If you are a passenger in the car, you are willing to wait a minute for this disabled mom? Yesterday, with this question, the reporter interviewed people of different ages and occupations.
Waiting
One more minute of waiting is one more share of care
"In this question, there are too many possibilities. But if I really put myself in your shoes, the reality is that I will still wait, even if I have an opinion in my mind." Luo Anren, a 70-year-old citizen, is a director and vice president of marketing for a medical equipment company in Chongqing. He said that the child can be so demanding, there must be a special or special circumstances, and with the convenience of others, their own convenience, not to mention that the car is still a disabled mother, which is more need for tolerance and understanding. "Harmonious social relations, the need for everyone to be tolerant to give, anxious people, think of what people think."
Fan Wenwei, a sophomore girl majoring in journalism at Southwest University of Political Science and Law, also agreed with the wait. "This topic actually says that our modern people's impatient mentality makes us treat people and things with more patience. I think everyone in society should be more attentive and caring to the environment we live in and the people around us, so that we don't make this society seem too cold."
Chuanwai student Aileen Liu also agreed, saying, "To laze around for a while, to smoke a cigarette, to blow off steam, where are you not wasting this minute of time? And in this car, one more minute of waiting is one more share of love, and it can also give others a small warmth in a busy day."
"My profession dictates that I can't afford to lose that time, but as long as I don't wait too long it's not a problem." Yesterday, Xia Zongbin, who has been a brother for 15 years, confessed that he had waited in place for a passenger for more than 20 minutes and was let go. "When this happens, it is best to ask the passenger about the situation and how long you need to wait, and if the other person is disabled, it is acceptable for me to wait a little longer."
No wait
Public **** service can not delay others because of their own
"In fact, if it is not the last class, or a trip to wait 30 minutes for the interval, even with a disability, it should also take the child and wait for the next bus, rather than first let the child to run to take up the car, so that a car of people waiting for her alone. " In many people think should be more tolerance, etc., netizen "orange tree nest" point of view is also supported by many people.
Living in Li Jiatuo this year, 35-year-old Jiang Yu said, if he is a passenger in the car, he will not choose to wait. First, the child on the car did not explain the specific reason, which makes who want to wait out of thin air? Second, if this is the peak commuting period, such a wait will trigger the butterfly effect, many commuters may be late, behind the vehicle can not enter the station, which in turn led to traffic jams and so on. "I have had first-hand experience of going two minutes late during rush hour once, and the ride went from 40 minutes to two hours."
"Bus drivers also have a system of assessment, each class of departure, arrival and stopping time is specified, in case the car is late, it will affect his performance appraisal, one moment this disabled passenger is weak, the next moment the driver may be weaker than her. The difference between public **** service and private service is here, not for their own reasons to delay others, the system is the hard standard." Netizen "heart frank" said, before seeing these, he will be very moved, but now will not. And it is not the last train, why do you have to go to work and so on, so that everyone will have grievances.
Zhou You, who lives in Yubei Huxing, is a post-80s office worker who also agrees with "not waiting". "It's not that I don't have public **** morals, everyone's time is valuable, how can you be sure that the car is not in a hurry. Society is first based on contract, and then the human condition. Unless he made the situation clear and had the consent of everyone in the car or a majority of them. It is moral abduction to emphasize care for others at the expense of public **** order."
Reflection
What if the person who ends up on the bus is not disabled
While the two views of "wait" and "don't wait" are being debated online, some people have raised another voice: the crux of the problem is that the boy was not telling the truth when he got on the bus. The key to the problem is why the boy did not get on the bus when the truth, if he said, I believe that the passengers on the bus will understand, in the understanding of the premise of tolerance is the real harmony.
"If I am a passenger in the car, I will certainly understand the situation before deciding." Ms. Mao, 25, lives in Wanzhou and is a civil servant. She said that if the boy's family has an emergency and must now rush with his mother to take this bus to do, then will choose to wait patiently; but if the boy does not have an emergency and the other passengers are in a hurry, he will be persuaded to wait for the next bus.
