One: small meeting. The so-called small meeting is the first contact between men and women. The contact time will not be long, and the two sides will talk about irrelevant words and get to know each other. The general practice is that the man buys some fruit snacks and the matchmaker takes them to the woman to explain her purpose and ask her for advice. If the woman agrees, she will make an appointment at a time and place, and the boys and girls can meet. Generally don't take any gifts and bride price. However, some boys and girls are satisfied when they fall in love at first sight or have known each other for a long time. At this time, the man will give the woman a gift to express his satisfaction, generally ranging from 400-1000.
Two: big meeting. After the small meeting, the parents will invite the matchmaker to the woman's house to ask her opinion, and then the gift will be a little heavier. If the woman answers that she is willing to contact again. The matchmaker will respect the woman's opinion and choose the time and place for the boy and girl to meet next time. On that day, if the woman asks the man to meet at her home, the man can be accompanied by the matchmaker and the wife, and bring gifts and gifts to meet at her home; If the woman does not ask the man to go to the woman's home, the man will usually find a place to hold a small banquet, and the girl will come to meet with her "family" (sister-in-law or aunt, aunt). After the meal, the matchmaker will signal the boys and girls to go shopping. Boys and girls will also do it tacitly. At this time, boys will accompany girls to go shopping, usually clothes or jewelry, and most of them will go to photo studios to take pictures. Don't forget to buy something for the woman's "family" alone, usually a pair of pants or shoes, which is called corner pressing. (I guess I used to cut off baggage, but now I have a convenient bag. Hehe, it's good, it's good. In this process, the matchmaker will usually accompany the "parents" of both men and women to chat. When the boys and girls come back from shopping, the matchmaker will signal the man to "take out his wallet" after soliciting the opinions of the boys and girls. (near the county seat, if you don't give it to a small meeting, you should give a gift of about 3600. )
Three: change the post. There are two so-called "stickers", one for men and one for women, which contains the meaning of asking for relatives and allowing relatives. Is it one of the three media and six certificates? Two of the six certificates.
After the big meeting, the man will invite the matchmaker to the woman's home to discuss the change of stickers. At this time, the "gifts" will be heavier, and the vicinity of the county is generally "April 4th", "June 6th" and occasionally "August 8th". (I heard that there is a saying that "ten don't open the box" in the villages and towns below, and I am sweating! ) four four? Usually four cigarettes? Four cases of wine? Four carp? Four roast chickens or four white striped chickens? In addition, you have to buy four kinds of cooked food, and you have to double it, generally: pork head, braised chicken, elbow and beef. Note: Pig's head meat can't bring pig's arch and ears. (haha, I'm probably afraid of being scattered and eavesdropping)? Six six? On the basis of four or four, two kinds are added, generally, there are white strips and roast chicken, and there are roast chicken and white strips; Add salted Spanish mackerel. Cooked food with liver and ham. ? Eight or eight? Add more. (this trip, if you buy it at four or four? It's estimated to be around 800 yuan. I'm sweating, "ten don't open the box"? Very dizzy! ) Generally, the woman will keep half of it and let the matchmaker bring it back to the man's house.
The matchmaker will decide the time to change the post after asking the woman's opinion, and will come to change the post then. At that time, the man will ask the matchmaker to bring the post and the above-mentioned gift to the woman's house to change the post again. The so-called different customs of ten miles, things are generally not pledged near the county seat, but some places have pledged money and things in the past two years. The following is the general wording of the two posts.
Four: copy the number? Also called? Ask the matchmaker or change Cambodia. Copying numbers is a very important link in the marriage process. Will the man invite the matchmaker to bring four four? The gift went to the woman's house to discuss the matter of copying the number. Because copying numbers is a big deal, the average woman will say that she will consult with her brothers or elders in the hospital and let the matchmaker "listen to her." A few days later, the matchmaker came back with a gift to "ask" about the negotiation result. If the woman shows that she can, she will discuss with the matchmaker the specific matters of "copying the number". What is generally discussed is the date, gift money and the number of women going to the media.
