In the workplace, the relationship between colleagues is very subtle. Colleagues, as the name suggests, just work together. Although We get along day and night every day, never looking up or down, but we can never be as close as friends, because there are always direct or indirect interests and competition between colleagues. With this kind of relationship, it is destined that the two parties must maintain a relationship. a certain distance.

To put it bluntly, we all work together today and are colleagues. If we stop working together one day, we just know each other. Although it doesn't sound very good, it is true. So, what information can’t be shared between colleagues? Let me explain one by one:

1. Family conflicts. As the old saying goes, "Family scandals should not be publicized", and family conflicts should not be told to colleagues. If you tell them about this kind of thing, they may be secretly enjoying themselves behind their backs and gloating about others' misfortune. You must know that people "don't want to see others' good things." Others are worse.” Secondly, if the other party is a big talker, then everyone will know about the bad things in your family, which will inevitably attract some criticism and strange eyes, which will more or less have an impact on your work and life.

2. Conflicts among colleagues. Conflicts and frictions between you and other colleagues cannot be told to your colleagues, because you don’t know the relationship between them and that colleague. If you tell them, it will be spread to the other person’s ears, and then the conflict will occur. It will be deeper. If you meet someone who has no good intentions, they will deliberately create obstacles to sow discord between you.

3. Personal secrets. You can't tell your secrets not only to your colleagues, but also to anyone else. Don't tell him just because you have a good relationship with him. Since you can tell him, he can tell his best friend. When the time comes, the secret will be revealed. It's no longer a secret. Many times, telling a secret to one person is equivalent to telling everyone.

4. Other people’s secrets. In addition to not being able to tell your own secrets, you can't tell other people's secrets either. People tell you that they trust you and treat you as a brother and friend. You cannot betray their trust. This is a matter of integrity. Otherwise, once you leak it out, it may cause big trouble to others. If he finds out, your relationship will be over.

5. Family income. As the old saying goes, "Don't show off your wealth, don't show off your wealth." No matter whether your family is poor or rich, don't tell your colleagues. This can avoid a lot of unnecessary trouble, because people are jealous and there is a chain of contempt. You If your family is rich, others will be jealous of you if they find out. If your family is poor, others will despise you if they find out. If you don't let people know, nothing will happen.

6. Things assigned by the boss. Some of the things your boss tells you are company secrets, some things are not suitable for others to know, some things are related to the development of the company... etc. These things cannot be told to anyone else. You must know that the most annoying thing about the boss is As a big-mouthed person, if you leak something your boss told you and your boss finds out about it, and you are scolded for a small matter, you will be afraid that your boss will no longer trust you, and you will suffer a big loss.

7. Talking about others behind their backs. Since ancient times, women with long tongues have been the most disliked by people. Those who like to talk about others behind their backs and gossip behind their backs are the most disliked. If you talk about others in front of your colleagues, although they cater to you on the surface, they will despise and dislike you from the bottom of their hearts, because they will guess how you talked about them in front of others. Secondly, if what you say about someone reaches the ears of the other person, they will come to trouble you overtly or covertly.

8. Complain about the company. Complaining about the company's shortcomings in front of your colleagues is very stupid. On the one hand, it will make your colleagues think that you have too much negative energy, and they will not want to associate with you. On the other hand, if it reaches the ears of the leader, you will definitely be criticized again.

So don't complain. If you have the ability, you don't have to do it. If you don't have the ability to leave, don't be blind. Complaining blindly will only lower your level.

In the workplace, being tight-lipped is an important skill. You should say a lot of things that you should say, but you must not say what you shouldn’t. Otherwise, you will cause a lot of trouble, especially with someone you know. Among colleagues, there is a saying that should be remembered: "When you meet someone, you should only say a few words, but don't give everything away." This is the way to survive in the workplace, so you should keep it in mind.

