Worldliness, methods, truth, experience, knowledge, wisdom, strategy and so on. Human feelings are human feelings, human nature and the world is the way of life experience. People don't owe feelings, they owe feelings to pay back. To be a good person, we must have experience, wisdom, strategy, understanding of human feelings, understanding of human feelings and ability. The world is clear, everything is learned, and human feelings are refined. To be a man, we must first learn to think, observe words, analyze and summarize, judge and choose, and know ourselves and ourselves.
A man should be modest and eager to learn, have morality and conscience, not be proud, lazy and arrogant, and get along well with various personnel relations. The friendship between the poor and the humble should not be forgotten, the friendship between gentlemen is as light as water, and the friendship between villains is as sweet as sugar, among which the interests should be balanced. Leave half a sentence in your mouth and don't lose anything in your heart; There is no need to harm people, and there is no need to prevent people; It's hard to be intimate when you know someone. To be a man, you should learn to save money, pay attention to your words and deeds, know how to protect yourself, keep a low profile and guard against villains. Can be arrogant and impetuous, not arrogant, bow to the knees, endure small ambitions, shelter from the wind and rain, be calm, choose a tree to live in, save for a rainy day, save for a rainy day.
Know more, know yin and yang, be firm and gentle, be round, be patient and tolerant, be brave and resourceful. Be important, be round, not easily offend others, be modest and polite, respect others, listen to each other, give people face, not be willful, not too casual, always be vigilant, be careful, give more benefits to others, be willing to eat first, know how to respect the old and love the young, be kind-hearted, not bully the weak and be afraid of the hard, and be strong. Do more things that are timely, don't add fuel to the fire, and don't say anything if you see through some personnel. Don't tie yourself in a cocoon, don't be greedy, don't lose too much because of trivial matters, don't take chances, don't brag, don't be wild and unrestrained, don't go it alone, don't be competitive, don't do things absolutely, don't bully the weak, don't be arrogant, don't be narrow-minded, don't rush up in a rage, don't. Don't force others to do things, don't beggar your neighbors, don't argue with each other, don't calculate everything, don't be obsessed with money, don't take it lightly, don't be credulous, don't be calculated, don't be self-defeating, don't go too far, don't aim high, don't rush into it, and don't be unwilling to give in. . . . . .
1. There is no love for no reason, and there is no hate for no reason. Your attitude determines your interpersonal relationship. You can always gain a lot by showing the good side to outsiders.
2.360 line, it is true that you are the best, provided that you really need to pay and manage. In the adult world, there is no word "easy"
No matter how well you do, there are always people who don't like you. Learning to cherish what you have is a lofty realm of life.
Don't say how hard you work, anyone who tries to cover up strategic laziness with tactical efforts can't go far.
5. The concept of husband and wife is really important. Talking about an object with different views is the real grave of marriage.
6. Human feelings are precious. Don't waste them casually, let alone owe others. You have to pay them back sooner or later.
7. No matter how good a friend is, he will be alienated if he doesn't run.
8. No matter how close the relationship is, you should be polite, otherwise, the person who hurts will always be the closest.
9. The better people are, the more they know how to respect others; The smaller the pattern, the more selfish it is, and the more haggle over every ounce.
10. Everything you have suffered will eventually be repaid to you, as long as you can digest it a little. As Hemingway said: Life always makes us black and blue, but in the end, those injured places will definitely become our strongest places.
1 1. Anyone can live without you. You are stronger than you think, and so are others.
12. It is better to offend ten gentlemen than bully villains, and even the smallest scum has desperate capital.
People live not to kill, but to be secular. In the TV series "The Legend of Jong-il", this sentence of Zhang was repeatedly played on Aauto Quicker or his online platform because of the meaning of this sentence and the truth of the world.
Think of a king in the northeast who knows the world so thoroughly that he doesn't want to put it in the rivers and lakes of those big fish eat small fish. Therefore, this kind of worldly wisdom is a kind of gratitude and a feeling in anyone's heart.
