Selection is the first choice for many grassroots civil servants without family background to change their destiny.

I was lucky enough to be selected as a departmental unit, but a month later, I heard rumors about me, saying that I had an affair with a director of the original unit, and I was admitted because of the director's secret operation.

Anger, anger, madness, injustice, worry, confusion ... Reading at night with burning the lamp brought rumors flying all over the sky, and the anger and injustice at that time could be imagined.

At the beginning, I comforted myself. I was clean, and I saw people's hearts for a long time. After a long time, everyone knew who I was, so I ignored the rumors.

Later, it was found that the rumor became more and more stale, and I began to be alert. If it was allowed to spread, it would be extremely unfavorable for my future development in the new unit.

So, I did three things:

1, prove yourself

The reason why rumors are rampant is that people don't know the real me and my ability.

Therefore, in my work, I have completed every task assigned by my leaders with great care, and my meticulous, thoughtful and dedicated performance has been widely praised by my leaders and colleagues.

It's not enough to just show my work ability. I also seize every opportunity for others to ask me for advice, so that they can see my strong examination ability.

At that time, I participated in the selection at the same time as the husband of a new colleague. After her husband lost the election, she came to learn from me.

I was smeared by my colleagues, and I responded with three tricks.

From memory, I restored 90% of the questions to her (the online version of the questions has not been recalled yet), detailing my answers to each question, the test sites I think are hidden, the ways to solve them, and the experience of 20 sets of questions I have done.

Let her feel that, both technically and hard, I have successfully selected and deserved it. After being consulted several times, my reputation in the unit became: I can take exams.

I also live up to expectations. I have participated in skill competitions and writing competitions on behalf of my unit for many times, and I have won good rankings. It can be regarded as blocking the long mouth with facts.

2. Talk to the distributor

Note that it is a dialogue, not a confrontation. Once confronted, it will intensify contradictions, which is equivalent to war.

I managed to find the distributor, a colleague of my former unit. To avoid embarrassment, I didn't choose an interview, but called him:

Talk to him about work first, and then mention "I heard some rumors about me recently, do you know?" At first, he prevaricated, then told me face to face, and then said nothing, so let me ignore it.

Later, I came straight to the point: "XX, someone told me that you said this rumor, and I was shocked. From what I know about you, you are not such a person. I don't want anyone to sow discord between us, so I'm calling you. Although I am not in the original unit, we will get along in the future. Don't let this matter affect our relationship. "

I was smeared by my colleagues, and I responded with three tricks.

Maybe he felt ashamed, or maybe he didn't expect me to be so direct, so he immediately made up a lie and said that someone did talk nonsense with him, and he also defended me. In order to avoid misunderstanding, he couldn't tell me who that person was.

Because of the sudden phone call, he was full of loopholes before and after, and after reasoning and judgment, I already know fairly well.

I said, "You're right, I won't pursue this matter. I don't believe you are that kind of person either. How could you hurt me? You always helped me before, and I always remember your kindness. However, this matter today is related to my reputation, and it is not a trivial matter. Who wants to ask you again in the future, let him ask me directly. "

In this way, my heart was happy, and I didn't say anything ugly to embarrass him.

3, pay attention to words and deeds

After completing the above two steps, I began to reflect: why did he pass on mine instead of others' gossip? Why this director and not other directors?

There is no conflict of interest between me and him, and I have not offended him at ordinary times. Apart from his own gossip, it is very likely that I have something improper in my words and deeds.

I remember, this director appreciated me very much, praised me in public many times, and sometimes arranged work for me beyond my immediate leadership. This may be the case, which made people misunderstand.

The simple relationship between the superior and the subordinate has been vilified as a dirty relationship between men and women. I really want to tell the director about the villain's behavior and hope that he will use his position to punish the villain.

I didn't do it in the end.

I was smeared by my colleagues, and I responded with three tricks.

Later, I invited all the directors to dinner, during which I sincerely expressed my gratitude to everyone.

In the future, no matter the new unit or the original unit, treat every leader equally and pay attention to the sense of proportion, regardless of the distance between relatives and friends. After half a year, I never heard any rumors about me again.

I was smeared by my colleagues, and I responded with three tricks.

I have been patient, tempered and used some skills in this fight against rumors. Here are three experiences for your reference:

1, build a strong inner framework

People in the system are less mobile, and the work is mostly repetitive. People inevitably make things out of nothing. By catching wind and catching shadows and spreading gossip to adjust the monotonous life, this has caused that anyone can become the disseminator and the disseminator of rumors.

At this time, a strong heart is particularly important.

The so-called strong heart is to have a set of your own standards and bottom line.

If my heart is weak, I hear rumors, I'm in a hurry because I'm flustered and have no tricks. In the end, I'm the one who loses, and I'm happy with the gossip.

At that time, I clearly knew: first, rumors will always break down one day; Second, the survival of the organization, everyone may be gossiped, especially women who are a little beautiful and capable.

Recognizing this phenomenon, you will not feel so uncomfortable, but you can concentrate on solving problems rationally.

2, shock the mountain, eliminate the influence.

In the face of rumors, you may think that a straight body is not afraid of crooked shadows, so you just have a clear conscience and don't have to pay attention to it.

In fact, some rumors can't be ignored.

In the process of spreading rumors, there will be such a feature: at first, it is spread in a small area, and everyone is secretive. As time goes by, the more people know, the wider the communication channels, the more stale and exaggerated it is. When the rumors spread out of control, it is too late for you to clarify. At this point, your profile and reputation have been affected to some extent.

