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In 200 1 year, Wang Li, who was only 19 years old, suddenly came back from other places and told me that she was getting married. I didn't expect the little girl who kept saying that she would never get married before the age of 30 to get married earlier than the woman who hates marriage and wants to get married early.
This man is the same age as her, and her name is Sun Wei. It's easy for them to meet. They met in a barber shop and fell in love.
When I first met Sun Wei, I only thought the young man was handsome and tall. On the whole, I think he is ok, gentle and considerate to Wang Li, and a good man. The only bad thing is that he likes smoking.
I remember that Wang Li's mother didn't agree to their marriage at that time, because Wang Li's mother thought that this man was empty-handed and could not be entrusted for life. The most important thing is that there is no money at home, so he is poor.
Wang Li seems to be born with a rebellious mentality. You don't want her to do anything, but she insists on it. In a rage, Wang Li insisted on marrying Sun Wei regardless of her mother's physical condition. To this end, Wang Li's mother lay in bed for half a year before her health improved.
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After a year of marriage, Wang Li got what she wanted and gave birth to a big fat boy. Her mother-in-law took care of her day and night, but Sun Wei changed at this moment.
The arrival of the children ended the days of love. Sun Wei became indifferent to Wang Li and didn't care about the children, which made Wang Li very sad.
In this way, it lasted for two years, but there was a problem between Wang Li and Sun Wei.
Wang Li cheated her.
She called me to complain that her husband had been particularly cold to her since she had a child. Every day, she just plays games and watches small videos with her mobile phone. She never cared about her and her children, and never helped her with her children's affairs. She couldn't stand it, so she cheated.
I was really shocked when I heard the news. This woman who used to seem very disciplined would do such a thing. I didn't know what to say on the other end of the phone, so I had to comfort myself: you have done such a thing, just find a way out for yourself. It's hard for men to forgive cheating.
Wang Li cried her eyes out at the other end of the phone.
A few days later, she told me that Sun Wei had decided to forgive her. I didn't understand it at that time. How can this man forgive Wang Li? I didn't understand until I got married.
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So things came to an end and they lived happily for two years. In the third year, Sun Wei filed for divorce. As a friend, I must be persuasive. As the saying goes, it is better to tear down ten temples than one marriage.
Sun Wei made up her mind this time: This woman can't change her nature, and she actually chatted with another man on the Internet. The man also said that she had a chance to meet them, and she never changed her mind.
Wang Li was silent, and Ma Wang Li couldn't help cursing: How can I have a daughter like you? You humiliated my ancestors.
Wang Li looked up at her mother, her eyes full of disappointment: Mom, don't you believe me?
Wang Lima was stupefied. She is still very clear about the virtue of this daughter who gave birth to herself and raised herself 19 years. This happened once, and she will never make a mistake again. Mary looked at the once dissatisfied son-in-law, but abruptly swallowed what she wanted to ask.
My daughter did something wrong to her son-in-law, and now she can't blame her son-in-law for her problems. Wang Lima looked at the disappointing daughter lovingly.
Wang Lima said helplessly: Leave if you want. Your marriage is up to you two, and I don't want to be involved anymore.
Words are full of helplessness and heartache.
Wang Li's mother-in-law immediately called Sun Wei's sister-in-law, and the family sat together to persuade the young couple. Finally, they gave up the idea of divorce and lived happily together again.
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I looked at Wang Li's marriage and suddenly felt that such a marriage was really ridiculous. I can talk about divorce at will.
Once they start chatting casually, they can't stop. Four years later, the child was 7 years old. Sun Wei began to imprison Wang Li, not letting her go to work, only letting her stay at home to look after the children, educate them to go to school and help them with their homework.
Wang Li has become an out-and-out housewife without any economic foundation.
In order to ensure that Wang Li stays at home, Sun Wei, who goes out to work, monitors Wang Li's every move in real time and uses her mobile phone to check Wang Li's positioning trend. If she stays somewhere for more than five minutes, Sun Wei's phone will call on time to ask about the inspection.
Wang Li has been silently enduring Sun Wei's behavior. She said: I don't want my children to have a complete family.
When a woman gets married and has children, men will easily "tie" her around. Wang Li is like this.
She has been completely "tied" to Sun Wei's side, which reminds me of the TV series "Don't talk to strangers" with the shadow of childhood. Wang Li is somewhat similar to the heroine here.
Wang Li, who has endured silently for three years, finally can't stand it this year.
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The child 10 is old and can live independently. Wang Li decided to find a job, which can not only pick up and drop off children, but also earn money at work. She told Sun Wei what she thought, but Sun Wei didn't agree. Wang Li didn't listen to her husband Sun Wei, so she decided to get a job.
When Sun Wei learned about this, he didn't work hard and began to play red envelope gambling on WeChat. They all say that small gambling is good for your feelings, and big gambling is bad for your health. Sun Wei gambled tirelessly on WeChat, but in the end he owed a lot of money.
One day, Sun Wei asked a technician to find evidence on Wang Li's WeChat, which proved that she chatted with other men many years ago and kept the evidence.
Wang Li knows nothing about all this.
However, Wang Li didn't know what to do about gambling in Sun Wei, so she had to find a way to pay off the huge sum she owed. Therefore, loans accumulate over time and cannot be paid off.
This is a big blow to Wang Li. At one time, she wanted to escape, but she was involved in the "whirlpool" of the loan, because she repaid the loan for Sun Wei in her own name, and Sun Wei not only did not appreciate it, but did the same thing and filed for divorce with Wang Li.
Sun Wei pointed to Wang Li's nose and said, I tell you, I will make you regret divorcing me. I have enough evidence in my hand to let you leave home innocently. Wait, we will go to the Civil Affairs Bureau tomorrow!
Wang Li is heavily in debt, but she doesn't know what to do. Listen to the tone of Sun Wei, it seems that he has mastered any evidence, but she is independent, she didn't do anything out of line.
If you agree to divorce, you will have to bear huge debts alone; If you don't agree to divorce, the relationship between the two is invincible, and it has reached such a point. How will you live in the future?
In desperation, Wang Li asked me for help again. As a friend, I looked at Wang Li from afar and had mixed feelings. It's no exaggeration to say that she deserves it, but she is really poor.
I told her: in your present situation, you can't get a divorce, or you will have to bear this huge debt yourself. Besides, according to the tone of Sun Wei, he seems to have something on you. If you really want a divorce, I suggest you consult a lawyer to see how likely it is to go through legal procedures.
After listening to my advice, Wang Li went to a lawyer and prepared to go through legal procedures. Unexpectedly, what made me laugh and cry happened again.
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After two or three days, Wang Li suddenly called to tell me that they had not divorced, but made up, and they took their children to play in the suburbs.
I think: not getting divorced is also a good ending, at least for young children. It is very important to have parents to accompany you from an early age.
But their marriage makes me feel too trifling, especially the word "divorce", which is really too casual for them.
When I told my wife about it, my wife said something like this, which made me feel that marriage is really a very serious matter.
He said: divorce, this is a very serious matter, you must not say it impulsively, let alone casually.
Yes, how can divorce be easily said?
I hope my friends Wang Li and Sun Wei will attach importance to marriage in the future, and I also hope that those friends who often talk about divorce will never say it easily again.
Divorce cannot test whether the other party loves you or cares about you. You must choose carefully.