Before marriage, the two sides exchanged questions. Once two people plan to get married, they should exchange questions with each other and get some answers, so that they can find problems in time and avoid disagreement after marriage, and it is too late to regret. The following are some related contents of the communication between the two parties before marriage ~

Communication between the two parties before marriage 1 1, where do you live? How to solve the house? If it is a long-distance relationship, would you like to live in the other city?

2. If you need to make some compromises for marriage, to what extent are you willing to compromise? Such as occupation, dreams, living habits and so on.

3. How to distribute economic power? Is it necessary to notarize the property before marriage? If the marriage changes, can you bear the consequences yourself?

Would you like to live with your parents after marriage? What should parents do if they interfere in marriage?

What will you do if your parents are against getting married? Will you give up because of your parents?

6. When do you want to have children? How many/much? Who will look after these children? Are you willing to make concessions for the children?

7. If one party is infertile and doesn't want to have children, or if the children are born with congenital diseases, can they still accept the continuation of marriage?

8. Are you willing to be honest with each other about your love history, physical and mental illness and family hereditary diseases?

9. How to divide family work? Is it acceptable for one person to make a bag, or for two people to do it together? What happens when there are differences?

10, where is the boundary between you and friends of the opposite sex? Would you like to introduce your other half and friends of the opposite sex to each other? Where is the line between accepting your partner and heterosexual friends?

1 1. If there is a contradiction, can you stop quarreling? Will you change yourself for each other?

How to support both parents? Who will take care of your parents when they are ill?

13, what is the thing that never gives up on marriage?

14. What is the most unacceptable thing in marriage?

15, where is the bottom line? In other words, what will make you give up your marriage?

Before marriage, the two sides exchange questions 2 1, understand each other's bottom line, and don't touch it easily.

Everyone has something to protect. Perhaps these bottom lines are naive to others, but they are absolutely untouchable to another person.

For example, in the cognition of many boys:

You can do it, you can make trouble, but if you have nothing to do, break up and force me to confess and beg for mercy. Sorry, too many times. I am impatient. I really won't spoil you.

I often

"A boy's pet is also limited. The upper limit depends on his patience and love for you, and the lower limit depends on the basic respect for love. In this interval, you can do whatever you want. "

This means that you can break up countless times recklessly, and he can also have the cheek to coax you countless times. But as long as he mentions it to you once, you lose. "

For example, in the cognition of many girls:

A man is like a cat. Whether in love or after marriage, as long as he loosens the reins a little, he will go to some messy places with some friends. After a long time, the chances of cheating will increase a lot. And once you cheat, even if this woman forgives you afterwards, it will become a pain in her heart forever.

2. Which city will you live in and when will you buy a house? Would you like to live in another city?

Choose a city that you like each other and are willing to settle down, and choose a city where you are most at ease with your work and friends. If it is a long-distance relationship, analyze which city is more suitable for your future development, and then go there to work hard and settle down. Buy a house to see the supporting planning around the house, especially the urban planning. Choose the one with appreciation potential, even if it is to repay the mortgage every month, the motivation to make money is sufficient.

3. If marriage requires a person to give up his ideal, will you give in, and to what extent?

Marriage requires two people to run a business together. If two people insist on their own ideas and pursue their own careers, and neither of them is willing to give in, such a marriage is likely to go far.

4. Do you need parents' support to buy a house? As dowry or later repayment? How to sign the real estate license? If your parents support you, would you like to live with parents who contribute more? What should parents do if they interfere in marriage?

Don't live with your parents after you get married. The concept of life of two generations will produce many contradictions and internal friction, which will hurt each other's feelings.

5. When do you want to have children? How many/much? Who will look after it?

Will you choose a natural delivery and caesarean section when giving birth? Do you need parents to help with your children? What if the concept of parenting conflicts with the other parent? If you need full-time care, are you willing to give up your present job and take care of your children at home?

6. Is there anything that I will never give up because of getting married?

Never lose yourself in marriage. Some things, you should insist, tolerate, understand and compromise, all because you love deeply, but these loves need to respond and take a step back from each other.

Before marriage, the two sides exchanged 3 questions.

1. What are your parents' attitudes towards marriage? What should you do if one or both parents object to your marriage?

I have always believed that a marriage without parents' blessing will not be happy. Because our parents will consider whether this person is the most suitable for their other half from all aspects, and it is our parents' greatest comfort that we live well.

So, when your marriage is opposed by your parents, you need to think carefully? After all, in our China concept, falling in love is a matter for two people, and getting married is a matter for two families.

Can you accept living with your parents after marriage? Can both sides respect each other's parents? How to support both parents? Who will take care of my parents when they are ill?

It is better to fly a dog after marriage than to plan ahead before marriage. These problems are really too common in our family in China. Parents' problems can be said to account for one-third of family conflicts, especially when parents' problems are linked to money, which will lead to more serious contradictions. Therefore, before getting married, both sides must settle these questions about parents.

3. How to solve the contradiction with the other parents? What should your parents do if they interfere in your married life?

These two problems may be more serious for women, because the problem that has not been solved in China for 5,000 years is the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Parents are always on the side of their children, and it is inevitable that there will be some things to protect calves in life, which will lead to quarrels between your husband and wife. Let's go directly to the Civil Affairs Bureau to change the certificate.

Therefore, before you get married, you must decide whether your other half is a "baby boy".

Economic articles

4. Do you have to buy a house before you get married? Where to buy a house? How to write the name on the real estate license? Do you need both parties to repay the loan to buy a house?

