In the second year of our marriage, I gave birth to our twin sons. When my son just turned one year old, his parents went out, and I took two toddlers and his 12-year-old sister at home. I was only 22 years old, which was equivalent to raising three children. Who can understand my hardships?
He doesn't know how to work because his parents spoil him. On Saturday and Sunday, I asked him to work in the fields with me and asked his sister to look after two children. He refused to work in the fields. I do manual labor with two sisters in the village and take my son with me. Once, in order to send handicrafts with her two sisters the next day, they were willing to help me make them in the evening. In the evening, I asked my husband to accompany me to their home. He said impatiently, he
Later, I found a business. I made several business investments and didn't make any money. Time is delayed year after year. After choosing to sell agricultural materials, he began to borrow money to invest in order to expand the scale. There are IOUs for the borrowed money, and the borrowed money is also invested in his sister's guarantee company.
Once I went with him to visit relatives at his uncle's house. I knew that his uncle's sister was from a financial guarantee company in Zhengzhou, and said that saving money could get high interest. We all thought it was good, but we didn't know it was a big risk.
I am the one who did all the things that he seldom learned and was lazy. I signed all the debts at that time, but at that time, it was a family. Whether I borrow money or invest, it's for my family, so even if I sign it, it's not my personal debt.
Later, the guarantee company closed down and we began to ask his sister for our money. We asked for it many times and gave us some. So far, we are still short of 10 thousand yuan. At that time, I made a verbal promise and didn't even write us an iou.
We gave the money we asked his sister to another of our classmates. At that time, my classmate said that she needed money to start her own business, not a guarantee company, and that she gave us high interest. Later, my classmates asked me to give her change several times. I borrowed money from several families, including my mother's. At that time, I lent my classmates more than 300 thousand at most.
Students gave us interest every month for the first seven or eight months. We also give interest to others every year. Later, when we needed to buy a car, we bought a car for my classmate for 50 thousand yuan, because I had a driver's license and the car was in my name. In the same year, our fertilizer business needed turnover, and we had to spend 30 thousand yuan to buy fertilizer.
Later, during the financial crisis, they stopped giving us interest, so I started asking for the principal. At first, my husband also asked my classmate for an account. Once, he asked my classmate's husband for an account, and the two men scolded each other on their mobile phones.
It was from this time that my husband and I began to quarrel. I also told my husband that Qi Xin and I can get the bill back together. Even if he wanted me to play a bitter drama, my classmate could hit me when he pushed me in the face, but he called my classmate and asked me to ask for it. He doesn't care. But when he lent money to my classmate, he knew. Why did he put everything on me?
I have tried many times, but they have no money to give me. My husband and I quarrel more and more. His vicious words are like an arrow piercing the heart. Later, my classmates didn't pay me back, nor did they return my phone calls and messages. My husband never comforts me, only quarrels with me. Otherwise, it will be my fault. At that time, I couldn't sleep all night, lost a lot of hair, and felt that I had suffered from depression and almost collapsed. Hundreds of thousands, my classmates don't give it to me, and I have to pay it back for the rest of my life. Thinking of this, I feel that living is simply purgatory on earth, and I might as well die. Why can't my husband work with me?
At that time, my parents saw my strange mood, and they advised me to take it easy, saying that no one would pity you even if you died. Your child is still young. You should think about how a child can live without his mother and how he can live without his parents. I looked at my white-haired elderly parents, thought of my lovely twin sons, and swallowed all the grievances and pains.
Because it was too painful to escape at home, I went to work and was still urging for money. During the year I worked, my husband and I lived in peace. My classmates who owed me money promised to give me a house to pay off my debts, but the house has not been built yet.
Everything will be fine! I thought to myself.
I've been working outside. 1988, he is going to open a shop in partnership with a relative. I told him that the child should go to high school and need money. My classmate also promised to give us a house. He may have to chip in some money for my classmate so that he can get money everywhere. I advised him not to invest blindly and disapprove of his opening a shop.
At that time, he said I didn't care about money. He tried, but I didn't stop him. He won't listen to me if I stop him. Later, he asked me to give him 10 thousand yuan, saying that he had no money to invest. I asked him, didn't you leave me alone? And ask me what I want? He really has no money. Please give me 10 thousand. At that time, he also said that I would give me 10 thousand. At the end of the year, he gave me 20 thousand. He's in pain. I transferred 1 10,000 to him, not because he would give me 20,000. I really can't stand his embarrassment. I transferred it to him twice 1 10,000, 5000 each time.
