Love is a matter for two people, and marriage is a matter for two families.

Love can be romantic, without any consideration or restraint. As long as you are happy, it is good love.

Marriage is much more complicated than love. A marriage carries not only the daily necessities of two people, but also the joys and sorrows of two big families.

As Jane Austen once said:

"It is absurd to get married and only consider family circumstances; It is foolish not to consider your family. "

Family not only refers to wealth, but also includes ideas, family style and even all aspects of the other family. A small detail will determine the happiness of your marriage in some ways.

The more consistent the family, the stronger the cohesion of marriage, and the easier it is for your marriage to be happy. On the contrary, the greater the gap, the greater the possibility of problems in your marriage.

In marriage, besides love, we also need to consider the family circumstances of both parties.

Your marriage is hidden in the relationship between your parents.

Children's marriage is the continuation of parents' marriage.

Many "experienced people" said to the young couple who were about to get married, "Be sure to meet both parents before getting married."

At that time, everyone thought that this sentence was just reminding themselves not to be less polite.

Only when you really get along with the other family can you understand a person's attitude towards the family. The best reference standard is his parents.

The atmosphere of family background will exert a subtle influence on people, which goes deep into the bone marrow and is hard to change.

Marriage is no joke. You must think carefully before you get married.

The marriage between Angelababy and Huang Xiaoming has always been talked about by the outside world, and there are not a few voices of opposition.

When it comes to the reason why they decided to get married, Angelababy said:

"I think girls still have to look at each other's parents when they get married."

Huang Xiaoming also mentioned on many occasions:

"My wife told me,' Why do you always feel hello? Because when I see what your father eats outside, he will pack it and bring it back to your mother. I know you are a trustworthy person.

Later, I found out that this is really the case. "

Everyone wants to leave the best side to the person they love, so it is difficult for us to see what the person who wants to join hands for life looks like before marriage.

But the details don't lie. Parents' unconscious communication and exchange can expose the temperature of this family.

A child who grew up in a family with loving, tolerant and understanding parents naturally has the innate ability to "love".

Such children will be more reliable and make people feel more secure.

On the contrary, children in a family full of disputes and no love at all will unconsciously absorb many negative emotions, which will inevitably lead to sensitivity, violence and lack of happiness.

So, you are not married to one person, but to the whole family. Please be careful.

Marriage without talking about money is absurd.

It is sad that marriage is full of material things, but it will not be happy without material things.

Young people's love can't be "deeply affectionate", let alone a couple who have to face daily necessities and trivial families together.

But unlike people who have been poor together, love is too illusory after all, and the money in your hand is the foundation of a marriage.

Therefore, in a good marriage, we should talk about money and talk openly.

Some time ago, there was an interesting topic in Weibo, "Talking about marriage, secretly mortgage to buy a house".

In this 60,000 comments of Weibo, a girl tells a story that many netizens envy.

The girl said that there was no awareness of buying a house before marriage. Her boyfriend reminded her that if there is no real estate under her name, the first loan has a discount. It is best to buy a suite in her own name before marriage, so the girl had the idea of buying a house and began to work hard to save money.

Boyfriend also said, don't waste money in the future, save some down payment. I will pay the living expenses. Tell me what you want to buy and I'll buy it for you.

San Mao said:

"Marriage won't last long if it doesn't fall into such a trivial matter as eating, dressing and counting money."

Too many couples don't want to talk about money. They think money is too tacky, and talking about it will hurt their feelings.

But they ignore that a rich marriage is the best sense of security for two people, and life is always linked to money.

Before getting married, we should not only look at each other's earning power, but also pay attention to whether the consumption concept is in tune.

The concept of consumption is also a very important concept that affects two people. Two people who don't spend money together are more likely to break up their marriage.

Talk about love before marriage, talk about money after marriage, all love that can't rise to money can't support a marriage.

It is easier to have a long-term marriage.

The best marriage is only four words, evenly matched.

I've heard a saying before that marriage means two people start a company in partnership.

Only two evenly matched people can work together to manage a good marriage.

If the gap between the two is too big, someone will make sacrifices. Sacrifice is for a moment's love, but if you sacrifice too much, even the best feelings will disappear.

There's a saying in China that women don't marry men. In addition to the concept of family status, the cognitive gap will also have a great impact on couples.