A letter to young people: Fan
To young people:
Thanks to the internet age, I have the opportunity to sit down with a group of young friends for a drink and talk about life.
Although Wang Shuo said jealously, fortunately, you won't be young for long. ? But when you are young, after a long time, where do you need to think about things? Isn't the essence of youth that you can be in a daze, commit crimes, live in the present and squander your life unscrupulously?
However, these children are not happy. They all tell me that they live a gloomy and confused life. When you were a teenager, you were confused! You work hard every day, and your face is covered with blood and acne. You can pat the door on the court and let the young girls make eyes at you. What else do you want? Your lips are red, your teeth are white, your chest is stiff, your skin is tight, your face is fluffy, and it will take many years for the fat around your waist to accumulate. Short skirts with small high heels can wear Versace effect. Grab it in front of the classroom, and a large group of small fresh meat will drool at you. What else do you want?
At least I lived long enough to tell you confidently? Who the fuck hasn't been young? Are you old? Age, really, believe me, everything you worry about today is not in your fucking personal history! Call! Shit! Things! No one can plan your life, and neither can you. You can't even plan how many times you go to the toilet tomorrow, whether it's dry or diarrhea. How do you live? There may really be wizards in this world who can calculate calculus in downtown and wash cold water in the twelfth lunar month, but those are all great things, definitely not you. We artists should learn from Mr. Qi Baishi, who is still clamoring for marriage at the age of 95. This is life.
If you want to be confused, read a book.
Van Gogh's biography, Retrograde Collection, Wang Xiaobo, One Piece, and Xiao Gu talk about painting? You can watch whatever you like. This may be the last time in your life that you can read books according to your own preferences without any utilitarian purpose. Compared with things that you have to grit your teeth in a few years, such as Photoshop from entry to mastery, writing to Garcia, human weakness and the era of big data? You will know how happy it is to have leisure to read books according to your own preferences. Besides, in a few years, most of you won't finish reading two books in a year. Really, in 20 13 years, the national average annual reading volume was 4.77. Do you think you can be better than them? In the future, you will have a lot of time to fool around in nightclubs on the wine table and quickly become a middle-aged man with brain damage. Then, you were too busy to read a book.
Go play ball if you want to be confused.
It is said that there is an unwritten rule in American schools that students with poor physical education will always be excluded from the social circle. That's good. When you were young, you didn't go skiing, bungee jumping, running, flying or going to the stadium to consume excess energy. When are you going to go? When the body is extremely tired, the soul is quiet. Really, in the future, you can't stand in the dormitory corridor and make a hullabaloo about like today and organize a ball game quickly. In the future, you have to make an appointment one week in advance to reconfirm the time and number of people. Three or five people will drive slowly after midnight, and it will be dark when you change your equipment and arm yourself to your teeth. Then you want to slap yourself.
A big-mouthed, full-fledged organization organized the Nima game!
If you want to be confused, you have to fall in love.
Which girl doesn't love spring and which boy doesn't? Eighteen or nineteen years old, the seed of love, parents in the distance, young friends together, what can you do without falling in love? Maybe you scored a beautiful goal, maybe you painted very well, maybe you helped others carry an extra bottle of boiling water? Love at this time is too cheap to be beautiful. After a few years, you will find that if you want to have a relationship, you have to have a car and a house, what brand of car you want, how big a house you want, and whose name you need to add to the real estate license. Even if we are lucky, Christmas, Valentine's Day, Valentine's Day in China, birthdays and various anniversaries, you can't escape the fate of giving gifts. Tiffany, let's go. Not bad, Helm? One word s is enough? My husband loves you to death. ? Of course, when you want to break up, you don't have to worry about property division, real estate division, youth loss and so on. The best a girl can do is slap you, beast!
If you want to be confused, draw, write poems and sing.
Painting is not a skill, but a gift from heaven. Less than one person in this world has the talent to have fun with himself and himself. Enjoy painting before it becomes your boring career, or before it completely leaves your life. A few of you will become professional artists in the future and live a hard life at the bottom; Famous, go to the acupoint to socialize. It is urgent to sell paintings, cheap ones and expensive ones. Most of you will stay away from the art career, do advertising, decorate, be junior clerks and be successful businessmen. It was not until the class reunion that I remembered, oh, I also learned to draw. In any case, the future has lost its original heart.
