Characteristic education is not to cultivate special skills. Children's personality and thoughts are greatly influenced by their families. Parents can encourage their children to actively solve problems. Faced with this problem, parents can adjust their mentality. Cultivating children's practical ability is conducive to their future development. Sharing characteristic education with everyone is not to cultivate special skills.
Characteristic education is not to cultivate special skills 1 Some parents want to cultivate their children's skills and let them have a foothold in the competitive society in the future. Some parents want to overcome one of their children's shortcomings, such as choosing learning and activities that can cultivate attention for active children and learning content that can improve their activity ability for quiet children; Some parents think that children have certain potential and hope to find and cultivate them early; However, some parents like to pursue fashion and follow the crowd. He chooses whatever is popular in society and whatever his parents around him choose. ...
The above-mentioned purposes of parents are all reasonable, all for the development and progress of children, but will good intentions have good results? Does characteristic education play a positive role?
Characteristic kindergartens are popular because the effect of characteristic education is more obvious. For example, after studying for a period of time, the kindergarten organizes a music or dance performance, holds a children's art exhibition and rehearses an English pantomime, which will make parents feel that their children have really learned in vain and learned so much knowledge and skills in just one semester. Well, not bad! Therefore, kindergartens with characteristics can meet the requirements and expectations of these parents.
In fact, whether it is a characteristic kindergarten or an ordinary kindergarten, parents should pursue high-quality kindergartens. High-quality kindergarten education should be an all-round development-oriented enlightenment education for all children, which can lay a good foundation for children's lifelong development. Therefore, parents should get out of the misunderstanding of blindly pursuing characteristic education and choose high-quality life enlightenment education for their children.
First of all, don't equate characteristic education with specialty training. A high-quality characteristic kindergarten should first develop education in an all-round way. Special training is to impart a lot of knowledge and skills in a subject. Teachers teach hard, but children learn passively. In the long run, some children's interest in learning will be weakened, which is contrary to the basic principles of kindergarten education. The "Guidelines for Kindergarten Education" issued by the Ministry of Education clearly points out: "It is strictly forbidden to engage in competitions, performances and training that are harmful to children's health in any name." High-quality characteristic kindergartens should first develop education in an all-round way, so that children can develop in five areas, such as health, language, society, science and art, and in moral character, intelligence, physique, aesthetics and life ability. Therefore, parents should examine whether the education of characteristic kindergartens is based on all-round development education, and don't sacrifice children's all-round development for a specialty.
Second, it is harmful for children to learn their specialties excessively, and characteristic education cannot deviate from the essence of enlightenment education. Characteristic education does not mean that the deeper the skills children learn, the better, and the longer they learn, the better. This is the trend of adult education. The characteristic education of science should be enlightenment education, so that children can have a superficial understanding and learning in knowledge and skills, and more importantly, they can be well developed in interest, enthusiasm, curiosity, imagination and innovative consciousness. For example, art education should not be just a lot of copying, and music education should not be just mechanical performance, singing and dancing, but should aim at cultivating children's sensitivity, participation and creativity in art, and at the same time, don't let children review too much at home. 2. Children aged 3 can study 15 minutes, and children aged 4, 5 and 6 can study for 20, 25 and 30 minutes respectively. If children's learning progress is not great, parents should not be angry with their children, because each child's learning speed and learning style are different, so they should wait patiently for their natural growth process.
Third, characteristic education is not the cultivation of a few smart children's specialties, but the education of all children. The Guiding Outline of Kindergarten Education points out: "In artistic activities, we should aim at their different characteristics and needs, so that every child can be edified and cultivated by beauty." Therefore, parents should not judge whether kindergarten is a high-quality characteristic education by looking at the excellent performance of individual children, but should examine whether it is based on the development of all children, and should not replace the development of most children with the expertise of a few children. Because children are very different, some children are gifted, and teachers can have obvious learning effects with a little guidance; And some children need to go through a period of study to get started. However, high-quality kindergarten education should enable every child to develop to varying degrees.
The development of life is like building a pyramid. Preschool education is a project to build a base. Only a comprehensive and balanced pedestal can lay a solid foundation for building a solid spire, and only a special pedestal can bear the burden of the whole tower?
Characteristic education is not to cultivate special skills.
Mingming's mother graduated from medical university and is a physician. Dad also graduated from college and works in the tax bureau. After Mingming was born, her mother took a long vacation and invited a well-educated nanny to work together and raise the children carefully. She is particularly afraid of neglecting her early education. When she is free, she will play music, tell stories and read ancient poems. As for dad, the greatest pleasure of going home every day is to hold his son in his arms and see what he has learned.
What's wrong with children growing up in such a superior environment? You may be surprised. However, in the eyes of mom and dad, there is obviously a "problem". At least, he is different from ordinary children.
Mingming had a beautiful desk calendar at home when he was a child. Every page of the desk calendar is painted with landscape paintings and an ancient poem is written. At that time, before I could speak, I liked to look at these paintings and kept looking at them with my calendar. Seeing that he was so interested, his mother read the poem to him. One day, my mother was surprised to find that any poem she read could clearly turn to the page where the poem was located. After a few months, I can speak clearly and often babble while playing by myself. At first, mom and dad didn't care. Later, mom finally understood that he actually learned to recite ancient poems in an adult tone!
