My name is Xiao Lu. I have a brother above and a younger brother below. My brother has been married for five years and has two children. As for me, I have been married for three years. Only my brother is not married now.

My family's conditions are average, and my parents are farmers. When my brother got married, the family spent almost all their money. In recent years, mom and dad have also saved a little money.

But in our country, you have to have a house in the county at least to get married, and the bride price is very high. My brother has no house in the city, so his marriage has been dragging on. Mom and dad are in a hurry, but there is nothing they can do. The three of them worked hard to make money. I am very unhappy to see them working hard. However, I have no conditions to help them, so I have to let nature take its course.

In the second half of last year, my brother and girlfriend got pregnant unexpectedly, and the family urged to get married, but there was no room, and the woman's parents resolutely disagreed. The woman's mother sent word that if she didn't buy a house, she would abort the child and return the bride price to my brother.

02:

We know that what the woman's parents said was not angry words. Because in our country, even divorced women are very popular, and there are more men than women. This is the current situation in rural areas. Because of this, parents and younger brothers dare not slack off, but are desperate to collect money and want to buy a house. However, even so, it is still difficult to buy a house, and I can only make a down payment. However, the woman's parents said that loans were not allowed, and if loans were made, their daughters would not be allowed to get married.

My husband lives in the suburbs. Coincidentally, his house began to be demolished, and my family was divided into three suites. Our family can't finish living, and we are going to sell one. My brother wants to buy my house, because my parents-in-law and husband have said that my brother can get 30 thousand or 40 thousand cheaper if he buys it. But even so, the younger brother is still nearly 400,000 yuan.

What shall we do? The woman's belly is getting bigger and bigger, and her parents are frantically urging our family to give us an ultimatum. Finally, my brother asked me to discuss with my parents-in-law and sell him the house first. If you don't have enough money, you can write an iou first, and then give it when you have enough money.

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I think this is also a way. So I told my husband to discuss it with my parents-in-law. As a result, my mother-in-law refused. My mother-in-law said, I can give you a cheaper price, but I can't owe you money. You can't sell it if you owe money.

My husband came back and told me that I was very angry. However, in order to win the consent of my parents-in-law, I made a little compromise. I told my husband that I really can't. The house can be sold cheaply, but the money will be delayed. Mother-in-law still disagrees.

Later, my husband proposed a compromise plan, asking my brother to pay 350 thousand first, and then move in. But now that the house is closed, I won't go through the house until my brother pays the money. I asked my brother, and he said, that's fine. However, we discussed with the woman's family, but the woman's parents did not agree. In this case, the woman would not be guaranteed and the house would be transferred.

Now that my head is big, I take it out on my husband a lot. I think he should convince his parents-in-law. It's not like my brother won't give money, it's just a delay. I have become a member of his family. Will I still breach the contract? My husband and I have been fighting a lot recently. If the in-laws don't agree and the husband doesn't fight for it, my brother's marriage will be ruined. If my brother's marriage is really ruined, I am going to divorce my husband. Do you think I'm right?

Emotional conclusion:

Hello, Xiao Lu. Your family's situation is a bit complicated. It seems that everyone can give a reasonable reason. As a woman's parents need a house, this requirement is not too much. If the property is not a household, their concerns are understandable.

Your mother-in-law's decision is not unreasonable. They did the kindness of relatives, gave your brother a preferential price, and promised to let your brother live in first. Both sensibility and rationality make sense.

What about you? I don't think your brother is in breach of contract. It's just a temporary financial difficulty. You are angry that your parents-in-law don't trust you and your brother.

I think, in fact, a core problem between you is mutual distrust. The woman's parents don't trust your family to keep its promise, and your parents-in-law are also worried that your brother will break his word. Therefore, it is imperative to build mutual trust.

Of course, it is unlikely that the woman's parents will give in. But you can communicate with your parents-in-law more. First of all, you should thank them for giving your brother a discount, agreeing to let your brother live in and building trust with your parents-in-law. In addition, if you try to dispel their concerns, you can ask your parents-in-law and your brother to go to the notary office for notarization, and then let your prestigious relatives do the guarantee. In short, let your mother-in-law rest assured that you will pay.

More importantly, you should be more filial to your in-laws. Don't always threaten divorce, which will only make things worse.