First, don't draw your own boundaries.

Anthony robbins once told a story: Many years ago, Jim, the heavyweight champion, saw a fisherman pull fish one by one during his routine training. But Jim noticed that fishermen always put the big fish back, leaving only the small ones. Jim went up to the fisherman curiously and asked him why he left only the small fish and put the big fish back. The fisherman replied, "God, I hate to do this, but I really have no choice because I only have a small pot." Before you laugh, Robin reminds you that he is actually talking about you! Many times, when we think of a great idea, we often tell ourselves, "Oh, my God! Not so big! I only have a small pot! " We often comfort ourselves by saying, "What's more, if it is a good idea, others should have thought of it long ago. Please give me a small one! Don't let me out of my comfort zone, don't make me sweat. " Anthony robbins pointed out: In our life, we will face many moments when we are afraid that we can't do it. So we limit ourselves and turn unlimited potential into limited achievements.

The following example is a typical story about this truth (the story of two salesmen). There are two people, one selling products door to door all the year round, and finally earning 20 thousand; Another person spent a year designing and starting a technical reform, which made the company profit 20 million yuan. They spent the same amount of time, but the first one always worried about bank loans, and the other one got a promotion soon and got the same amount of money at the same time.

The reason is that two people have different efforts, and the first person works blindly. He is diligent, he is conscious, he has completed the task, he has satisfied his boss, and he has ensured the rest of his life at work.

And the first person is just killing time.

The other party is using time. In a year, he not only works with his hands, but also thinks with his brain. He thinks that work is both a task and an opportunity. He realized that he had a hope of success and devoted himself to developing it.

He correctly evaluates his ability and concentrates on developing everything he is good at. He observed that there was not much difference between being capable and being very successful, so he decided to make up for this difference. When he encountered difficulties, he did not curse, but tried his best to solve them; He looks for needs and tries to meet them; He noticed that everything he did in any office was based on language communication-written language and oral language-and he began to learn to master language skills; He found that the most valuable ability in his career is the ability to make correct decisions on most occasions, so he devoted himself to the research of decision-making methods; He knows that no matter what he does, there is not only one way, and he will always remember this.

He tried his best to make others need him, and as a result, he became indispensable.

The first kind of person doesn't always get into trouble because he lacks the spirit of hard work-if hard work means gritting his teeth, pulling a long face and being willing to work hard, but he doesn't succeed, it's because he accepts the limitations of the work given by others.

The same inertia bothers most people, who have no long-term attention to the task at hand. Some people don't know how to use their abilities, while others have only vague ideas about how to give full play to these abilities despite their ambitions.

This is not so much a lack of determination as a lack of imagination. They don't know what to do. Therefore, they often complain about themselves or others or the "system", which limits their potential and makes them feel depressed because they don't know how to eliminate this influence.

Winners always repeat the theme in the children's book The Capable Small Engine: "I think I can, I think I can." People often establish boundaries around their own lives, or live in restrictions imposed on them by others. These restrictions are usually imposed by family and friends, and some are imposed by themselves. They grew up with brothers and sisters. They may have left brothers and sisters in their minds. They wear ready-made old clothes. Maybe their parents are ready to swear, or indifferent, or busy all their lives, and have no time to give their children the love, care and encouragement they need. As a result, they lack self-confidence, and it is difficult for them to express themselves and develop their potential.

In this regard, anthony robbins pointed out that many of us set limits for ourselves, we will never surpass our parents in this life, we are slow to respond, and we lack the potential and energy that others have. Then there is no doubt that we will admit that we cannot achieve some goals.

You may always think that everything you have now is destiny takes a hand, and nothing in reality can be surpassed. No matter how long you hold this view, you are wrong. You can improve your life by changing your attitude and habits. Many of us should be more successful, but we have lost a lot in life, because we will be satisfied with the status quo, which is much less than what we can achieve.

But, first of all, you should realize this, and you should meet the possible you.

Robin often tells this story: a beggar sits in the street every day, and opposite him is an artist's studio. The painter drew a portrait of a beggar from the window and showed him the picture one day.

