends around you who love to buy, they are the catalysts that inspire impulse shopping. In the era of big data, any seemingly inadvertent push and open, are after meticulous calculations and statistics after the precise placement. No one understands your consumer needs better than your cell phone, and no one understands your consumer preferences better than your BFFs. The frequency of opening the cell phone shopping platform and contacting your girlfriends directly determines the number of times you spend impulsively.
People can't afford to be tempted, and the best way to resist temptation is to block it.
Forced to uninstall a variety of shopping software, refused to invite shopping, and girlfriends chat does not involve consumer topics, completely from the external conditions of the occurrence of all consumer behavior, naturally avoided the impulse to spend. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on some of the most popular products and services in the world, and you'll be able to do it in a way that's easy for you.
The impulse to consume is also the same, cut off the purchase channel is the most direct and strongest restraint.
But the limitations of objective factors are not a permanent solution, and all restraint requires a great deal of patience and self-control. In the short term, it may work and can be controlled. But the days are long, the urge to consume will always have a day out of control. There is a saying that the ugly never goes away, and the next time it comes back, it will only be uglier. The same is true for the urge to consume, which, when overly restrained and suppressed, only becomes stronger and more unrestrained. Therefore, before the consumption impulse does not become vengeful consumption, the need to release the impulse, just release the way to pay attention to. According to everyone's consumption habits, it is known that online shopping is the main mode of consumption, so how should this time to release the consumption impulse?
"A shoot two wait three weigh", to expand that is to see the first time you like to shoot, but note that it is not immediately pay. At this point, the page will show that the goods have been photographed, waiting for payment, and there will be a payment countdown. This time may be as little as 5 minutes or as long as 24 hours. Use this time to calm yourself, or to be more precise, to cushion your urge to spend. It is important to understand that the completion of a consumer behavior requires two steps: successful auction and complete payment. The step of "successful auction" means "I will have it", which has already released most of the impulse to spend. So, in the waiting time for payment, people will slowly tend to be rational about "whether to buy" and "whether to pay". The third step, when rationality over impulse, will begin to think about the shot of this commodity in the end is "really need to buy" or "can buy can not buy". According to incomplete statistics, when the impulse to consume broken down into these three steps, the probability of giving up the purchase will be the majority.
The fact that the urge needs to be released, but not necessarily paid for, is another way of restraining the urge to consume. Taking a deep insight into ourselves, our consumption behavior is always blind, impulsive and ineffective, and most of the time we don't buy for the sake of needing, we buy for the sake of wanting. We seem to be more immersed in the act of consuming than actually owning an item. In other words, we enjoy the thrill of spending money more than what we buy. Therefore, the "One Shot, Two Equals, Three Weighs" is worth practicing, and it is a good way to restrain the urge to spend. It's a good way to restrain the impulse to spend without having to actually do it.
In summary, both the cut-off channel and the three-step practice can restrain the consumption impulse to a certain extent. However, in order to truly restrain the urge to consume for a long time, we must cultivate the habit of regular organizing and the attitude of "cutting off" life.
Regular organizing, as the name suggests, is to organize your closet, shoe cabinet and daily necessities every once in a while. You can organize regularly on a monthly basis or change it according to the seasons. The process of organizing is important, this time what you have, what you have extra, what you need, at a glance. Extra things, unified in a cardboard box before making plans, need things, listed on the shopping list.
In the big city drifting young people, moving more or less have had such an experience: "Why I bought so many useless", each move is a mandatory "disengagement". Keep in mind the feeling of moving every time, because only in this moment they will know, what things are really essential, what things are really useless and redundant.
Every time you finish organizing or every time you move, make sure you leave only the things that are really important, and those things that can be left behind, trust me, you will not have the chance to use them, so please hang them in the salted fish, donate them to the community or give them to the homeless.
Life is supposed to look like this, simple and full, not cluttered. If a person develops such self-disciplined habits, and has such a genuine attitude towards life, "how to restrain their spending impulses" will no longer be a problem. The people who are surrounded by a sense of security will seldom use the urge to consume to fill the inner emptiness and boredom; the people who can calm down, do not have to use the urge to consume to stack their own desires; the people who are spiritually rich and free, and even more will not put the focus of life on the urge to consume.
Therefore, restraining the urge to consume should only be a small problem at a certain stage of human life, and does not deserve to become a major theme of life.
Physicist Schr?dinger said, "Everything in nature tends to go from order to disorder, i.e., entropy increases. Life, on the other hand, needs to maintain itself at a stable and low level of entropy by constantly counteracting the positive entropy that its life produces. Life feeds on negative entropy." An organized life must be a balance of reason and emotion; impulses only lead one deeper and deeper into the vortex of disorder. Restraining the impulse to consume is to inhibit the production of positive entropy, and the so-called "higher order" is the person who has the ability to combat positive entropy, but also the person who knows how to restrain.