1. Try not to talk about conflicts between family members with colleagues.

2. Don’t tell your colleagues about your family’s financial situation, as it will arouse envy, jealousy, and hatred.

3. Don’t talk about your relationship with unit leaders and colleagues, as it will lead to suspicion and gossip.

4. Try not to talk about personal emotional issues and private life.

5. Try not to share information such as where your family lives or where your children go to school. People’s hearts are unpredictable and safety comes first.

6. It is best not to say how much money you make, whether you have a side job, or whether you have a loan. No one at work truly wants you to do well.

7. Don’t talk about complaints about the unit and the leadership’s secrets, as it won’t do any good.

8. Don’t waste your time by gossiping about others.

9. Don’t judge other people’s rights or wrongs. There are things that others can do but you can’t.

The workplace is a place of interests. There are no friends, only interests. If you talk about many things, you are asking for trouble!

The relationship between colleagues is definitely not as good as the relationship between lips and teeth, and the teeth are also fighting with the tongue. Therefore, in the workplace, due to some exchange of interests, colleagues change their faces or betray their friendship, resulting in incompatible situations. Too many to mention. Therefore, in order to protect yourself from unwarranted harm, do not disclose the following three types of information to your colleagues.

The ancients said, "Sit quietly and think about your own mistakes, and don't talk about others' wrongs in small talk." Those who talk about the rights and wrongs of others behind their backs are themselves right and wrong people. If you tell a colleague about the gossips of right and wrong people, when they have a dispute, they will definitely drag you into the whirlpool. It's embarrassing, a waste of time, and you'll end up in a bad mood, and the gain outweighs the gain.

Colleagues Ling Yue and Cai Chao had a disagreement because of their competition for places in higher vocational schools. Cai Chao is a man and is a bit ambitious, but Ling Yue is a woman and likes to nag. Let's just talk about it normally, but Ling Yue is really worried about it. He often talks behind Cai Chao's back about how he is afraid of his wife, and because he neglects his family while playing mahjong, he wrote a letter of guarantee to his wife...

This has nothing to do with work. Things that shouldn't have been said in the first place. Unexpectedly, a colleague went to tell Cai Chao, which may have touched Cai Chao's pain point. Cai Chao went to question Ling Yue directly, and even threatened to take action... As a result, the office became a mess, and everyone was embarrassed there for a long time.

It would be embarrassing for you to report this kind of thing. One result is that people regard you as a villain who is instigating the relationship between husband and wife. They say "thank you" in person, but they are actually belittling you in their hearts. The other result is that the couple starts a war or even divorces.

In the second case, your whistleblower will definitely be known to your colleagues, and the result will be that you become their lifelong enemy.

In this regard, some colleagues will take the initiative to tell their close colleagues about the discord between husband and wife. After being found out by someone with bad intentions, he committed evil acts in the name of listening and comforting, which ultimately accelerated the end of his marriage.

Chen Siwei is the company's technical manager and has mastered all core technologies. However, he is very principled and uprightly safeguards the company's interests in front of competitors.

However, a competitor learned that Chen Siwei had an unusual relationship with a female subordinate. So, he spent a lot of money to bribe a female subordinate, and then used the female subordinate to set up a trap, and gradually obtained the top-secret formula from Chen Siwei... causing huge losses to the company.

The company asked Chen Siwei to talk, but he refused to admit it. Later, the company reported the case, and the public security organs soon found out the truth.

As a result, Chen Siwei and the female subordinate not only lost all their savings, but also assumed criminal responsibility...

What is the relationship between colleagues? It's a competitive relationship! It is not an innocent friendship between classmates, nor is it a brother who lives and dies together like a comrade-in-arms.

Therefore, not everything can be said between colleagues.

For some people, if someone compliments you a few words, you will treat them as a fool.

For some people, when someone calls you a fellow countryman, you treat them as your relatives.

For some people, if someone says something bad about a leader to you, you will treat him as a confidant and say that the leader is "unlike!"

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What kind of person is this? This is a person with low emotional intelligence.