At first, beggars didn't recognize themselves. Then, he recognized it slowly. He asked incredulously, "Is that me? Will that be me? " "That's the man I saw." The artist replied.

The beggar stared at the photo for a long time, and then said, "If that's the person you saw, that's me." Shouting slogans is absolutely impossible to guarantee that we can be much better than we are now. There are many stories about people living in their own potential and embarking on a smooth road through actions.

There is no direct relationship between age and potential.

You must often hear people say that this is a world of young people. Take a quick look at history and you will find that this sentence is really good. For example, at the age of 25, Lindenbergh became the first person in the world to fly directly from the Atlantic to Paris. John paul jones became a naval colonel at the age of 22; Napoleon was the captain of the artillery team before he was 23; Edgar allan poe was a world-famous poet at the age of 18. Tracy austin won the US Open at the age of 16. Alexander the Great conquered the known world at the age of 26; Eli Whitney successfully transformed the cotton gin at the age of 28. We often hear that 5-year-old gifted children have solved the mathematical formula that puzzles university professors. There are countless people who have achieved extraordinary things before the age of 30.

This proves that our world belongs to young people. Is this sentence correct? We will prove that the world also belongs to the elderly, even middle-aged people. In fact, the world belongs to you, no matter how old you are.

It was not until he was 70 years old that Comado was recognized as the king of railways. At 88, he was still the most active person in the railway industry at that time. Socrates began to learn music at the age of 80; Pascal discovered rabies medical treatment at the age of 60; Columbus was over 50 years old when he discovered the new world. Voltaire, Newton, Spencer and Thomas Jefferson all reached the peak of wisdom after the age of 80. Grandma Moses won fame and success after she was 90 years old; Galileo discovered the daily and monthly profit and loss of the moon at the age of 73. There are countless such examples, and Tilda is a typical example of not being old.

Tilda grew up in the mountains of eastern Tennessee. She has been studying in a school with only one classroom until 8th grade. As a result, she studied for another year in the eighth grade, because there was no high school there. Later, she worked as a cook in a missionary school. At that time, she was determined to go back to school. When she entered high school, she was 32 years old-with a husband, three children, a job and a family to take care of-and five years later she graduated and later got a college degree.

Tilda hopes to help children in mountainous areas so that they will not encounter their past problems. She wanted to build a school for them, but she didn't have the funds and classrooms, so Tilda volunteered to teach outdoors for free. Then, she raised money for a children's development center, which employed 600 employees in a town with an unemployment rate of 26%. When Tilda won the Jefferson Award for Outstanding Service in Washington, D.C., she said, "Everyone has a gift. If I can do it, so can you. " The success of life depends not on what you meet, but on your attitude towards it.

Helen, 95, said: Even if she didn't get a diploma, her high school life was still a very beautiful page in her life. At that time, she and five other students never got the diploma because of the school. But Helen finally got her diploma. 1983 In May, Mrs. Helen, the oldest resident of South Tombstone, Maine, and the only living graduate of her high school, finally got a diploma-a diploma that was 76 years late.

It is never too late for a person to weave dreams, learn new knowledge and even change his lifestyle.

Carl decided to change careers at the age of 64. He changed from a very successful car rental industry to a consultant. His goal was to sell his services to 10 customers, and Carl achieved this goal in March of 1983.

Now he publishes a monthly report to coach 1200 subscribers. On average, he gives 100 speeches at seminars all over the country every year. Carl is 75 years old now.

It's never too late to weave your dreams, learn new knowledge and change your lifestyle. People can always make up various reasons-too old, too young, or the wrong sex and age. Although it is not easy to start a life, it can bring you endless rewards. You can't stop time, but you can stop negative and pessimistic thoughts and start to play your potential immediately, and you can get what you seek.

Don't let other people's comments affect your potential.

Anthony Robbins said well that human beings are born to achieve their careers, and everyone has a great seed in his life. This naturally includes you. You are a valuable person and have the ability to create beautiful things.

