The first understanding of life is that being good at hiding yourself is not necessarily a bad thing, and hiding too deeply is not necessarily a good thing. Flexibility and sophistication can help, but deception and betrayal are outrageous. In the right and evil, right and wrong, honesty and deception, magnanimity and treachery, people are often at a loss and exhausted.
I once went all out to help my friends and consolidated my pure friendship with a sincere heart, but what I got was dishonesty and even deception; I hate hypocritical people, but I have to smile; I hate people with ulterior motives, but I can't expose them for various reasons; Disdaining the secular spirit, but deeply immersed in it … makes me swing like a swing in pain. Contradictory life, so many years of wind and rain are lonely.
Mean and noble, treacherous and magnanimous are two parallel lines, and they can never find the intersection point or the balance point. Why do you always look around when you walk? Why do you have to struggle in your own circle? Why do you want to find a place to stay in the eyes of others? Although there is deception, isn't well-intentioned deception also a kind of beauty? Despite the storm, isn't it sunny? Although I fell down once, it was a difficult journey-Brother Lu, I still have to keep trudging.
Career is keen on down-to-earth people, love favors loyal and sincere people, life favors people with perseverance, and friends trust people who treat each other sincerely.
Go your own way, dare to hate and love, cry if you want, smile happily, throw away that hypocrisy, abandon those worries, quit those disputes, forget those troubles, don't be careless, expose the truth, work hard and be honest.
Understanding of life Article 2 Everyone has his own life track and his own life rules. In the long river of years, many people will work hard and sacrifice something for their lives; In the course of life, the life that everyone has experienced is a story with only a beginning and no end, just an unfinished TV series.
Life is torture. You are always unpredictable. Only by maintaining a healthy attitude can life be colorful and full of vitality forever. Our life also needs everyone to experience it carefully. If we taste the ups and downs of life, we will have no regrets, and our life will be more tasteful and more worthy of nostalgia.
In the vast world, we are only a part and can't have everything. However, we can still live our lives unscrupulously and make great strides at our own pace. Our courage and self-confidence also need to be grasped and refined by ourselves. Many times, our life will be full of challenges and dangers. In the face of some situations that we can't surpass, we need a strong heart and self-confidence, and we need to constantly learn from experience in our lives and gain more spiritual wealth. While gaining strength, we must make up our minds to change something. When we can't choose the direction, we should also see the future clearly and make a choice without regrets in combination with our actual situation.
Everyone's life rhythm and lifestyle are different. At different times and under different circumstances, our ideas are different. Maybe when we lose it, we know how to cherish it; Maybe when we are about to give up, there will be a little concern; Maybe when we can't hold on, we will get encouragement and help from others ... Everything needs calm thinking, careful observation and sincere gratitude. ...
Time is passing, the pace of life is gradually accelerating, the pulse of thoughts is fast and slow, and the troubles around us are patronized from time to time ... This is both the essence of life and the test of life. No one can escape the control of nature. Only by constantly updating your life can you live wonderfully and smartly!
Understanding of life The third part above is an embarrassing example in Light. Some critics say why we should pay so much attention to houses, cars and so on. Life is the most important thing. But I think these comments are unfair to the above three people. Of course, they know that life is the most important thing, but they don't know that their life is disappearing, and this disappearance is more or less related to their occupation and living habits; If they know, I'm afraid they can leave the past life track resolutely, preferring to live an ordinary life that old parents and young children can rely on. They just don't know. Yes, many times, they don't want to live the life they choose now, but-people are in the Jianghu and can't help themselves.
Pan Jie got help from Pan Jie. Although she was ill in early March, the leader refused to grant leave, and her poor work would affect others. So, she either insists or resigns. Yu Juan has the help of Yu Juan; However, judging from her blog style, she may not feel compelled, but feel that giving herself a lot of load beyond the limit is a challenge she is willing to accept. Summer has the help of summer; The assistant professor of Wharton Business School takes the key stage of tenure, except for spelling; Coupled with her husband's busy work and frequent business trips, she doesn't want to neglect her children's education. She should at least be a full-time outstanding scholar, a capable housewife and a caring mother, and she can't relax at all.
