Getting married is a beautiful, solemn and sacred thing. Everyone yearns for a wedding that they will never forget.
when two people go from love to marriage, they have to go through many tests. It's really a predestination that we can finally get together and get married.
So how do young couples who are new here and have little experience deal with the matter of getting married? Just let me, a person who has experienced it, share with you the matter of getting married. Tell me about the whole process of marriage with my personal experience.
It is hereby declared that each family's situation is different, and the following contents are only based on personal experience.
First, parents meet
For couples who have decided to get married, the first priority is naturally the meeting of parents. Of course, you should have met each other's parents before this. Under normal circumstances, the time and place of meeting should be determined by the parents of the man, and an invitation should be sent to the parents of the woman.
So when we meet, apart from communicating with each other and enhancing our understanding, what are the main communication contents? This is very important, and couples must do their homework before their parents meet to promote the effect of communication. Because many "big things" have to be finalized in this meeting. It means a lot!
According to my personal experience, the contents of this meeting include the following:
The problem of the house is naturally the most important thing. My situation at that time was that the house had been bought, and the 1-year house loan was repaid by my parents and my husband and wife. As for the decoration, I will pay for the decoration, and my wife is responsible for buying home appliances.
if couples haven't bought a house yet, they can communicate in advance the location of the house, the estimated house price, whether to borrow money, how to repay the loan, whose name to write in the house, the way of decoration, the allocation of decoration expenses and so on. We must also plan the time for buying a house and decorating, and we must ensure that the house can be occupied before the wedding.
There is no mention of buying a car here. Buying a car was not very common at that time. After two years of marriage, my husband and wife bought the car together. If the problem of buying a car is also involved when you get married, you should also confirm the way to buy a car.
after the plan of buying a house and decorating is determined, the time of marriage registration must be determined. Under normal circumstances, the man pays more attention to the time of marriage registration when buying a house and leading the wedding. After registration, it will make the man's parents feel more practical and can better assist you in preparing for the wedding.
We set a date on the day our parents met, and we registered to get married within one month.
Of course, every family is different. One of my friends, his wife's parents, asked to register after the wedding. Although they are very happy now, it is not recommended to do so. Because you have confirmed that you are going to get married, don't deliberately talk about some unreasonable conditions, which will widen the distance between the two families.
The confirmation of the wedding mainly includes the confirmation of the wedding time, the approximate number of friends and relatives invited, and the level of the hotel and the scale of the wedding (mainly the number of tables) determined by the number. Then determine the way of the wedding, Chinese, western and so on.
if it involves different places, it may be necessary to consider how to hold weddings in different places, and so on.
under normal circumstances, it takes at least half a year from buying a house and decorating it to preparing for the wedding, which usually takes 9 to 12 months.
Our parents met in August, registered in September, and held the wedding in May of the following year, which took nine months to prepare.
some couples may ask, does the wedding time need to be determined so long in advance? Once there is something at home, can it be temporarily adjusted? Is it not enough to determine the time three months in advance?
it depends on the family situation and the city. In my experience, the sooner you decide, the better, because you have to choose wedding hotels, book etiquette companies, motorcades and so on. Weddings usually choose auspicious days, and on such days, hotels, etiquette companies and motorcades are relatively nervous, so you may not be able to book your favorite hotel without booking in advance.
As for the wedding date, once it is fixed, there are no special circumstances that will not be revised.
After determining these three major events, some families may need to communicate about their future lifestyles, such as whether to live with their parents, whether there is a bride price and how much to give; Is there a special life custom and so on.
Of course, there are also some families who gradually finalize the time by telephone after their parents meet, which varies from person to person. But these three things must be confirmed first, and only by confirming them well can we advance the follow-up things.
after the parents of both sides have confirmed these three major events, we will implement all the contents as planned. In particular, buying a house for decoration is a very laborious, but also very happy thing.
Second, wedding photos, honeymoon trip
Recommended booking time: 9-12 months before the wedding, preferably 3-5 months before the wedding.
We booked the wedding photos in May (parents did it before they met) and took them in October, seven months ahead of the wedding. And our final film was obtained in March.
wedding photos are of great significance to the newlyweds and are precious memories of our lives. Why should wedding photos be booked as early as possible? 1) We should reserve time for couples to lose weight and beauty. Who doesn't want to take a wedding photo in the best condition?
2) Give the post-editing time. Because your wedding photos are usually displayed at your wedding and will be hung in your new house. Therefore, it is necessary to reserve enough time for the studio to edit and design.
3) The shooting site and photographer should be booked in advance, so as to ensure the effect.
recommended appointment time: 4-6 months before the wedding.
Honeymoon travel is very desirable for many couples. Booking a honeymoon trip in advance is to fully prepare for many things before the trip. Because we still have wedding and decoration matters to deal with at the same time, we must not wait until the wedding to make a reservation.
In general, you will travel the day after the wedding. Because our wedding leave time is limited, we must make full use of every day.
We made our honeymoon travel plan six months in advance, and we were well prepared. Leave directly the day after the wedding.
Third, wedding preparations
Knock on the blackboard, and here comes the point. A perfect wedding is inseparable from careful preparation and planning. So what are the steps in the preparation of the wedding?
recommended appointment time: 6-12 months before the wedding.
the earlier you book, the better. We booked the hotel six months in advance, and as a result, none of the three favorite hotels could be booked, so we had to choose other hotels in the end. So share your personal experience and lessons with everyone, so be sure to book as soon as possible.
recommended appointment time: 6-9 months before the wedding.
the earlier you book, the better. Excellent etiquette companies are as popular as hotels. Because after determining the etiquette company, you need to dock with the etiquette company for many follow-up matters.
