They are a married couple. The man has a bachelor's degree in business and the woman has a master's degree in science. The husband has an annual salary of 200,000 yuan while the woman is in graduate school and is about to get a Beijing household registration. The woman can only get a job with an annual salary of 100,000 yuan but has no household registration. The maximum support from both parents is 500,000 yuan. Realizing that there was no hope of competing in Beijing, the two returned to Chengdu to work in the summer of 2011. The man worked in finance and the woman worked in engineering. The current family annual income is about 500,000 yuan, with a small two-bedroom apartment and a cheap mobility scooter.

Foreword:

It has been two and a half years since I left Beijing, and my life in Chengdu has gradually settled down. I would like to issue a summary report as a self-examination. I have been diving in Shuimu for many years, and there have been many escape reports posted on the forum. The author may not even be qualified to say "escape" because he has no house or registered residence in Beijing, so it can only be regarded as a normal population migration. This article only represents my personal experience and is inevitably one-sided. If there are any errors, please correct me.

Background:

The author holds a master's degree in science from a key university on Haidian Xueyuan Road. He was born in a small sixth-tier county near Chengdu. His parents are teachers at local poor schools; her boyfriend (now husband) is He is from the same hometown and has a minor in business at a key university in Chaoyang District. His parents are retired workers from a state-owned enterprise in his hometown that is on the verge of bankruptcy. My parents can maintain a moderately prosperous life in their hometown without any heavy burdens, but they are unable to provide large financial support, let alone support from connections. Therefore, the host and her boyfriend have relatively poor family backgrounds in Beijing.

Introduction:

In the summer of 2009, the poster graduated with a bachelor's degree and went to graduate school. Her boyfriend was directly employed and worked in an insurance company (well, it is a very shameful industry in Shuimu), promising The annual salary is more than 100,000 yuan, and the household registration has not been settled. At that time, housing prices in Beijing were already at a rate of two to three million, which was an astronomical figure for us, who grew up in small sixth-tier counties. However, because we were on campus, we had not yet experienced the hardships of life, and we did not take the house registration seriously. thing.

I was forced to live in Shijingshan District for a year because of the tutoring project in early 10. I lived in a small dark room and slept in a big shop. Because my tutor summoned me every day, I went back to the school in Haidian District, and my daily commuting time was as long as four hours. For five hours, after squeezing the subway and changing buses, my face was dusty and my temples were frosty. Occasionally, a light rain in Beijing caused traffic to be paralyzed, which made me speechless and tearful. To exaggerate, I completed the nearly 100,000-word translation manuscript assigned by my instructor on the bus and subway.

Since I suffered from commuting and renting a house in a group, I began to think about my future lifestyle. In the future, the house must be spacious and bright, and it must be close to the workplace. This has become my thinking "I have to grasp it with both hands and be strong with both hands." top priority. At the same time, my boyfriend works hard and his salary has increased slightly, to about 150,000, which is about a million light years away from my wish coming true...

Warning:

The original poster is here Sichuan Shi was in good health. After arriving in Beijing in 2005, he was unable to adapt to the climate and would suffer from cough for a month or two every autumn. Although the illness was not fatal, it was still painful. In the autumn of 2010, the poster's cough came with great force. The campus hospital treated the symptoms but not the root cause. He traveled thousands of miles to a large hospital but couldn't even get a call. Although Beijing has abundant medical resources, I couldn't afford it as a pure-blood patient.

Finally, over time, I coughed up blood in the cold winter. I was so horrified that my boyfriend dragged me to the China-Japan Friendship Hospital in the early morning. However, I still couldn’t get admitted, so I had to continue to go to the school hospital to work as a doctor. ―If it wasn’t for pure diaphragm surgery, if you had the money, you could go directly to United Family Hospital. ―It took more than a month to finally recover. From then on, I became extremely afraid of Beijing's climate environment and medical system, and gradually began to retreat.