However, if you only hear others say that you are not qualified, you are likely to believe them. If people keep telling you to win everyone's approval, you will definitely do it. If someone tells you that you are a second-class citizen every day, you will probably begin to agree with him. When missionary Bill preached the gospel in prison, he learned that there were 90% prisoners, and their parents often told them that no matter how hard they worked, they would eventually return to prison! A book by Tom Mueller mentioned a young girl named Amy, who kept getting an A in school. If she gets a B, her parents will be very depressed. Amy said in a letter to her parents, "If I don't get an A, I'm a loser." This sentence is part of her book. The ideas instilled in us by the external environment directly affect our behavior.

Flan 196 1 Join the professional football team. The evaluation given to him by experts is really not wonderful, but he is the only one who doesn't believe in external evaluation.

The evaluation report said that he was "too young to be a commander-in-chief, too slow to walk and too weak to bear punishment". After reading this expert report, you may think that this young man should give up his competitive football career and find a stable job.

How would you feel if you saw such a report about yourself? But Fran is a determined man. He not only managed to stay in the team, but also became the best player in a short time. He not only became the first ball handler, but also won the reputation of the best catcher and the best passer.

In fact, Fran is not only the longest-serving ball handler in the American Football League, but also has more passing yards than any ball handler in football history. Fran, a Viking from Minnesota, is indeed a great player in the history of American football.

Anthony Robbins told us that you should never give up on yourself even if the outside world gives you a bad evaluation.

After all, you are the only one who can decide how to develop your potential.

Fourth, beyond the defects, we can develop the potential.

Barbra streisand is a talented artist. When she was young, she had been pursuing success in film and television. At that time, she wanted someone to put her on stage. But they all rejected her and stressed, "Do you want to be a star, too? I don't listen to your accent, and look at your nose! " She said to them angrily, "You will regret it! We'll see, you'll regret it! " Later, it turned out that their judgment was wrong, because she became one of the greatest performing artists of our time.

But all this is because she looks down on her own shortcomings. Can you surpass your own shortcomings? Franklin roosevelt can.

Franklin roosevelt, 8, is a fragile and timid boy with a frightened expression on his face. He gasped as if he were panting. If asked to recite, his legs will tremble, his lips will tremble, his answers will be vague and incoherent, and then he will sit down decadent. If he had a good-looking face, he might be better, but he is full of teeth.

A child like him must have a keen sense of self, avoid any activities, dislike making friends, and become a person who only knows self-pity! But franklin roosevelt didn't. Although he has some defects, he never feels sorry for himself. On the contrary, he believes in himself. He has a positive, energetic and optimistic attitude, which inspires his energetic spirit.

His shortcomings prompted him to work harder. He didn't lose heart because of the ridicule of his peers, but his panting habit turned into a firm hiss. With a strong will, he clenched his gums to prevent his lips from trembling and overcome his fear. It was with this spirit of struggle and this PMA (positive attitude) that he finally became the president of the United States.

He is not discouraged by his shortcomings. He even uses them to turn them into capital and escalators and climb to the peak of success. In his later years, few people knew that he had serious defects. The American people all love him, and he became the first and most popular president of the United States, which is unprecedented.

How amazing and great his success is. However, the defects imposed on him by nature are so serious that he can go on without losing heart until the day of success comes.

It is natural and common for people like him to stop fighting and indulge in depravity! But he didn't do it. If he pays great attention to his physical defects, maybe he will spend a lot of time washing "hot springs" and "mineral water", eating "vitamins", spending time sailing and sitting on the sofa on the deck, hoping to recover.

He doesn't treat himself as a baby, but wants to make himself a real person. He saw other strong children playing games, swimming, riding, playing or engaging in other intense activities, making himself the most diligent role model. When he saw other children's resolute attitude in dealing with difficulties and overcoming fears, he also used an adventurous spirit to deal with the terrible environment he encountered. Therefore, he also feels brave. When he is with others, he feels that he likes them and is unwilling to avoid them. Because he is interested in people, the feeling of inferiority can't happen. He feels that when he uses the word "happiness" to receive others, he doesn't feel afraid of others.

