I learned a new word, a good pot should be matched with a good lid, and a broken pot should be matched with a broken lid. This does not mean to bury people, but to tell everyone a truth, it is the same kind of people. Matching, "pot" and "lid" are the best fit.

In fact, in the final analysis, this is a question of suitability that everyone often talks about. Some people often say that whether someone is suitable or not depends on getting along with each other over time and getting used to each other slowly. There is no such thing as a suitable person.

In this case, Fang Lian advises you not to believe it. Maybe running-in is really important, but the gap between people really exists. People who are not in the same world may never be able to If we live together, even if they live a lifetime, they will always be awkward.

Just like a nut and a nut, can you say that as long as they run in and out with each other, they will fit together perfectly? This kind of running-in will only make both parties bruised and bruised, and the final result will still be the same. Different sizes are destined to be not as good as the original ones. If the size is slightly inappropriate, it will not only cause pain for both parties to get along, but also cause the entire marriage to fail to function normally, and the body will eventually collapse without knowing the fate of the body.

Although people are the same species, to be honest, people are different from each other. Sometimes the differences can be across species. Some people will be regarded as "big bad wolves". Some people are regarded as "little white rabbits", but whoever you think is the big bad wolf must not be able to find the one he loves and cannot be happy?

Actually no, it depends on your attitude towards it and how he chooses his partner. If he chose the little white rabbit, how could it be easy to achieve happiness in the union between the two species?

Let’s talk about it, the big bad wolf looks for the big bad wolf, the little white rabbit looks for the little white rabbit, the same species, the same world, happiness will be easier. The big bad wolf is not wrong, and the little white rabbit is not wrong either, it's just that they are not suitable for each other.

How do you think the other person is bad or has problems? In fact, most of the time, it is not the case. It is just because the other person’s three views are different from yours. Even if you are closer, you will never intersect. Parallel lines, the reason why you don't like each other and don't get along is probably just because there should be no communication between you.

It sounds a bit convoluted, but in the final analysis it is just one sentence: Find the person who suits you, don’t settle for anything, don’t cater against your will, and show your true self, only then will it be easier to achieve happiness. .

This is easy to say, but many people cannot do it. They are unwilling to admit that the other person is inappropriate, and they are not willing to let go easily. Try every means to get along, accommodate the other person, and wrong yourself, until the fate between the two is completely wiped out, there is no way out, and it causes untold damage, then you have to look back.

You blame fate for playing tricks on people and you blame yourself for being unkind to others. In fact, it’s because you didn’t let go of your own attitude from the beginning. How long can catering last? How long can a disguise last? How long can you lie to yourself?

No matter how long you persist, it won’t last forever. Love and marriage shouldn’t be like this. For the sake of your own happiness, I hope everyone can face this issue and express their attitude in a timely manner. Show your truest self.

Don’t be afraid of failure. If the other person cannot accept it, it’s not that you are not good enough, it may mean that he is not suitable for you. Separation may not be unfortunate, but it avoids greater harm. Instead, it is lucky to be with you.

One of my friends, Xiao Gu, is also my college classmate and roommate. She is doing very well in this regard. She is a girl from Changzhou, and her family conditions are very good. Her parents’ love makes her such a good person. His personality is also relatively open, he is not afraid of things or people, he is very confident in everything he does, and of course he is not afraid of offending others.

But she is also a strong girl. Even though she has the best family background in our dormitory, she is also the one with the best academic performance. She is studious, hard-working, and must achieve results in everything. She will never give up halfway. That kind of person.

Although at that time we felt that she was a bit unique and different from us. For example, she often used and bought things that the student party could not afford, which made people feel that she was not in line with her status. , she doesn't shy away from it, but she never shows off deliberately.

Later on, I slowly began to feel that this girl lived a really free life, but we were too narrow-minded. What is considered behavior that is consistent with one’s status is not all decided by humans.

She is not the same kind of person as us. She doesn’t care about other people’s opinions. She has the ability to consume, so why not consume? She has the strength to travel around the world when she is in school. Is it just to take care of others? Feelings are hidden and you don’t dare to go. Do you dare to say that you have gone?

This is like another classmate of mine. She secretly told me that she bought a bag, which was relatively expensive. However, she was very distressed and told me that she didn’t dare to carry it because she was afraid of being seen by her colleagues. It felt like she was showing off.

You see, people in the two worlds have really different ways of thinking. If two people with such personalities come together, their lives will not be peaceful.

As for Xiao Gu, when she returned home after graduation, her father helped her find a well-established job. She didn’t ask for a high salary, but wanted stability and dignity.

Later, a boy named Da Fei in Xiao Gu’s work unit fell in love with each other and fell in love. This boy was very good-looking, but his family conditions were average. In the eyes of Gu, it was just a job to kill time. In the eyes of the boy and his family, it was already a very, very good job, one that could be said to be quite proud of.

At first, the two got along very well. Although Xiao Gu is self-centered, it does not mean that she has low emotional intelligence. She knows how to take care of others and does not care about the gains and losses of money. She often invites Xiao Gu when she goes out. When eating, she rarely lets her boyfriend buy expensive gifts. If she can afford it, she will not embarrass her boyfriend. As for her boyfriend, as long as he expresses his feelings, she feels OK.

But when the two were about to talk about marriage and met their parents for the first time, problems arose. When Xiao Gu met her husband's parents for the first time, although many friends around her told her that she should dress in a style that old people like, such as pink and tender "good marriage style", be more ladylike, be simple, and don't wear makeup. It's best to pretend to be well-behaved to win the favor of the elderly.