Trigger:

At the beginning of 2011, the poster's boyfriend's job was on the rise, with an annual salary of more than 200,000 yuan. HR has guaranteed that he can follow the company's internal process to resolve the Beijing household registration, and he will do it again. The salary is expected to rise to 300,000 yuan in two years. At the same time, Beijing’s housing prices continue to rise rapidly. A slightly better two-bedroom apartment is already around three to four million, which is still a million light years away from my wish.

At that time, the parents of both families also generously stated that they could scrape together half a million yuan from their family fortune, and the distance to settling down in Beijing seemed to be shortened to 500,000 light years.

But the reality is cruel. The poster started looking for a job. Sure enough, the water in my head when I chose my major back then has turned into the sweat and tears of the hard-working industry. There are so many talents in the capital, and I am not good at academics. There is really no competitiveness. The best job I can find only pays 100,000 yuan per year, and there is no possibility of a salary increase in the short term. If I don’t get the hukou, I still have to work overtime every day until dawn. It happened that a professional counterpart unit in Chengdu came to the school to recruit, and the benefits were pretty good, so I was yearning for it.

Implementation:

I weakly discussed with my boyfriend that I would spend my parents’ pension money and the two of us would save money desperately for four to five years to buy a small two-bedroom apartment outside the Fifth Ring Road—— The premise is that housing prices in Beijing don’t continue to skyrocket in the past four or five years - it doesn’t sound like a good deal. Don’t even think about housing in a school district. My parents don’t have good retirement benefits. It’s still so far away. It's hard to even think about helping. Seeing that I was like a sling hanging from the wall, my invincible and best boyfriend resolutely gave up his rising job position and his soon-to-be-acquired Beijing household registration, bid farewell to the six years of youthful memories in Beijing, and handed his luggage to STO. The body was handed over to Tietong, the parents of both parties celebrated each other, and the host and her boyfriend Xida Puben returned to Sichuan hand in hand!

Returning to Sichuan:

Although it was said that the poster himself took the initiative to return to Sichuan, he actually felt quite unsure. I was afraid that my boyfriend would not be able to show off when he returned to Chengdu, and from then on he and the host would be miserable. Fortunately, the invincible best boyfriend in the universe continued to use cheats and quickly found a financial position in a state-owned enterprise, and his annual salary was reduced to 150,000. The original poster officially entered an engineering company and earned 50,000 yuan in the first half year. Although the industry in which the author works is generally too hard, he still cannot escape the tragic fate of working six days a week and 12 hours a day. Fortunately, his employer rents a large house for free, including three meals a day, and he walks ten minutes to get off work every day, so he has no worries about basic living security.

Settling down:

At the beginning of 2012, the best parents in the universe continued to show their selfless dedication and collected 400,000 yuan for my boyfriend and I as a down payment. My boyfriend and I added another 100,000 yuan ourselves. , I bought a new two-bedroom house of 90 square meters in a pretty good area in Chengdu, with an average price of 9,500. Within a 15-minute walk, there are my workplace, subway station, top-level hospital, kindergarten, farmer's market, and district key primary school. , district key middle schools, several pedestrian shopping streets and large shopping malls, and two subway stops away from my boyfriend’s workplace. In the same year, I bought a cheap mobility scooter and finally lived the beautiful life of having a car and a house that Chun Diaosi had always dreamed of. At the end of the year, the owner of Diaosi earned about 150,000 yuan through hard work. The best invincible boyfriend in the universe continued to play the leading role, with an annual income of more than 250,000 yuan. In the end, he was trapped by my pig-like teammate and became the best invincible boyfriend in the universe. husband.