It is not that there is no friendship between colleagues. There are also many colleagues who get along very well and feel like brothers. However, these situations are all under the premise that there is no competition. When you have no interest relationship with your colleagues, this kind of friendship can last. Once the situation changes, it is difficult to say.

Don’t tell your colleagues the following information easily, otherwise, one day, this information will be their secret weapon to defeat you:

1. You have achieved new results and new research results. . Some people excitedly tell their "strong buddies" about the results of their hard work, but they did not expect that it would eventually become his research results. Let you feel the feeling of "making someone else's wedding dress".

2. If you are dissatisfied with your leader or your complaints, you cannot tell your competitors. If you are like a resentful woman who speaks ill of your leader when you meet others, sooner or later you will become a thorn in the leader's side. This is what "trouble comes from the mouth" really means.

3. If the leader wants to promote you, he should talk to you in advance. Only heaven and earth know these things, you know, and the leaders know. Otherwise, you will experience what is called "the cooked duck flies away".

4. Do not introduce your wife (husband) to your brothers (sisters), and do not think that they will regard your wife as a "sister-in-law". Maybe, one day, she will become your "sister-in-law".

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In short, friendship between colleagues is established under specific circumstances and is not eternal. As circumstances change, the relationship between you may become competitive. Therefore, do not say anything between colleagues at any time that would undermine competition.

If the relationship is just a colleague, it is recommended not to disclose anything except work information.

Why? There is no eternal friendship in the workplace, only eternal interests, let alone colleagues?

If you really want to ask what information cannot be disclosed, the following information must not be disclosed:

1. Personal privacy. Including some special experiences in the past, some private matters that have been encountered, secrets in the heart, etc.

2. Social relationships and background. For example, about your own family and social relationships.

3. Personal relationship with leaders. For example, what the leader said to you alone, the experience of having individual contact with the leader, etc.

4. The economic status of individuals and families. Such as assets, investment status, etc.

5. Things worth showing off or reflecting on in the process of personal growth. It's best not to talk about these things, because others will not only be interested in things you think are worth showing off, but sometimes they will also make you jealous. As for things worth reflecting on, if they are known to others, they may become the subject of criticism for others in the future.

6. Secrets you know about your boss and other colleagues. If you accidentally say it, you will have to pay for it in the end to prevent it from being exaggerated by others.

7. Things that others have said in front of you about your unit or colleagues. Remember that you must not be a "mouthpiece" in the workplace. No matter what anyone says, you just listen and stop there to prevent being betrayed.

8. Your own future development plan. Because no matter how grand a plan is, it is just a castle in the air if it is not realized. It is meaningless to say it, and actions speak louder than words.

9. Complaints, complaints or dissatisfaction with the unit or leadership, either from oneself or from others. Because learning to control emotions helps personal growth. It doesn’t matter what others say, don’t get involved yourself.

10. Information about the help and support given to you by "elegant people". Never say this, because when others help you, they often don’t want others to know.

People often say that the workplace is like a battlefield, and a battlefield requires a strategy. A good strategy can help you rise to the top and rise step by step.

What information should never be disclosed between colleagues in the workplace? Brother Dong will summarize some points for you. Personal Salary

Many companies have salary confidentiality systems that require employees to keep their salaries confidential. Of course, there are also some companies that do not pay attention to confidentiality. Generally speaking, such companies have a very complete salary system. When you reach the corresponding level, you will get the corresponding salary! There are also some positions, such as sales, where his income is the basic salary plus commission. The basic salary is similar to everyone, and his income depends on performance, so everyone can see it.

Let’s first look at the purpose of companies requiring salary confidentiality.

For individuals, if a colleague with whom you have a good relationship asks you privately how much your salary is, should you keep it a secret?

