A stepmother's letter to her children.
Dear son:
How time flies! In the blink of an eye, we have lived together 10 years. I still remember the first time I saw you, it was on the playground, and your father took me to play with you. Your big eyes looked at me, and the shyness in your eyes made me like you at once. Of course, I also think you like me. Since then, I have a small tail and like to walk around me. At that time, I thought he was my baby, and I was willing to show off because I had a handsome son. When you really came to us at the age of nine, we also began to really get along. I accompany you to do your homework, bathe and wash clothes every day. For me, who was still very young at that time, although the work was very tiring, I enjoyed it. You are a little rebellious at this time, but I was very happy. Because my son will protect me, just look at me and tell me in a childish way, mom, I will buy you a big house when I grow up? Whether it comes true or not, my heart has been touched. Because your grandmother will instill bad ideas in you, but you are great and not influenced by adults. When you 10 years old, your little sister came to us. When I was in the delivery room, I also knew that my son was looking forward to it as much as I was. In case you have an idea, I will tell you more about your sister. But your nasty little sister loves you very much. She will figure out when you will come back and say how my brother is because you are his idol. Your reply and hug will excite her for many days. Mom wants you to love her more. That's it! You grow up and become more and more closed. Never tell us anything on your own initiative. You have your own ideas, and you and I have strong telepathy. I can dream about what you did at school. We think everything is for your idea, and you misunderstood us. Maybe from the beginning, you wanted us to pay more attention to you and grandma, and several of us wanted your attention, and we wanted you-son! Looking back, we love you, too.
But we have a clear conscience in this respect, and we understand that you care and take care of another mother, because it is not easy! But that doesn't mean we don't need you. In high school, you spend less time with us. We had an argument about your love and independence. Although it is reconciled, I know that you are even more reluctant to open your heart. We also know and understand that what we think is good for you is an excuse for you to disdain to accept it. You will understand this when you have children of your own. Speaking of your father, I don't know. Do you hate him? Divorce your mother. When you really get married, maybe he can tell you why. There is no right or wrong, just telling the truth. Maybe you think your father has given you too little love, but I want to tell you that he loves you very much. He has his own way of loving, and he will consider and guide you from your point of view. He paid a lot to make our big family live a good life. Opening a clinic, we both get up early and get greedy; When he goes back to work, he has to bear a lot of pressure. Something happened at work, and he hardly slept at night, so he was under great pressure. At that time, I was also asked by the teacher to talk about your problems. We don't want you to know, we just want two people to bear it silently. Do you know that?/You know what? Do you know that?/You know what? That was the second time I saw your father cry. When I got home, he didn't say anything but hugged me and cried. After crying, he said there was nothing too much pressure. I know he's comforting me. Because he is the pillar of this family. He also assumed the responsibilities of son, husband and father. Dear son, you have grown up, and today we will attend your bar mitzvah. How time flies! Now, you are no longer a depressed child, but a tall and handsome young man. Mom and dad are happy for you. Of course, we also have higher expectations for your future:
First, take responsibility. From today, you will be an adult. Getting married and having children is something a man must go through. Therefore, in the long years to come, you must strive to be a good husband and father. This process will certainly take a lot of effort, but I believe you will certainly fulfill this responsibility. Your mom and dad will grow old day by day. When we get old, you are our support, so you have to bear the responsibility of being a son.
Second, live with a goal. We are all ordinary people. Maybe we can't be big bosses or officials, but we ordinary people should also live a happy and purposeful life. In the future, I hope you have a goal every year and strive for it. This goal is not necessarily ambitious, but it can also be a small life-changing goal. For example, I will try to buy a computer this year and take my family on a trip next year. These goals may not all be achieved, but at least you will have a longing for life in your heart, which will make us more hopeful. It's better to have a goal than a muddled life.
Third, learn to be grateful. People will always encounter many setbacks and hardships in their lives. Of course, when we are faced with setbacks and hardships, some people will step on our feet and others will help us. We should learn to thank those who have helped us, because they let us know the warmth and love between people. Of course, we can't hate those who step on us. He will be the driving force of our efforts, so no matter how others treat us, we must learn to be grateful. Don't hate those who hurt us. The hatred in our hearts will only make our life more gloomy. Learn to live in the sun.
The fourth is a healthy and happy life. Now that you are of the same age, I hope you can go out more, feel the fresh air outside and do more exercise, so that you can have a healthy body. Learn to smile more. I hope to see the breath of youth from your faces.
Finally, let's talk about the Internet. Nowadays, the Internet has entered our life. We should regard it as a tool, not as a toy all the time. If we make good use of it, it is our friend. If we don't make good use of it, it may make us addicted to it, unable to extricate ourselves in the illusory world, and will eventually harm us. I believe my son will grasp this degree. This is what we expect of you. Maybe this is a little biased, maybe you won't agree, but I hope you can have a good life, a good job, a good health and a good future in the years to come. I believe you won't let us down. Dear son, you have become a part of my heart. Perhaps, in the past contact, I have many shortcomings and many places that make you feel dissatisfied, but please forgive me, after all, my age is not enough to be such a competent mother, but please rest assured that I will grow up with you and strive to be a competent mother in the years to come.
Finally, mom and dad have a small wish that my son is closer to me, so that mom and dad won't feel that you are getting farther and farther away from mom and dad when you grow up, so that we will become more and more lonely. We hope to have your company in our old age.