Struggle:

The Invincible Best Husband in the Universe continued to shine in 2013. By switching jobs to another state-owned enterprise, his income reached 300,000 yuan. Although the poster has no ambitions, he has lost money. Living in Beijing for several years has honed the poster's indomitable spirit of working overtime, and with the blessing of academic qualifications from key universities in Beijing, he was finally promoted to a small position with the appreciation of his leadership. It is expected that his annual salary will exceed 200,000 this year. In addition, there are some investment income and extra income, which are not listed for the time being. Although my husband and I’s income is not enough in Beijing, for two of us who come from a small sixth-tier county and have no powerful family, we are really satisfied to be able to reach this level.

Current Situation:

The happiest thing now is that my parents, who used to only see each other once every six months and a year, can now see each other every month. Seeing my parents getting older, I suddenly feel like they are returning. Sichuan is the right decision. My father was seriously ill last year, so being able to take care of him made up for the guilt of not being with my parents for so many years. At present, our parents get along well with each other. My husband and I are both only children, and we spend the Chinese New Year together without any major conflicts. Even though work is still hard, my husband and I still try to find time to travel abroad once a year and domestically two or three times a year. There are many tourist attractions around Chengdu. It is quite interesting to go out to soak in hot springs, climb snow mountains, roast whole lamb and so on on weekends.

Although the air quality in Chengdu is only a matter of comparison with Beijing, the strange thing is that I did not have a single cough attack in the three winters I returned to Chengdu. This is probably the biggest surprise I got after leaving Beijing.

Summary:

Both the poster and her husband are from ordinary families. They are completely dependent on themselves for work. Their parents cannot provide any help, and their financial help is also very limited. The hotly discussed school district housing, within the system, and dual code farmers have almost nothing to do with us. If we had been born four or five years earlier, we might have chosen to take root in Beijing (I have several classmates whose brothers and sisters were in Beijing four or five years ago. I have taken root in Beijing and are living a good life now, but when it was my classmates’ turn to graduate, they still chose to go back to their hometown, the capital city). However, there are too many powerful and talented people in Beijing now, and there is competition. Intense holds us back. If you can't compete, you will naturally run away.

Choosing to work in Chengdu still has a bit of a gambler’s mentality like Tian Ji’s horse racing. Taking me as an example, my industry is very hard in both Beijing and Chengdu. The difference is that it is very hard in Chengdu. Yes, it is extremely difficult in Beijing. My university classmates in Beijing probably work eighty, ninety or even hundreds of hours a week, and staying up all night is the norm, while I work sixty or seventy hours, but this is enough to differentiate from the forty or fifty hours a week that local employees in Chengdu generally work. I ran ahead, and there is not much difference in income between me and my classmates in Beijing. (Please don’t laugh, readers. In addition to the awesome industries such as code farmers, finance, and the system, there are indeed many miserable and poor industries in this world.) It is true that I may not be able to be at the forefront of the industry in this life. , I will gradually turn into a southwestern country bumpkin living in a corner, but this is my own choice, and I am willing to accept such a result.

I still have many friends who stay in Beijing - as a side note, there were about ten of my high school classmates in Beijing. Now the girls have found men who have houses in Beijing to marry, and the boys have basically returned to Chengdu - ―I sincerely wish them well, and I also admire their persistence and tenacity. Beijing is a melting pot. People like the poster with little ability and no background are screened out layer by layer, and the talents left at the end are the real gold that is tempered.

Leaving Beijing is a bit like leaving a beautiful dream. International, high-end, cutting-edge, these words have nothing to do with me anymore. As a person whose ideological realm is still at the bottom of the Marlows demand theory Women hanging silk never expect these things. People can't take advantage of all the benefits. If they can't endure so much suffering, they won't be able to enjoy such great blessings. The only regret is that my husband and I worked hard to take exams from a small county town to Beijing, but in the future my children will still not be able to enjoy Beijing’s preferential college entrance examination policies.

I hope that my future children will not have to suffer the same pain of their parents’ migration, but can take root in Chengdu and become happy natives.

