Zhou Shiyuan, a 25-year-old teacher in Tsinghua University, couldn't sleep after tossing and turning for a night. His body was exhausted and his head exploded. Because of work frustration and emotional frustration, he was depressed and miserable, as if he were on the verge of life. Finally, he made up his mind to commit suicide!

He shook himself out of bed, wrote a short suicide note, found a rope in the gloomy hall, and hung himself on the door frame connecting the hall and the suite. Fortunately, the rope broke and he fell. His hand groped in the dark, touched a bottle, unscrewed the lid, looked up and poured the liquid into his mouth. In an instant, the body burned fiercely, and he fainted to the ground ...

Since then, Zhou Shiyuan has no idea. At dawn, my colleague went to work and opened the laboratory. too many cooks sent Zhou Shiyuan to the Third Affiliated Hospital of Peking University nearby. When the liquid test results came out, the doctor's heart was in his throat. What Zhou Shiyuan drank was 98% sulfuric acid!

Zhou Shiyuan's life is on the line, and the rescue is against time. The news that a Tsinghua University teacher committed suicide by drinking sulfuric acid also spread like wildfire in the hospital. When a girl heard this, she was so surprised that her mouth opened wide and became an O-shape. Her name is Liu Yadong, 2 1 year-old, and she is a doctor in a cotton mill near Tsinghua University. Because her brother was hospitalized with rheumatic heart disease, she asked for leave to take care of him. Hearing the news of Zhou Shiyuan, she was very worried. Has the talented young man been saved?

Four days later, Zhou Shiyuan survived. Ten days later, after the critical period, he was pushed into the ward. The doctor said to the family members of patients in the ward, "His family members are in Shanghai and will come here recently. Please help take care of them these days."

"I'll take care of him." The speaker is a young girl. Zhou Shiyuan slowly turned his head, and the girl was beautiful and quiet, with a pair of curved smiling eyes and sweetness. His heart thumped and gave a grateful look. This girl is Liu Yadong. Zhou Shiyuan lives in a ward with her brother.

Liu Yadong asked about Zhou Shiyuan's illness. The doctor told him that his mouth, stomach and esophagus were badly burned. After cleaning, he had esophageal dilatation surgery. Once the esophagus contracted or scarred, it would lead to bleeding, so he must be observed frequently. The doctor sighed: "ruins, his body is in ruins."

Liu Yadong, who is also a doctor, took the initiative to change the dressing for Zhou Shiyuan, scrubbed his face and hands, and fed him warm water when his lips were dry ... A few days later, Zhou Shiyuan's relatives came from Shanghai and expressed their deep gratitude to Liu Yadong. At this moment, Zhou Shiyuan's face was white-washed, wow, and blood was pouring. It was Liu Yadong who hurried to call the doctor again.

Zhou Shiyuan's esophageal bleeding was pushed into the operating room, his chest was opened, his trachea was cut, and the blocked residue was taken out ... Everyone felt sorry: even if he survived, he was still a medicine jar, not disabled. After he was rescued successfully again, his patient was far away from him, and only Liu Yadong still took care of him. Relatives privately advised her to stop doing unnecessary charity. Liu Yadong said, "He is high flyers, Tsinghua, and we should help him."

After staying in bed for one month, Zhou Shiyuan was active in the fields, but his speech was difficult and his voice was hoarse. Late at night in early autumn, Liu Yadong was going home. In the garden corridor of the hospital, he saw Zhou Shiyuan sitting alone and looking up at the starry sky. She quietly approached, sat down beside him and asked him softly, "Why are you so stupid to drink sulfuric acid?" Zhou Shiyuan hoarse voice slowly way-

He is from Baoshan District, Shanghai, with four sisters and two younger brothers. He was smart since he was a child. After he entered Tsinghua University, he became a monitor, and the whole family was proud of him. However, after staying in school, he was assigned to the automobile major, where the bull's head was not the horse's mouth. He was deeply depressed. Not long ago, he fell in love with a girl and dared to show his love. He was ridiculed by his colleagues, felt ashamed of his family and committed suicide.

Brilliant people, especially fragile hearts. Liu Yadong understood that his illness was rooted in his heart. Aside, Zhou Shiyuan hugged his head helplessly: "Now, I am a loser in everyone's eyes ..." Liu Yadong was saddened and asked: "Do you know flamingos?" Zhou Shiyuan nodded.

"A colorful phoenix, burned by fire and reborn from the ashes, is called a flamingo. Don't you want to be a flamingo? " Without waiting for Zhou Shiyuan's answer, Liu Yadong got up and walked away.

