From the genetic factors, there are both children with big temper and children with gentle personality.
A child with a big temper is much stronger than a child with a small temper and takes time, but such a child is also born with a strong spirit and seems to work extremely hard.
What parents have to do is to accept their children in their usual mood.
When such a child cries before he is two and a half years old, his parents can listen calmly for a while, and then use other ways to distract him and lead him to do other things; When I was two and a half years old, when I was crying, my parents squatted down and looked at the child's face calmly until the anger subsided, hugged him and put forward agreed suggestions, which were implemented by both sides.
When the child loses his temper, the whole family should not suddenly want to show their arms. Please coax the child and meet all the requirements put forward by the child at that time. Because of this, children will realize the power of crying, often cry with family members as threats, and their temper will get worse and worse.
I can always hear complaints from many young parents. "The baby grows up slowly, but it is more and more disobedient. It is always angry and anxious to get angry.
In fact, parents can easily deal with a bad-tempered baby as long as they find out the reasons for Chu's anger and adopt different coping styles according to the situation.
I can't say clearly.
Qiuqiu is a two-year-old boy, very clever. Mom says he has a lot of hearts. Bullying my grandfather since childhood. Grandpa is the head of the family and loves him most, so his temper is getting worse and worse.
However, it is not easy to change the temper of the ball. Because mom and dad often cry because of the ball. Please calm down. He learned to intimidate adults with tears. Please don't rely on him. Besides, I'm really embarrassed and worried that you'll keep crying.
After consulting experts, they know; If a child about 2 years old is angry, parents should first analyze the reasons.
One situation is that the child is unwell or sleepy. In this case, by meeting the "unreasonable" requirements, it can play a role in easing and comforting.
When children grow up, their expressive force and control are enhanced, and they rarely scream for physical reasons. In another case, children threaten angrily in order to achieve a certain goal. Here can be divided into two categories.
One is that you don't know the harm, so you must do it; Besides, I know I won't be willful.
In the former case, parents can also be patient and reasonable, and let the children try on the basis of breastfeeding. For example, the water in the hot water bottle is very hot, and the baby doesn't want to move, so let him touch the spout himself. After trying, the baby can not only experience the burning taste, but also satisfy the curiosity to stop crying. After reading the hot water bottle, the baby will know the danger and stop pestering.
For the latter, we must adopt an indifferent coping style such as ignoring the baby's waywardness.
Usually after a while, the baby will not make any noise.
At this time, my parents said, "Go shopping with my mother! ) it doesn't work. If he loses his temper many times in order to distract the baby, instead of attracting the attention and compromise of adults, he becomes indifferent, and the baby will "summarize" the conclusions of "no" and "bad" and change his behavior.
Parents should also reason after the baby is noisy to help the baby become more rational.
After making balls by these methods, the balls become more and more sensible and adults feel relaxed.
Facing mistakes honestly is a sign of courage.
Beauty is reluctant to sleep every day, and my mother tells me stories repeatedly.
She was confident in her breasts at first, but halfway through, she was in trouble.
So my mother took the opportunity to break up unexpectedly, and the boss was unhappy. She wants to tell the story completely by herself.
Unfortunately, my mother reminded her again.
This time, I was ashamed and angry, stubbornly began to repeat, and never accepted my mother's help again. As a result, she wandered around the beginning over and over again, and finally fell asleep.
When I got up the next day, my mother reluctantly told her what happened last night. Storytelling is like a long run. I often fall down in the middle. In this case, you need to get up from where you fell and continue running. In this way, you can reach the finish line quickly. Every time you fall, you have to start from the beginning. Just like last night, you will always repeat where you don't need it, and you will never reach the end.
"Mom said this, barely keep silent.
So, my mom kept talking about it. "Most people don't want to admit that they are wrong. It takes a lot of courage to admit that you are wrong, because it is too difficult.
"This sentence, coming expression began to change-that is the inner anguish, want to overcome their bitter expression.
After a while, Yiyi, who had a strong self-esteem, finally said, "I was wrong!" " "spit out three words at a time. Then he burst into tears.
Mother immediately said, "Yiyi is very brave!" " Great. She nodded hard, and now her tearful expression is very dignified.
Although it was difficult to admit that she was wrong, she did it anyway.
It is also difficult for adults to admit their mistakes, but for the first baby in life, we must give up the so-called self-esteem. In addition, it is also helpful for children to tell their mistakes frankly, their childhood frustrations and what they should learn.