Appendix: Some thoughts about Chengdu

Job opportunities:

A common argument in Shuimushang is that job opportunities in first-tier cities are relatively fair, and there are various favors in second-tier cities pit. However, my personal feeling is that various general industries in Chengdu still need many talented and hard-working talents, and graduates from prestigious universities are generally valued. Children's shoes who want to enter the top class of society should not think about the difference between the first and second tiers, because without connections and background, they will definitely have no chance. If you can maintain your motivation for working in first-tier cities, it won't be that difficult to get ahead.

Currently, the leading industries in Chengdu include IT, automobiles, new materials, chemicals, electronic information, logistics, finance and modern service industries. Basically, the development momentum is not bad and there is a lot of employment demand. The income level is indeed not comparable to that of Beijing. A cut of 20-50% is considered normal.

Leisure travel:

Although Chengdu is a second-tier city in southwest China, various entertainment and commercial facilities are still very developed - it may have a leisure tradition with Chengdu itself. Related - Concerts and music concerts are very prosperous, but dramas, museums, and sports events are just average. There are many tourist attractions around Chengdu. The natural scenery in Western Sichuan is very beautiful, and there are many places to choose from on weekends. At the same time, Chengdu Airport is the fourth largest aviation hub in China. There have been many new international direct flights opened in the past two years, making it more convenient to go to Europe and Southeast Asia than Beijing.

Urban construction:

The old city and the new city in Chengdu are completely different styles. The old city is dirty but very humane, while the new city is the same as the Beijing International Trade Area. Chengdu is exactly the opposite of Beijing. The north of the city is declining while the south is prosperous. House prices in the central city range from 5,000 to 15,000 (some luxury houses are unclear). With an average price of 10,000, you can buy good real estate in the middle-to-upper-level areas in the south of the city, and the house prices are It's stable. The price of my own house has not increased by more than 10 in the two years since I bought it. However, Chengdu's overall floor area ratio is above 3, which is a bit crowded, and there is no solution for the time being.

Transportation overview:

Chengdu currently has two subways in operation, and several more are under construction. It will take about two to three years to form a basic network. Ground buses are so-so and crowded during peak hours. Let me complain, the ground transportation in Chengdu is really a mess, with all kinds of traffic jams. However, since housing prices are not high and the urban area is not large, most people can afford housing prices near their workplace. A one-hour commute is considered an astonishing distance in the eyes of Chengdu people.

Living atmosphere:

Although Chengdu has always called itself a city of leisure, with the development of the city in recent years, the pace of life has also accelerated significantly. The traditional atmosphere of teahouses and mahjong games still exists, but it obviously does not belong to the more than two million new immigrants to the city in the past decade. Especially IT and architectural design fields are not much easier than in Beijing. However, most locals in Chengdu have a relatively open outlook on consumption. It may be that the pressure to save money for house purchase is not that great, and it is common for people to spend as much as they earn. Therefore, Chengdu's catering, entertainment and various service industries are very developed.

The last thing?

I have written so much that I can hardly grasp the key points. I am not posting this post to be a bad person. I just want to explain that as a person who is not excellent in all aspects, it is necessary for Pan Jun to correctly examine his suitable position. Leaving Beijing and going to a second-tier city is not terrible. As long as you have the same fighting spirit as in Beijing, you can still have a good chance of living a good life. I also try to avoid evaluating the quality of Beijing or Chengdu, because no city is absolutely good or bad, only whether it is suitable or not suitable for individuals. Everyone should choose their own lifestyle carefully and have the courage to bear mistakes and mistakes. The city is always young, but we will eventually grow old.

The poster's response to some questions:

Regarding the abuse of the word "hanging silk":

I had never been to Sichuan before I went to college. Living in a small county town, I was really shocked by this big city when I took the train to Beijing for the first time. I also gradually realized how difficult it is for a child from a small county town in the mainland to gain a foothold in such a big city where elites gather.