This year's 25-year-old Lu Bin is a bank legal adviser, he said, etc. or not, in fact, maintain a public **** moral values, as long as this maintenance does not cause greater damage is justified. Wait, a shorter period of time on the public **** order will not cause greater damage; not wait, let the child go down to help his mother to sit down on a bus, the rights and interests of mothers and children will not constitute a greater harm.
There are also netizens put forward another hypothesis for reflection: "The social significance of this question is much more than that, imagine, if a different ending, and finally get on the bus is not a disabled person, then it should be etc. or not etc.?"
Voice
Wait or no wait, there is no right or wrong answer
Tang Jun, a researcher in sociology at the Chinese Academy of Social Sciences, said: for this essay question, in fact, all discussions are now based on assumptions, and these views can be understood under different assumptions. That is to say, no matter how this question is answered, there is no right or wrong to wait or not to wait. Personally, I prefer to wait. As many netizens have said, there is a lack of interpersonal harmony in China today. If you wait for a minute or two when you're not in a hurry, you may be able to achieve a harmonious relationship.
Think differently, learn to understand and tolerate
Liao Qifa, professor and doctoral supervisor of the Department of Education at Southwest University: This is an examination of people's hearts and minds, but also for us to learn to understand and tolerate. Finally scolding sound stopped, a car of silence, but also shows that there is a trace of guilt in everyone's heart, they may understand the disabled mother's difficulty, perhaps by filial piety impressed. People always wait until the time of no rush, and then reflect on the previous words and deeds, self-blame and remorse, are surging to the heart. So when it comes to this kind of situation, please slow down a little bit, think differently, and let tolerance follow.
Review
Dong Xiaoyu, dean of the School of Journalism and Media Studies at Southwest University, said that this year's essay material is short and the incident is small, but it is close to life, close to reality, both emotional and ideological. The passengers showed understanding, sympathy and care, demonstrating the preciousness of affection, understanding and care, reflecting the harmony and warmth of society, permeated with the positive energy of the times.
First of all, the candidates should realize that the material is full of strong mother and child love, deep public love, harmonious social love. Secondly, the material contains a profound thought, in today's impatient social and cultural context, this material composition can guide people to calm down, reflect on themselves, reflect on society, re-know life, know the value, know the sublime. Candidates writing, you can dig from a few points: the spirit of tolerance, reverence for life, moral values, peace of mind. In general, this essay is not easy to run on the topic, the threshold of the review is not high, but to write the material contains the feelings, deep meaning, interesting, need to usually eye view of society, thinking about society, heart of others, open-minded, emotionally full. When writing, candidates can start from the emotional, but also from the discursive pen. To strive for far-reaching, unique perspective, novel topic, clear thinking, language fluent, write "human flavor", "emotional flavor", "thinking flavor".
Yucai Middle School language researcher teacher Xiong Shaohua: this year's essay on the difficulty of the question has been to maintain the characteristics of the Chongqing proposition, the idea of three consecutive years in the same vein: 2013 freezer security guards and employees, 2014 landlord picking up the glass ballast, this year, buses and passengers waiting for people with disabilities to get on the bus. They all celebrate the beauty of human nature and advocate social understanding, empathy and care. Further embodies the principle of "close to life", "humanistic care" spirit, with a small to see the big, deep impact on the inner world of people, stimulate the emotional spark of students, in favor of the candidates "to write my heart with my hands! The spirit of "humanistic concern" has y impacted people's inner world and stimulated students' emotional spark, which is conducive to candidates' "writing my heart with their hands". Candidates can start from the praise, advocate the positive energy of society, at the same time, can also criticize the society is not lacking in its indifference, selfishness, and "exquisite egoist" in contrast, if from these perspectives to the intention, more meaningful.
Two years ago the popular microblogging this year's college entrance examination essay question
You guessed it?