The so-called worldly wisdom means that the kindness of parents can never be forgotten, and the idea of repaying kindness will always be remembered. Convenient for others is convenient for ourselves, and we should always know it. People who know the way of the world have good cultivation quality. As Degang Guo said, I would rather let all the elders in Jiangdong bear me than let the world pay the price for sin. This is the bottom line of the world. This is the way of the world. One should know what to do, not cheat or cheat. 1. The smartest way to deal with the world is to cast a white eye on the secular and go with the flow. -Ryunosuke Akutagawa
Even a good friend should keep a little distance, because the person who should learn to get along best is not others, but himself. -Walden 4. When I was a day student, I might as well refuse to go to high school. At that time, the school food was very poor. The classmates around me asked me to bring them breakfast. I couldn't refuse, so I agreed.
At that time, we will all get up early and run tomorrow morning. My home is not very close to the school, and every student has a different taste. A wants eggs to fill the cake, B wants China steamed stuffed bun and C wants eight-treasure porridge. ...
In order to bring food, we have to get up early tomorrow morning, because some stalls are not adjacent and need to run between them.
There are many students who get up early to buy meals, and sometimes they have to wait for half a day. Yes, I've been late several times.
Later, the time for self-study was advanced, so I said to my classmates, "Sorry, I can't help you after eating."
The students looked unhappy when they said this. They even spoke ill of me behind my back, and I was helpless.
There will be new classes every semester. In my sophomore year, I went to a new class. The new classmates asked me to help them bring food. I said, "Sorry, I don't help anyone."
The students were disappointed, but they also understood.
Really, the first refusal is the best refusal. Some people will never understand the truth that "helping others is an obligation and not helping others is an obligation". Life is always a bit of a bully. A person who does not know how to refuse at all can't win real respect.
I have been a "likable personality" until I have to please everyone. However, the more you experience, the more you feel that only your own family really loves you in this world.
But we always fall into such a strange circle: "be polite to outsiders and be angry with our families." Please please your boss and colleagues outside, and vent your temper when you get home.
The word "human feelings" refers to the feelings that people get along well with each other, and the world refers to the habit of interpersonal communication, and treats people well. The way of the world refers to the method, reason and experience of dealing with people. China is a country of etiquette, and we pay more attention to the world and manners. The worldly wisdom is the embodiment of a person's emotional intelligence. People who know the way of the world will have a very comfortable and warm feeling when interacting with others. Sometimes, people's emotional intelligence is more important than IQ. How high your EQ is determines how far you can go.
There are many ways of the world, and they are also very specific. Here are a few to share with you.
Sometimes, although friendship can't be measured by material and money, friends come and go or come and go. Such friends are either greedy for petty gain or forgetful. No matter he is forgetful or greedy for petty gain, he still doesn't take you as a friend or take you seriously at all. I don't think we should make such friends.
A former colleague had a broken bone, so everyone in the office joined in and took the initiative to visit the hospital. But what this colleague did next was a big surprise. Others can hear the news of a colleague's happy event to congratulate him, but this man can turn a deaf ear. Later, my colleague joked that the friendship with this man was worth some money. Gradually, his relationship with everyone alienated.
When dealing with people, we should know how good we are and others should be good to us. To be a man, you should understand the world. Only when we are kind to others will others be kind to us. The principle of reciprocity is actually to tell us the most basic rules and regulations for walking in the world and dealing with people.
Love becomes enemy, thin becomes joy.
Some people will complain about how selfless I am when I get along with someone, and I wish I could give my heart to him, but I finally broke up. There are two possibilities: someone is really insatiable, and the human heart is not enough to swallow elephants. In the second case, just because you are too selfless, let the other party get used to your "natural" contribution, and occasionally a little neglect will lead to bad feelings. Such people have a sense of superiority in their bones.
A thousand dollars can't solve a temporary pleasure, but a meal can produce a lifelong feeling. You may not get others' gratitude if you give them 1200 gold. When others are hungry and cold, you can give them a bowl of porridge, but you can make them remember it for a lifetime. This sentence tells us that friends should get along well, even the closest friends should keep a certain distance.
Wearing my clothes, I am both happy and angry. There is a passage in Hong Yingming's Caigen Tan:
Generally speaking, when I am in a prominent position, others flatter me, but they are actually flattering my status and power. When I was down and out, people looked down on me, but in fact they looked down on my rags. Since it's not flattering me, why should I be happy? I'm not looking down on me. Why should I be angry?
There are many snobs in this world, who are shameless and flattering when they see noble people, but arrogant and disdainful when they treat poor and humble people. In their eyes, only money, status and interests are eternal, and there is no eternal friendship. You don't have to haggle with such a person, and you don't have to care about his attitude. Originally, the criteria for judging personnel were different.