The matters that the etiquette company needs to communicate are as follows:
1) Determination of the wedding plan
Recommendation confirmation time: 3-5 months before the wedding
According to your ideas, the etiquette company will give corresponding suggestions and plans. The earlier you communicate, the more fully you can prepare, thus making a wonderful wedding plan.
2) Determination of the master of ceremonies
Recommended confirmation time: 2-3 months before the wedding
It would be nice to have your own friends as the master of ceremonies. I believe most couples still need etiquette companies to recommend the master of ceremonies. So make a reservation in advance, and the MC's schedule is also very full.
3) Determination of the motorcade
Recommended confirmation time: 2-3 months before the wedding
Determine the motorcade according to the wedding plan, including model, brand and quantity. Book in advance to prevent the favorite team from being unable to book.
4) On-site video and material production
Recommended confirmation time: 15 days to 1 month before the wedding
If it is to be combined with the wedding process, the scheme must be made clear in advance and sufficient modification and optimization time should be given.
5) photography
recommended confirmation time: 1-2 months before the wedding
it can be recommended by the etiquette company or found by yourself. Advance is also to be fully prepared.
6) Makeup artist
Recommendation confirmation time: 1-2 months before the wedding
It can be recommended by the etiquette company or found by yourself. Makeup artists also have appointments, so you'd better book them in advance.
all the above matters are handled by etiquette company. It is more troublesome to find it yourself, and it is relatively convenient to hand it over to the etiquette company. But you have to keep up with their progress.
Recommended confirmation time: 1-6 months before the wedding (as the case may be)
Many couples attach great importance to wedding dresses. If they have better economic conditions, they may need to make wedding dresses and dresses six months in advance. If you rent a wedding dress and gown, you need to make a reservation 1-2 months in advance to prevent your wedding dress from colliding with others.
recommended confirmation time: 3 months before the wedding (as the case may be)
When I got married, I formed a bridesmaid group of 3 men and 3 women. Everyone depends on the situation. Book a time in advance with your best man and maid of honor. They will be an important sight in your wedding.
For the best man and bridesmaid, there are other things to pay attention to:
1) Makeup artist: The makeup artist you booked must communicate with him well, including the makeup of the best man and bridesmaid.
2) dresses: when booking dresses, you should also help the best man and bridesmaid to book their dresses. You'd better let them try on clothes with you, so that they can match better.
3) division of labor: the best man and bridesmaid are not used as vases. They are important people to help complete the wedding. Give them an accurate division of labor according to the wedding process. There are those who hold wedding dresses, those who accompany toasts, those who receive guests, those who receive gifts, and so on.
4) Wedding location: Generally, there will be wedding location shooting after the wedding. We went directly to the nearby park for outdoor shooting after the wedding, and the best man and bridesmaid group will help you shoot together.
actually, the best man and bridesmaid are also very hard, although they are all their best relatives and friends. After the wedding, don't forget to thank them and treat them to a big meal.
recommended confirmation time: 1-3 months before the wedding
The list of relatives and friends present by both parties should be confirmed at least one month in advance. Because after confirmation, it is necessary to communicate with the hotel about the final confirmed number of tables and the wedding banquet menu.
At the same time, it is best to send out wedding invitations one month in advance, so that relatives and friends attending the wedding can arrange the adjustment time in advance.
recommended confirmation time: 1-3 months before the wedding
confirm the number of tables according to the actual relatives and friends who can attend. Remember to reserve a table (if there are more people, you can also reserve two tables if there are more than 3 tables). Some hotels may confirm the menu for you when booking. In most cases, the menu is confirmed one to three months before the wedding.
we confirmed the menu one month before the wedding.
recommended confirmation time: 1-2 days before the wedding
In general, the etiquette company will provide you with a detailed purchase list according to the way and process of your wedding. You don't have to go to Baidu to check the information. But you need your relatives, friends or parents to help you purchase and carry out subsequent packaging.
Recommended confirmation time: 2-5 days before the wedding
The etiquette company will rehearse according to the final confirmed wedding process, and confirm all the processes and docking people (the role of bridesmaids and groomsmen comes). You also don't need Baidu, just follow the process provided by the etiquette company. On the wedding day, the etiquette company will arrange designated personnel to provide full service and follow up all processes. (So it is very important to find a reliable etiquette company)
Some couples may ask why not rehearse one day in advance? Because when we got married, we asked that the husband and wife could not meet one day before the wedding. As for the reason, I don't remember clearly.
Recommended confirmation time: 1-3 days before the wedding
This issue is mentioned again. We will leave on the second day of the wedding. We must prepare our luggage and articles in advance, so don't forget.
when you are ready for these things, tomorrow should be your wedding. Are you full of excitement? The eve of the wedding is actually a very happy and difficult night.
Because after this night, you will bid farewell to your parents and start an independent life with your lover. Just have a good chat with your parents and don't get tired of their exhortations.
when I wrote this, my eyes suddenly burst into tears, and I remembered the scene of the night before my marriage. You can only feel it if you have experienced it. Enjoy the most special night in your life, and you will never forget it.
This is what I, as an experienced person, share with you about getting married.