Zhou Shiyuan suddenly realized. At the same time, a subtle warmth is rippling: since contact, he has deeply fallen in love with this girl, but will she like herself? She hurt herself so badly. Is it because of her kind help? Uneasy, Zhou Shiyuan decided to cheer up first, like the flamingo reborn from the fire. Otherwise, there is no qualification to love her.

A force grew from his heart. The source of strength is Liu Yadong, who is like a fairy. Zhou Shiyuan actively cooperated with the treatment and looked forward to spending more time with Liu Yadong every day. Occasionally, he saw Liu Yadong reading a book called "Out of Depression" and leafing through it. Some of her usual rhetoric and practices were recorded in the book. In an instant, his eyes filled with tears: what a good girl, these days with good intentions!

Four months later, Zhou Shiyuan is going back to Shanghai to recuperate. When leaving, he said goodbye to Liu Yadong, swallowed his throat with great difficulty and said, "I will go home tomorrow and want to buy you some gifts. What do you like?" Liu Yadong couldn't understand Zhou Shiyuan's mind, but she was too kind-hearted and worried that refusing would hurt him again, which was not good for his recovery. She said euphemistically, "I heard that Shanghai shoes are beautiful, please help me with a pair of shoes." In this way, Zhou Shiyuan got Liu Yadong's home address.

20 years in loved one, and another flamingo takes off with you.

Back in Shanghai, Zhou Shiyuan missed Liu Yadong more and more. Finally, he couldn't suppress his feelings, got up the courage and poured out his bold and almost reckless extravagant hopes: "You turned on the lamp of my life and left me with my thoughts. I am eager to turn this kind of thoughts into being together. If you agree, please send me a photo of you. " When the letter was sent, Zhou Shiyuan was uneasy and looked forward to the postman's bike stopping at his door every day.

Finally, the postman stopped at his door and handed him a letter from Beijing. Zhou Shiyuan eagerly opened the envelope, and when he saw it, it was like Fan Jin's middle lift-a four-inch photo of her was in the letter! He was excited with a photo in his hand.

/kloc-in the summer of 0/972, Zhou Shiyuan basically recovered and was ready to report to the school to take the opportunity to see Liu Yadong. He bought a pair of Shanghai size 37 women's shoes, some burnt salt raisins and some other gifts. He knocked on the door of the Liu family with excitement and anxiety. The whole family is here. Liu Yadong's brother has also recovered. After some small talk, he showed his heart to Liu Yadong with courage.

Laughter and laughter came to an abrupt end. "Chou, we should help you in the hospital. If Liu Yadong misunderstood you, we apologize ..."

The Liu family, a scholarly family, has a strict family education. After Zhou Shiyuan left, the whole family asked Liu Yadong to break up with him. The reason is simple: Zhou Shiyuan has been hit hard by this, and he may recur sometime. Moreover, Liu is a Hui nationality and Zhou Shiyuan is a Han nationality. Different living habits will cause a lot of trouble ... Liu Yadong listened silently, didn't dare to refute, but tears for you.

That night, her mind was full of scenes with Zhou Shiyuan-she appreciated Zhou Shiyuan's talent and knew his dependence on herself. If we say that we just don't want to hurt him by leaving him an address, and then send photos, it is really exciting. But what the family said is also reasonable. How does she choose? The next day, she wrote to tell Zhou Shiyuan about her hesitation, and by the way, she also tested him: You won't be upset about being rejected again this time, will you? Zhou Shiyuan wrote back: A little disappointed, but the last incident won't happen. Don't worry Then, he carefully asked, in fact, living habits are not a problem. If my body recovers in a few years, can I win the consent of your family?

Soon, he received a letter from Liu Yadong: the family promised to give it five years. After five years, he didn't get sick and agreed to our association. In Zhou Shiyuan's bitterness, he felt a little sweet. He didn't know, and Liu Yadong was very pleased to read his letter. I am glad that he is mature, and I am glad that he loves firmly. Liu Yadong has an idea. Stay with him for the rest of his life!

Her family can't compete with her carrot and stick, and they know her little mind. They scraped her little nose and used the drag-and-drop tactic: for five years, I don't worry that Liu Yadong can't find a suitable family and get married. But they didn't expect that Liu Yadong didn't like any of them. Once, a friend introduced her to an office clerk. The young man was handsome and eloquent. But Liu Yadong said, "I already have someone in my heart." The other party left awkwardly.