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You have so many damn things to do, you tell me you are confused? Don't envy old people. The old man is young, but that is the past tense. If possible, the elderly are willing to exchange everything for your age today. Because what I have today, you will all have it later. What you have now, we will never have again.
What you have to worry about is whether to skip class and sleep in the dormitory tomorrow, how to send chocolate to the girl you like, and how to find the annoying boy in the next class and beat him up. It's a beautiful little thing to worry about at this age. If you are young, you can work hard. Because no matter what you do, the cost is very small, and you still have plenty of time to come again. One day, you will reach the age where you can't try again and again, the vulgar middle age, and the middle age of daily necessities.
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A letter to young people: Fan
Young people:
This is a letter I wrote to my colleagues when I came out of Beijing Normal University Press at the beginning of this year. It's been almost half a year since I left the press, and many things there are still very clear. After all, I stayed there for nearly four years and worked in a publishing house, answering the first question in my life: what can I do? When I first left school, I was confused and panicked about the society and didn't know what I could do. After going to the publishing house, I found that I could do many things, some of which were not bad. It took me nearly four years to answer this question, and then I came out because I had to answer the second question: what should I do? I will use the past few years to answer this question. I hope the next question won't be what I did, because what I did is meaningless, especially because I think I did well.
First of all, I want to explain to my dear friends why I left my job. My dream is to be a humble professional programmer. Since middle school, I have dreamed of becoming a professional programmer. Although I have written a program in a publishing house for several years, I always feel immature. Making this painful decision at this age is also a re-planning of your career and life. I'm leaving. I want to talk to my dear friends.
The meaning of life
Life has a fulcrum, and then your thoughts and activities revolve around it. Dear friends, how long has it been since you asked yourself why you are alive or thought this question was nonsense? I once lost my fulcrum, and then I felt that I was busy all day, because there were things that came from two aspects: what others wanted you to be busy and what you wanted yourself to be busy, and how busy a donkey was.
Sometimes when you look back on what you are busy with, you may get more than busy with more work.
Do you know anything about life? I don't understand yet, but I'm trying to communicate with her.
The significance of learning
We are a group of excellent young people. Excellence has been tested by schools and publishing houses. We were excellent when we came, so we should be excellent at work. If we leave one day, it should be wonderful.
I used to be confused, too I feel like a burning coal in a publishing house, afraid of turning to ashes one day. I think it is a sad and terrible thing to be a parasite of a publishing house. The publishing house wants employees to work well in the publishing house forever, but she doesn't want us to work only in the publishing house. She hopes that we will always maintain excellent quality. Excellence is not a stepping stone for us to enter the publishing house, but the foundation of our survival, so if one day the publishing house abandons us, it is only our own fault.
Continuous learning is the only magic weapon for us to remain excellent. How much time do we have to study when we are busy? Being too busy used to be my excuse, but later I found that comfort is my biggest enemy. Lu Xun has a saying to the effect that material life is too comfortable, and work and study are easily burdened by life. I want to involve not only work and study, but also thinking.
Have you studied?
The significance of innovation
What does youth mean? Making mistakes is the beginning of innovation. Everyone's understanding of me may be limited to computers. Many people don't know that I study biotechnology. Biological evolution is just a wrong choice made by the environment for genetic errors.
It's not that we don't want to innovate, it's that we are afraid of making mistakes, and it's that we prematurely accept the philosophy that nothing is work. What a sad thing. Our entry into the publishing house is not just a metabolism, but something different, which is also the expectation of the publishing house and our respected old employees. Making mistakes is not the most terrible, the solution after important mistakes. I have made countless mistakes when I came to the publishing house, and I have been wrongly loved by several teachers today, which is also a very important factor supporting my belief in life.
Innovation is the power of thinking.
The significance of respecting teachers
We are fortunate to join the publishing house family. Today's publishing house was created by our respected veteran comrades, and we are creating tomorrow's publishing house.
There will inevitably be some bumps and turns between the old and the new, and I have heard a lot of rumors in this regard. New comrades are eager to shoulder heavier burdens, while old comrades are obsessed with something, so contradictions arise.
