Let's start with a true story that happened around me. In 1980s, an American boy was sent to work in Beijing by a company, and fell in love with an artistic beauty from China. After marriage, because her American husband was earning astronomical salary, he went to the most upscale places all day, lived the most luxurious life, and was not in a hurry to have children, and often accompanied them to travel abroad. This makes the peers around envy the couple. It seems that this transnational marriage has brought a very happy life to this China woman. In the early 1990s, her husband was transferred back to the United States, and her wife followed her to live in the United States. In the United States, they still follow the original luxurious living habits, but because of the extremely high consumption level in the United States and the fact that their husbands' wages have not been greatly improved, their consumption rate is much faster than their income, which makes them financially nervous. To make matters worse, two years later, her husband lost his job and began to live on the meager rent of renting a house. At her husband's request, her wife gave up her desire to go to school and worked as a counter attendant in the largest shopping center in new york. They lead a very hard life. With his wife's support, the husband stopped trying to make progress, which made his wife very disappointed. When his wife's parents came to visit her daughter in the United States, her husband complained that the two old people had lived in vain and let them return to China with tears in their eyes. The wife is very sad about her husband's ruthlessness. His wife was chosen as the company's outstanding employee of the year because of her outstanding work performance. Unexpectedly, when the husband and wife flew to Hawaii for a holiday to receive the prize, their wife slipped while climbing the mountain, fell into the water and was washed away by the waves. A few hours later, the helicopter found her body. Facing the death of his wife, the first thing the American husband did was to fly back to new york and choose the cheapest funeral home! At that time, someone suggested that he ask someone to give his wife a facelift, but when he heard that the cost was very high, his husband flatly refused. When the body was transported back to new york, friends found his wife's face completely deformed. After the American husband cremated his wife, he took the Hawaiian tourism department to court and won the case and won 2 million US dollars. He soon married an American woman and started a new life. Several people in China were outraged when they told this story, saying that this husband was disgusting. I think this kind of transnational marriage attracted many envious eyes at first, but I don't want it to be just a temporary satisfaction. Emotional problems can never be like the fairy tale in which the prince and princess live happily together. Many domestic girls want me to introduce them to a foreign boyfriend, but I never dare to promise such a thing. Because the risk of transnational marriage is far greater than finding a domestic marriage. It's not just a joke for people who don't understand foreign cultural habits to marry abroad. Over time, if the real life after marriage is far from the original expectations, most people do not have the psychological quality to accept it frankly. A woman from southern China who was excellent in all aspects was introduced to marry an American old man. After they got married, they both came to America and lived happily for the first few years. However, as the American husband's health went from bad to worse, his family was in urgent need of money. His wife found that Americans never saved money (many Americans do-spend money tomorrow), and the past scenery was the result of how much money he had and spent. Their house loan has not been paid off. What's more, her husband is divorced. According to the law, he must pay the child's alimony and his ex-wife's alimony every month, not a penny less. As a result, this middle-aged woman who lives leisurely in China has to use her hard-earned money to pay alimony to her ex-wife! I once chatted with the China girl sitting next to me on the train. She complained to me that American men are too selfish. According to her, when she got married, her husband's business in America was booming. However, with the overall economic downturn in the United States, her husband's business has been falling all the way and has never improved. In recent years, she has dominated all family expenses. Her husband tells others everywhere how hard his Chinese wife works. When he got married, he was laughed at by American friends around him, and the man's parents didn't agree with him to marry an China. But now, the male friends around this American husband, whether single or divorced, come to beg his wife to help them find a hardworking China woman like her! Here, I ask those China women who dream of marrying in the United States not to ignore the significance of "hard work"!