The doctor suggested, the school approved, and Zhou Shiyuan took another four-year long vacation. He wrote to Liu Yadong while reading a book for health. Sometimes the letter was sent out, and there was no reply for months or even half a year. He comforted himself, perhaps the letter was withheld by her family. He didn't guess wrong, as it is. In the third year of his recuperation, Zhou Shiyuan went to Beijing and found Liu Yadong. After a long separation, the two agreed to wait for more than a year, and the five-year contract was coming, and they would certainly win the consent of their families. But they were wrong. 1976, Zhou Shiyuan went to the Liu family and was turned away. At this time, Zhou Shiyuan is 30 years old and Liu Yadong is 26 years old. When they are old enough to talk about marriage, there is no way to save their love.

In the same year, Zhou Shiyuan was sent to Sanmenxia Hydropower Station by Tsinghua University. Another separation, another emotional torment. Zhou Shiyuan's family was in a hurry, and his sister was running around, but Zhou Shiyuan was absent-minded. Mother and sister cried and advised him not to hang himself on a tree, but Zhou Shiyuan said that there was no room for a second person in his heart. If he could be with Liu Yadong, he would wait a few years.

It never rains but pours. 1979, he was unwell again, unable to eat, and his stomach ached and he was sweating. He lived in the Third Hospital of Peking University. After examination, his gastric mucosa was burnt into charcoal powder in many places, and he must be operated immediately. When Liu Yadong heard this, he hurried to the hospital and asked about his illness. The doctor told me that the burnt part had been removed, but the concentration of sulfuric acid was too high, and his body was like ruins. After several years, some good parts were corroded into charcoal powder ... After two operations, his stomach was removed by 70%. In those days, Liu Yadong stood in front of Zhou Shiyuan's bed, feeling extremely distressed.

A few days later, Zhou Shiyuan's warmth turned into a full apology. He took Liu Yadong's hand and said, "We are predestined friends. I have delayed you for so many years. You should find someone to start a family again." Liu Yadong burst into tears for a while and said, "Remember the flamingo?" Zhou Shiyuan nodded.

"Flamingos have another feature." Liu Yadong said, "They only have one partner in their life and never give up. If one wing is broken, the other will stand alone until death do us part. " That tone, gentle and firm.

The more Liu Yadong is like this, the more Zhou Shiyuan doesn't want to delay her. He decided to let go for love. While recuperating in Shanghai, he no longer wrote to Liu Yadong, nor did he reply to Liu Yadong's letter. A year later, when Zhou Shiyuan returned to Tsinghua University, he also buried his thoughts deeply in his heart. Even though he would touch the photos of Liu Yadong again and again, he couldn't control his steps again and again, and when he reached the door of her unit, he resolutely turned back.

Maybe she is married, Zhou Shiyuan thinks so. In order to dilute his thoughts, he arranged his time to be full, preparing lessons during the day, reading at night and spending weekends in the library. During the winter and summer vacations, he has become famous all over the world, and even like a student, he went to Peking University, the National People's Congress, and worked as an auditor everywhere ... The days were suffering, and Zhou Shiyuan became an out-of-touch scholar.

1August 5, 989, Zhou Shiyuan ran into Dr. Qi, a doctor in the Third Hospital of Peking University. When chatting, Dr. Qi asked, "When will you and Xiao Liu get married?" People have been waiting for you 10 for many years. " Zhou Shiyuan smiled bitterly and said that he had not contacted for a long time. Doctor Qi was stupefied and said, "Yesterday Xiao Liu went to the hospital. I asked her if she was married, but she saidno.. And act like you don't want to talk. I thought you had a quarrel. "

Zhou Shiyuan's heart trembled and tears welled up. Yesterday, August 4th, was the day when I committed suicide. He quickly inquired about the inside story. Doctor Qi told him that Liu Yadong was transferred to China University of Political Science and Law as a school doctor three years ago ... Zhou Shiyuan arrived there by car and found Liu Yadong sweating. After more than ten years of wind and frost, both of them have entered middle age. In a restaurant, Zhou Shiyuan asked, "Aren't you married?" Liu Yadong asked, "Are you married?"

"No." After that, Zhou Shiyuan almost lost control of his emotions and poured out the thoughts he had saved in his heart over the years. Liu Yadong, who has never been quiet, couldn't control his tears. He punched Zhou Shiyuan two or three times and said aggrieved, "Do you think it's easy for me to wait for you all these years? You hide, I thought that you would really hide in my old age and come to me again. " Zhou Shiyuan's heart was wet with Liu Yadong's tears. He held her hand tightly and said firmly, "We will never be apart again, and no one can tear us apart."

I lost my voice and burst into the strongest voice: "Life can be so beautiful."

From acquaintance, to love, to today's reunion, a whole 18 years has passed. From youth to middle age, a pair of lovers finally got together. When Zhou Shiyuan proposed marriage, Liu Yadong was very happy, but she calmed down. She said that in recent years, her family did not understand and did not support it. Now that her mother is old and her brother has a serious heart disease, the form is not important. It is good to be together.