Running at a high speed involuntarily seems to be the norm in today's society. About three years ago, I had dinner with several graduates. One of them was a girl who worked in her dream investment bank G. The dinner had been going on for some time, and the girl had just arrived. As soon as she sat down, the first thing she said was, "I was so happy today that I slept for six hours!" " "I looked up at her face in surprise. She is an undergraduate of Peking University, our master. She is an active member of the Shan Ying team. It's only been half a year since graduation, and she looks pale. Speaking of work experience, she said that she often stayed up late and worked overtime until two or three o'clock before returning to the dormitory, and went back to prepare for the next day's work at 6: 30 in the morning. Once she stood waiting for the elevator and soon fell asleep. Because there is no substitute, she is under great physical and mental pressure at work. Because if she makes a mistake, it will affect the whole team. She dare not think about the consequences, so she must be cautious again. I suggested that she pay attention to her health and balance ... She said that she knew she just wanted to work for a year or two, and then change when she had a high platform. It's well arranged, and I can't say anything. I also met young parents who left their children under 3 years old with their grandparents because they had to work overtime and study abroad. I advised them that children should not live with their parents for a long time when they are 0-3 years old. Psychologically speaking, children will feel abandoned, and this pain is hard to make up. Parents' reaction is often, I know it is, but if you don't work hard now, won't it hurt you if your children don't have a good education in the future? We will work hard for a year or two, and then we will get the baby back. Just a year or two.
It seems reasonable to strive for a year or two when you are young. But whether it can be implemented smoothly really depends on everyone's wisdom. When college classmate S graduated, he went to a consulting company that everyone admired. A few years later, she moved from a high-paying professional field to an administrative service track. Talking about the reason, she said it was terrible. She said that many of her female colleagues have been putting off having children; Some stay up until two or three o'clock during pregnancy; Some of them can't have children because they missed it or were in poor health. Besides, she also found that there are too few happy families among her colleagues. In fact, the reason is very simple. If you don't have time to get along with your family, a happy family will not fall from the sky.
Why do I see less and less freedom in life when things are getting richer? I remember watching a blind date program on Hunan Satellite TV last week. It was mother and daughter who came together to choose a son-in-law. One of the boys left a deep impression on me. He is making plans in Beijing. He thinks Beijing is suitable for work but not for life. He hopes to make plans for the elderly and children and live in the scenic second-tier cities in the south after earning money for four or five years. As a result, many female guests present said that he was not motivated. By the time his mother appeared, the old man who grew up in rural Jiangsu was very simple and excited. She said that there is an old saying in rural areas that "it is better to call family width than family width". She doesn't want her children to get into heavy debts because of buying a house. At present, it is very hard and stressful, but it cannot guarantee family harmony. The ending of the boy in the program is actually not unexpected-he won't meet his Mr Right-although I think he is thoughtful, motivated and excellent.
How can we increase the freedom of life? The answer to this question is naturally a matter of opinion. Of course, you can also ignore this problem and live your own life. However, in this fast-developing society, it is foreseeable that the worker portrayed by Chaplin in Modern Times will become more and more like him-he will keep screwing everything that looks like a screw until he can't work.
When I was a child, I heard that my mother's favorite song was Fairy Couple. What kind of couple is a fairy couple? It is the life mode of * * * struggling for a better future expressed by "you plow the field and I weave, you carry water and I water the garden", and the attitude of "husband and wife love each other with bitterness and sweetness"; Thirty years later, it is recognized that the fairy couple-at least from the attitude of the woman reflected on TV-is that the man wants to have a car and a house of several square meters, and this house cannot have a loan; The annual salary is hundreds of thousands. In my opinion, the richness of material stimulates people's expectations, and with these expectations, these materials openly control and enslave those who pursue happiness and beauty-how can they marry my daughter without buying a house of their own? Without a lot of money, how can we give our children a good education in the future? These expectations seem to give people the wisdom to look forward to the future, but they deprive people of many things that are the best and most important to their lives at this moment. In fact, if the soul has no home, how can a big house give us a sense of security and satisfaction?
Therefore, in my opinion, to increase the freedom of life, we must do subtraction. Because the really important and beautiful things in life are actually priceless, such as dreams, passion, love and freedom. In other words, finding out what is the best thing in our life may provide some ideas for us to learn to do subtraction.