If I still insist on leaving him, I will sue me. The divorce papers have been signed for almost two years. I have been dragging his dream that he will turn around. After all, we have been in love for 18 years and have a pair of smart children. He is not the kind of man who can't stand the temptation, but now I am confused.
It is 2020, and he has slept on the sofa for two years. The reason why he hasn't sued separately is that the company contract has not expired and there is a financing loan due at the end of March this year. He needs to deal with these things.
For two years, he has been telling me and his parents that they are true love and he can't let go of that woman. His heart aches. I opened my eyes again and again and watched him spend the night outside. I cried till dawn. I was not calm at first. I was angry with him, scolded him for insulting him, accused him with his sister and friends, won glory for him in front of her with my wrist, created contradictions, and asked her to take the initiative to pull him away. Don't pay attention to them now, and give the children to the elderly to work.
In-laws are constantly giving strength and scolding him, but he is indifferent, and his in-laws are also angry about a set of shortcomings. My father-in-law has lost ten pounds in a few months. I have never dared to tell my parents and friends about his intensified cold violence, and he didn't ask when he got sick. He doesn't go home every birthday, and his wedding ring is returned to me early, but he cares about that woman very much. He will always have a cold war with him.
That woman is a single woman four years younger than us, divorced for many years. She is ugly and unhealthy, but her emotional intelligence is on the high side. Her father-in-law and sister-in-law talked to her separately, and both appreciated her after the conversation, but her father-in-law and mother-in-law were also traditional rural people. They feel that divorce is both shameful and sorry for me, and it also hurts their grandchildren.
There is nothing I can do about it now. I send him WeChat every few days, and he likes to ignore it. My in-laws cooperated with me, and a few months after I found out that I was cheating, I controlled my money and confiscated my car keys. He has been down and out for more than a year, and I don't know how he persisted.
After all, it's been almost twenty years. Although I know in my heart that he doesn't love me now, I can't give up completely. A good family will not be lost by not saying no. I am in my early forties. What should I tell my parents after divorce?
Almost all the third parties are not as good as the original match in appearance, qualifications and life experience, but it is this woman who is not as good as the original match everywhere, but can seize the man's heart; Objectively speaking, maybe the third party is not so good, but your marriage is really bad. Once marriage becomes an abyss, men seem to run away desperately. Anyone who can give him comfort and support outside marriage will be moved, and he will be afraid of death for it, because he feels that even if he is divorced, life will have a good start and good hopes will wait ahead.
You should have been married to your husband for more than ten years. They used to be middle-aged, and their marriage experience was three years' pain and seven years' itch. You are one of them. The third party is also a woman who has experienced marriage, but in the letter, she cannot know the reason for her divorce. Now that she is divorced, she must have her own problems, big or small, a little.
So, has your husband ever understood? Objectively speaking, he has gone through a period of brain madness, and he certainly no longer knows the past of a third party in detail. Even after your in-laws talked to her, they believed it. What does this mean? High emotional intelligence is one thing, on the other hand, we can't be sure of her Excellence. However, when a good person is evil in her bones, then she is not good and can only be called a "bad person".
It is obviously immoral to know that you have a family and live with a man. Can she think of you when she is enjoying herself? What about the feelings of children and the elderly? Perhaps, in her conversation with the old man, many topics revolved around your husband. She also discussed how unfortunate your husband's mentality and life are at present from many angles, and how to ensure the interests of your husband and his family. Win them with me. This is the usual routine of scheming bitches. A really good woman will never destroy other people's families. It is shameful for a woman to violate this standard.
You have been married for two years, and it has no effect, so that your relationship with your husband is getting worse and worse. In fact, the measures you have taken in the past two years are also problematic. Your intimidation, abuse and seizure of the RV only stimulate her husband from time to time, making him paranoid that the third party is true love and needs to be enemies with you and the whole world.
When people reach middle age, they will encounter a midlife crisis. I feel that my talent in all aspects is declining, and my sense of existence is also decreasing from time to time. At this time, the appearance of a woman proves that he is very important and has excellent talents in all aspects. Then, this man will "struggle" for women from time to time. In a word, what he wants is not a woman or a new marriage, but the majesty and courage to be a man.
Funnily enough, men are aggressive and like to fight, but they feel that life is very tired. Competing with the same sex for the opposite sex and comparing social status with the opposite sex are the centers that men are willing to strive for. Marriage is the center for men to become sophisticated; After marriage, men began to have more scruples and worries, more gain and loss psychology, and lost a lot of wild courage.
In this marriage, you are facing a great crisis, but the decision of divorce is still in your hands. When you stop struggling and there is no hope, that is, when the marriage officially breaks up. But, objectively speaking, can you reflect on what you did in your marriage? How much friction did you and your wife get here? I believe that we can fall in love with a person in an instant, but we will never separate a person in an instant; All divorces are planned for a long time.
Two years ago, her husband began to betray; In the past two years, the darkness you have experienced may only be understood by our own people; However, life is like this, you can't pray for others' misfortune, make way for you and make do with you; The third party is still eyeing, and the husband is still heartless. What you have to do is to adjust yourself first.
In all the letters, we can see that your routine to save your husband is: crazy, beating, cursing. This extreme skill is to vent personal feelings, not to deal with problems; Creating contradictions and playing tricks, such cooking will only make a high-ranking mistress turn defeat into victory, and she will inform your husband: Look, this woman is more insidious and hypocritical. The more you play tricks, the more your mistress belittles you, and the more your husband rejects you. Until now, you began to neglect them, but you didn't wait until your husband turned back.
In fact, it takes a stage to maintain marriage. The breakup of feelings must start from the heart. At that time, you were also in love. Why does it always come to this? In fact, you know very well that marriage is the grave of love.
The longer the time, the more contradictions between two people. If contradictions are not handled, new contradictions will intensify and lead to cracks. What you can do is to stand with your in-laws, protect the wealth at home, and be healthy and happy with your family; Sooner or later, there will be problems between them because of various lives, and as long as you get better, your husband will suddenly shine at the moment and feel that returning to the family is the way out. Strong twisted melon is not sweet, no matter how long you get married, feelings are operated by demand; Failure to strive for self-improvement will only bring despair and recklessness to the other side. Women, learn to be independent.