Brother Dong’s personal opinion: It’s also a secret! Why. Regardless of the purpose of companies promoting confidentiality, for us personally, there is no harm without comparison. He is lower than you and he is uncomfortable. He is higher than you and you are uncomfortable! The same amount, just complain about low wages. So no matter who is higher or lower, the end result is that one person is always unhappy. Privacy of personal life

Apart from personal salary, there is also privacy of personal life that colleagues should not disclose to each other. Many people may think that the privacy of personal life is nothing. If you want to talk to your colleagues, just talk to your colleagues. If your colleagues have a good relationship with each other, it is not elegant. What you are afraid of is that one day the two of them will look at each other as enemies, so what you said to them The privacy of your personal life may be publicly known, so it is better not to reveal the privacy of your personal life to your colleagues.

Personal life privacy may include family property, family members, and personal relationships.

It’s better to just talk to most of your colleagues in a vague way. You don’t have to have deep conversations or deep friendships, unless you recognize his character very much and treat him as a friend who you can trust and talk to. Evaluation of the company and other colleagues.

Another very important point among colleagues is not to share your evaluations and opinions about other people in the company with colleagues easily.

When we are on good terms, we get along well; when we are at odds, we expose each other’s past. This is the case with most human nature, so it is very difficult to have a superficially friendly relationship between colleagues, especially when financial interests are involved. It is easy to break here. This is why some of the above information with colleagues must never be disclosed.

The above is Brother Dong’s answer, I hope it will be helpful to you.

Here are five things that cannot be disclosed in the workplace. If you see it, you will earn it.

1. Don’t tell your colleagues about personal privacy matters.

There is a female colleague in our company who is pretty. Her family is a demolition household in a village in the city. She is self-sufficient and talented. She always wants to find a senior deputy or something, so she is in her thirties. I haven't been in love yet. But such a person with relatively high vision and ambition actually had a relationship with a short and fat colleague.

The two had sex after drinking, and she refused to admit it the next day. If she didn’t tell this, no one in the company would know about it, but she told a middle-aged female colleague, The purpose was to ask this middle-aged female colleague whether she would get pregnant if something like this happened.

I don’t know if she really didn’t know, or if she wanted to spread the word. In short, she didn’t let this middle-aged female colleague tell her, but in the end everyone in the company knew about the trouble, and she became a She became a joke in our company. Everyone said that she had bad taste, heavy taste, greedy food, stupid and naive. In short, everyone thought she was just faking it.

2. Don’t tell your colleagues about your family situation.

There was a director in the company who sent his daughter to study in Australia. When he told the company, someone asked him how much the tuition was and how much the living expenses were per year. Thousands, it is actually a real situation.

But as soon as these words came out, someone immediately made a calculation. We are a third-tier city. His monthly salary is less than 7,000. How can he afford such high tuition and living expenses? Combined with the fact that he just bought Bought a house and bought a car. Some people said that he must have been corrupted by taking kickbacks. This rumor spread more and more in the company, and the boss also heard about it, and he happened to be in charge of purchasing. The boss became suspicious and checked many of his purchasing records, and found that there was indeed something fishy in it. Just removed him.

3. Do not tell your colleagues about your personal health condition.

There is a female colleague in the company who cannot have children due to some physical reasons. She feels depressed and talks to her colleagues about this matter at work. She also says that she has a headache all day long because of the heavy mental load, so as long as she Medication maintenance.

If you tell me this, do you think other female colleagues will sympathize? Women are always making things difficult for women. Some female colleagues scold her behind her back all day long because they have conflicts with her at work, saying she deserves it. She couldn't give birth, and some people said she had cervical cancer or AIDS, so she took medicine all day long. Regardless of whether it was true or not, the news spread throughout the company, and everyone looked at her strangely.

Later, the company laid off employees, and their supervisor kicked her out because of her health.

4. Don’t tell your colleagues about your extra abilities.

I was originally an operation and maintenance person, but I needed to learn programming because of my work. I am also a luneng, so I told my colleagues in the company that I can program and can handle problems. Now it’s great, everyone is working They came to me with all the problems they couldn't handle, and I was embarrassed to refuse, so I worked for others all day long, which wasted my time to take stock.