I work hard outside and my salary is not high. I also bear the insurance premium of our family of four and the living expenses and tuition of the children. One of his cousins said that business is better than working, and she asked me to open a breakfast shop with her.
I want to make money as soon as possible to pay back the money of the villagers and my mother, because I owe others, and others owe me. I know it's hard to ask for the bill, so I went back to my hometown and opened a breakfast shop. I didn't ask him for a penny when I opened the store, but I didn't choose the right location. The store closed down after opening for a month, and the investment money was gone.
After closing the store, I worked as a cashier in the supermarket in the city. At that time, his flower shop was closed because of the city management.
Because I have been lonely inside and outside for many years, because I am often away from home. When I go back to my hometown, I also want to talk to my neighbors, because I usually get along well. On a cold winter night, a group of people chatted around the fire.
People leave at midnight. After all, it is still very cold in winter. Even if there is fire, my heart is warm and my body is cold. Back home, I made friends with him and wanted him to warm my feet. As soon as I met him, he kicked me aside. At that moment, my warm heart instantly cooled. Loneliness and helplessness outside all the year round can't compare with the coldness in my heart at the moment. The moment when I was kicked away became the last straw that crushed our marriage.
The next day, I went back to the supermarket and filed for divorce. He didn't agree, so I went to work in the south again. Later, my classmates told me that the house could be signed, so I came back to sign the contract and prepared to sell the house I just got, because I had to pay back the villagers' money and my mother's money.
I have no illusions about living with such a hard-hearted man. I refuse to ask for a divorce. I just want a peaceful divorce that will do the least harm to my children.
He said that if he got divorced, he wouldn't care about the debt, but he wouldn't pay it back.
Later, the house was sold, 240 thousand, and the total amount was 20 thousand more than that given to my classmate. At that time, I was working outside, and all the money for selling the house was entrusted to him, and all the money for selling the house was transferred to a bank card of his brother.
When the money arrived, I asked him to pay it back. He also paid back the money from another chemical fertilizer supplier in my sister's family, but the money from these two companies was borrowed when he was doing business before, and the money for buying chemical fertilizers. He pushed it around and said that he didn't know who I borrowed or how much it cost. He just didn't want to pay it back, so he had to let me go home and pay it back. There were 240 thousand left when I came back. Because of the transfer problem in the future, the buyer deducted 20 thousand from us. Give it to us when you help them transfer their ownership in the future.
It's his brother's card. I don't know the password. I asked him to go to the bank to withdraw money, but he always said he was in no hurry. I forced him to withdraw 70 thousand, but he didn't withdraw money. He told me the password when I got it back, and I returned 40 thousand to two houses that day. I didn't give it to my mother's house at that time, thinking of returning it to my neighbor first. I asked another neighbor to go to his house for 30 thousand yuan, and he took the money
He didn't want to go to the bank to withdraw money just to see if I shared a room with him.
I think we are the same child, and I am willing to pay off these accounts. I still want a peaceful divorce.
We quarreled that night, and his uncle came to persuade us not to quarrel. His uncle who persuaded us came and said, "You cheated him out of all his money." It is said that a woman's position in her husband's family depends on her man. I finally know that I am in his heart, and their family is a liar. All the money for selling the house was called to his home, and Cary called me a liar. His words were like being shot through by a million arrows.
I wanted to go back to my mother's house that night, but they wouldn't let me. At ten o'clock in the evening, I called my parents to pick me up. Originally, I wanted to give 70 thousand yuan from Cary to the villagers first. After he was unreasonable, I took it back to my mother's house and went to work.
I entrusted him with the transfer of the house, and all the money went to his card, but he said I cheated. At this time, I want a divorce.
After I left for work, he went to my mother's house to make trouble, saying that I ran away with someone, that my parents were sorry for him, and that he would sue me for fraud. He also said that he would put me in the newspaper and let the whole country know about me. My parents were almost mad at him. My father called me and told me his behavior at home. I always wanted a peaceful divorce, and I didn't want my sons to be too sad. He is challenging my patience. Originally, my parents have been advising me not to divorce for my children. male
I hired a lawyer to represent me in the divorce, but he was still unwilling to pay the bill for the first time. On the day of the trial, he refused to appear in court. Before the trial, the two families got together, and his sister shouted that I was unkind at first and owed his brother's name. Why not all my names?