I'm Deng Yun's diary.
What worldly wisdom should people know when they are alive?
I am 40 years old. Let me talk about some secular cases in life.
1, my parents taught me when I was a child. You should say hello when you meet your elders and acquaintances. This is to cultivate courtesy from an early age, and to cultivate respect for elders and respect for the old and love the young from an early age. I remember my mother taught me when I was a child. If I don't say hello to my elders, my mother will criticize me afterwards and ask me to remember it later. This is what I remember best now. I'm 40 years old now, and it's the same. I will also teach this courtesy to my children.
2. If relatives come to our house with gifts during the Spring Festival, my mother will not let them go home empty-handed, but must let them bring some gifts. This is called reciprocity.
3, to know how to send charcoal in the snow. If you are a relative, friend or neighbor, what are the difficulties? You must help. If one day, our family encounters difficulties, someone will help us.
If someone invites you to dinner, you can't go home empty-handed. Be sure to bring a bottle of wine or other gifts. And after others invite you to dinner, you should invite everyone back.
5, the principle of treating people with things: relatives should be sparse, relatives must not be too close, it is best not to be familiar. Friends and acquaintances should kiss. If you have any questions, you must find answers from your own reasons and live your life well.
6. Be practical, not flashy. Only in this way can many people make friends with you. Everyone wants to make friends with reliable people. Don't save face for yourself, but you must save face for others. Hold someone else.
The above is my understanding of the world in my life. Please criticize and correct me.
The most important thing in a person's life is to deal with people, but the way of the world involves all aspects, and no one can tell all of them. I have summarized a small part for reference. The following people will suffer sooner or later if they don't understand the way of the world!
1. Leave seven points and three points. Don't make it clear and don't preach to others.
2. Be yourself and don't please everyone.
3. Abandon perfectionism and do your best.
4. Remember that "helping you is love, not helping you is duty", don't be a big head, and be less good.
5. Get along with excellent people and make friends with high-level people.
6. Listen more and talk less. If you are confused, you will be confused.
7. See right and wrong, just know what you know, and remember to publicize it with others everywhere.
8. Don't be too clever. You don't need to show your advantage.
9. Don't be afraid of losing money, because eating small losses often takes advantage of big ones.
10. Knowing how to share good things with others, it is better to be happy with others than to be happy with others.
1 1. Learn to bow your head and stand out from the crowd.
12. Talk about others behind their backs, but don't talk about others.
13. The biggest secret of doing things well is to get what you want.
14. Be grateful, always be filial, and don't forget your initial thoughts.
1. Don't get along too fast. Don't make shallow remarks, remember that if you talk too much, you will lose.
2. Speak with a ruler and play with a degree of abuse. A lot of things come out of the mouth.
3. Be kind to others.
4. Know how to keep a proper distance. Don't completely expose yourself, let both sides have some independent space. Family, friends and lovers are like this.
5. Pay attention to distinguish between acquaintances and friends.
6. It is useless to be kind to others without strength. Others don't care how much you pay, but how much you can get.
7. Don't talk hard and don't do soft things.
8. Never try to win others' sympathy, because sympathy itself has a trace of contempt. -Haruki Murakami
9. Pay attention to what you say and learn to deal with different types of people. You can't just look at people's skin, but also look under it. Don't look at what they look like, look at what they say, and then look at what they do, so as to infer what they want and want to do.
10. Thank you for your lowest cost. Take out more grateful red hearts and bask in the sun. Thank others more, the simplest and most practical, gratitude can make both hair happy.
1 1. Shut up and keep your heart.
12. If you encounter any contradiction, please focus on things, not people.
13. Never point to someone who can understand you.
14. Group activities, either pretending to be happy to participate or pretending to be painful to refuse.
15. Try not to deal with people with slow minds. If you have to deal with them, please be sure to keep 200% awake.
16. Never say that you have high emotional intelligence or that you can be a person. People who say such things often pay the price in the end.
17. If someone invites you to dinner for no reason, you'd better refuse. If you can't refuse, please remember to invite you later, because there is no such thing as a free lunch and no one will invite you to dinner for no reason.
18. People who don't know how to be modest often don't know how to be a man. Never mind, you won't lose too much weight when you listen to people bragging.