5. Don’t complain to your colleagues.

My former supervisor was very skilled. Once he was bragging to his colleagues and told them that he had this ability if he wanted the system to run if it couldn’t run.

This word quickly reached the boss’s ears. Once he and his boss had a dispute over work matters. The company happened to be disconnected from the Internet and the entire system could not run. The boss felt that this was done deliberately. , and quickly replaced him.

In the workplace, you must control your mouth, talk to colleagues, and try to only talk about work matters. Colleagues have the same interests and are not worthy of entrustment at all, so be sure to Don't tell colleagues about things outside of work. Sometimes if you say something, you may not even be able to keep your job, or you may become a laughing matter to others, so be careful with your words and actions.

Remember one thing, you are here to work, not to make friends.

The first category of taboo topics: private life

In the workplace, you can neither be a transparent person nor a mysterious person. Learn to disclose relevant information about yourself appropriately according to the needs of the occasion.

It is best for this information to be related to personal work, rather than your weird experiences or bloody love affairs. Leaders do not need your negative emotions. They are already under a lot of pressure. Be an employee who spreads positive energy.

The second type of taboo topic: labeling colleagues

"Xiao Zhang is a demolition household, no wonder he is not so serious about his work"

"Xiao Liu's father is the director, no wonder the boss always takes care of her"

"Xiao Wang's family is from the countryside, so he must be a Phoenix man."

There are no secrets in the workplace. What you say about your colleagues will eventually reach your ears. If the messenger adds more jealousy, I guess you You will be hated for the rest of your life. Interpersonal relationships in the workplace follow cause and effect. If your colleagues hate you, it will be reflected at work sooner or later. Other colleagues will also think that you are a mean person and alienate you. The third category of taboo topics: disclosing other colleagues’ intention to leave

There is no such thing as a feast that lasts forever. Because your colleague trusts you, he tells you in advance that he is planning to leave his job. At this time, you not only fail to help him keep the news, but also spread it around, which will put your colleague into an embarrassing situation.

When colleagues are preparing to resign, you can have a heart-to-heart talk and talk about the future. Don't make a big deal about it. No matter how good the relationship is, there will be no future. The fourth category of taboo topics: venting dissatisfaction with work or colleagues

If you really can’t stand it and need to vent, please be sure to find someone who is not related to work to vent.

If you drag a seemingly "enthusiastic" colleague to complain about the boss's various shortcomings, it is equivalent to having the power in the other person's hands. The other person may not report it immediately, but as long as If you have a conflict of interest, your situation will be more passive.

In the workplace, everyone should set a relatively clear topic boundary for themselves and strictly abide by it.

Income

A lot of information cannot be disclosed, and it is roughly divided into three categories!

This information includes your own bonus, your own salary, and other benefits.

Many companies have a secret salary system, and everyone's salary and treatment are different. If you tell someone, you will not only violate company discipline, but also cause unnecessary trouble to others and yourself.

In addition to salary and benefits, you can’t talk about your development plan at will, because you don’t know if this colleague will be your future competitor!

This information may be part of your job. For example, if you are responsible for personnel work, you know everyone’s comprehensive “privacy”. In this case, if you “ If you disclose it to other colleagues, you will be derelict in your duties. If the company knows about it, it will hold you accountable.

If you heard this information from others, you cannot use it as conversation material with other colleagues. Because you are likely to act as a medium for spreading rumors and complicating an originally simple issue.

Among the three types of information, this is the last thing you should tell your colleagues.

Some things about leadership, no matter how you get them, may be true or false.

As long as it comes out of your mouth, it is what you said. If your colleagues betray you under the inducement of the external environment, you will be very passive and unable to defend yourself.

In my articles such as "Knowing these 3 points of analysis, if you still "can't control your mouth" in the workplace, you deserve to be unlucky" and other articles, I elaborated on "Can't control your mouth" and other articles "The dangers of this article, friends can read it for reference!

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