This is normal, if I were still young, I wouldn't get married so early.

The burden of getting married is really high, and it's not comparable to the life of a single person. The first thing you need to do is to get back to the time when you were not married.

Then there are children, since they are born, it is impossible to leave them alone. Kindergarten, elementary school, secondary school, can not wait to give him baking powder to eat fast adult growth.

Anyway, that tired, that anxiety in mind.

There is also in the money disposal, unmarried when their own dashing a lot.

Not everyone can find a good economic lover, and not everyone can meet a woman like a flower. Once you're in the city, you'll have a lot more to worry about.

Many young people in the city do not want to get married, with the progress of society, the development of society, there are many young people to twenty-five or twenty-six years old are not eager to get married, why?

Because there are the following reasons, the first is that many of them are only children, because they enjoy the treatment of the Prince and Princess at home, so they do not want to get married, because married you have to become a mother and father, you have to give birth to a child you will have to have a lot of things to do, and it is also very hard, so their generation does not want to get married.

Secondly, it is because the young people's thinking is not the same as the old people's thinking, their thinking has progressed, and they mainly want to improve their own level of life and quality of life, they feel that they can live well alone, in fact, can be just as good, so they are not interested in marriage.

The last one is that nowadays, the divorce rate is too high, and it is hard to find a person who loves you until the end of your life, so they are afraid of marriage, they might as well be alone, they feel that marriage doesn't bring them security, but on the contrary, it brings more harm.

So they choose not to get married or delay marriage.

Thank you for the invitation!

The question. I remember answering it in one of the previous questions, and since it was asked again today, I'll answer it again.

Regarding why most of the young people of age today do not get married, I analyze the reasons as follows:

1. Housing prices

The high price of housing is a roadblock for many older young people who cannot get married. How many people in our society can get help from their parents to buy their own house in the city they live in? Most people have to rely on themselves to realize their dream of settling down in a certain city. And the price of a house keeps young people struggling for decades to walk the hard road of paying off mortgages and car loans.

2. Bride price

Families who raise daughters, it's not easy to raise daughters for decades, but some families can't raise their daughters, so they can ask for a sky-high bride price for no reason. Although I say this, some families who have raised boys do not think that this can not give. The bride price should be moderate, the boys give the bride price to the woman just to see how sincere you are to her, and the woman should not be too much excessive demand for no reason.

3. Work pressure

Today's young people work pressure increases, the material basis of the improvement of the cost of living in general growth, so that most of its young people will form the moonlight family. It is also the cost of living, the unit of overtime work, but also invariably occupy their spare time, no dating opportunities. This has all become the main factor in the city to fight the older young people can not get married.

The last point is that money is not everything, but without money is nothing. The first thing you need to do is to get the money to support your child from pregnancy to birth and then on to school.

Especially now that every family treats their children as treasures and tries to give them a better life. If you have an old man to help you, you can go out and continue to work after your child is weaned, but if you don't have an old man to help you, you can only quit your job and stay at home full-time with your child, and because of this, the pressure on your family's finances has increased compared to when you first got married.

I think the above reasons are the main reason why young people of marriageable age can not get married, as for the so-called mouth said that they did not meet the right person, in fact, or with these points have an inseparable relationship. I'm not sure if you're a good person, but I'm a good person. Welcome to the comments below *** with the discussion!

This means that society has progressed.

Don't want to get married is not now, long ago, but the previous social morality weave a huge net is too powerful. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on your mom and dad, but you can't rely on your aunt and uncle. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty.

OK, all can withstand, goddess into a big mom, three years with two children, the disillusionment of the dream to endure? The first thing you need to do is to find someone to tie the knot and recognize the fate of your life.

The modern world is not the same, the head of the village of the dog eggs, the end of the village of Cuihua, more than 360 days a year can be in the modern city called Albert and Alice, a key to shielding by the way, three even the circle of friends is not visible to work overtime meetings and sleep sleep sleep, want to morally kidnap, there is no door.

Of course, the most essential, why get married? The first thing you need to do is to get a good deal of money to pay for the services you need, and then you have to pay for the services you need!

Times are changing, lifestyles are changing, and people's way of thinking is also changing! From the earliest three wives and four concubines, to the later monogamy, and then to the modern Dink family, our way of life is constantly changing!

In the past, it was for the traditional idea of passing on the family name, but modern people think more about their own value, their own happiness! So, in the hearts of some young people, began to marriage is not so yearning! Sometimes it's just a burden!

There are many reasons,

In the countryside, if men and women are not married, the majority of boys, may be poor, our old home behind the two brothers, parents do not have much ability, until now are not married, the family is too poor, there is no suitable match for the girl. Nowadays, China, the entire rural society is the woman wants more money for the bride price, often more than 100,000, 200,000 have. Women require a house and a car, big data show that the whole society of men and women girls, there is a patriarchal ideology in China, so the girl is relatively speaking can find a good in-laws. The only way to get to the top of the list is to get to the bottom of the list, and then you can get to the top.

In the city, there are two kinds of situation,

A kind of senior white-collar workers, focusing on the development and growth of the career, no time to fall in love, and become the older leftover women or men. But this phenomenon to a certain extent with the passage of time the number will be reduced, postponing the time of marriage, he is to focus on the work and career.

