The question of "whether a woman is excellent" mentioned in the last article is actually related to "conditions". If the man you face thinks you are not good and he is better than you, then he will make a deal with you invisibly, instead of asking you to make a deal with him in turn.

or vice versa, Dallas to the auditorium If women are better than men, then men are definitely not in charge. This is the so-called "right to speak". People with more capital and good conditions are not afraid of losing, while people with less capital and poor conditions are very afraid of losing. Therefore, it is reasonable for people with less capital and poor conditions to choose appropriate concessions according to this law.

Between the following husband and wife, that is, the woman has more capital, better conditions and more voice than the man, and the man naturally made concessions. Only in this way can the marriage start smoothly. Women just told me, men told me before. Let's listen to their respective statements:

Woman: "Lin Dong, I just read your article about" Are women outstanding? "I am really touched. Although I am not excellent, I have been on the road and trying to appreciate myself.

Generally speaking, my condition is better than other women around me, and all this is due to my parents, who have created good conditions for me. As the saying goes, don't let your child lose at the starting line. This starting line refers to parents, not the pressure parents put on their children.

My parents have laid a good foundation for my family, and I am willing to work hard myself, so I am ok on the whole. At least, compared with my husband's comprehensive conditions, I am better than him.

It is precisely because of such an objective fact that in our marriage, I have always been in a dominant position and he has always been in a subordinate position. I have no problem with him, because he has self-knowledge and knows what kind of person he is, so he never argues with me and is willing to be a subordinate.

In fact, this is just the overall state of our marriage. As far as details are concerned, we also have problems when talking about marriage. The problem is not my husband but my mother-in-law.

My parents bought me a house before I talked about marriage. My husband is only asked to give a bride price, not to buy a house, but the house cannot be named after him.

He did agree, but my mother-in-law disagreed and asked my mother to add my son's name to the house. My mother told her, "The house is my daughter's pre-marital property. Don't worry. It's no use worrying about it. It doesn't mean anything to add your son's name. "

It was my husband who did ideological work for my mother-in-law that kept our marriage from going to tragedy. I think he can manage his family well, and it is enough to be himself. In fact, as long as he has been well, as long as we don't divorce, the house will always be ours, and I will add his name sooner or later. 』

Man: "the dark side of human nature exists in everyone, but some people know how to manage, and some people don't." When many people talk about human nature, they always pay attention to outsiders and seldom pay attention to their own families. I don't think this is good. We should know more clearly what the human nature of our family is.

When I got married, my mother showed her dark side. She was very calculating. Maybe she thinks she means well, but it doesn't look good to me

My conditions are limited, and so are the conditions at home. My wife's condition is very good, and so is her family's condition. In the matter of our marriage, her requirements are very low. As long as I give the bride price, I don't need to buy a house. This is a gift for someone with poor conditions like me, and I can't help but feel grateful.

Her mother said there was nothing wrong with adding my name to the house. In fact, it doesn't make any sense to add it, because the house has always been my wife's pre-marital property. However, my mother disagreed. First, she went to my wife's house to make trouble. After being rejected, she told me: "Son, you can't have your name on the real estate license, or you will suffer from divorce!"

This is obviously "nonsense" and obviously a calculation. I was really disappointed. I had calculated the divorce before I got married. I told her:

"Our conditions are poor in themselves, and less unreasonable demands can make the marriage last. If you always make unreasonable demands, it will only speed up the divorce. There is a fact that even if my name is added to the house, I won't get it if I divorce, because it is her pre-marital property, so I don't have to worry about the house. We should make more concessions and be grateful for being respected. "

I didn't let my mother continue to interfere in my marriage. Her attitude is not good. According to her attitude, it will definitely ruin my marriage. It's not terrible that men are in poor condition, what's terrible is that they dare not admit it. In fact, as long as you admit it, it's nothing. If your wife is in good condition, let her be the leader, so that you can balance each other psychologically and avoid conflicts. 』

It is not terrible for a person to be poor, but it is terrible to be poor and selfish! From the perspective of conventional marriage, men need to spend money to get a wife. If you feel unfair, if you feel miserable, then find someone who is willing to marry you but has no money. As long as you can find it, it is your skill. But if you can't find it, you must accept the fact that getting married costs money.

For poor men, getting married costs money, which will cause great pressure. In this case, if you don't meet a woman with good conditions like the man above, you'd better not get married in a hurry and make money if you are short of money, so as to make yourself less stressed.

And if you meet a woman with good conditions like the man above, which can make you spend less money, then you need to be rational, honest and responsible, which is the only advantage you can stick to.

It is not terrible for a person to be poor, but it is terrible to be poor and selfish! The mother of the man above is a "poor and selfish" person. His son has no condition to spend money for his wife like others. He finally met a good woman who could get their family married with less money. She doesn't know how to be grateful, so she can only be careful. This is so unreasonable. If a man who is a party to a marriage is so selfish, he is sure to screw up the marriage.

Other women, regardless of men, should know how to measure themselves and each other when facing marriage. You have good conditions and a lot of capital, so you have the right to speak and make reasonable demands on each other; But if you have poor conditions and less capital, you might as well give more to each other. Only by reaching such a balanced state can marriage start smoothly. Otherwise, you have no right to speak, but you have to make unreasonable demands. If you are not sensible, once you are disconnected by the other party, you will definitely lose a lot.