Perhaps many people, like the subject, find it difficult to accept such reasons for breaking up and feel that there is no sign of breaking up. Why did you say it well before? Why didn't you feel it?
Because of work, I have seen too many couples who broke up because of long-distance love, and I have helped them save a lot. In fact, long-distance love really makes people feel nothing …
case sharing
I share the experience of one of my students, a little girl. Here are some miniature of her experience:
In my senior year, I chose to take the postgraduate entrance examination in the north, and he chose to stay in the south to practice and find a job. So in fact, at the beginning, we didn't regard different places as a problem. Until he put me on the train in the north, I still didn't realize the horror of "different places". That kind of feeling is like, because we are together every day, I am too used to having him around, so I feel a kind of "dullness" in my heart, which makes me feel that I will be as peaceful and satisfied whether he is around or not.
It turns out that I was wrong. When I found myself sick, he could only tell you to have a good rest, but he couldn't come to your side; When it rains, others have boyfriends to send umbrellas, but they can only wait in line for a long time to take a taxi home; When he didn't reply to your message, he was in a hurry, and a hundred possibilities immediately came to his mind. Like did he do it on purpose? Does he like others? When I find that I casually think of an interesting thing to say, I need to take out my mobile phone and send it to him in the form of a text message.
These little things that I seldom pay attention to when I am with him have become the testimony of long-distance love. So, for a while, I felt extremely empty. I'll start thinking. I often feel that I have a lot to say to him, but when I open the dialog box, I suddenly don't know where to start. Slowly, I began to get used to all this, to a person's life, to eating alone, to taking a taxi home alone in rainy days, to his not returning messages, and I was too lazy to send him any more messages when I met interesting things …
Sometimes you even wonder if you are in love with the air. When you want to hug, you can only hug the wind. Slowly, you will become indifferent to him … I used to raise my mouth when I thought of meeting him the next day, but now I have no waves in my heart, even a little annoyed, and I feel that I have disturbed my life …
case analysis
Is it terrible to be away from home? It sucks. Is it difficult to fall in love? Difficult.
In this way, in such a difficult love, people who are not afraid of different places are really brave and care about this love.
Sometimes, different places do become a difficult problem in love, but since it is a difficult problem, there will be a solution no matter how difficult it is.
Here are some suggestions for long-distance lovers:
1, insist on instant messaging.
First of all, contact every day. Although you are in a different place, remember to tell the other person where you are going and ask their permission.
No matter what happens and what mood you have, you should communicate with him immediately, even if it is a bad mood. It is much better to talk to him than to hide it.
2. Trust each other unconditionally
Learn to feel safe. What two people are afraid of in different places is suspicion. Believe everything he says, believe that your love is invincible, and believe that you deserve to be loved.
3. Meet regularly to create small surprises.
At the same time, two people should meet regularly when they meet. Even once a month or even once every six months, when you see him touching him, you will know that he is real, not just in the mobile phone.
4. Work towards the goal of "ending different places"
No matter how long two people stay together in different places, the ultimate goal is not to be in different places again. Therefore, two people should plan well and work together for that day. The heroism in love may be: I know how difficult it is to be in a long-distance relationship, but I still want to be with you. Perhaps, long-distance love is the price of love and a temporary compromise, but every sweetness in love makes people feel worthwhile.
If you love each other, please believe that distance is not a problem.