For example, when I was a sophomore in college, I was buying yogurt in a small supermarket. I was hesitant because of the few cents difference in price between different brands. As a result, I acted like a coward because of my behavior of walking back and forth in front of the shelves. The zipper of my suitcase was broken and I couldn't zip it up. The supermarket saleswoman took her as a thief who wanted to steal something and scolded me for a long time. I felt aggrieved at the time and wanted to make a scene, but in the end I quietly left the supermarket. So when I watched the movie "To Youth" not long ago and saw a similar plot, I was really moved. I wonder how a girl from a better-off family could be mistaken for a thief who wants to steal yogurt.

During graduate school, I lived in a remote place in Shijingshan District. Our tutor built a warehouse building for us to live in. On the same floor were property management security guards, cleaning ladies, and supermarket unloaders. Watching a broken TV with them every night with intermittent signal. I told them that I was a graduate student, but they didn't believe me at all, because I exuded an unparalleled urban-rural fringe atmosphere.

I have lived this kind of life for nearly two years. The word "Diaosi" has long been deeply engraved in my self-perception. It cannot suddenly disappear just because the economic situation improved two or three years after graduation. , this situation also applies to my husband. When domestic public opinion generally did not have a favorable impression of the insurance industry, he definitely suffered no less than me during the two years he worked in Beijing. So I am accustomed to using this word in the article to describe us at the beginning of our work. If you think this is offensive to the word "hanging silk", I am sorry.

Regarding family background and the issue of nibbling the elderly:

Admittedly, my husband and I are not from very poor family backgrounds. I also stated in the main post that we are well-off in the local area. And my parents "actually" were able to scrape together a huge sum of 500,000 yuan to buy a house for the two of us, and they dared to call themselves Diaosi. This is also the most photographed point. I’m really biased about this, because the people I’ve known since childhood basically overlap with my parent’s teacher friend circle. It’s common for dual-income families to have two to three hundred thousand yuan in pension funds after working until they are fifty, so I just take it for granted. This is normal. As for connections and so on, there may be some in the small county in my hometown, but they are really out of reach in Chengdu.

Ever since I was admitted to university in Beijing, my mother has been talking about saving money for me to buy a house. At that time, my parents’ total annual income did not exceed 50,000 yuan, but they could save 30,000 yuan a year. You can imagine what kind of life they lived. My husband's family is in a similar situation. So except for my parents who spent a total of 10,000 yuan in my freshman year, I never asked for a penny from my family from my sophomore year until I graduated from graduate school. We went to Wudaokou to distribute flyers, set up street stalls, and were kicked out by the urban management. The aunt in the neighborhood committee criticized me, and I was once bitten by someone as a liar when doing household surveys. I also had to walk four or five kilometers in the middle of the night to save two yuan on a subway ticket after missing the night bus. I am not a daughter raised in a boudoir, and I roughly know what the living conditions are like at the bottom of society. I understand even more that if my husband and I don’t make good use of our little academic advantage, it will be difficult for us to improve our living standards.

It can be said that these five hundred thousand were saved by our parents who worked hard for 20 to 30 years and lived frugally for 20 to 30 years. My husband and I racked our brains to earn money while we were in college (my husband and I paid for it ourselves during these years of studying). The total tuition and living expenses must be less than 100,000), which is what both parents rely on for their lives after retirement. My husband and I can't bear to touch this money, but after all, my parents still think in a small county town, and they always feel that they will not be able to live without buying a house. I couldn't start a family, and there were some bloody incidents in the middle because of this. It's common in families, so I won't go into details. In the end, my husband and I took a comprehensive balance and finally got 400,000.

So even though we took this money, we actually shouldered a debt of conscience. Our parents’ future pensions and illnesses will also depend entirely on us. Now we try to repay as much as possible to our parents every year, which is considered as taking the initiative to repay this interest-free loan. If we don’t repay it in full, we won’t be able to feel at ease. Our car has been given to dad to drive, and we also used most of our savings to buy another dad a similar car, which fulfilled the two dads' wish to buy a car for many years, and we hope to express our gratitude to them for their financial support.

