"I'm 25 years old. I work in a scientific research unit in Nanjing. I'm fine. I have studied music since I was a child. My family is very good. I have three properties. I live with my parents for the time being. My parents are preparing a wedding room, and the small property right house is being rented. Two of them have my name, which means that after marrying the woman, you can't add new property to your name.

My girlfriend is 23 years old, from a city in Jiangsu, majoring in music at an art university in Nanjing. Now I am studying abroad and will graduate in a year. Her parents failed to do business in their early years, resulting in years of debt. In recent years, life has gradually stepped on the right track. Her parents worked hard and were still trying to save money when they were old. Her girlfriend is very filial, saves money abroad and is good at living.

My girlfriend and I have been in love for a year and a half, and our relationship has always been very good. We both studied music, so we have a common language. I hardly had a fight for a year and a half. Although it has always been a long-distance relationship, it is still more loving. For the sake of our marriage, my parents fully supported us and prepared 6,543,800 yuan for our wedding-related matters, such as decorating the house, buying a car and holding a wedding. And my parents also prepared the etiquette related to engagement, and prepared a lot of gold and silver jewelry for the meeting ceremony.

My girlfriend has always had a wish to own a house in Nanjing before getting married, but the conditions at home are really average. It will take many years for her family to buy a small house of 1 more than ten thousand yuan. Her family wants my family to bear the down payment, the house she bought belongs to my girlfriend's name, and then we will repay the loan together when we get married. This idea is definitely unacceptable to my parents and me.

When things got to this point, they were in an awkward position, and there was some unhappiness between my girlfriend and me. She said, "If you can't promise me this, don't see my parents next time." Hearing this, I was angry: "Our marriage is between us, and my parents have no obligation to do it for you." Now both of them are angry.

My girlfriend always says that having a house will make me feel safe. Can't I give you a sense of security when I say I want to marry you? She said it was different. You have to earn it yourself. In her eyes, love is far less secure than a house. I don't know what I usually do to make her feel insecure. What should I do? "

My suggestion: I think your parents did a good job. The wedding room was given by your family, and it was 6.5438+0 million yuan to arrange the wedding. I don't see what her family is going to marry, but I insist that your family buy her a house. Her family is too shrewd to be trusted.

How can you two get married like this? Worried about divorce before marriage, can this marriage last? Consider divorce if you don't get married. This idea is a good way to plan ahead, but it is not good for you. If such a partner lives together all his life, you will feel very tired.

If you get married, give her all the money you earn and even meet some of her requirements. These are not things. The problem now is that all you have is your parents' hard-earned money. Although your parents' things will be yours sooner or later, what do your parents think of running an industry for their daughter-in-law who has not yet gone through the door? After that, the family will be full of contradictions.

Her parents asked you to buy a house for her daughter as a guarantee, and your girlfriend supported it. There is no objection. This requires you to re-examine your feelings. How much does she love you? You have to think about it.

Your girlfriend wants your family to give her a sense of security and safety, so what sense of security and safety does her family give you? The woman's house is too much! If you promise her family, you are doomed to be led by her family in the future, which does not include the tragic ending that if you get married, you will lose your money.

When people get along with each other, they should be indifferent to small things and careless about big things. What you fell out with was just a big thing. You might as well set your bottom line and have a frank talk with her. If she finally wants to achieve her goal before marrying you, you have to choose to break up.