The problem of the house is really breaking up many couples who are about to get married, because now the requirements of her mother-in-law are getting higher and higher, and the house has become a necessity for marriage. Not only is it required to buy a house, but also the geographical location of the house. The names of both parties should be written on the property certificate. How to negotiate the house is the basis to ensure the stability of your marriage.

5. Do both parties disclose the current economic situation (debt and income)? Will there be any conflict between the consumption and savings views of both sides?

If one party has debts, do they need to be repaid by both parties? Are your views on consumption and savings appropriate? If not, what are your acceptable standards? Before entering marriage, the most important thing is to make sure that both parties are consistent in the use of money.

The economic base determines the superstructure. Do not underestimate money. Sometimes the influence of money on marriage is immeasurable. Talking openly about money is the basic guarantee for your future marriage.

6. Is it necessary to notarize the property before marriage and sign a prenuptial agreement? Who owns the domestic economic control? How to maintain family life?

Nowadays, many people, in order to avoid property conflicts during divorce, notarize their property before marriage and sign a prenuptial agreement. I think it's really wise to sign a prenuptial agreement, which has nothing to do with love or not, because we can't predict what will happen in the future. We can give up something for love, but we must never give up the right to control our lives for love.

And it is also very important to control the family economy, because it represents whether our family can operate stably and harmoniously. Financial planning is to ensure that our life can be better.

7. If you need a person to take care of your family full-time after marriage, do you need women to give up their jobs? When one side is at a low ebb, can we support and respect each other?

Whether married women should be full-time mothers at home is also one of many family contradictions. Because being a full-time mother means that everything in you revolves around family and children, it is very important whether you can give up your original life track. If you can't give up, how can you maintain the balance between family and work?

Also, whether one party can support and encourage the other party when there is a bottleneck in work, maintaining the stability of a family requires a sustained and stable income.

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8. Are you going to have children? How long does it take to have children after marriage? How many children do you have? Natural delivery or caesarean section? Who will take care of the baby after it is born?

The problem of children is a big problem for a newly married new family, because usually most of us are not prepared for children. Therefore, it is necessary to discuss whether to have children before marriage and when to have them, because after planning, you will not be anxious because of the arrival of children.

How many children to have is also a very important issue. Now that the country has opened the second child policy, many families have begun to have a second child. If you want to have a second child, you should consider whether the family's economic situation can bear it before making a decision.

Moreover, it is also a question of who will take care of the children. Nowadays, more and more women don't want to be full-time mothers and take care of their children at home, so children should take care of their grandparents or grandparents when they take care of their parents.

9. Can children's education be shared by both parties? If there is a conflict between the educational concepts of the two sides, how to solve it?

I found that in many families, one parent is responsible for children's education, and the other is directly the shopkeeper. Neither parent can be absent from children's education, so how to solve this situation is very important. And if your's educational ideas conflict, how to reconcile your's educational ideas in order to better educate children?

Life articles

10. Do both sides have any hidden bad habits? Can both parties accept keeping pets at home? How to divide housework after marriage?

Living habits refer to all good and bad habits. Don't think that if you love someone, you have to accept everything from them. After you get married, you will find that different living habits will become the fuse of your time contradiction after a long time.

Nowadays, housework is no longer a "patent" for women. Men also have to do housework. If they divide the housework well before marriage, there will be less trouble after marriage and both parties will be in good order.

1 1. Who are you going back to for the Spring Festival? Do you have a clear understanding of each other's medical and genetic history?

The question of who to go back to in the New Year seems small, but it really needs to be discussed. Chinese New Year is a time of reunion. Parents always want their children to go home for Chinese New Year, so it is a problem to discuss who to go home for Chinese New Year. But if you are as free and easy as papi sauce, you won't have any trouble, because you will go home to find your mother.

Whether you have a medical history is very important for your partner, and it is also risky for future generations. Therefore, before getting married, we should exchange the medical history of both sides, find out the problems, get married if it is acceptable, and bye-bye if it is not acceptable.

12. Can you accept cheating? Whether it's an emotional affair or a physical affair. Can you honestly say what you think about sex and sexual needs?

Cheating is always an unavoidable topic for families, so we should nip in the bud and define our bottom line in advance. Once you cheat, you have to bear the consequences.

Studies have shown that the disharmony of sexual life after marriage is one of the important reasons leading to the breakdown of marriage. Therefore, in order to prevent your marriage from breaking up because of sexual life, it is very necessary to have a "deep understanding" before marriage.

Marriage values

13, what are the things you two stick to for marriage?

In marriage, the bottom line and boundaries are very important. We can give up some things for marriage, but we must never give up some things, such as ourselves, our ideals and our jobs.

When there is a contradiction between what we can't let go and our lover, how can we reconcile this contradiction?

14. Can you accept that the other person has friends of the opposite sex? Where is the bottom line for accepting each other and the opposite sex?

We are always possessive of the other half, so we are usually jealous when we see the other half getting along with the opposite sex. But in order to be jealous, we must make these questions clear before marriage. What is the bottom line for you to accept that your partner can get along with the opposite sex?

Marriage needs to build a barrier in front of outsiders, and this barrier is the biggest weapon to maintain your marriage.

15. What kind of life do you want after marriage? What would you give up your married life for?

Maybe when they are in love, two people have a romantic relationship; But after marriage, there will be more and more trivial things, which is a gap when falling in love. So before marriage, we must exchange ideas about our future life and work hard in that direction.

The most important thing is to know where the other party's bottom line is for marriage and what will cause the other party to give up this marriage, so that it is possible to restrain themselves in the future marriage life and make the marriage last for a long time.