Love your mom and Dad
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Stepmother's Letter to Children Part II
XX:
Poor boy, since you have chosen to avoid me, I will write to let you know what I think. We have lived together for six years, and the worst thing is that I didn't expect our relationship to develop to this extent. I sometimes avoid you (not escape), but I won't say one thing and do another. I will do what I promised you. If it weren't for this misunderstanding, I really didn't expect you to hate me so much. Do you know why I am avoiding you?
To tell the truth, first of all, you have a father and a mother, and my responsibility to you is not that great. Besides, I can't do what you ask, and you can't satisfy what I do. So I think, since we can't reach an agreement, let's not argue about the small matter of money. You have something to ask your father. In that case, we won't be as harmonious as relatives, but we won't be like enemies. When I said you were angry impulsively, I meant you were angry impulsively. You didn't scold your parents. You mean let me? Going? Let me ask you, where do you want me to go? Your father paid for this house, but this family is made up of me and your father. I don't mind your cruel words to me, but I won't forgive you, let alone your father. Because you are a child, your fault is all his fault. By the way, when you say dad, he is not only your own father, but also my husband, his parents' sons, brothers and sisters and workers who depend on him for food. He has more and more responsibilities and obligations. You can't keep your father for yourself. No matter what your relationship with me is, please respect my relationship with your father, which is also a sign that you respect your father. I also read your letter to your father. You say you are born after 90, but you can't just enjoy it without paying. Isn't there a saying that if you have a happy childhood, you will lose a happy adult?
I really don't want you to have an adult like us. After you see this, you can change your inner thoughts. I hope our relationship will not affect your growth. You still have a long way to go, so take care.
XXX
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A stepmother's letter to her children.
Xiao er:
Let's call you that first. You said you didn't know how to call me. Actually, I don't know what to call you. After all, this relationship is a bit awkward. Actually, I don't care if you call me mom or aunt. This is because your grandmother is too sensitive. You can call me Xiao Er, but you'd better not call me Xiao Er outside.
I'm not very happy recently, but you shouldn't have any burden or thoughts. I am unhappy not because of you, but because of your father. More because of the current situation. It's complicated to say, but I think you can understand some of them. After all, you will be 18 years old in another year. Recently, I may have neglected you too much, because I am in a bad mood. It's my fault that I didn't consider your feelings, but I also hope you can consider me from my position and understand my feelings. I didn't say many things, but that doesn't mean the problem doesn't exist. Think of me standing in the position of a stepmother, no matter how difficult you are. What will people say? Did you give birth to it yourself? What will people say if they care too much? Aren't you mean yourself? Besides, your mother didn't leave, so it's hard for me to do it. Life is not practice. After all, I haven't practiced how to be a stepmother, and I can't always be with you. Xiao er Xiao er? After all, the relationship is there.
In fact, you are still young and the things you face are still very simple. Now you are worried that your stepmother will lose her temper and dislike you. If you meet me when you grow up, you will know how I feel. In fact, when I got married, I had to deal with more things and encounter more problems than the average person. For example, in your current problem, young couples generally don't have this trouble. But I have no regrets now. After all, I knew you existed when I got married. I just regret not listening to my friend's advice. Think about it more. At that time, I got married because I liked your father. Women in love are blind, thinking that with love, they will have everything. When they really live, they find that the situation is completely different. I have been quarreling with your father recently, all because of the house. Put yourself in my shoes and you will know how pathetic I am. When people my age get married, some of them don't have a new wedding room, so forget it in the old house, or the house and room where my ex-wife and I live (of course, I don't mean your mother). How comfortable do you think I will be living in this house? Even if I don't say it, I'm always unhappy, especially when I hear people who accompany me say? Why do you live in such an old house? How sad I was when I was young! This is not the biggest concern. The problem is that we will have a kangaroo. It is impossible to fight guerrilla warfare with the three of him after birth. The kangaroo will grow up day by day, and there is no room for him to sleep in this house! Your father won't agree to live in Huangdai, so he can only buy a house. I just want to have my own wedding room, even if it is very late. This is not too much, but it is also forced by the next reality. What annoys me most is your father's attitude (I'm not satisfied with you, I'm angry with his attitude). When I say I want to buy a house, I either insist that I have no money or pull a long face. If you know that I am unhappy, even if you coax me, you can't comfort me. I'm not asking him to pay at the sales office tomorrow! Besides, don't people have 1 10,000 to buy a 900,000 house? Didn't they all borrow money to buy it? You can pay it back slowly or borrow money later. He kept saying that he had no money and told me a set of ideas, telling him to buy a house without money. Why didn't he say he had no money when he wanted to buy an Audi? So I'm depressed recently!
It's easier to say now. I hope you can understand my feelings. When I am unhappy, don't treat me as your father. Ignore it. I'll be fine later. I will try my best to pay attention to the problem you mentioned in the future (but Dai Huang hasn't cleaned recently because she is unhappy). In fact, as far as my daughter is concerned, you are already sensible. If I had a stepmother at your age, I might not do as well as you. After all, you said I was a little naive. But I also have a small request. Whether you go to work tomorrow or not, you should go to bed early at night. You can brush your teeth after 10. Your father won't move until we move out. If I go to bed too late, I will be very tired the next day. I hope you can understand me.
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