Dear, please share my practice. My coming to the publishing house should also infringe on the interests of many people. I have two principles in doing things: I respect him from the bottom of my heart, and I consider the interests of the publishing house rather than replacing him. The second point is that many people have done well, but they have not done well. Our old employees are full of human feelings, which are different from our young people. This is what we lack and desire.
Respect a person before you can do things well.
Write it at the end
I told more than one person that I stayed in the publishing house because I could not bear to part with some people here. I'm leaving today, and the only thing I can't bear is those who have entered this circle and new people. I hope you are getting better and better, and I hope the publishing house is getting better and better!
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A letter to the young man Fan Wensan
Young people:
Some people work, others continue to go to school. Don't miss this article. It is also a kind of luck to see this article. Really benefited a lot and gave me a lot of inspiration. This article will change my life. It's really great. I hope to share it with people with destiny and help them! Have balls after reading it? Meet each other late? I am very excited. I hope everyone will cherish this article. I believe that after reading this article for many years, I will have different feelings.
As the "working emperor" Tang Jun said, "I think there are two kinds of people who should not compete with others for benefits and value returns. The first kind of people are those who have just entered the enterprise. Don't ask if you can give me a little more salary for the first five years. The most important thing is what you can learn in the enterprise. Is it beneficial to development? "
People always learn less from dullness and more from hardships; The flat lesson is shallow, but the hard lesson is deep. A person who has experienced suffering when he was young is an admirable person if he can see suffering correctly and rush out of the darkness. The most important thing is to practice internal strength first. Five years after graduation is the best time to practice internal skills. Only by practicing internal skills can we climb higher in the future.
Where is the way out? The way out is thinking!
In fact, no money, no experience, no social relations, these are not terrible. If you have no money, you can earn it through hard work; If you have no experience, you can summarize it through actual operation; Without experience, you can accumulate step by step; No social relations, you can knit bit by bit. However, no dream, no idea is the most terrible, which makes people feel scared and want to escape!
People should have the right direction. No matter how high-spirited you are, no matter how resourceful you are, no matter how much effort you make, if you don't have a clear direction, you will be at a loss, gradually lose your fighting spirit, forget your original dream, and you will take a detour or even never return, wasting your intelligence and missing your youth.
There is a wise saying in Homer's epic Odyssey: "Nothing is more unbearable than aimless wandering." The confusion of these five years after graduation will cause panic after 10 years, struggle after 20 years, and even mediocrity for life. If we can't get out of the confusion and fog as soon as possible in the five years after graduation, 10 After 20 years, we really have no face to face ourselves. Five years after graduation, we have many uncertainties and many possibilities.
Five years after graduation, we have a lot to be determined and a lot of decisions.
Everyone will experience confusion and confusion, everyone has experienced fear and escape, but don't use confusion and confusion as an excuse to give up on yourself and be content with mediocrity, not to mention becoming a bitter wine of self-pity and a memorial of setbacks. Life needs to be borne by yourself, and fate needs to be grasped by yourself. Five years after graduation, the sooner you find your direction and get out of confusion, the easier it is to succeed and create wonderful things on the road of life. Headless flies will hit the wall if they can't find their way; If a person cannot find a way out, he will be confused and afraid.
In life, when faced with difficulties, we often feel cornered. Don't be discouraged, stick to it, and believe that young life has no end, difficulties lie ahead, and hope lies around the corner. As long as we have the right ideas, we will certainly be able to take fewer detours and find a way out!
Successful people win not at the starting point, but at the turning point.
Many young people who have just graduated always expect to find their ideal jobs at once. However, many good jobs can't wait. You must choose an experienced job. The first job in the career journey is undoubtedly the starting point for entering a social university. Maybe you have found an unsatisfactory job, so start from here, settle yourself well and learn valuable nutrition from this job. A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. As long as you set out, there is hope of reaching the finish line.
The starting point can be the same, but if you choose a different inflection point, the end point will be very different!
In the past few years after graduation, there are many uncertain factors in our life, feelings and career, and the future is full of possibilities. At this time, we should learn to choose, know how to give up, give ourselves a clear position and stabilize ourselves. If you don't actively position yourself, you will be "stereotyped" by others and society!