In addition, we should be good at looking at setbacks and don't equate difficulties with failures. Please pay attention to the baby. Anyone who works will have difficulties at first. Parents can encourage their children to stick it out. There is no need to see perfection.
Humor is the key
Mother Zhuang is a Chinese teacher in middle school. She often says that it is better to educate dozens of children at school than to work hard at home. Mr. Zhuang is only 3 years old, and nothing can be said to be "face to face" with adults.
After various experiments, my mother found that Zhuang Zhuang could not have the wisdom to attack.
Therefore, she gave full play to her language advantages and communicated with Zhuang with a lot of humorous stories and words, which achieved good results.
Once, his mother severely reprimanded him. He rebelled because he didn't eat and broke the bowl into pieces.
In the evening, his mother made up a story about the angry toad for him. "There is a little toad. Whenever his mother criticizes him, he will shout loudly, his stomach will swell and his neck will be thick. After a long time, he will become a toad full of boils, which is ugly. " Then Zhuang Yu said, "Don't be like a toad." Later, he was stubborn, and his mother reminded him not to be like a toad. When he becomes stronger, he will gradually calm down.
Mr. Zhuang caught a cold last winter, and the doctor asked him to have an intravenous drip three times.
I refused to go to the hospital two days later for fear of pain. "I played for the first time and also played for the second time. One two three! " He said proudly. At noon, my mother baked two sweet and sour spareribs, which were very strong and loved, and said to him when she started eating them. "I eat the first one, my dad eats the second one, and you eat the third one!" Mr. Zhuang said doubtfully, "One * * *, only two. Where did it come from? " . Mom said seriously. "Forget it, this is the first, this is the second, and the first plus the second is the third!" Smart and strong will soon understand. In the afternoon, she obediently went to the hospital with her mother for the third injection.
In life, there are many strong babies. Their ideas of thinking and doing things often exceed the expectations of adults, and sometimes I feel that even if they are wrong, they are taken for granted. As parents, don't arbitrarily say nothing, so as not to hurt your baby's self-confidence.
The correct way is to learn to relax and explain the truth with stories, games and songs that the baby can accept, so that the baby can correct his mistakes with a happy mood.
Parents should first know the reason why their children are angry.
There are usually two reasons.
First, children aged 3-6 have a certain social consciousness and a desire for "independence".
When he wants to do something, he has a sense of self, and he begins to hate taking the place of adults' shoulders, resenting what others do, and he will "resist" adults' operations and solve some things independently.
But he has the ability, lack of social knowledge and experience, mistakes in solving problems, and often self-defeating. When his wish can't come true, he will be anxious and lose his temper.
Another reason is that adults force themselves to do something and don't want to accept it, but adults insist on doing it themselves and vent their inner dissatisfaction with anger.
Of course, there are other situations. Some parents spoil their children too much. Once their children get angry, they will give them whatever they want. For a long time, children can see through adults' psychology and intimidate adults through anger to meet their own requirements.
The best way to help children overcome bad temper is to nip in the bud and reduce or avoid the chances of causing children to get angry.
If it is caused by the first reason, parents should boldly let go and let their children do what they can independently to solve the problem.
When children encounter difficulties, please guide them appropriately.
If it is caused by the second reason, parents should be careful not to force their children to do things they don't want to do. Knowing the reason and letting go of feelings can attract him to do it happily.
For the unreasonable demands made by children, you must explain why you can't be satisfied with his truth, or use other things to divert the child's attention and make him forget his demands for the time being.
When a child loses his temper, adults can ignore the child and deal with it calmly, but after slowly cooling down, talk to him about what happened to him.
Parents must have principles. Don't give up your right idea just because your child is angry. Don't coax or hug the child. Doing according to the child's wishes will only encourage willful bad habits.
Parents insist on principles, and over time, children will understand that what parents insist on will not change because of themselves, and it is futile to be angry.
If the child loses his temper, parents can also use the method of diverting attention to make the child pay attention to other content, and then educate him after he is emotionally stable.
It is worth noting that when the child is angry, parents should not be furious and make the child more impatient. In this way, not only can the contradiction not be solved, but the child will also be adversely affected and his temper will become bigger and bigger.
Parents should be patient, step by step, and gradually help their children get rid of the bad habit of losing their temper.
Tip: At present, many parents are consulting their children's psychological problems, but they can't get comprehensive information in a few words and can't provide targeted suggestions.
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