On the day when the number was copied, the man's house was a grand gesture, the banquet was very rich, and the guests invited would be very distinguished. If you set a table at home, you usually have to cover the table at the end of eight or ten, turn over the table in the middle and serve it again. Now, it's usually changed to a hotel. ? On the day when the numbers are copied, the woman will ask two famous people in the hospital or village to bring the written numbers and the clothes pledged to the boy to go to the man's house for "matchmaking". After a ceremony, the general order of seating is that the matchmaker is in the middle, and one left and one right of the two round media are the guests. At this point, the "three media" gathered together. Before moving chopsticks, the "three media" should explain the task clearly and exchange the number with the gift money and gifts clearly. The matchmaker will give the woman's number and gift to the matchmaker and hand it over to the man. The man will also give the gift money, number and other gifts to the round media through the matchmaker. When all this is over, the banquet will begin, which also means that both men and women formally become in-laws, and the girl will become the boy's prospective wife. At this point, the marriage process is halfway through. (Now it is mostly changed to "meeting in-laws" near the county seat. But? The procedure is similar. ) I think this procedure is an engagement ceremony. The following is the writing of the number of both men and women, which is also the two most important cards in the six cards. One for men and one for women.
Five: Cambodia? Also known as hiring? Commonly known as the delivery date. After the boys and girls reach the age of marriage or the man has a wish to get married, they will invite the matchmaker to the woman's house to show his wish and bring gifts as before. Usually for the first time, the woman's parents will not agree. The man will invite the matchmaker to the second trip, and the gifts will be increased, usually from four to four to six. At this time, if the woman talks about it, if she rebuffs it, most of them will not get married that year. It means there is a sound. On the third trip, the matchmaker can set the date and dowry of Cambodia.
According to the agreed date, the matchmaker carries the wedding date sticker and the betrothal gift (gift money, which was about 6000 earlier, hehe, it's more now, I heard that it's down to 66000? I don't know if it's true or not) come to the woman's house to hire. The woman accepts the date invitation card and betrothal gift, and gives the returned items to the matchmaker to take back to the man. At this point, the task of the matchmaker is basically completed. Six: Registration: (Hehe, according to my research, there was no such thing in the old society) Matchmakers generally ignore this, and some boys and girls make an appointment to go to the Civil Affairs Bureau to get the certificate themselves. There are others.
Seven: above. (Haha, my understanding of this process is that you will get married soon. Don't make any mistakes. Let the man send someone to the woman to see if there is any need, and know the way by the way.)
The date on the top is usually two days before the wedding. People who go to the top of the woman's house are commonly known as "Menghong", and they are generally served by people who are eloquent and have a certain reputation in the man's family or "small fruit heads". On the day of the wedding, Meng Hong came to the woman's house with gifts and "money for getting off the sedan chair" (generally 1000 yuan) to discuss all matters on the wedding day, such as: how many cars will come that morning, what time will they arrive, how many people will the woman go in the morning, and so on. In addition to the above, the gifts brought this time will generally increase meat, usually four or six ribs, and some places will also bring flour.
Eight: Wedding: On the morning of the wedding day, the groom, led by Meng Hong, went to the woman's house to get married. After taking a seat, Menghong will hand over the wedding reception sticker with the groom's name taboo to the person accompanying the guest, who will put it in a conspicuous place. There is an interesting thing: the groom will be a thief, usually stealing chopsticks and a small wine cup, stealing chopsticks to have a son, and stealing a small wine cup to have a son. Haha, classmate Lei Lei got married? Stole a hip flask! )
The groom, under the red signal, marries the bride, gets on the sedan chair, and then goes back to the groom's house. In the early morning, there are usually four or six people who accompany the bride to the groom's house, such as the delivery of small meals, the bride's brother or brother, and the dowry helper. It is worth mentioning that the bride's brothers will give a farewell sticker with their own name on it to the accompanying guests and put it in a conspicuous place. ? Wedding stickers and farewell stickers? The same is two of the six syndromes. This time, the whole process from proposing marriage to welcoming marriage is over.