Everyone is full of longing and hope for their marriage, but it is difficult to manage a happy marriage in real life. Although marriage is sacred, it is also easy to be broken. There are too many factors that can destroy marriage, such as marital disharmony, mother-in-law relationship, betrayal and so on.
If you ask two people what is the first test of marriage, then A Yan thinks it should be material.
Material is the most direct and first consideration for every couple. Long before they got married, the two had already faced this problem.
If two people want to enter the marriage life, the first consideration should also be that the material conditions of both sides can support the responsibility of supporting the family.
This is very realistic and helpless, because it is difficult for two people to get married because of insufficient material conditions.
After passing this heavy test, the next two people are faced with the details of marriage. And this part is also the most test of the material conditions of the two families.
When it comes to weddings, happy pictures may appear in everyone's mind. Both husband and wife accept the blessings of relatives and friends and get married in their witness.
But behind all this happiness, the two families paid certain material conditions for it. For example, wedding room, wedding car, bride price, dowry and so on, these are all problems faced by couples.
Material is the last problem that every couple wants to face, but it is also the key condition to determine how far two people can go.
In today's society, how many people can't get married because of material things, and how many people can only break up because they can't afford a house, a car or a sky-high bride price. No way, material is the first problem facing marriage.
Because of this, many people will be cautious when they get married. But some people are smart and calculating each other, which makes hard-won feelings full of risks.
As the saying goes, "people are short-minded and long-minded, and horses are thin and hairy." Once one party in a marriage is malicious, it is difficult to maintain this marriage.
In the face of people who accompany you all your life, you still have to understand and be considerate of each other. Don't break the heart of the person you love because of material things, communicate more in everything. I believe that positive communication can solve these problems.
There is such a person in marriage. The purpose of their marriage is not simple, and they want to take all the other's property for themselves through marriage. But they forced each other to submit under the guise of being good for their small family. If the other party doesn't cooperate, they will stand on the moral high ground and accuse the other party of not considering this family.
Such people are extremely shameless, but they have to pretend to be reasonable when calculating each other. It is a great tragedy to have such a person in marriage.
Lu Xiao once cried and said that the man he married had changed too much after marriage and showed his true colors. And just got married and changed, which made Lu Xiao feel a little unacceptable. Some hesitation in my heart. Can this marriage continue?
Lu Xiao is 25 years old and just got married not long ago. She should have enjoyed the sweetness of marriage, but she doubted it because of her husband's behavior.
After graduating from college, Lu Xiao returned to his hometown for development at the strong request of his parents. After several years of study, she was admitted to the civil service. After her job was stable, her parents began to worry about her marriage again. The marriage age in the local county is relatively early, and parents' anxiety is understandable.
So Lu Xiao had to obey his parents' wishes and began to participate in various blind date activities.
It was also in a blind date that I met my husband Wang Qiang.
Lu Xiao and Wang Qiang can be said to be more congenial, and they came together after several contacts. Wang Qiang, also a civil servant, bought a down payment house in the county town and is still paying the loan.
The relationship between the two people can be said to be progressing rapidly, and they are ready to get married in half a year.
The marriage negotiations between the two families are also going well. Wang Qiang's family gave Lu Xiao a bride price of 50,000 yuan, which is also a local custom. Xiao Lu's parents also promised to marry Xiao Lu for 50,000 yuan. Other details are also very pleasant. In this way, the wedding of two people was held normally.
Lu Xiao thought she would be so happy, but to her surprise, Wang Qiang asked her to do something after she got married. This incident also made Lu Xiao thoroughly see the essence of Wang Qiang.
Wang Qiang said to Lu Xiao, "Daughter-in-law, after we get married, we will be a family. I bought this house with a loan. If you have money, you can use your bride price and dowry to pay off the mortgage. This is also good for our family. "
Xiao Lu was surprised and immediately asked, "Will my name be added to that house?"
Unexpectedly, Wang Qiang was somewhat dissatisfied and said, "We are all a family. What is mine is yours. It's too much trouble to add any name. "
Although Lu Xiao loves Wang Qiang, she is not stupid. She said, "Oh, then you can repay the loan slowly. Anyway, you have a provident fund. "
Wang Qiang immediately became anxious and began to accuse Xiao Lu of being scheming and not knowing how to pay for his family. Xiao Lu also not to be outdone, two people quarreled.
Because of this, the two men became more and more angry. Finally, Wang Qiang simply insisted: "We are married anyway. I'm telling you, if you don't pay back my mortgage, don't live in my house! "
Xiao Lu's temper also came up: "I won't pay a penny for this money. Don't regret driving me away! " "Say that finish, Lu Xiao packed his things and returned to his family.
It's ironic that two newlyweds separated because of such a thing.
Wang Qiang's practice really makes people feel despised, and Lu Xiao is calculated. This kind of eating is too ugly. How can such a marriage last? Lu Xiao's heart will also think, do you want to live with such a deep-rooted person for a lifetime?
Two people choose to be together, mostly because of feelings. On the balance between emotion and material, Ayan suggested that we should talk about material reasonably on the premise of considering more emotions.
Although a good marriage needs to talk about money, we can't just talk about money and ignore the foundation of marriage and the most precious feelings. As long as two people really love each other, money can be earned.