The ancients believed that if parents favored their children and spoiled one of them while ignoring the other, the spoiled child would probably do whatever he wanted because of being spoiled, killing his will and making it difficult for him to make a difference when he grew up.

The neglected one, because of helplessness, can only rely on himself. When he grows up, he will not be too poor by his own efforts and struggles.

There are too many such phenomena in this society, such as the common demon who helps the younger brother, and the hard-earned income of the older sister eventually becomes the squandered capital of the younger brother.

However, the story told today is even worse in nature. What's the matter with parents subsidizing their poor brothers with high salaries?

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Sometimes, the phrase "people are good at being bullied" can also be used between families.

Ashan, a fellow villager, is often bullied by Adong, brother Qiang, and is also unloved by his parents.

Growing up, parents gave the best to their younger brothers. When I was studying, I bought him a place in medical school, and the food cost was twice that of Ashan. After graduating from college, I spent a lot of money to get my brother into a hospital as a doctor, with a monthly salary of more than 20 thousand.

And Ashan, holding Wowotou every day, ate sallow and emaciated, and didn't do well in the college entrance examination, so he went to a technical school. Parents don't care about his future and let him "die". Ordinary education, bad luck. He has repeatedly hit a wall on the road to job hunting, and his monthly salary is basically around two or three thousand.

Although my brother has a high income, he always lingers in bars, ktv and other high-end consumer places, and he is proficient in eating, drinking, whoring and gambling, so that he is often penniless. In order to find a daughter-in-law for my brother, my parents made a down payment on his house, and the mortgage was agreed to be repaid by him and his parents.

Soon, my brother Adong married his wife. After marriage, because the doctor is busy with his work and he is fun, the distance between him and his wife, A Juan, is gradually drifting away. A Juan lived alone every day, always suspicious, and finally they parted ways.

The divorced Adong has changed. He got as drunk as a fiddler in a nightclub every day, and then he didn't even pay off his mortgage.

At this time, my mother was in a hurry and went to see my brother Ashan:

"Son, your brother has been out of stock for several months. The bank called and said it would close the house if it didn't repay the loan. I am short of money recently, too. Your brother is in a bad mood. It costs too much to go to the bar every day. Recently, he always loses at cards. His mortgage can only be repaid by you! "

Ashan was at a loss: "Mom, my salary is only over 2,000 a month. How can I live after paying the mortgage? "

Mom continued to lobby: "Your money is just enough to repay the mortgage, and I will help you pack food. There is not much money left by bus, you can use a credit card to turn around! "

In the past, I couldn't get the care and support of my parents. Now my mother is forcing him to "help" more than his brother. Ashan was really angry this time: "Why should I repay his mortgage? My name is not on the real estate license! "

Perhaps the mother didn't expect that her youngest son, who always obeyed her, would go against her "will", and she felt that the situation was not good at the moment. So I began to use a bitter pill and immediately patted my knees and cried!

"If not, the house will be taken back to the bank. You can't watch your mother sleep in the street! I'm your mother, right? How can I have you without my mother? Can't my mother beg you? "

Mother's behavior is clearly naked "robbing the poor to help the rich"! No, Ashan couldn't stand the fucking crying, but he relented and promised to repay the loan. But this time it never stopped.

Imagine, Ashan used Weibo's salary to help his brother repay the mortgage, and his brother's monthly salary was over 10,000, and he was as happy as a fairy.

There is really no contrast, no harm!

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It's hard to be a house slave, especially for others!

Seeing that my brother Adong got married again, the family arranged a wedding for him again; Ashan, on the other hand, is getting older and older, reaching marriageable age early, but because of the low salary and moonlight, no girls are willing to talk to him at all.

Two years later, he finally found a girlfriend, so he asked his mother to save money for marriage, hoping to stop paying the loan. Seeing that her eldest son Adong was not so short of money, the mother agreed to Ashan's request.

Ashan, who has unloaded the heavy burden, thought that he could save money with confidence and meet his small future. But the death of grandpa a few months later brought him a new burden!

It turned out that my parents were heavily in debt because they were addicted to the underground Mark Six Lottery, and now my mother can't even afford her father's funeral expenses. Although the eldest son Adong has a high monthly salary, he also owes a lot of gambling debts. His parents dare not ask him for it, so they have to take Ashan as an operation.

Ashan is very wronged. His current monthly salary is only 3,000 to 4,000 yuan. He finally saved 10 thousand yuan and planned to buy a diamond ring for his girlfriend to propose marriage. Who knows his mother came out again.

Mother gave the order: "You still have 10,000 yuan, but we don't. If you don't take the money, where will your mother's face go? " As for marriage, you can buy her a silver ring ... "

It's easy to talk standing up. Ashan said angrily, "My brother has a car, a house and a wife. Why don't you ask him for money? " I'm 30 years old and still have nothing. Do you want me to be a bachelor for life? "

Seeing Ashan's reluctance, my mother did the same thing again: "Your brother's credit card is maxed out and his mortgage is about to break. You still have some money in our family, so you'd better save the emergency. Can't I pay you back later? " You disown your six relatives like this, and I really raised you for nothing! "

No one is "morally kidnapped" by the closest person. My mother hit Assan's soft spot again and again, so she started all kinds of moral kidnapping. Ashan is such a disappointing teacher that she only gave her ten thousand dollars.

Of course, the mother never loved this son, and finally did not pay back the money.

His girlfriend couldn't stand his cowardice and his "good boy" characteristics and left him cruelly soon.

There are obviously parents and brothers, but they live like orphans.

Life in Ashan seems more desolate than a desert island.

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When eccentric parents "rob the poor to help the rich" and use "moral kidnapping" to squeeze the unloved party, if it is you, will you choose to accept it or fight to the end?

Ashan, who has been completely exploited, is over 30 years old, but he is still down and out, and his road ahead is slim. His parents don't care whether he has a house or whether he can marry a daughter-in-law. Even my mother will have the cheek to ask him for living expenses from time to time!

He wanted to fight, but he always thought that people with flesh and blood could not be so determined.

On the other hand, his brother A Dongning would rather throw a lot of money on the gambling table than pay the mortgage paid by A Shan!

Especially not long ago, when Ashan decided to fight the war and offered to divide the property in half (when buying a house, his father verbally said that it was for two brothers, but for various reasons, he only wrote his brother's name), and his brother even boasted:

"You are dreaming, when your mouth kung fu really take it seriously? The real estate license is registered in my name. Legally speaking, I am alone. Now I can let you live here, which is not thin for you! "

At this point, Yashan finally woke up and thoroughly saw his brother's true face. This "robber-style" family is really terrible, cunning and vicious …

The parents' partiality to the two brothers directly leads to a world of difference in the fate of the two brothers, which really makes people cry!

For Yashan, we can only lament his misfortune and be angry with him, knowing that he is not valued and overdraws himself who is not rich.

It can be said that Ashan's experience is partly his own responsibility!

I hope that from now on, he can recognize the reality, get out of the mire and really live for himself.

It is true that all virtues put filial piety first, but he should know how to advance and retreat and be flexible in everything.

If a parent who never loves himself and treats himself like dirt completely ignores your feelings, exploits you, squeezes you and hollows you out, should you consider refusing and resisting?

Born as a man, you must be filial to your parents and respect your brother. At the same time, when your personal interests are repeatedly violated, you should also learn to relax and stop.

Excessive accommodation and dedication will not attract the attention of the other party, nor will it bring about the warming of the relationship, but will only push this relationship to the abyss.

So is family, so is love, and so is friendship.

There is nothing wrong with selfishness and cruelty!