It can be said that the behavior habits that a person develops in the five years after graduation will determine the height of his life. Whether we can succeed or not depends to some extent on our own evaluation of ourselves, which is positioning. You are what you define yourself to be. Positioning can determine life, and positioning can change fate. The ugly duckling becomes a white swan, just a pair of wings; Cinderella turned into a beautiful princess, just a pair of water crystal shoes.
A person's life, three points are doomed, and seven points depend on hard work. If you dream, you will be "red", and if you love to fight, you will win. As long as you don't bind yourself in the inner cage, no one can bind you to fly high.
The reality is far from what they think. Therefore, when the sense of superiority gradually turns into a sense of loss or even frustration, when you firmly believe that you are a piece of "gold" and doubt that you are a grain of "sand", anger, confusion and inferiority begin to increase day by day.
In fact, you have to weigh yourself. Are you really gold? It's real gold. You can stand out only if you have unique skills. Bottom line: real gold depends on strength. Only by practicing your own skills first can you be qualified to consider Bole.
Every pearl is a grain of sand, but not every grain of sand can be turned into a pearl.
If you want to stand out, you must have the capital to stand out. Can't stand blows and setbacks, can't stand the cold and dull, and it's hard to achieve brilliance. If young people want to be reused and succeed, they must turn themselves from a grain of sand into a priceless pearl.
There are storms, sunrises, peaks and valleys in life.
Don't cover your eyes with clouds, but look at the scenery.
As long as the haze is swept away, the clear sky will shine. If you are not satisfied with your job, you should believe that you will not be at the bottom of your life all the time, and you will be able to break through the dark clouds one day. Tell yourself: I have not failed, but I have not succeeded for the time being! As long as you light a lamp of hope in your heart, you will be able to dispel the haze in the darkness and usher in the light.
Indeed, as far as qualifications are concerned, they are out-and-out novices in the workplace, with little business and poor connections, and they often run into a wall at work. Their pressure is not necessarily like a stone of fate, but like the sky before a rainstorm. It's dark and gray, and there is room, but every gap is filled with gray, and they can only wait for the clear sky after the heavy rain.
"Get up earlier than chickens, sleep later than dogs, do more than donkeys and eat worse than pigs." This is what many fresh graduates like to use to tease their living conditions. Although it is a bit exaggerated, many of them have always been shrouded in gray emotions-their hearts are always overcast. I remember a philosopher said, "Our pain is not caused by the problems themselves, but by our views on these problems." Looking at life from another angle is a breakthrough, a liberation, a transcendence, a high-level indifference and tranquility, so as to gain freedom and happiness.
A philosopher said, "Life is a series of choices. Everyone's future and destiny are completely in their own hands. As long as they work hard, they will succeed in the end. " Whether it is employment, career choice or entrepreneurship, as long as you work hard, you will succeed. Do you want to give all your life promises to others?
Five years after graduation is the golden age of changing fate. When can you decide your destiny best? If you are not sure, when will you wait? I am in charge of my life, and my destiny is not in my control.
Don't live in other people's mouths, don't live in other people's eyes, and take your destiny into your own hands.
Don't say that you have no background, you are the biggest background. American writer Jack? Kerouac once said, "I am still young and I am eager to get on the road." In the journey of life, we will always be young people, and every day should be full of longing. Everyone's potential is unlimited. The key is to discover their potential, correctly understand their talents, and find a stage where they can give full play to their potential, instead of being unhappy just because the stage is not suitable. We should treat our abilities objectively and fairly, choose calmly according to our actual situation and hobbies, and try our best to go to the places that need us most and suit us best.
In the field of human resource management, there is a very popular saying, that is, the theory of "riding a horse, pulling cattle, driving pigs and beating dogs": we will ride a swift horse with good character and strong ability; A man with good character but average ability is a cow, and we should praise him; "Pigs" with average personality and ability should be driven away. Those with poor character and strong ability are all "dogs", which should be cracked down.
I think, just a few years after graduation, you are equally ambitious and want to be a swift horse that is appreciated and galloped on the battlefield. Then, let it settle down Low is not equal to inferiority. Today's condescension is for tomorrow's work The value of life means that our existence is valuable to others. It's good to be used, but it's really sad that no one cares!
Being competent and doing a good job is the basic guarantee for survival in the workplace.
