The settlement process is that you take all the information of real estate license (including the certificate of real estate license and loan), marriage certificate and ID cards of both parties, go to your home police station in Zhongshan District first and ask them if they agree to settle down. If so, the police station will give you a transfer certificate. You can take the above information and this certificate of account transfer to the police station where you registered in Ganjingzi and the place where the collective account in the development zone is located for account transfer.
Because you are a local hukou in Dalian, and you have a house (although the house is your lover's name, you have a marriage certificate _), so your situation belongs to the local hukou migration and meets the conditions for settlement. Of course, your lover can also settle down.
Reconciliation is mainly related to the police station where the house is located. If they don't issue a transfer certificate, they can't stay. But now many police stations are very willing to leave their registered permanent residence in the location of the house because it is easy to manage.
Another problem is that you need to make sure that you have someone else's account on your house in Zhongshan District. My house is because the original owner's account has not moved away before, so the police station where the house is located is not allowed to settle down, but the next year, the former owner has not moved away, so the police station let us fall.
I suggest you take all the information and ask at the police station where the house is located. If they agree, they can directly issue you a transfer certificate.