Another situation is in the mind, super self-awareness, he believes that it is not necessary to form a family, you can choose to live freely, give yourself more time and space, want to do what you want to do, after all, life can be to this society has not been easy to do things, this way of life, most of the strong-willed, can enjoy the solitude of the people, in fact, not only, there is such a young man in China! In fact, not only in China, there are such young people, earlier appeared in Japan and the United States, and the number is very large, we can not evaluate the emergence of a thing good or bad, in the eyes of the general public, they choose to be single, or alone is actually a selfish performance, that this form of behavior affects the progress and development of society, contrary to the objective law of the development of things.

A lot of people have answered this question, and the subjective and objective superficial reasons have been said to be more thorough and more complete, I do not need to repeat.

I am a person of the sixties, I am more than thirty-five years old to get married, in our time, can be said to late marriage to the limit. The youngsters often make fun of me, our village, our township, our county, you did not get married, everyone for you to worry about ah.

Now, in the face of more and more large-scale late marriage phenomenon, I also often think about this problem, where is the reason? Why is it that many people almost logically involuntarily late marriage?

Looking around me, I was surprised to realize that our country has really changed radically over the decades. Our lifestyles and family structures have also changed radically (more on this in a separate post). Leaving aside the minority of city dwellers, we used to have a farming lifestyle for generations, with several generations of people living in one place, eating, drinking, living, and wearing together, with natural solidarity and collaboration between family members, and between the upper and lower generations, *** with the same face of old age, sickness, and death, *** with the same victory over the difficulties and challenges from nature or society, and with the maximized and intensive use of the labor force and the family's resources.

However, it is not the same now, the family members are on one side of the sky, husband and wife, parents, children are not together, and even they are migratory birds, moving with the seasons. This not only fails to integrate family resources, but also creates a lot of waste, even if it is a small thing, have to social individuals to deal with alone to complete, family members can not take care of each other. Have you not seen the frequent problems of children and the elderly being left behind? The same goes for the "foreigners", the children who are abroad, and the parents who are dead in the country, and the people who are not aware of it.

Speaking of which, some people may say that housework has been socialized. The smallest thing is a fast food, the biggest thing is the child elderly care, can be handed over to the social institutions to deal with complete. But all of this costs money. What will you do when you can't take care of your own income? In addition, under the leadership of science and technology, people in the concept of life, lifestyle, habits of life on the generation difference is obvious, the generation gap is serious, the diversity of lifestyle personalization, superimposed on the high demand for quality of life, the family members of the two generations are not willing to live together more and more phenomena.

The degree of social civilization is getting higher and higher, the division of labor is getting more and more detailed, which means that the cost of survival of social individuals is getting bigger and bigger, and when we were young, the kind of children on the ground crawling, "creek head lying peeling lotus seed" can grow up in the era of the past. In this context, specific to a certain society youth, as long as in the income, house, job, position does not reach a certain satisfaction value (not to mention in the freedom, sense of responsibility, expectations on the detailed study), young people are not willing to get married. I empathize!

It is often said that the world is in a period of great development, great change, great adjustment, Chinese society is even more so, and is the foundation is the harbinger, should be emphasized, seriously. However, few people face up to it, I personally hope that our sociologists, the relevant research institutions, this in-depth research, come up with forward-looking conclusions (Western futurists wrote the "Third Wave", when I was a child to see the incredible, but a lot of them are now becoming a reality), to facilitate the social management organizations to deal with, do not wait until the birth rate is low to a certain value of tension, so that the whole society is anxious.

There are some young people around me who really don't want to get married, either for personal reasons, social reasons, or family reasons.

Personal reasons are, for example, that a friend doesn't want to get married because he likes to be free and doesn't want to be tied down by his family.

For social reasons, a friend feels that the pressure of housing, children, and education is too great, coupled with the different values, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflicts, and other family relationships are not well handled, so the experience of married life and the degree of happiness is too poor, so they do not want to get married.

Family reasons some friends because their parents are divorced, not too optimistic about the relationship between the sexes, so also do not want to get married.

Including myself, I don't think it's necessary to get married for the sake of getting married. If you're doing well on your own, you can do it on your own, as long as you have a certain amount of financial means and independence, and you can be perfectly happy!

If there is someone you like and suitable, as Dr. Wu Jun said to his daughter in his book "Attitude", you can enter into marriage earlier, because it is very beneficial to women's fertility, work, and happiness.

So whether to get married or not, a look at their own ideas, a look at whether there is a suitable person, there is no need to because of the world's vision or the requirements of parents to go against their own wishes, to live out of their own, care for their own more valuable than anything else!

There are young people of the right age who don't want to get married. The first is the one in the village, and the second is the one in the village that is not.

Xi is 41 years old, is a handbag factory in Dongguan, Guangdong Province, production supervisor. Not only is he handsome, but he is also a graduate of a prestigious university. However, he is not married.

His parents, his brother and sister-in-law, his friends and relatives, he did not get married for the matter quite anxious. After all, his condition is not bad! Every year, they would introduce him to the object. But he refused every time. Even the ones who are good in all aspects are still the same.

XI's behavior makes me a bit confused. Why does he not want to get married?

Later, I learned a little bit about it from people's mouths. When Xi was in his twenties, he had a relationship. When they were talking about marriage, his girlfriend's family thought his family was too poor and broke them up.

Perhaps he couldn't get out of the shadow of failure, or perhaps he was too y in love, so he didn't want to get married.

The majority of young people who don't want to get married are still in the minority, and most don't get married because the conditions have not been met. This condition is the object of love, is the bank card a little more money.

These conditions can be achieved, and I hope that the young people of the right age to do more!