I believe everyone knows and understands that today's housing prices are getting higher and higher, which has become an unbearable burden for everyone. People with high housing prices may not be able to afford to buy a house in a big city after a lifetime of struggle. It even takes several generations to work together to buy it.

In our country, almost everyone has a fanatical attitude towards houses. In the minds of China people, a house is equivalent to a home and a safe haven for life. China people can be poor, down and out, and suffer hardships in this life, but they must have no home, that is, no house.

This mentality has also led many women to ask for a car and a house when they get married. This high demand has also caused many young people to be afraid to get married because they have no money to buy a car or a house. In this environment, countless people are forced to become "house slaves" and "car slaves". Because of buying a house, marital and emotional problems are common, and how many couples just break up because of buying a house.

A house makes people see through the joys and sorrows of this world, and makes people know it well. It's ridiculous to think about it.

Feelings belong to feelings, and how to solve the marital emotional problems caused by this situation is what we should pay most attention to. Is the house really that important to marriage? What makes women's mate selection conditions become having a house and a car? The deep reason behind this phenomenon is worth exploring by each of us.

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Whenever Lin Xia hears that friends around her are getting married, her first reaction is not to congratulate each other, but to ask eagerly: Did you buy a house before marriage? It seems that in her eyes, getting married means buying a house.

Friends laughed at Lin Xia, saying that she was a "house slave" and had a mortgage, and she was used to worrying about whether others would buy a house or not. Whenever Lin Xia heard this sound, he just smiled helplessly and never said why.

Over time, someone will ask her curiously: Is the house that important to you? Do you have to have a house to get married?

Hearing a friend's inquiry, Lin Xia looked at the front with faint eyes and thought for a long time before answering: "In fact, I don't value the house, just because there are some things that make me particularly want to know what the marriage of others will be like without a house. Although this idea is ridiculous, I still believe that you must buy a house when you get married. It is best for both parties to buy together. "

Something happened to Lin Xia, which made her particularly obsessed with buying a house before marriage. She and her husband have been married for four years, and their feelings have changed from the initial fiery to the present neither salty nor light. A lot of trivial things happened after marriage, which almost killed their feelings.

Lin Xia remembered the first time she met her husband. Lin Xia was just a girl who had just entered the society. She met the same young husband. The two met at a friend's birthday party. At that time, both sides had a good impression on each other, so they left contact information.

Men always ask Lin Xia out after work, either to watch a movie or eat something. A discerning person knows at a glance that men want to pursue Lin Xia. Of course, Lin Xia knows that she also has a good impression on men, and she gets along well and feels very easy to get along with. So in less than two months, the two were together.

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Two lonely hearts collided in a crowded big city. The wonderful taste of love made the two young people unable to extricate themselves, and both of them greedily enjoyed the happiness brought by the other. At that time, Lin Xia decided that a man was the man he wanted to marry.

After more than a year of love, the man finally proposed to Lin Xia. Under the witness of a friend, Lin Xia agreed to his proposal with tears in her eyes.

The two agreed to stay in the big city for development. A man's family is not rich, just an ordinary family. Parents' life savings can only pay the down payment for a big city house, and the others are really incapable.

Lin Xia's family is also very ordinary, but Lin Xia really likes men, so when she got married, she married a man without asking for anything.

The man's family collected the down payment of the house and bought a suite in a big city. The name was written by that man. At that time, Lin Xia once told the man and his parents that since the name of the house was written in the man's name, the mortgage repayment could only be done by the man's parents. If you want Lin Xia and his wife to return it together, you must add Lin Xia's name.

In fact, this request is not too much. The man's parents discussed it and agreed.

Married life is sweeter. Although Lin Xia and her husband have a high income in big cities, they spend a lot of money and can hardly save any money every month. The mortgage has been repaid by Lin Xia's parents-in-law, and those days were very calm.

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After marriage, Lin Xia didn't want her husband's money to manage like a friend. But always let her husband keep it for himself, because she believes in her eyes.

But this time, she looked away. Lin Xia found that her husband's money was less every month. Later, after she asked, her husband told her that all the money was given to her parents to help them pay the mortgage together.

Lin Xia was a little unhappy, but she didn't say anything. After all, her husband earned the money himself, and there is nothing wrong with helping to repay the mortgage.

After a while, Lin Xia became pregnant. The expenses at home have also become much higher, especially after giving birth to children. For the sake of the children, Lin Xia herself began to scrimp and save.

But this time, Lin Xia's mother-in-law found her and told her a lot, which means that Lin Xia has been living in this house, and she should also pay back some mortgages.

Lin Xia is a little angry. It was agreed that you would pay the mortgage, and now suddenly you want me to pay it back.

Unexpectedly, Lin Xia's mother-in-law suddenly took a tough attitude: "Daughter-in-law, you must pay the mortgage in the future. If you don't want to pay it back, divorce my son. "

Lin Xia looked at her mother-in-law who suddenly became tough, and then at the child in her arms. Suddenly, she understood that she had a baby and didn't dare to divorce a man at all. That's why I took advantage of the fire and let her pay the mortgage together.

Lin Xia suddenly felt tired and a little chilling. She thought about it and said, "Yes, I can pay the mortgage. But first add my name to the house. "

The mother-in-law didn't agree at all, and the two quarreled because of this matter.

Later, Lin Xia's parents knew about it, and they were afraid that their daughter would be bullied, so they collected some money and asked her to use it to repay the mortgage, so that the house could be named after her.

My mother-in-law still disagrees. Lin Xia was in a hurry and said directly to her, "If you don't agree, then I will divorce your son!" "

Hearing this, the mother-in-law reluctantly agreed. But after this incident, Lin Xia became a little sensitive, especially about the house. She often advises people around her to talk about buying a house before getting married, and not to screw up her marriage life because of something like herself.