Before he entered the university, he had recovered his health and energy well through continuous efforts and systematic exercise and life. He used his vacation to drive cattle in Arizona; Hunting bears in the Rocky Mountains; Playing lions in Africa makes you strong. Will anyone doubt the energy of Roosevelt, the cavalry leader in the Spanish War? Or has anyone ever questioned his bravery? However, Roosevelt was indeed the once timid child.

How simple and effective Roosevelt's method of developing potential is! This is something that everyone can do.

The main factor of Roosevelt's success lies in his efforts and self-confidence. More importantly, he has never felt sorry for himself and felt inferior. He believed in himself and didn't underestimate his potential. It was his positive attitude that inspired him to work hard and finally found the secret of exerting his potential from the unfortunate environment. By extension, not only the defects can be surpassed, but also the unfavorable environment can be surpassed.

There is a happy farmer who lives in Florida. Because he surpassed the unfavorable environment, he even made a poisonous lemon into lemonade. He felt very depressed when he bought the farm. The land is so bad that he can neither grow fruit nor raise pigs. Only poplars and rattlesnakes can grow. Then he had a good idea to turn what he owned into an asset-he wanted to use those rattlesnakes. His practice surprised everyone, because he started to make canned rattlesnake meat. A few years later, it was found that almost 20 thousand tourists visited his rattlesnake farm every year. His business is very big. The snake venom taken by his rattlesnake was transported to major pharmaceutical factories to make snake venom serum; Rattlesnake skin is sold at a high price to make women's shoes and purses; Canned rattlesnake meat is delivered to customers all over the world; In memory of the farmer who surpassed the unfavorable factors, the village was later renamed Florida rattlesnake village.

Wei Bolisuo, the late author of "Twelve Heroes Overcome Heaven with Human Power", once said: "The most important thing in life is not to count your income as capital.

Any fool will do this, but what really matters is to profit from your loss. This requires wisdom, which is the real difference between a wise man and a fool. "Said this passage, just broke a leg in a train accident. There's another man with two broken legs. His name is Ben fortson. The reporter met him in the elevator of a hotel in Atlantic City, Georgia. When the reporter stepped into the elevator, they noticed this seemingly happy person. Both his legs are broken and he is sitting in a wheelchair in the corner of the elevator. When the elevator stopped at the floor where he was going, he happily asked the reporter if he could get out of the way and let him turn the chair. "I'm sorry to bother you like this," he said. He spoke with a very gentle smile on his face.

"It happened at 1929," he said with a smile. "I cut off many branches of walnut trees and made a bracket for beans in my garden. I put those walnut branches in my Ford car and drove home. Suddenly, a branch slipped into the car and got stuck in the engine, just as the car turned sharply. The car ran off the road and crashed into a tree. Spinal injury, paralysis of both legs.

"I was only 24 years old that year, and I haven't taken a step since then." At the age of 24, he was sentenced to a wheelchair for life. When asked how he could accept this fact so bravely, he said, "I couldn't do this before." He said that he was full of resentment and sadness and complained about his fate, but as the years passed, he finally found that resentment made him do nothing but have a bad attitude. "I finally learned." He said, "Everyone is very kind and polite to me, so the least I can do is to be polite to others." Someone asked him, after all these years, does he still feel that the accident he encountered was a terrible misfortune? He said quickly, "No," he said. "I'm almost glad this happened." When he overcame the shock and regret at that time, he began to live in a completely different world. He began to read books and fell in love with excellent literary works. He said that in 14 years, he read at least 1400 books, which brought him a new realm and made his life richer than he had imagined before.

He began to listen to a lot of beautiful music, and the great symphonies that once annoyed him can now move him. But the biggest change is that he has time to think now. "This is the first time in my life," he said. "I can let myself see the world carefully and have real values.

I began to understand that most of the things I pursued in the past were actually worthless. Because of reading, he became interested in politics. He studied public issues and delivered speeches in a wheelchair, from which he got to know many people, and many people also got to know him. Later, Ben Fulterson, who was still in a wheelchair, became the secretary-general of the Georgia government.

