Will you marry a rich stranger? Maybe your first impression is "Wow, rich man, I wish I could be with him ..." Yes, I don't object to such a first reaction, because almost every corner of life needs money, or there are material ingredients, but if you talk about love just because he is rich, no matter what the outcome is, you should say that you are a purposeful person, at least your marriage is a play planned by you!
Material is necessary because it is natural. "A clever woman can't cook without rice" may be said to be the material realism in marriage, but the material mentioned here has something to sustain life, even if you are a person. Now the material in marriage is the so-called "excess material". The "Three Big Pieces" in the 1960s and 1970s are different from the "Three Big Pieces" now, and cannot be said to be correct.
I remember there is a movie "Marry a Rich Man", but the owner there is not a material follower, and the foundation of love is not just material ... It is true that there is what kind of love and what kind of marriage there is. You can ask yourself, does your marriage have to be material? I'm afraid most people will say, "My marriage is inseparable from money, but enough is enough." Yes, when love and marriage are too closely related to material things, when there are too many "money colors" in your love and marriage, then marriage may be a "grave", and you and him may be material slaves.
We can't confuse the necessary substances with the superfluous substances in life, which is the foundation of life. Modern marriage should be diversified, and the diversification of life will also make marriage colorful, which is the foundation and sublimation of feelings. There is no need to take material things as a necessity, because the love between you and him is more of a heart, and those are necessary.
Treasure your love and marriage. When you and his face grow old, when you think that "the most romantic thing is to grow old with you", the love fire in your heart is beautiful. .....
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Material basis: What is the starting price of marriage?
"Will you marry a boyfriend who has no house or car?" At the beginning of 10, a netizen named "A Keke" posted a question in a forum. In just a few days, this one-sentence post has gained 18945 hits and more than 500 posts. 10 in mid-June, Tianya community appeared a "re-discussion" post on this issue, and both sides flocked again. Many people clapped bricks and held flowers, and the post quickly rose to the headlines of Tianya.
A month has passed, and the debate about garage and love has not stopped.
A few days ago, the Social Investigation Center of China Youth Daily and Tencent News Center jointly conducted an online survey-Is there a "starting price" for marriage? The survey is divided into two versions: male and female. 10050 females and 8962 males participated in the survey. The results show that more than half of the respondents said that they "believe in love", while 5 1.6% of women and 58.8% of men also think that marriage "has a starting price".
"Love is sweet, but the reality is cruel." Xu Bin, a 30-year-old surgeon, smiled. "We should watch love in the real world." In this case, it may represent the voice of most interviewees.
As long as you are with the people you love, renting a house will also have happiness.
58.2% of men and 56.9% of women "believe in love"
"Marrying a boyfriend without a house or a car is a prerequisite." Sun Jie, a 29-year-old magazine editor, said: "The relationship has reached the point of talking about marriage. Whether he has a house or not, he will naturally get married. "
Although newly married Sun Jie has a house and a car, she is an out-and-out "emotional supremacist". "If I go back to being single, I will still marry my boyfriend who has no car or house." Sun Jie's husband is her brother in college. "When he was in love, he was just admitted to a civil servant and had nothing. His salary is only 1000 yuan, which is spent on eating, drinking and having fun for two people. He is also very happy. Later, I worked and earned more than twice as much money as he did. It is quite natural to go out and spend my money now. "
"The most important thing in marriage is that two people like each other. Of course, the more money, the better. " Ma Hao, a 32-year-old employee of a foreign company, said. Ma Hao just returned from studying abroad last year. In just one year in Shanghai, he has accepted several blind dates under the arrangement of his parents. Every blind date, the problem of car and room will be directly or indirectly placed in front of him. Ma Hao doesn't think the garage is a taboo topic. "Because it is a blind date, it is just a condition for the other party to see." The blind date didn't go well, but Ma Hao was still looking forward to meeting the woman who loved him. "As long as we love each other, even if there is no house or car, I think she will accept it. After all, there is still a long time, and there will always be it slowly. "
"Love" is highly valued, and it is also reflected in this survey. Among the people who participated in the survey, 56.9% of women and 58.2% of men chose to "believe in love". In two surveys, "Will you marry your boyfriend without a house or a car" and "Will you propose to your girlfriend without a house or a car", 32% of women and 37% of men said that "as long as they love each other, neither the house nor the car is a problem".
"Where is the heart, where is the home." Tang, a 23-year-old graduate student, was sitting in a rented room, humming a song, and began to clean the small room again. My boyfriend went to Shandong on business and returned to Shanghai for two months. Don thinks the weekend without a boyfriend is simply boring. "The community is not important, the house is not important, and the grade of decoration is even less important. As long as you are with the person you love, there will be happiness in the rental room. "
Love is sweet and marriage is realistic.
58.8% men and 5 1.6% women think that "marriage has a starting price"
Many people believe in love, but living in the real society, most people also think that "love is sweet and marriage is realistic", and entering the marriage hall needs a certain material foundation.
In this survey, 58.8% of men and 5 1.6% of women think that "marriage has a starting price", while 47.4% of women and 39.3% of men think that in the face of marriage, "no car, no house". In addition, 7.3% of women said they would not consider men without a house or a car, and 1 1.6% of men said they would definitely not propose to their girlfriends without a house or a car, accounting for a large proportion.
After the relationship with his girlfriend entered a stable period, Xu Bin took out a loan to buy a wedding room. Xu Bin said, "Marriage needs a stable life guarantee. Getting married, living and having children are all realistic issues. A family of three cannot be urged by the landlord. "
"It is good to be financially prepared for remarriage. After all, poor couples are always sad, which is considered from the quality of marriage. " Qiu Ying, a 28-year-old university lecturer, agreed with the "starting price" of marriage.
Having a house and a car represents a "stable life", which is recognized by most people. In this survey, 65.3% of women and 58.0% of men think that people who can afford to buy a house and a car have a "stable life".
The "starting price" of marriage does not mean having a house and a car.
The "starting price" of 25-year-old clerk Jian Yu is not measured by a house or a car, but "both parties have stable jobs and incomes". Jianyu's boyfriend just graduated with a master's degree last year and joined the work. They are considering getting married the year after next. "Now the house is so expensive, how can people who just work afford it? We can only recover it slowly together. We are still young anyway. As long as he has potential, there will be bread and milk. "
In the interview, the reporter found that "potential" is more popular with women than houses and cars.