19. The truth is incomplete and the lies are incomplete. -Ji Xianlin
20. If you don't think so, you say "I never thought you were short" to your other half, but it shows that you really don't think he is tall enough. -Liu Yong
Letting life drift with the flow is an ability and a kind of luck. The so-called road is your innermost desire that is not driven by utility. It can take you as far as it can.
Bonnie
What worldly wisdom should people know when they are alive?
Don't associate with alcoholics. Don't even care about his own life. Do you care about others' feelings?
Second, when you meet an acquaintance who likes gossip, try to keep silent and listen quietly. These people have nothing to do but do these things. Never offend them. If you offend these people, you will die an ugly death.
Don't expect too much from making friends, just think that you are just good playmates.
Remember, not all parents in the world are great, and some parents don't even have a good education. You are his child. If you are an adult, don't blame them. The road is your own. Maintaining personal independence is more important than anything else.
5. Thinking more about the right life can save a lot of detours.
When you are poor, you are the only one who suffers. If no one can help you, you should reflect on yourself and try to get out of the predicament in the future.
Changing one's destiny is what normal people should do. As long as it is legal, it will succeed.
Hypocrisy is two-sided, one is positive and the other is behind. This phenomenon will never become the mainstream of society.
What is success for? Many people say that money can really buy many things in the world, but why do many rich people live very tired ... because among the hormone-driven rich, the spiritual world may be beggars, and we often lament the life of beggars. In fact, many rich people are beggars.
Many times, people are completely selfish, no matter how much we say a person is bad. The good is not completely good, and the bad is not completely bad. There are few good people in the real world, and there may be fewer bad people in the real world.
Thirteen drops of gratitude will take a spring to repay. When some people who repay appear, those people have gone far.
Jianghu is not a fight, Jianghu is the world. This sentence by Zhang in Teacher Li's play is so classic.
The world has two sides, human feelings and the world.
China's words are refined wisdom.
In terms of human feelings, we should realize that human nature conforms to nature, what is kindness and what is disgusting.
The most basic ethical relationship, father and son (including master and apprentice) are related, husband and wife are different, young and old are orderly, friends are trustworthy, and the monarch and the minister are righteous, which is the basic concept of social communication, not to mention too simple, the most basic and the most difficult.
Pay attention to the world outside the society.
The ancients summed up a set of feelings about life, "enriching the literature."
You have time to have a look. Many sentences are best remembered, truly understood and can be done. It's no big deal to suffer a little in this life. After the integration, we can observe the society more clearly and handle things more intelligently.
Let me introduce something I can recite:
There is no livelihood at home, and sitting and eating is like a landslide.
Home has fertile soil, not as thin as art;
Better be a peaceful dog than a stray dog!
The disaster is not there, and the deep disaster is also deep.
Don't be chitose, thirty east and forty west.
If you want to give up drinking, it is intoxicating to wake up.
There are many brothers who have tea and wine. Have you ever seen anyone get into trouble?
At that time, the wind will send the Wang Teng Pavilion, which will be transported to Honglei to recommend this monument.
Stay early, the crow will see the light of day.
The house leaks when it rains all night and the ship is sailing against the wind, which makes the situation even worse.
Staying for a long time is cheap, and frequent visits to relatives are sparse.
There is no real gentleman in wine, but a gentleman in money.
The poor live in downtown areas, but the rich have distant relatives in the mountains.
Who says there's nothing behind, and who says there's nothing ahead?
Money to tell the truth, no money to tell lies. Don't believe me, but look at the wine on the banquet, first persuade the rich.
Don't speak out of turn, but don't persuade others. Without money, you can't find your relatives when you encounter difficulties.
Speak and listen to a bosom friend, not talk to a bosom friend.
You can't stop drinking until you get there.
Nothing people care about, everything is arranged by fate.
It is better to be in spring than in spring. I'm afraid it's cool in Qiu Lai.
Don't say anything when you see it, and you don't know when you ask it. Don't mind your own business and come back early if you have nothing to do.
I remember a teenager riding a bamboo horse and suddenly becoming a Chinese Pulsatilla.
In the Qing dynasty, talents were expensive, but they were rich and extravagant.
Old doctors are obsessed with old diseases, and bad medicine is wrong. You should die in the water, not on the shore.
Fuck, don't turn, don't gamble, don't watch.
Don't open a shop if people don't like it.