When I was 3 years old, I clearly used ancient poetry. Obviously, he loves to cry, and when something happens, he will cry and make a scene. Dad didn't like him crying, and once severely criticized him: "It's a shame that boys still cry!" " "Obviously, he replied," The husband has no tears! "
He is more eloquent when he is older. Usually when he is unhappy, he will frown and say to himself, "Hi! Who can get rid of the sorrow of the world! " Sometimes, he would play for no reason and say, "The sand in the desert is like blood ... there are no birds in the mountains." Mom has something to say to him. When he doesn't want to listen, he will block his ears with two fingers, close his eyes tightly, and keep shouting "8+1= 9,8+1= 9 ...", which makes his mother laugh and cry.
In kindergarten, I obviously showed a strong desire to express myself. Every day in class, he always raises his hand to answer questions. If the teacher doesn't call him, he simply stands up, holds his hands high, and sometimes tears come to his eyes. At first, the teacher liked him very much. Later, he was anxious. He once said to his mother, "The more the child raises his hand and asks to speak, the less I stop calling him and change his temper!" " Mother knows that what the teacher did is wrong, but she doesn't know what to do.
Every day on the bus to and from kindergarten, I can clearly see shop signs, advertisements of different sizes and street signs, so I ask my mother what to read, and sometimes I read the words I don't know aloud. When reading in vain, it will inevitably make other passengers laugh. The mother sitting next to her began to feel a little embarrassed, and she got used to it after a long time. Obviously, I have never felt embarrassed. I want to say it, and I have no scruples. He also pays special attention to street signs, and he remembers all the places he passes by. He always looks at the stop sign before taking the bus. Once, his mother took him to Xinhua Bookstore and bought a city map. When he got home, he spread the map on the ground and looked at it endlessly. Since then, I have been asking for China map, railway map, sightseeing map ... I like them all.
At the age of six, it was the China Railway. If you want to go by train from his city, Shanghai, he will tell you how many trains to take, which railway line to pass and where to transfer. Ask him what railway trunk lines exist in China, and he will tell you how many are being built, how many to be built and where. Even for adults, it is not easy to do this.
As for the urban roads in Shanghai, it is obvious. Once, guests came to his hometown, and he volunteered to take them to Shanghai to play. First go to the City God Temple, then go to Yu Garden, and visit Nanjing Road, Pearl Tower and Bund in the afternoon ... He has unique arrangements. After swimming until noon, he felt a little sleepy and said to the guests, "Feel free to walk around. I'll go home and take a nap first. " The guest joked, "That won't do. If you leave, you can be laid off. " Obviously, when he heard that he was "laid off", he felt that it was not a glorious thing, so he insisted on completing the "work" of the tour guide and was well received by the guests.
It is clear that he is now in grade one, but he knew more than 2000 Chinese characters long before he went to school. Do you think this child is different from other children? Is this good or bad?
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On the whole, it is obviously the kind of children who are more self-centered and "no one is watching". Educating this kind of child needs many parents and teachers, and we can't deal with him with the general "staple food" education method. He is a "characteristic child" with at least three characteristics:
1, amazing memory (especially unintentional memory);
2. Strong desire to express;
3. Have an extraordinary hobby and cognitive ability for the "route".
It is certainly a good thing to have an amazing memory. Being able to remember many things consciously or unconsciously is a valuable educational resource. His parents developed this resource in time. As a result, children know more than 2,000 Chinese characters before they go to the first grade, which is like playing. It doesn't belong to the kind of "cows don't drink water" and it doesn't cause children to be tired of learning. This is a very successful early education experience. However, it should be noted that if your child does not have such a superior memory, you cannot adopt a clear educational experience. Children can't compare with children like this. Education should vary from person to person. Don't worry if your child is slow and has difficulty reading. Children with characteristics have their own enviable advantages and headaches. This is the fairness of nature, and a child cannot occupy all the scenery.
Sure enough, the second characteristic of Mingming makes the teacher very embarrassed. With so many students in a class, how can you give all the opportunities to speak to very few children? It's not fair. Therefore, it is reasonable for the teacher to limit the number of times Ming Ming speaks, but the teacher's words are obviously a bit simple and blunt, which may dampen Ming Ming and cause confrontation between teachers and students. If I were a teacher, I would say to Mingming, "You are a clever boy. Raise your hand to answer ordinary questions. What a waste of talent! " You have to wait for answers to questions that others can't. That's skill! "This can not only protect children's enthusiasm for speaking in class, but also make room for others to speak, which may be a better way. In this regard, parents should not only communicate well with the teacher, but also explain the truth of fairness to Mingming, prompting him to slowly change the self-centered problem.
The third characteristic of Mingming-mastering the "road map" is very noteworthy. This shows that his way of thinking may be born different, which indicates his future development direction and even his career orientation to some extent. If parents can help him find a learning method suitable for this way of thinking, the child may achieve impressive results; If he can't guide correctly, he may be biased, tired of learning, and even against the teacher.
Every child is unique, and a key can only open one lock. Children with characteristics like Mingming need special education more.