Of course, it's not any rumor, we have to clarify and explain. Only when you encounter these three categories, you need to fight back:

The first category is that you have an improper relationship with male leaders and male colleagues. Especially after the promotion of women with a little beauty, they are most likely to be said to rely on men to be superior;

Second, spread your family background. When an unknown teenager is transferred to a superior department or rated as advanced, people will say that you rely on relationships;

The third category says that your hands and feet are not clean. At a small scale, it is said that love takes advantage of the unit, and at a large scale, it is said that it is corruption and cashing.

The above three kinds of rumors involve not only a gossip, but also damage your character. In addition, these three kinds of rumors are the most talked about topics after dinner, which spread faster, wider and more lethal than ordinary rumors. This is why I chose to talk to the disseminator at the first time after hearing the rumors.

On the one hand, I want him to know that there is no impenetrable wall, and his evil deeds are seen through by me, so that he can feel my attitude and strength by taking advantage of his embarrassment. I am not a soft persimmon, and no one can pinch it if he wants.

On the other hand, it plays a deterrent warning role, reminding him to stop here, control the scope, and not to further expand the spread.

3. Enhance your skills and let others have nothing to say.

Everyone in the workplace should be good at shaping their own personal settings and learn to label themselves.

Sometimes we are passively labeled with bad labels. If we want to find a way to change it into good labels, the best way is to do our job well and build our own reputation in all directions.

On the one hand, focusing on work is not disturbed by rumors, which is of great benefit to your body and mind; On the other hand, ability is hard power. If you do a good job and get promoted quickly, no matter how jealous others are, you can't do anything to you.

I have met some people who are weak and indecisive, encounter rumors, get caught up in them, feel distressed and at a loss, and the energy that hurts the mind is comparable to being lovelorn.

Instead of wasting time torturing yourself, it is better to build your own personal reputation in all directions and let most people around you say that you are good. This is the most powerful counterattack against rumors.

Many people think that a straight foot is not afraid of a crooked shoe, but the fact is the opposite. In reality, many people are wronged to death.

When dealing with colleagues who spread rumors behind their backs, we should not blindly forbear, but use these methods.

Yesterday, there was a female fan who was working in the company. She was rumored with a forged WeChat chat record, and her work style was bad. Her private life was chaotic. She should have been promoted, but she was cancelled because of the bad influence of this incident.

She has a weak personality, and now she doesn't know what to do at all. She has worked so hard for so many years that she can't see anyone because a chat record was destroyed.

Brothers, that is, we must understand one point. If your job is unstable, it doesn't matter if you change places today and tomorrow.

You can choose to make peace, take a step back, because many people are just passers-by to you.

But if you work in a fixed place for a long time, you must consider one factor, personal reputation,

Although this thing is empty, it will affect your promotion.

If a person has a bad reputation, even if the leader promotes you in the future, how can you manage the following team?

There is another point, others have framed you so much and caused you such a big loss, how can you bear it?

Then you will only be bullied in the future. Everyone is picking up soft persimmons everywhere. Believe this objective rule.

When dealing with colleagues who spread rumors behind their backs, we should not blindly forbear, but use these methods.

Law.

So if you are framed by others in the workplace and have a great influence on you, remember to use these three methods to resolve it.

First, find out who framed you.

One of the most likely is that there is a conflict of interest with you. For example, there are two places for a unit to promote cadres, one is you and the other is another person, so the most suspected person is another person.

The second possibility is to sort out the people who have a bad relationship at ordinary times, and use the elimination method to see who is the most suspected. Remember this situation, it is best to record it on a piece of paper and write down the reasons for easy investigation.

Second, collect evidence

The origin of chat screenshots, that is to say, where did the chat screenshots come from?

Remember to report this kind of thing to the leader as soon as possible and ask the leader to help you check it out.

If the leader doesn't help you with the investigation in order to avoid suspicion, you can tell the leader that you want to call the police and let the police come to the unit. After all, the police car comes to the unit, which has a bad influence. To put it mildly, you should have some acting skills.

Of course, the general leaders will help you find out the rumor monger.

It's very simple. Call my colleagues and check the time through WeChat chat records.

It's easy to identify the rumour maker. If the rumour maker doesn't apologize to you publicly, then start step 3.

Iii. prosecution

You told the rumor monger that you were going to report the case to the public security organ, in order to shake the mountain and shake the tiger and make the rumor monger apologize to you.

If the rumormonger does not apologize, and his words are eloquent, he is very arrogant and distorts the facts.

Then you can directly report to the Public Security Bureau or directly sue the other party for criminal responsibility: fabricating facts and openly insulting others.

People are all shining swords, right? Then we have to get bayonets. Don't worry about whether you can prove your innocence. When you go to court to sue, you have already proved your innocence. Don't ask me why.

When dealing with colleagues who spread rumors behind their backs, we should not blindly forbear, but use these methods.

Finally, to make a conclusion, if all setbacks and forbearance in this world can solve the problem, then why are there so many victims injured by setbacks and forbearance in this world?

Remember your own business, you should pay attention to yourself, and don't believe that a straight body is not afraid of a crooked shadow. If this is useful, what evidence is needed?

No matter what time, we should have the spirit of being born to death. When others show their swords, we have to get bayonets. After all, he is not our son. Why should we let him?

Punch the bottom line and fight him to the end. ......