The more we study the careers of those who have achieved success, the more deeply we feel that many of them will develop their potential and succeed because they have some defects, which will hinder them from developing their potential at the beginning and urge them to redouble their efforts and get more returns. As william james said, "Our shortcomings helped us unexpectedly." It is true that Milton wrote such a good poem probably because he was blind, and Beethoven wrote such a good song because he was deaf.

Helen Keller's brilliant achievement is due to her blindness and deafness.

If Tchaikovsky wasn't so miserable-his miserable marriage almost brought him to the brink of suicide-if his own life wasn't so miserable, he might never have written an immortal pathetique symphony.

If Dostoevsky and Tolstoy's life were not so tortuous, they might never have written those immortal novels.

Harry Emerson Fosdick said in his book Everything in the Cave, "Scandinavians have a saying that we can all use to encourage ourselves. The north wind caused the vikings. Why do we think that having a safe and comfortable life without any difficulties, comfortable and leisurely, can make people become good people and be happy? On the contrary, those who feel sorry for themselves will continue to feel sorry for themselves, even if they lie comfortably on the big mat. Historically, a person's personality and his happiness came from different environments; Good and bad, all kinds of different environments, as long as you shoulder personal responsibility.

If you think you can, you can.

One Saturday morning, a priest was worried about preaching. His wife went shopping, it was raining outside, and the younger son was fidgeting and had nothing to do. Later, he picked up an old magazine and flipped through it. He saw a huge painting with bright colors, which was a map of the world. So he tore off the page, tore it into small pieces, threw it on the living room floor and said, "Johnny, if you put it together, I'll give you 25 cents." The priest thought he would be busy for at least half a day, but in less than ten minutes, there was a knock at the door in the study, and his son had finished spelling. The priest was really surprised that Johnny could spell it so quickly. Every piece of paper was neatly arranged together, and the whole map was restored to its original state.

"Son, how did you spell it so quickly?" The priest asked.

"Oh," Johnny said, "it's very simple! There is a picture of a man on the back of this map. I put a piece of paper under it, put a photo of a person on it together, then put a piece of paper on top of the photo and turn it over. I think that if people spell correctly, the map should also be spelled correctly. " The priest couldn't help laughing and gave him a quarter. "You also gave me the topic of tomorrow's sermon." He said: "If a person is right, his world is right." This story is profound: if you are dissatisfied with your environment and want to change, you must first change yourself. In other words, if you are right, then your world is right. If you think you can, then you can develop your potential and you can succeed. In other words, as long as you have faith, you can develop your potential.

Anthony Robbins said well that a firm belief in potential is one of the most powerful forces in the world.

Joan, a shepherdess of 12 years old, believes that she can lead the French army against Britain. Her belief was so firm that when 17 was old, she went to Prince Charles to explain her belief. Prince Charles was persuaded by her and gave her a suit of armor and an army. Joan led the French army to defeat the British army that had never been defeated.

Let's repeat that a firm belief in potential is one of the most powerful forces in the world. No matter how bad the situation is and how difficult the obstacles are to overcome, your faith will tell you that there must be a solution. Your armor may be a stethoscope, typewriter or microphone; Your sword may be a patient, selfless or endless attitude.

Success is achieved by a group of ordinary people with extraordinary determination, but it is not simple, and valuable achievements are usually not easy to achieve. A psychologist said that most people who are depressed and can't adapt to the environment are because they lack confidence in themselves and believe in their potential.

Wilberforce is a man who firmly believes in potential. British politician wilberforce hates being short. Westwell, a famous writer, once went to wilberforce's speech and said afterwards, "I think he is really a nobody on the stage, but after listening to his speech, it seems that the bigger he is." This extremely short man was sickly all his life. The doctor told him to smoke opium to maintain his life. After 20 years, he has the ability not to increase the daily dose. He opposed the slave trade, and Britain abolished the slave trade system mostly because of him.

The most inspiring success stories in history are mostly written by people who are flawed or difficult, but still go forward. The famous Norwegian violinist Bohr once gave a concert in Paris. Before the end of a song, a string suddenly broke. He kept quiet and continued to play the whole song with three strings. In fact, this is life-as long as you have a strong belief in potential, you can play life with the other three strings.