Chongqing 2015 college entrance examination essay questions from the popular microblogging two years ago? It's true! Yesterday at noon, this year's Chongqing college entrance examination essay questions just out, careful netizens in the first time to find out the netizen "bamboo dashing 82" written two years ago this microblogging, also attracted a large number of netizens hot discussion, said "now the college entrance examination essay more and more close to life".
As of 17:00 yesterday, the microblogging volume has reached more than 23,000 retweets, comments reached more than 3,000, *** received more than 3,000 likes.
Blogger:
Chongqing exam questions more concerned about social humanity
Yesterday, the reporter contacted the microblogging blogger netizen "Zhu Lin Xiaoxia 82", she is currently living in Nanjing, Jiangsu Province. She is currently living in Nanjing, Jiangsu Province. Her voice on the phone sounded younger.
"So far the scene is still fresh in my mind, I tweeted not to blame anyone, nor for the mother and child." Netizen "bamboo forest dash 82" said, April 29, 2013, she went to Nanjing Women's Hospital to visit a good friend, sitting on the 13 bus, personally experienced this incident. After the microblogging, after the "Jinling Evening News", "New Express" and other media reports, also triggered a big discussion of human nature.
"I think the Chongqing college entrance examination essay involves more and more broadly, focusing on social humanity and other details of life, the real thing, this point is very awesome." She said that if she were to write the essay, she would start from the aspect of "slowing down oneself and forgiving others", hoping that in this era of "speed", we know how to turn back and wait for others when we are walking fast.
Reaction:
Appropriate Internet can understand the social hotspot
Yesterday, after the essay topic came out, many netizens in the microblogging exclaimed, "Now the college entrance examination essay is more and more close to life," "It seems to want to take a high score, you need to pay attention to hotspot ah often!
The 43-year-old Xiong Jing preparation period has been as much as possible to let her daughter less access to the network, only learning needs to occasionally let her daughter on the Internet. Yesterday, learned that this year's college entrance examination essay questions from microblogging, she was a little surprised, "you can properly look at the future, but the time is still not too long."
Shi Zhijian, a senior language teacher at Chongqing 29th High School, said the school's language teaching has been encouraging students to pay more attention to social hotspots, and it's a good way to look at media reports and go on microblogging after school.
Let's see how a writer, language teacher and "businesswoman" writes about "waiting."
Wait a minute, let the soul follow
Every time I see a message like this one, a phrase comes to mind: "Wait, and let our souls follow." This quote comes from a foreign fable about how we often need to allow time for our hearts and souls. The fact that the carload of people in the story fell into silence when they saw the disabled person shows that they all had good hearts. As for the grumbling at the beginning, it was only because of the habitual rush.
Chinese people are indeed in a hurry: they teach their children early childhood education as soon as they are born, they start learning English in kindergarten, they put on heavy schoolbags in elementary school, they finish the high school program in their second year of high school to prepare for the college entrance exam, they look for a job in their second year of college, they jump from job to job when their work is not as good as they would like it to be, they start a new business when they don't have the conditions for it, and they prepare to go public as soon as they open their own company. ......< /p>
We're really in too much of a hurry! But is that really good?
I have a friend who is interested in a very good product in Canada that is not available in China and wants to sell it in China. He found the boss of the production company to open very generous conditions, asked to do China's general agent, he thought the other side will be agreed on the spot. As a result, the Canadian boss said, "Don't be busy, let's have some tea first." So, my friend and the Canadian boss couple came and went for more than half a year, chatting about ideals and life and exchanging different beliefs. Finally, the Canadian boss said, "After more than half a year of understanding, I think we have similar values, your integrity, I'm willing to let you be the general agent in China, I'm going to in turn give you better conditions."
I was shocked to hear this story! It's a principle often hinted at by our oldest ancestors, "The way is different, but not the way." This Chinese catchy principle, long forgotten because we were in a hurry, has been fed back to us by a commercially advanced civilization. Entrepreneurship for more than twenty years, I have never considered this issue, at this moment I all of a sudden recall the development of those experienced in the impact: dishonest party A, unethical partnership partners, the temptation to break the law for the sake of profit ...... I'm glad that a lot of the time it is the moral bottom line and Virgo's cleanliness gave me the right choice.
