How to know whether the traditional thought of favoring boys over girls remains in your subconscious mind? I have prepared 3 questions for you today, please answer them based on your truest thoughts:

1. If you have a son and a daughter, but only have money to buy a house, then, After buying a house, will you leave this house to your son or daughter?

2. Have you ever had or expressed the idea that "raising a daughter is easier than raising a son" or "having a daughter is less stressful"?

3. Will the gender of your first child have any impact on your decision to have a second child?

After answering these three questions, I will explain them to you respectively:

Analysis of question 1: If your answer is that the house will be left to your son, then it means that you have subconscious thoughts. There is a certain tendency to favor boys over girls. At least, you definitely do not favor girls over boys.

I know that regarding this issue, many people will choose to leave the house to their sons. It cannot be said that all of this is due to patriarchal thinking. After all, we have to consider a practical issue.

Because the current social reality is that, other conditions being equal, if men want to have an equal status with women in the marriage and love market, they often need to have more resources and property than women. Therefore, if many parents only have one apartment, they will choose to leave this only apartment to their sons, so that their sons can find a partner more smoothly in the future.

Many parents plan to divide the family property in this way

However, putting aside this practical issue, parents who actually have the idea of ??"leaving the house to their sons" do not really care about their children. In terms of equality, most of them "leave their favor to their daughters and leave their property to their sons." But truly equal parents will divide their favor and property equally among their children.

Analysis of Question 2: The belief that “raising a daughter is easier than raising a son” and “having a daughter is less stressful” subconsciously favors sons over daughters.

Many people claim that they do not favor sons over daughters. They preach the benefits of having a daughter everywhere. One of them must be "having a daughter is much better than having a son. It is easy to have a daughter!" But I want to expose it hard! The true face of this kind of people is that they have not achieved equality between men and women in their bones, and they still favor boys over girls.

Why? Let me analyze it: the biggest reason why those who think giving birth to a daughter is less stressful and easier is that "they don't have to buy a house for their daughter." But what I want to say is, if you really value your daughter, how could you come up with the unfair idea of ??only buying a house for your son and not your daughter?

You must know that, regardless of whether you are a man or a woman, the property before marriage still belongs to the individual after divorce. Compared with sons, daughters are actually a more vulnerable group. If you value your daughter, shouldn't you give your daughter more property and dowry so that she can have more confidence in her marriage and her husband's family, and be more secure in the future even if she gets divorced?

So, I think that having a daughter and raising a daughter is no easier than raising a son, because if I plan to spend 1 million to raise a son, I will also spend 1 million to raise a daughter.

Analysis of question three: If the gender of your first-born child will have a decisive impact on whether you have a second child, then you subconsciously favor boys over girls.

I have seen many people who, if their first child is a son, will be cautious and cautious about having a second child, and even dare not have a second child because of this. The decision will be made much easier.

Why is there this difference? The reasons for people who do this are almost always: the first child gave birth to a son, what if the second child is a son? If the first child is a daughter, it doesn't matter if the second child is a son or a daughter.

In fact, people who think this way are essentially the same as the people analyzed in question 2. They think that raising a daughter is easy and less stressful, so they are afraid that both children will be sons. Because this means I have to buy two houses and prepare two betrothal gifts!

You see, if you have two sons, you will be at the bottom of the second-child contempt chain. If you have two daughters, you will be "superior". Doesn't this mean that parents should be tacitly aware that their sons should be Working hard to buy a house and earn dowry money, but at the same time assuming that giving birth to a daughter does not require parents to buy a house and earn dowry money. On the contrary, when marrying a daughter, you can also earn a dowry money?

What a patriarchal idea!

How about it? After testing the three questions, you should already have the answer to whether you subconsciously favor boys over girls, right?

I always believe that whether it is a son or a daughter, they are all their own children. Whether it is love or property, parents should treat them fairly and equally. Only in this way can we truly achieve equality between men and women. Otherwise, "sons" No matter how loudly the slogan “Daughters are as good as daughters” is shouted, deep down they still favor sons over daughters.