Xiao Gu listened to these kind reminders, but did not adopt them. She continued as usual, dressed exquisitely and fashionably, and went to her boyfriend in a hurry while carrying her luxury handbag. Home.

As soon as she arrived at her boyfriend's house, her future mother-in-law's expression was not very good-looking, mainly because of her handbag, which was really not low-key. The classic presbyopic texture showed off her worth in a high-key way. Anyone who knows a little bit will know the value of this bag, and Xiao Gu's future mother-in-law is certainly not stupid.

After she noticed Xiao Gu's bag, she immediately began to ask Xiao Gu about the price of the bag. Xiao Gu was unambiguous. Since her mother-in-law asked, she answered straightforwardly.

"It's a little over 18,000. I happened to encounter a discount when I was traveling abroad this year, so I bought it."

My mother-in-law stopped talking after hearing this, and was silent for a long time, and then Suddenly the topic that had been disconnected a long time ago was resumed.

"Xiao Gu, I think it's time for you and Feifei to be frugal after you get married. How can you not live a good life even if you have to raise children after you get married? Don't forget about these bags in the future. I bought it and slowly get rid of my lavish habit from now on. This is for your own good in the future.”

If my mother-in-law’s trick was used on ordinary girls, it would probably be quite effective. But when used on Xiao Gu, it would be a perfect match.

Xiao Gu did not hesitate at all, and immediately expressed his attitude: "Auntie, please see clearly, I am not the kind of woman you are looking for who can live a good life. I am still squeamish and can't stand it. People don't care about these trivial things.

Just like you, you spend your own money to buy things, I have no control over it, and the same goes for me. Whatever I buy, it is all my own money, and you have no control over it. It is my personal choice. freedom, wouldn’t you say? ”

As soon as Xiao Gu’s words came out, Da Fei’s mother’s face turned livid, and Da Fei’s face didn’t look so good either. It was obvious that the meal was quite unpleasant. But Xiao Gu was not affected at all. She should eat and drink as she should. In her own words, "it's all her own fault that makes her unhappy. She has no one to rely on."

After leaving Da Fei's house. , Da Fei finally couldn’t help complaining about Xiao Gu.

“What are you doing? Why are you showing off your wealth in front of my mother and confronting her like a gun? Damn it, you can’t just say a few soft words, it’s okay to fool my mother, and my mother is right, you don’t choose the best for your daily food, clothing, etc. This is not how you live your life. What a look.

After we get married, your money and mine will be our joint property. You have to be more careful and not be so willful anymore, like a young lady, otherwise I can't afford to marry you.

Xiao Gu smiled after hearing what Da Fei said: "Who said I wanted to marry you? After this incident, I feel that we are still not suitable. I think we should forget about our marriage." Well, you go find a good woman who can live a good life that your family likes, and we can get together and have a good time. ”

Xiao Gu later broke up with Da Fei because of this incident. Through this incident, she understood that she and Da Fei’s family were really inappropriate, and this inappropriateness could also be It's a matter of being well matched.

The future mother-in-law thinks that Xiao Gu spends money lavishly, but for Xiao Gu, her spending is very ordinary. Different life experiences and different material conditions really matter. This will create a big gap between the two people's views.

Including Da Fei, but there is another thing about Da Fei that Xiao Gu cannot accept the most, that is, he has a tendency to be a mama's boy. After understanding this, Xiao Gu resolutely chose to stop the loss in time.

In fact, Xiao Gu is really not a materialistic girl. She does not only buy expensive things, but only what she likes. She also buys things she likes for 10,000 to 20,000 yuan, and wants for more than 100 yuan. It doesn't depend on the price at all, but on her own mood. She is just a girl who knows how to pamper herself and has the ability to pamper herself.

Later, Xiao Gu really found the right person for her, a boy who loved life as much as she did. That boy would not interfere with Xiao Gu’s lifestyle. He would also do whatever Xiao Gu liked. We can chat for a few words.

Whether it is a bag or a digital product, we will not say whether something is good or bad just because of its price. We can go to high-end restaurants and travel on the road. They played skewers at the side stalls, went to art exhibitions, and watched vulgar comedies.

They got married last year and had a lovely baby. They have a harmonious relationship and a happy marriage, and they have become popular in the eyes of many friends.

Xiao Gu’s story is actually very thought-provoking. Sometimes, after we get married, we always complain that the other party has changed, and the parents-in-law have also changed. In fact, have you ever thought about it? However, it is not that the other party has changed, but that you have set your attitude too low from the beginning, which has led to you using flattering postures to humiliate yourself in the beginning in order to achieve a certain goal.

You think this is for the good of each other, but in fact, you hide your true self, and you create a perfect illusion, or show that I can make any changes, making the other party mistakenly think that you are like this, or If you are easy to talk and compromise, you are putting yourself in a passive position.

More importantly, if you hide your true self at first, it will be difficult for you to be yourself later.

Sometimes we must understand that marriage requires honesty. Although the truth may be cruel and some people may not be able to accept it, the truth is the truth, and both parties in love need the truth.

Even if you want to hide something and show the best version of yourself to the other person, this is only temporary. There will come a time when you need to take off your makeup and face the other person without makeup.

So it’s better to be real from the beginning. Those who can’t stand it don’t have to regret it. They are just not suitable for you. Those who see your truth and are willing to stay are the ones who are truly suitable for you. Don't be wronged or please, treat a relationship calmly, cherish the one that suits you, and don't miss the opportunity to be happy. This is what you should do.