Fundamentally speaking, after more than three decades of rapid development, China's economic development has had a soft landing, and the thirty-year rule has quietly changed. You don't need to be so fast to be successful anymore, just think hard; you don't need to be so anxious to be happy, just take things as they come. Products that take time get high quality; marketing that takes time gets fans; talk to potted plants and flowers will grow lush; have enough time to meditate and your body will be full of potential.
When new media forces the circle of friends to share their lives, when Industry 4.0 forces companies to choose materials carefully and strive for excellence in craftsmanship, when wearable devices control everything around us, and when big data gives us choices from the ground up, this is an era when I believe slow living will return to the future.
Slow work, thinking changes life, leave time for family, let the years precipitate cultivation ...... These claims of spending time will return to us. When we learn to slow down and believe that everything makes sense, that busload of grumbling will turn into graceful patience and social tolerance.
Author Introduction
Luoyu: male, born in 1968, author of the novel "missing Shangqing Temple", is now the vice chairman of the Chongqing Website Alliance, Chongqing E-commerce Association, vice chairman of the website branch of the Chongqing Municipal Association of Writers, Chongqing Municipal Association of Creative Writing Network Committee Standing Committee.
Inclusion of the truth of this world
When you see the female tour guide due to tourists do not buy rebates souvenirs and mouth crazy reprimand tourists, the sense of justice is bursting from the heart of whether you are angry from the heart, screaming to return the tourists a fair? But when the tour guide shed tears of remorse burst out of the tourists are to participate in the "dollar shopping tours", the goodness of your heart whether the scales tilted to the side of the tour guide was fired. When you see the overbearing female teachers in the sun days let students hold umbrellas, whether for the simple children indignation, arrogant teacher cast public opinion of cold violence. Then, if some teachers say his behavior is even worse, even asking students to wash their own dishes, help them carry their own backpacks, and crush them under their bodies, are you even more intolerant, and will not rest until such teachers are expelled from the education sector?
However, the truth of the matter is far from what you think, the students help him wash the dishes because he gave the students to cook, he often help students backpack, back sick children to the hospital, the students treat him as a "West" and his game, he paid for the children, teachers and students between the surge of sincere feelings, "the teachers and students, as long as the attachment between each other, the students and the students, the teachers and the students. As long as teachers and students are attached to each other, hands and feet are true love" - the famous educator Li Zhenxi said.
So you believe in true love again.
So what really shapes your judgment of things, is it the way things are, or the truth that others want you to see, or the truth that you want to believe deep down? The internet world is too confusing, and many people are fanning the flames for different purposes to get people's attention, to abduct people's morals, and also to test the morality and rationality of the netizens. This world of all the empty phase as a beautiful landscape in front of our eyes, chaotic flowers gradually fascinating eyes, how can we clear the fog to pick up the lotus that Gautama flicked up.
Ignorance leads to gullibility, impulsiveness leads to complaining, and suffering produces delusions of victimization, all of which are weaknesses of human nature. When everyone says the earth is square, who dares to risk universal condemnation by saying it is round? It is much easier and safer to go with the flow than to swim against it. The credo of not blaming everyone makes us lose the courage to think independently, and when the trend of public opinion shows itself in an unquestionable way, all we can do is to clap our hands. So the truth is lost to us.
In fact, what matters to us is not what it is like, but why it is like this. If you are willing to learn more about its causes and consequences, you will put an end to the half-knowledge of indiscriminate blame, and make reasonable judgment and reasonable behavior.
Confucianism said a thousand years ago: introspection, self-restraint, prudence, tolerance. There are very few people who can really do the same. We start from our own position, with a hole in the world, as a leaf blindfold, of course, less than the whole picture, the reason why we can not see, because our heart door is not open. If we look at things from my point of view, then everything will be colored by me, and if we treat others with a defensive mindset, we will also feel the slow malice from the world. If you treat others with a tolerant heart, the world will be much more lovely. The passengers on the bus were agitated because they waited for one more minute, and they were y tired of complaining. But Ji Xianlin, the president of Peking University, helped the freshmen guard their luggage for half a day in the cold wind without a word of complaint, and his temperament was like a fresh breeze on the face and a lotus blooming under the moon. He lives in clarity.