Is this human nature? Did his sister forget? That year, their husband and wife went to work and put their daughter in our house, because I didn't have a daughter and I liked children. Although I have two sons, I still take care of her daughter as my own. All the neighbors know these things.
His sister also knows what I did to his parents. I have been there for almost 20 years and have never quarreled with my in-laws. Their family is not rich, and there are not millions. Why was I not kind in the first place? That woman got married for divorce. If I want a divorce, will I kill all the good things and turn them into bad things?
The first time the court ruled that mediation was not divorce, I went to work again.
He hasn't gone out to work these years, and his income from other places is not much. Our fertilizer business is not good, and the farm work in the field depends entirely on his parents. He is also reluctant to let him help his parents. He doesn't even know how much this family spends a year, and he doesn't know how stressful life is.
I keep asking him to sort out his debts and see how much is left. He refused, so I called the people who owed money one by one. If there is no phone, I want the phone number. Always owed120000.
After I filed the second lawsuit, his lawyer added me a WeChat message, saying that the 70,000 yuan I took would be returned to him. I told my lawyer that it was the loan money, and the money I had to pay back after selling the house had already been paid back. Did his lawyer say it was a loan, and he didn't know it was a house payment.
Two days later, his lawyer made a video call and said that he also borrowed money when I didn't know, and there were 60,000 to 70,000. It turns out that the reason why I asked him to sort out how much money he still owes is that I won't say anything unless I get divorced. If I wanted a divorce, he would have borrowed another 60 thousand or 70 thousand.
He asked his lawyer to tell me that we should go Dutch.
The account of 670,000 yuan he said was fabricated just to avoid paying the electricity bill, because when I was at home, he was a person who didn't even pay the electricity bill. When he was doing business, I worked in the south. Even if I borrowed money, it was not used for husband and wife to live together. At that time, he left me alone and said that he would find a way. I want a divorce, and then I have to pay it back?
My lawyer advised me to get a divorce first, not to talk about debts and property, and said that the debtor should sue us because I hired a lawyer for the first time and applied for legal aid for the second time, the lawyer said.
Give me legal aid if you don't want property, and give you legal fees if you want property.
I think I must pay off my debts, so that I can save some money and leave more for my children. I chose not to clean up my property. I left it to my children after working for 20 years. I have no regrets.
Someone asked his sister for an account in the village. When borrowing money, his sister was a witness, but it was not written on the loan slip. Her sister said that the account was mine or I admitted it. I have left home clean. Why is this family so disgusting? I want to ask his sister, you also have a daughter. What if your daughter is involved in divorce in the future? People still let your daughter go out clean and pay her bills? Won't your heart hurt?
I want to ask my ex-husband, I left home clean, and you still want me to bear all the debts. What is your heart made of? You said I didn't pay a penny to build a house on the side of the road. How was the house on the east side of the road built? At that time, the foundation of the house was a big pit, and eight cars were digging soil a day. I followed you to pull the soil. Digging the river bank and loading the car are shovels and shovels, and another load of soil is taken home. Isn't it credit and hard work that I work at home and in the fields? Have you forgotten that you can't get out of bed because of the operation, and I took care of you for more than ten days in hospital? Have you forgotten the twin sons I gave birth to for your narrow escape? Am I a person in your family who has no credit or hard work? You told my parents that you couldn't see what I was doing at your house, but the neighbors could see it.
Now that I'm clean, I don't give him all my husband and wife's property, and he pays all my debts. I am a weak woman, and living alone is very difficult. After the divorce, I lived with my old and frail father, and my family was not rich, so I went out to work to support myself and my old and frail father. I didn't evade the debt as the plaintiff said. If I dodged the debt, I wouldn't come back to answer the lawsuit and go out penniless. They all rely on the travel and living expenses funded by relatives and friends. Because of the epidemic this year, it is not easy to find a job. I found a job after hitting the wall several times. I haven't been paid yet. My life is extremely difficult at present. Because there is no money, I can only eat two meals a day. You can imagine how much I suffered outside. I languished in his house for 20 years and finally ended in divorce. After 20 years of hard work, I'm broke. I am a weak woman.