If you still think that my husband and I have a good family background, well, I admit that my understanding of the diversity of this society is still very one-sided, and I still need more practice...

Regarding work income:

Many children think that Chengdu does not have such a high income, and my post is misleading. I did not think this through carefully, and I apologize to everyone. There are some special circumstances that I did not explain clearly in the main post, so I will explain them here.

The engineering unit where I work is very difficult. When looking for a job in Beijing, jobs are basically open only to boys, and girls rarely have opportunities. So it was difficult for me to find a job in Beijing that was professional, relevant, and paid well. The company in Chengdu said it could recruit girls. It was a glimmer of hope for me at the time, so I really wanted to seize this opportunity. During the first half year of my employment, I worked three days a week and three nights a week. At that time, I felt like I was going to die. In this way, I only earned 50,000 yuan in the first half year, which is really nothing to boast about.

I was lucky in my second year. I caught up with a big and lucrative project. The leader was also very kind. He took care of me as a girl and worked overtime until midnight every day among a bunch of boys. I was given a bigger bonus. The provident fund, holiday expenses, business trip allowances, etc. all together only amount to 150,000.

The third year was even more unlucky. It happened that a group of great people in our department studied for Ph.D.s, started entrepreneurship, and got promoted, leaving a bunch of newcomers and department leaders who had been working for less than two years. The general among the dwarfs gave me a promotion. Although my salary has been increased a bit, my personal abilities are limited, and I am currently in a stage of trembling and walking on thin ice. It's really hard to say whether it can be maintained.

As for my husband, because he has been using Goldfinger to brush copies for a long time, he always gets lucky in various ways. It is indeed not of universal reference significance. I told him today that the forum friends on Shuimu don’t believe you. A small businessman can earn 300,000. He said calmly: Then let his bizarre struggle history be submerged in the rolling tide of history... right... right...

My husband and I When they returned to Chengdu, their combined annual income was only 200,000 yuan. They never expected that their income would rise to such a level in two years, otherwise they would not have dared to buy only a small two-bedroom apartment. We did encounter a particularly good opportunity along the way. Without these two opportunities, our current normal income level might not have exceeded 300,000. I have some friends who are in a similar situation to me (graduates from key universities in China, from ordinary well-off families in the county) who are also working in Chengdu for one or two to three or four years. The single ones cost 70,000 to 80,000 to 100,000 yuan, and the married ones are in the 20s or 30s. One hundred thousand, that's about it. At present, my husband's and my income levels have almost reached the bottleneck period. What happens after that depends on personal destiny.

Considerations about the future:

Now that my parents are getting older, we would like to bring both parents to Chengdu to take care of them nearby, but this means buying two more houses in Chengdu. . My parents no longer have any money left. The house in the small county town where we have lived for 20 to 30 years has long been unsaleable. My husband and I have not worked for long and have not accumulated much. Moreover, our incomes are uncertain. It’s very big, and I will face a severe situation in the future where my income will drop sharply during the period when I have a baby, so although my current book income is okay, I am actually under a lot of pressure.

Too much to say and to go off topic again.

I remember one Valentine’s Day, my husband and I went to a subway entrance next to his school to sell roses. It was so cold that day that I could no longer feel my feet from the cold. But we sold more than two hundred roses and earned more than a thousand yuan, which was enough for me to live in school for two months. I felt so lucky at the time. In the end, there were three crushed and wilted ones that couldn't be sold. My husband gave them to me. I couldn't bear to throw them away. I stuck them in a book and made them into dried flowers. I still keep them at home. I want to keep it as a constant reminder that I am a very lucky ordinary person who has good luck wherever I go. But if I don’t keep working hard, I will lose this luck.

Every story has a dazzling front and a bitter back. My original intention in posting was not to show off, but now it seems that the top ten posts may have gone too far. Thank you again for your mercy. When the two eggs come down, I also wish that everyone can do their best to manage their own lives. This is not determined by which city you choose.

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