Samuel once said: "The success of marriage depends on two people, and one person can make it fail."
Women are always more vulnerable, and often after the passion of love, men become the one who contributed to the failure of marriage.
The love story between Angie and Jiang Defu is the most touching part in the tender drama "Parents' Love".
Angie is not a capable woman in the traditional sense. She has a big temper, spends a lot of money and is often too headstrong. At that time, "exquisite" became "petty bourgeoisie" and "reactionary".
However, a woman like Anjie is spoiled by Jiang Defu, and her heart has never changed. No matter how big the storm is, it is in front of her. It's really a sea of knives and mountains, by hook or by crook.
At that time, under the protection of Jiang Defu, Anjie lived a stable life. Although she didn't marry the imaginary "Prince Charming", she really lived like a princess all her life.
Jiang Defu and Anjie have different family backgrounds and personalities. What can support men to love all the time and how to get along in marriage is actually a question worthy of our consideration.
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In The Love of Parents, Jiang Defu doted on Angie until he was old.
Angie has a bad temper. She likes the cold war. Angie is not good at housework. She is often in trouble. Angie is not sociable. She likes to be quiet. On the other hand, Jiang Defu doesn't like cleanliness very much. He has some male chauvinism and careless personality.
Angie and Jiang Defu have great differences in living habits and values. But because of love, they came together.
Chernyshevski once said, "What does it mean to love someone? This means being happy for his happiness, doing everything that needs to be done to make him happier and get happiness from it. "
That's what Jiang Defu and Angie did when they got married. Although they often quarrel, he respects Anjie's living habits and her every decision. Do everything you can to make her feel more comfortable.
Angie likes to drink coffee. Although Jiang Defu criticized her, he asked someone to exchange foreign exchange certificates and buy coffee for his wife. No matter how small the wife likes, everything is important in her heart.
Anjie learned from other people's stock trading and finally lost Jiang Defu's salary for nearly a year. Jiang Defu symbolically took back his "economic power", but he did all the housework of buying food and cooking, which made Anjie more relaxed.
Several children were born one after another, but Jiang Defu's love never changed. For her sake, he gave up superior working conditions. He defended their mother in front of the children.
This kind of love without flowers and candlelight dinner has never changed in the years, and many people envy it.
The blessing of life is nothing more than loving someone and accompanying him for a lifetime.
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Why did Angie in Parents' Love let Jiang Defu love him all his life? We must do four things well.
In marriage, know how to advance and retreat. In marriage, knowing how to advance and retreat will make the relationship between husband and wife as resilient as bamboo.
There are many contradictions in their lives, and Angie often loses her temper. But when Jiang Defu is really angry, she is patient, and will not annoy her husband again, giving him a window to vent.
She knows how to comfort her husband, how to give him advice, get him through the crisis and make him trust himself more.
I'd like to tell Angie what problems I have. Two people face and solve problems together, so that two hearts can be closer.
In marriage, women who know how to advance and retreat can often get men's sincerity and maintenance.
Because women know how to advance and retreat, they are defending men's self-esteem and the feelings between husband and wife.
No matter how good a husband is, there is always a job. When many women got married, they taught each other at home and lived with men.
However, after Angie married Jiang Defu, she insisted on owning her own business. Regardless of Jiang Defu's position, she insisted on running her own small business.
She has her own ideas and doesn't want to be attached to men's lives. The more independent a woman is, the higher her position in men's hearts will be.
At that time, it was really difficult to find a woman with such an idea. Angie initially attracted Jiang Defu, perhaps because of her delicate facial features and symmetrical figure, but she always loved her because of her unique soul.
In marriage, even if there are men to rely on, women have to make a living by themselves.
Only when such a woman realizes her own value, is uneasy about the status quo and actively faces life can she exude unique charm and attract men's attention in her work.
Women have their own jobs, which can not only enrich their time, but also won't ask their husbands for money too much when spending money.
Women have independent ability, but they can gain men's recognition and know how to cherish it.
Persist in studying, reading and improving yourself. When Angie and Jiang Defu got married, Jiang Defu hardly liked reading. He didn't know a few words. She not only loves reading, but also instructs her husband to read.
Good love means that two people can grow up together in marriage. Angie not only studies by herself, but also helps her husband develop a good habit of reading and studying.
Only when two people make progress at the same time and cultivate their interest in * * * can they have more * * * topics and have * * * sounds in their heads.
It is precisely because she learned more from books that she learned how to live, never let herself stand still, and always faced life and career with relatively new ideas, so that she could always have a more important position in her husband's heart.
Anjie has always insisted on being himself, looking for the meaning of life and spiritual nutrition in the book, in order to find his own peach blossom garden under any circumstances.
And a woman in such a state lives a wonderful life, and men can't help but love and cherish care.