Eileen Chang once said, "Because I know, I am compassionate". As long as you look at the world with a compassionate heart, you will find that everything has a cause and everything is reasonable.
The highest sky in the world is the sky, the bluest is the ocean, and the broadest is the human heart. The most important thing is to have a broader mind. If you have a broader mind, you will be able to embrace the whole world and achieve a fuller mind. If you treat people with a tolerant heart, the world will open up.
About the Author
Zhang Chunyi: female, born in 1985, is a high school language teacher in Chongqing Railway High School. She wrote the play "Chinese Love Through Time and Space", "Colorful Youth Happy Chongqing" won the first prize in the 2010 and 2011 "Chinese Bridge" competitions, and the play "Seat" won the first prize in the Chongqing Municipal Secondary School Students' Drama Festival.
Being kind to others is being kind to yourself
The different ways of handling a matter will always have different results. So let's see what happens if this incident goes in a bad direction.
On a rainy day, the bus drove through the station and stopped. One by one, a group of people boarded the bus at the front door, their open umbrellas closed and dripping wetly. The male driver closed the door and started the engine.
Suddenly a passenger shouted, "Don't panic, there's still a little child left! There's still a little baby left on! "The bus stumbles, like a drunken man swaying from side to side. The male driver reopened the door, looked back, only to see a little boy, wearing a jean jacket, backpack, hand also tugged a plastic vegetable pockets, two steps and a step across up. The boy's face was full of rain, and his clothes were soaked. He said, "Uncle driver, please wait! My mom is still down there."
Half a minute passed, and the boy's mother did not appear at the door. Some passengers got anxious. Passenger A said, "What's going on, no one has shown up for half a day, I'm going to be late for work!"
Passenger B said: "How much longer do we have to wait? I'm worried about my wife and I'm home alone."
C shouted, "This is a waste of time, we all have things to do!" The boy looked up and begged, "Wait a little longer, just a little while." At this a number of people roared, "Wait for what, go down and wait yourself!"
The driver couldn't take the pressure and had to tell the boy, "Son, wait for the next bus." So the little boy got off the bus, and the bus sped off, splashing a misty puddle of muddy water.
Thankfully, it didn't go in that direction. The male driver continued to wait in the midst of all the finger-pointing, silently carrying the pressure, and the boy was not abandoned on the stormy and confused road, and the boy's mother got on the bus. It's an ending quite in keeping with our wishes, but it also reveals a few messages.
Wherein the boy's mom gets on the bus, why is there a collective silence from the passengers? Was it because she was dragging a disabled leg? What does this silence mean? Is it because everyone still has a conscience in their hearts? Is this conscience a remorse for their earlier impatience?
Furthermore, suppose that passengers A, B, and C are in their twilight years, and they are riding the bus with their young grandchildren. He trembled, on crutches half a day could not get on the bus, and the car also left him in the dust, will he recall his youth, he had met the little boy and her disabled mother this matter, then he will have a few guilt in his heart upset?
To be kind to others is to be kind to oneself. Especially in this environment where personal values are overly interpreted by the media, where everyone is an individual, and where the freedom of the individual's spirit is emphasized in absolute terms, our ears should often echo the old saying of Mencius: "As we are old, we are old; as we are young, we are young."
The conscience of the whole society is awakened, perhaps from this bus.
About the author:
Lu Wei: 21 years old, from Chongqing, a junior at Chuan Mei University. Once due to sun 3000 books, and published "my home no BMW, only thousands of volumes of books" of the net post, by the country's major websites and a number of media attention, has published two novels, known as the "90 after the book collection girl". At present, the newspaper carried out in the "business little sister" ambassador selection contest into the top 20.