Recently an exam classroom has a mom who often brings her son to study with her. The mom is 30 years old, has graduated from undergraduate school for 6 years, and wants to return to school after having a son. She said that her son is quite obedient, and that it would be less efficient for her to bring her child to study. Many "comrades" said: she is a role model on the road to graduate school. Anyone who has a dream is great, what reason not to work hard! The first time I've seen this, I've seen it in my life.

Mom has become a role model for her children and has made herself whole. A child's eyes will slowly follow the path of their own efforts, which will become a replayable movie in the future growth path.

Self-efficacy theory:

When people are uncertain about the consequences of a certain behavior and are hesitant to act, if someone makes the first choice, they will make the same decision as that person. This is "learning by example" in a group. There is a fundamental difference between "learning by example" and "herd" behavior under group pressure. It is only when people perceive "role models" as "people like themselves" that they really consider them as their role models. In this case, the role of the role model is to increase people's "self-efficacy", that is, to think that "if he can do it, I can do it too". The child who followed his mother to graduate school will surely think in the future, "I will be able to do it as easily as my mother did.

From a psychological point of view, the psychological mechanism of learning by example is mainly based on the psychological feeling of being born with the need to gain respect, recognition and acceptance, and children, consciously, gain this psychological need from imitation. Since the object of emulation to produce a certain behavioral identity, how to become him, it requires a process of internalization, the need to constantly strengthen the emulation, really identify things into their own natural behavior. If a mother wants her child to be courageous, but she herself is pushing back, then the child gets a contradictory message, the contradiction will produce trouble, mental health problems will breed. That's why it's important to teach by word and example as one, by example.

To lead by example:

The growth of a child is a mixture of imitation and self-reliance, imitation gives him the basic skills of life and his own cognition. Self-support allows him how to become himself, role modeling education is to hold up the child, so that the child can see their own direction and hope, and then in the discovery of the forward without hesitation, so as to obtain freedom.