Zhou Shiyuan agreed, and the two lived together.

However, happiness had just begun, and fate played a big joke on them-they were in a good mood, and Zhou Shiyuan worked harder.1In the summer of 990, the heavy editing and often thirsty teaching tasks of Journal of Tsinghua University suddenly made him lose his voice!

Once again hospitalized, operated, and got through the trachea. Half a month after the operation, his voice is still unable to speak. Liu Yadong, a former doctor, was in a hurry. After taking care of him, he plunged into the library all the time, then took back a pile of medical materials and sorted them out one by one. Then, he began to guide Zhou Shiyuan to restore his language ability. The root of Zhou Shiyuan's aphasia is his tracheal operation, and the lack of airflow hinders his pronunciation. On the other hand, his sudden attack on the heart caused several organs not to cooperate normally ... Liu Yadong first asked Zhou Shiyuan to practice his abdominal muscles and increase his air flow. At the same time, practice qigong with him every morning to promote smooth airflow. A week later, while practicing Qigong, Zhou Shiyuan suddenly stepped on a stone and almost fell down. Suddenly, his throat uttered an "ah". Liu Yadong was pleasantly surprised: "Please say it again." Zhou Shiyuan did it, and sure enough, he could make a sound again! Moreover, his voice is much louder than before. "My voice has recovered." When tears filled his eyes, this was the first sentence that Zhou Shiyuan said.

After two months of training. On this day, Liu Yadong opened the door and listened to him chanting: "From today, I have a sunny mind/this is the touchstone of my life/this is the magician of my life/this is the Big Dipper of my life/this is the Noah's Ark of my life/it is a wonderful lamp in my life ..." Liu Yadong smiled silently. It's not easy, this man, both physically and mentally, has stood up from the ruins!

That night, the two whispered. Liu Yadong lamented his difficulty. He smiled: "Didn't you always tell me about flamingos?" Liu Yadong unknown his intention, nodded. "I'll tell one, too." Zhou Shiyuan said, "There was a strange bird in the ancient country of Loulan, which flew south until the sky fire lit its feathers and brought the fire back to the ancient country of Loulan. The people of Loulan are called flamingos. When Prince Loulan was trapped, the flamingo burst into flames, showing extraordinary power. The whole body was covered with dazzling flames, and the sharp beak became the sharpest blade to protect the prince. " After that, Zhou Shiyuan gazed deeply at his lover and added: "You are the flamingo who guards me."

199 1 In the early winter of, Liu Yadong received a phone call from his mother: "After so many years, you should also have a home. You are so loving and have gone through the formalities." The old man's words made Liu Yadong burst into tears. Zhou Shiyuan hugged her tightly and said, "We will get the certificate tomorrow." A pair of lovers who have been waiting for more than 20 years have finally been recognized by their families.

In 2000, Zhou Shiyuan came across a sentence: "Our behavior is influenced by taste, emotion, prejudice, desire, love, fear, environment and habits, among which habit is the most powerful." He suddenly realized that he had studied "Habitology" since then. After years of painstaking research, the habituation he advocated attracted strong attention. In recent years, many educational experts have set off an upsurge of habit cultivation in China. Ringo, who "learned with his feet", and Sun Yunxiao, who published many influential educational views, all respected him as "the first person to study habits in China"-his research results will promote the qualitative leap of China's education.

Over the years, as an educator, speaker and psychologist, he has stood on the platform of Tsinghua University, Peking University, many central organs and BOCOG for countless times, and won applause from countless audiences and students with humorous language and sincere words.

Zhou Shiyuan has a growing reputation and a brilliant career. Like a flamingo, he started from the ruins where his body and mind were broken, and kept running, and finally took off. Accompanying him from beginning to end is his lover, another flamingo-Liu Yadong.

I am grateful to my wife for waiting like a flamingo to commemorate my rebirth. 20 13 1 month, Zhou Shiyuan wrote a new book "Life can be so unexpectedly beautiful" (Tsinghua University Publishing House). In the preface, he laughed at himself as "the worst loser in tsinghua campus". Fortunately, "I was full of confidence after losing to the end, and a precious love in the world."

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Professor Tsinghua University is an expert on the habits of public speakers.

Zhou Shiyuan, a public speaker from tsinghua campus, is an expert in habit research.

