Mi Meng has published a new book again! I have always liked Mi Meng's style, humorous language, vivid description and sincere and frank expression. After reading her article, you will laugh, you will cry and you will think deeply. You think she is your good friend. She is sitting opposite you, talking about Kan Kan with you. Recommend her official WeChat account mimeng7 and her new book "I like this utilitarian world". I agree with her point of view and believe that behind utilitarianism, our efforts are recognized.

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I have a second uncle. As a generation born after 60 years like our parents, it is a great thing to be admitted to the university. In the era of parcel distribution, because he was a college student, his second uncle lived the life he expected, and later became the director of Q City Taxation Bureau. There are three brothers and a sister at home. Only my second uncle graduated from college, which is very good in the eyes of ordinary people. So many times, people always hope to get his light, especially when children grow up and can't find a good job, they hope he can help introduce them to a good job.

My aunt asked my uncle to introduce her cousin to work three times, but she didn't work long or didn't like it. It's tiring to introduce a factory job, and I hate looking for such a bad job. Looking for a job driving a bus, I feel that my salary is low and I can't earn much money; A security guard in the government thinks there is no future. I hope I can work in a government department. ...

My aunt and parents used to evaluate my uncle as a person who only cared about himself and never helped his family. So my brother and I don't like this second uncle who doesn't meet once a year, and even, influenced by everyone, we are a little biased against him. We seldom meet, so we don't communicate, we don't understand, and some of them are more misunderstandings. But what happened around me recently made me suddenly understand him. I'm thinking, if I were him, I think I would be like him. If you should "help" because you are a relative, then the job has been found for you. Whether you can do it or not is your own business. It is good for us to ask a clear conscience.

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In fact, I don't approve of cronyism in the workplace unless this person really has the ability and talent needed for this position. Mr. H is the regional manager of a pharmaceutical company and a special "family-oriented" person. In order to make his family live better, he took his younger brother out of his hometown to be a medical business representative, hoping that he would stop doing odd jobs and go to the construction site to work. I hope he can study medical knowledge well and improve his communication skills and sales ability. I hope my brother can earn more money and take two children out to a better school. His idea is good, and his original intention is good, but the result is beyond his control. Because a person's life is good or bad, the control is ultimately in his own hands, and the influence of external forces is always limited.

A person, if you have the ability, you can solve it yourself, without having to trouble others to introduce you to work. If a person is unable to find a job for you, you will inevitably be picky: if the salary is low, you feel that you can't make money; If you have a stable job, you feel that there is no future; But the salary is high and the treatment is good. Do you have that education and ability? Do you have enough learning ability even if you don't have a degree? If you have enough learning ability, you don't need others to help you find a job at all. Good job opportunities will come to you, because God helps those who help themselves. Whether a person's life is good or not and how his work is done depends more on himself.

Cai Kangyong once said: When you were 65,438+05 years old, you found it difficult to swim, so you gave up swimming. At the age of 65,438+08, when someone you like asks you to swim, you have to say "I can't". 18 years old, found English difficult and gave up English. At the age of 28, I have a great job and need English, so you have to say "I can't". The more troublesome my early life is, the lazier I am to study, and the easier it is to miss the people and things I am interested in and the new scenery later.

Therefore, thinking too much is sad, thinking too much is tears, and it is imperative to have this time to improve yourself quickly. When you encounter anything, think from your own point of view first, instead of blaming others first. What you miss is what you should miss and what you deserve. Happiness = ability-expectation. It's up to you to choose whether to improve your ability or lower your expectations. You are the root of everything.

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Don't feel sorry that your relatives didn't help you. Don't take it for granted that relatives help you. How can there be so many things for granted? When you have time, just squat in the corner and think about "why" and "how to do it". Why don't others help you? Why should others help you? What are your reasons and values that are worth helping? What are your strengths? What the hell can you do?

When encountering problems, we usually have three attitudes. One is the mentality that children find excuses to escape, which is an inexorable road. Second, there is no way out for girls to complain and evaluate. The third is the adult mentality, thinking about "what to do" and actively looking for more than three solutions. Of course, this road is not easy. It is because it is not easy to walk that we can grow up and gain wisdom on the way to our destination. And the attitude of encountering problems determines whether you can succeed.

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If you are behind, you will be beaten, and if you are incapable, you will be bullied. Wendy Wang said: We are animals, even advanced animals, and Darwinism always applies. Only by training yourself to be a more agile and stronger animal can we live a better life. Therefore, laziness and negativity are definitely not a long-term solution. If you are in the animal kingdom, at the bottom of the pyramid, you are still so tired and lifeless.

If you don't have a high degree, you can prove it with your ability. If your ability is not enough, you should work hard with others to improve yourself. Looking forward to a pie in the sky, looking forward to a capable relative and a chance to make a fortune may be a tragedy rather than a comedy. Pigs without wings, even if they fly into the sky by the wind, may fall even worse when the wind stops. The backer will fall, and everyone will run. Only relying on oneself is the best.

Mi Meng said: "When you are good enough, everything you want will come to you." Yes, the harder you work, the luckier you are. If you have time to complain, it is better to act quickly, cultivate your ability to blame and improve yourself.

I like this utilitarian world, because behind utilitarianism, I admit my ability.