Three views are consistent but there are still differences. This is common sense.

Among all the living beings in the world, it is really difficult to find someone who completely agrees with your own three views. The so-called incompatibility of views is just an excuse for some people to find fault with and dislike their lover's superiority. I don’t know since when, the unity of three views has become the most popular discussion topic in love relationships and marriage relationships. There are articles everywhere that share the same views, telling you that you must find someone who has the same views to get married. If you don’t have the same views, let alone fall in love, you can’t even be friends.

All kinds of problems that arise in love relationships and marriage relationships are also blamed on "three different views." A girl went to her boyfriend's house as a guest and saw her future mother-in-law using old underwear as a rag to clean the kitchen. Netizens suggested that she should leave as soon as possible because she has different views. The girl asked the man's family to buy a house with all the money, and the boy wanted to pay the down payment for a mortgage loan. This was also criticized as a disagreement.

Some couples are divorcing. When asked about the reason for the divorce, they fashionably say: "The three views are not in harmony." Different interests and hobbies, conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and differences in views on the same issue all lead to disagreements. Inconsistency in three views has become the most important factor in love and marriage, and has also become the main culprit in breakups and divorces. There are no two identical leaves in the world, let alone one's three views formed by one's own family environment, educational background and other factors.

There may be brothers in a family who are passionate and love singing and dancing, while the other is low-key and quiet and only loves reading and writing. Among all the living beings in the world, it is really difficult to find someone who completely agrees with your own three views. The so-called incompatibility of views is just an excuse for some people to find fault with and dislike their lover's superiority. In the Korean movie "The Six Year Itch", when two people no longer love each other, you can't even breathe.

So, don’t use different outlooks as an excuse for a breakup or divorce. Don’t bear the blame of “incompatibility with three outlooks”. It’s obviously because you don’t love enough. My friend Xiaomi was divorced. She had a boyfriend who she loved very much during college, but they had serious differences when they graduated. Her boyfriend wanted to go to Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou to explore the world, while Xiaomi just wanted to return to her parents and live a quiet life, so the two broke up. When summing up this failed relationship, Xiaomi found the crux of the problem: the incompatibility of three views.

Three views are consistent. It does not mean that you and your partner have exactly the same outlook on life, values, and world view. The other person you like also likes them, and the other person you hate also hates them. It means that you know how to respect the differences between the other person and yourself. , be willing to be tolerant and accept the perspectives of others that are different from your own. In fact, many times, the so-called "three different views" are just some minor differences and conflicts that do not involve principles. You like boiled fish and she likes pickled fish, then order a bowl of each.

You love to travel and he loves to stay at home. Then you can just ask your best friend to travel together and let him stay at home. In marriage, there is a very important prerequisite for being willing to respect and tolerate the differences between the other person and yourself, which is to have enough love and enough wisdom to manage a marriage. Many people say that "the three views are inconsistent", but they are actually making excuses for their laziness and inaction in marriage. If the three views are not in harmony, I don’t have to work hard to make changes.