Zhou Tuyuan 1946 was born in Baoshan, Shanghai; 1970 graduated from Tsinghua University and stayed in school to teach; 1983- 1988 was an auditor in Peking University, taking various humanities courses; 1990 joined the business community from tsinghua campus./Kloc At present, he is the contracted lecturer of courses such as "Self-management of Excellent Life", "Sunshine Mentality" and "Art of Leaders' Speech" in Tsinghua University Institute of Continuing Education, the director of the expert committee of the Scientific Health Care Research Society of China Gerontology Society, and the honorary president of Beijing Carnegie School.

Zhou Shiyuan has rich experience and rough experiences. When he was young, he fell into a desperate situation, and his body and spirit were almost in ruins. Fortunately, under the care of countless kind people, he came back from the dead and got a second life. After that, inspired by Tsinghua University's motto of self-improvement, he worked hard and explored hard. On the basis of summing up all kinds of successful ideas at home and abroad, he finally found a way to make people break through, surpass and turn defeat into victory. With this road to success, he not only rose from the ruins of life, but also created one miracle after another. Because of this, his speeches in Tsinghua University, Peking University, directly under the authority Affairs Bureau of the General Office of the Central Committee, directly under the authority Affairs Bureau of the State Council, 2008 Olympic Organizing Committee, Shanghai TV Station "Oriental Forum" and other places were sincere, touching, tear-jerking, exciting and inspiring, which almost shocked every listener's mind, and said, "Listening to your words is better than reading for ten years." The feeling of. Zhou Shiyuan's book "Lifelong Wealth" won the "Eighth National Excellent Youth Reading Award". I know, but I have to do it! The book, widely acclaimed, "know, do it more!" The important concept of "The University of Science and Technology" has evolved into a current political examination question in the 2008 national postgraduate entrance examination of politics and metallurgy.

Zhou Shiyuan's mission in life is to inspire the lives of thousands of people in Qian Qian with a few books and countless speeches, just like Carnegie in the United States.

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More than a thousand citizens listen to Professor Tsinghua University's lecture on "Habit"

Yesterday morning, the Red Star Grand Theatre was packed, and the first lecture of 2008, Longcheng Forum and Citizen Class, was held. More than a thousand citizens braved the heavy snow to listen to Professor Zhou Shiyuan's "habit" in Tsinghua University, and shared his experience in the study of habit.

The power of "customary culture"

In his speech entitled "The Road to Success-Habits Achieve the Future", Zhou Shiyuan first described the process of becoming attached to "Habitology" with his unique life experience. He pointed out that habits don't just refer to "small habits" such as brushing your teeth and washing your face. A good method, concept, mode of thinking and mental state should all become habits. We often narrow the habits, in fact, all aspects involving quality should become habits. More importantly, we should not only know many problems, but also do them. This requires us to constantly develop good habits and overcome bad habits.

In order to prove to the audience that a good habit can often make many impossible things possible, Zhou Shiyuan also performed difficult bending and splitting movements on the spot, which won applause from the audience present.

The "Five Laws of Action" of Habit

Zhou Shiyuan pointed out that habit is the key link, and the key link is open to all eyes. Habit is closely related to action. He summed up the "five movements" law of habit: first, start, that is, put an idea into action immediately. The second is constant movement, that is, constant movement, from quantitative change to qualitative change.

The third is automation, that is, let habits become nature. The fourth is perpetual motion, which means that tenacity and perseverance come from habit in essence. The fifth is to be happy, which means that the things you are used to are very happy. We should constantly break through and surpass ourselves and let life enter a virtuous circle.

When talking about how to use the "habit formula" to solve the memory problem, Zhou Shiyuan performed on the spot again. He pulled out five pieces of paper with 300 phone numbers, mobile phone numbers, etc. from his pocket and distributed them to five listeners. Then he asked them to read the name of a person from it at will to test whether he could recite the number accurately. As a result, Zhou Shiyuan, who was over 60 years old, really recited five numbers word for word.

"Four-step Magic" to Cultivate Habits

How to form a habit? Zhou Shiyuan introduced the four-step magic of cultivating habits. The first step is necessity. When you want to form a habit, consider whether it is necessary to enhance the powerful motivation to cultivate the habit. The second step is feasibility. To form a habit, we should consider whether it is feasible or not, and cultivate the habit rationally and scientifically. The third step is strategy. In the initial stage of cultivating habits, we should pay attention to "easy", "little" and "small" and gradually develop habits. The fourth step is operability. Use the "one-minute self-cultivation log" to record, remind and check your habit formation process, so as to achieve "simple things to do, simple things to repeat, repeated things to do seriously, and serious things to do creatively."

Zhou Shiyuan also pointed out that it takes an average of 2 1 day to develop habits. The first three days are the hardest, so you need to stick to them. After three months of consolidation, the habit can be basically formed.

Source: Changzhou Daily

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