What did Fu Gui take Jia Zhen for?

He regards Jia Zhen as a stone without feelings. He beat her, scolded her, and never felt bad.

Some men have never loved their wives from beginning to end. He married her just to carry on the family line and let a woman be the nanny of their whole family. When a woman resists and refuses to be the nanny of the whole family, men will kick her out of the house.

Today, when I visited the countryside, a woman with a child came to consult me.

She gave a brief account of her parents:

"My mother was my dad out. My grandparents are old and need to be looked after. My father asked my mother to take care of my grandparents in my hometown. He wanted to go out to work and earn money. My mother doesn't want to. My father wants to divorce my mother.

My father told my mother that the old house was built by my grandparents and belonged to them. The new house is for my brother and belongs to him. He asked my mother to clean the house and let my mother go. "

Now a woman's mother has gone to work in other places, and she is discussing divorce with a man. The woman wants to ask me, is it true that her mother can only go out clean after divorce?

Professor Xue Zhaofeng talks about marriage from the perspective of economics;

"Everyone gives different resource packages, and the time rhythm of playing a role is also different. Traditionally, it is women who pay earlier, have children, raise families and take care of families, while men play a later role. One side is sowing, and the other side is responsible for harvesting. At this time, there will be a problem. People in the back are more likely to steal from people in front. Therefore, when the two sides enter this link, the woman asks the man to give a little mortgage loan, so as to make a little bottom and protect the future marriage in case of problems. Is this wrong? That's right! "

After this woman told me the story of her parents, I immediately made it up in my mind.

I finally understand what it means that the man who pays at the back will kill the woman who pays at the front.

The woman spoke sympathetically about her mother. She said:

"My mother has been running for this family all her life. My grandparents are not good to my mother either. When we were young, my father worked outside, and my mother took care of my brother and me at home alone.

I remember when I was a child, my mother went to the market and was reluctant to buy a bottle of water. She found it difficult for my father to earn money outside. She takes care of the children at home. You should know how to save money for my dad.

After 30 years with my father, my mother has never bought a decent dress, so she wants to save money with her father and buy a house for her brother to get married. In winter, when we are all at home, my mother will keep warm. If we are not at home, she will be left alone. She won't burn the heating all winter to save some coal money. "

"My mother saved all her life and bought a house for my brother in the city. The house is written in my brother's name, with a down payment and a 20-year loan.

In recent years, my mother has been cooperating with my father everywhere to pay off my brother's loan. Now, my grandparents are sick, and my mother didn't say that she didn't take care of them at first. However, my grandparents love to find fault. They insisted that my mother sleep in the same room with them, bring them tea and water during the day and night, and cook.

My mother doesn't want to take care of my grandparents like that. She said that sleeping next door can also take care of the elderly. However, my dad just doesn't agree. Two people quarreled about it, and my father wanted to divorce my mother.

The old house in our family was built by grandparents. My father said that this house is not my mother's. My brother's new house is written in my brother's name, which has nothing to do with my mother.

He left with my mother and let her go out clean. I just want to know if my mother can share some property. "

The old house belongs to parents and the new house belongs to children. When two people are together, there is no deposit, only a loan for 20 years. What do women get if they divorce? They have no common property, but they also have joint debts.

Although cruel, I have to say that women get nothing. Because men have nothing.

A man so rightfully asked his wife for a divorce, so rightfully kicked her out of the house, but he felt that there was no woman at home anyway. If a woman gives, let her live. If a woman refuses to give, he will kick her out of the house.

What does he take his wife for?

When a stone can be discarded at any time. Stone is not afraid of pain, so it doesn't matter how you hurt it. If the stone is not used properly, throw it away.

He completely forgot what women have done to this family over the years. Although he made money, the woman raised two children, scrimped and saved, and took pains to live with him.

All the money he earned went to his parents and son, but never to his wife. Now that his parents are old, he confidently asks his wife to babysit them. If he can't do it, he will abandon you.

I once totally disapproved of women asking men to add their names to the room book before marriage. But now, I suddenly feel really necessary. Because, if you don't add it, at this time, what should you do if you are so slaughtered by men?

The biggest mistake a man makes in providing for the aged is: putting the matter of providing for the aged on his wife and asking her to do filial piety for herself. And himself, he can't do anything.

Is it wrong for this woman's mother to refuse to support her parents? That's absolutely right. Men say there is no woman's share of the property at home. In this case, women have no obligation to support their in-laws and have not inherited any of their property.

In-laws are kind to women, and women are willing to take care of them. This is their mutual affection.

In-laws are not good to women, and it is understandable that women are unwilling to take care of them.

A man should never forget that his parents are yours. You were raised by your parents, and it is you who should take care of them, not your wife.

You have no right to force your wife to take care of your parents. If you are really a dutiful son, you should go home and take care of your parents. This is your own responsibility.

Many men will say at this time, I take care of my parents, who will make money?

Will the money you earn be spent on your wife? When you earn money, you have to take care of your parents and children, but you have never taken care of your wife. In that case, why do you want your wife to take care of your parents for you?

Some men have never paid anything for their wives, even bought clothes for them, and have never felt sorry for whether their wives are full and warm. But so confidently asked his wife to pay exactly as he asked.

They really regard their wives as nannies and stones, but they just don't regard this woman as their wife.

Wives are for pain, for love, not for babysitting, nor for being abandoned.

The woman with the child said that her mother was over 50 years old and got nothing after the divorce, which was equivalent to nothing. But if her mother doesn't divorce, she will go home and continue to take care of the nanny's life.

Now her mother has made up her mind to divorce, but for such an ending, her mother feels too bad.

I asked her, who will take care of your grandparents if your parents are divorced?

The woman said that now her grandparents take care of themselves. Because my father had to work to earn money, my mother was driven away by my father.

I asked her, will your father quit to take care of your grandparents?

The woman said her father couldn't go home to take care of it. Because he has to make money.

In that case, what are you afraid of?

A woman divorced, but she was separated from a family that made her feel a burden. The child has grown up and has his own life. She should have a life. A person's parents are nobody's business, that's his own business.

If he doesn't go home to take care of it, his parents will suffer. If he wants to go home and take care of it, he will have to give up his job.

It is he who is in a dilemma. Divorced women earn their own money and spend it themselves. What's wrong with leaving home?

I told this woman:

"Your parents really divorced, the most regret is your father, not your mother. Because your mother is a giver and your father is a reaper. When your mother stopped giving, everything your father had gained was lost.

He wants to go home and take care of his parents. He wants to give up his job. He is in a dilemma. Because the woman who took all this for him was driven away by him.

In this way, there is nothing wrong with having nothing now. And love for children and the rest of my life.

As long as she moves forward, all the roads are bright. As for your father, his hard life is just the beginning. "