The prerequisite for anyone to do a job is that he is qualified for the job. Ability is the most basic standard for qualified employees, while willingness is an attitude. There are many people who are qualified for a position and have the basic ability to do this job well. However, whether you can do this job better depends on whether you have a down-to-earth attitude and whether you are studying hard.
Work hard on the basis of ability.
At work, you do more work than others, and you feel cheated; If you get less money than others, you feel cheated; Do you think it is a disadvantage to work overtime frequently? In fact, there is no need to care so much. Failure is neither a disaster nor a failure. Loss is also a philosophy of life. Now eat a small loss and pave the way for success. Maybe at some point in the future, your great happiness will suddenly come.
Being able to bear hardships is a realm of being a man and a wisdom of dealing with life.
At work, it is not to work more or help others to work more or suffer losses. If the leader asks you to work overtime to catch up with the task, don't think that you have suffered a big loss. Instead, you should be grateful, because the leader only called you and didn't call anyone else, which shows that he trusts you and appreciates you. Loss is a contribution. The more you contribute, the more you will get in return. Willing to work overtime is such a loss.
If you are willing to give up, you will get it if you give up; People who learn to suffer losses at the right time are definitely not retarded, but great wisdom.
Leaving space for others means leaving space for yourself, being convenient for others means being convenient for yourself, and being kind to others means being kind to yourself.
A fool is blessed with stupidity, because a fool has no calculation. With such people, you can relax physically and mentally and get close to each other without too much vigilance. Stupidity often means persistence and loyalty, but it also means generosity and honesty, which makes people unconsciously stand on his side. Fools get more by accident than wise men try to get. In the past few years after graduation, there are only a few snowflakes floating in your sky. Are you satisfied? Success requires persistence and accumulation. Instead of focusing on collecting snowflakes, save some energy to snowball. Buffett said: "Life is like snowballing. The most important thing is to find wet snow and long slopes." Let yourself settle down, learn to find "very wet snow" and try to find "very long slope". Remember: scattered snowflakes will soon melt and disappear. Only snowballs are more real and can last for a long time.
In the past few years after graduation, if you can make more efforts than others, it means accumulating more capital and having more chances of success than others.
What is professionalism? Professionalization is the standardization, standardization and institutionalization of working conditions, that is, at the right time and place, saying the right things and doing the right things in the right way, so that knowledge, skills, concepts, thinking, attitudes and psychology are in line with professional norms and standards. "Every industry has many outstanding talents. They exist because they work harder, are smarter and are more mature than others. But, most importantly, they are more professional than the average person! So I can be your boss now. It is not enough for one person to specialize. Only professional people can fly in front of others, making it difficult for others to surpass! " Don't think that we are living a quiet life now. For those who have graduated for five years, they must recognize the five major challenges they will face.
First, support parents.
Second, get married and have children.
Third, promotion and salary increase.
Fourth, work pressure.
5. Quality of life.
Some people are excited to survive, their eyes always stay behind them, fishing for three days and drying their nets for two days, starting with the end.
Some people struggle for development, keep an eye on the front, make a little progress every day and persevere.
In these years after graduation, we should pursue, explore, have ideals and have goals. Life is like sailing against the current, if you don't advance, you will retreat. A life that is content with the status quo is a ship that never moves forward and can no longer keep up with the pace of the times. We must seize every second to study, and understand that learning is not the patent of students. Smart people are most proud of: what have they done? What a wise man craves most is: What else do you want to do?
Small cleverness is tactics, and great wisdom is strategy; Small cleverness sees sesame seeds, and great wisdom sees watermelon.
In this world, there are both big people and small roles. Big people have a big lifestyle, and small people have the chic of small people. Everyone has his own way of life, and no one can force anyone. But cleverness can only have small achievements and small horizons, and great wisdom can have great achievements and great realm. Small enterprises look at the boss, medium enterprises look at the system, and large enterprises look at culture.
Both small companies and large enterprises have their own ways to survive. There is no difference between good and bad, but different stages will have different effects on a person.
Small companies definitely want to develop into large enterprises, which is a goal, and young people should also set goals for their careers. A few years after graduation, do you often get stage fright or feel weak? Be prepared for danger in times of peace is definitely not an alarmist! Take a nap now, and you will dream; Study now and your dream will come true. In the fierce competition of life battlefield, those who nap are losers!
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