Introduction: Fu Di Mo is a very popular Internet term in recent years. Together with Ma Bao Nan, they are the two types of people who should be avoided in marriage. Which one is scarier, Fu Di Mo or Ma Bao Man? This issue may not be settled for a while, but no matter what it is, this family problem is hidden. What does Fu Di Mo mean?

"Fu Di Mo is an Internet term, which means that usually due to the influence of the family, one will dedicate himself to his younger brother regardless of the cost. Rounding up, he is the second mother of his younger brother. . ”

To what extent is the subsidy? It is no exaggeration to say that the subsidies will be so great that new families will have to pay down payments, loan repayments, package repairs, and even arranged marriages.

Nowadays, "supporting younger brothers" no longer refers specifically to older sisters, but also includes younger sisters who dedicate everything to their elder brothers.

"If you want to marry a wife, don't marry the devil who supports your brother." Why can't you marry the "momon who supports your brother"? To put it bluntly, if they are not extremely wealthy, most men cannot afford to marry a "Fu Di Mo" because the "Fu Di Mo"'s natal family is like a group of vampires. Even if they have the ability to work, they will still stick to "Fu Di Mo". "Brother Demon" to obtain the capital for survival and living.

And the "brother-supporting demons" are also willing to be squeezed by their natal family, and even take the initiative to help their natal family empty out their own small homes. I wonder, which man can accept this? , even bear such a wife? No matter how motivated a man is, he will not be able to run this small family well, because to run a family well, money is the first foundation, but as long as there is a "supporting brother devil" wife, no matter how many years go by, the family will never become rich. , because all the money went to her to support her parents' family. What exactly is the fundamental problem with "supporting one's younger brother"?

First: lack of bottom line and unclear boundaries.

The boundary between emotion and reason is blurred. I suggest that couples who are troubled by such problems must make an appointment with each other to talk rationally.

Emotional boundaries and rational boundaries are discussed separately. Emotion is family affection. Relatives need financial support. Help is reasonable and reasonable, but it must be combined with the actual economic situation.

The maximum bottom line we can bear is how much we can help (for example, within x 10,000), and how many times we need to help (for example, again, two, and no more than three times). If it exceeds the bottom line, we cannot touch it no matter what. It is necessary to discuss clearly what consequences will follow.

Second: Emotionally dislocated and unable to love oneself.

Only by loving yourself can you see clearly who is the person around you who loves you and cares about you, and who is the person who just wants to use you and scheme against you.

No one needs to bear the burden of others' mistakes or problems for their whole life. Parents do not have this obligation, and as sisters, they do not have this obligation.

Help is possible, but this help is limited to the level of siblings. Remember, you are not the savior. It is better to teach a man to fish than to teach him to fish. Besides, your "fish" still has someone else, that is, the other half of your marriage.

Take control of your own life. Some people are not worthy of your help. They are not your retreat, but cut off your retreat and are obstacles on the road to your happy life.

Be kind to yourself, position yourself, and your love should be given to those who deserve it. It's not worth it to keep oppressing you and paying for someone who doesn't consider you. Which one is scarier, the Mommy's Boy or the Brother-in-law?

Characteristics of the Mommy's Boy:

1. Always saying "My mother said".

2. If you don’t have any opinion, just go to your mother if you need anything.

3. Whatever mom says is what she says, and everything she says is right.

4. When there is a conflict between your girlfriend and your mother, you blame your girlfriend indiscriminately and defend your mother.

5. When you grow up, you still cling to your mother and behave childishly.

6. Poor self-care ability, mother takes care of everything.

7. I give all my salary to my mother and am not financially independent.

8. I admire my mother extremely and think that women should be like my mother.

9. When you get married, you still have to live with your mother, and even sleep with her.

Characteristics of the devil who helps his younger brother:

1. He believes that he must help his younger brother with his help

2. He asks for money even when his younger brother is in trouble. Help, even though my brother didn't say anything, I had to think of it first and take the initiative to help.

3. Think that your own small family is not as important as your natal family, and you must help your natal family at all times.

4. Willingly contribute to your parents' family without asking for anything in return, and believe that you have an obligation to take care of everything.