"Whether it is good times or bad, rich or poor, healthy or sick, happy or sad, I will always love you and cherish you." This wedding vow, for Zhao Li (pseudonym) But very far away. Her husband of 5 years of marriage has nothing to do with her, leaving her to deal with all problems alone. Zhao Li questioned bitterly, what do I want from him in this marriage?

Financial independence after marriage

He said: Whatever you want to buy, you buy it yourself

"When my parents are sick, I bear it. When I get sick, I bear it. Life If I encounter any hardships or difficulties in my life, he will be impatient to tell me, so I will bear it alone." Zhao Li confided in this letter to the media. The reporter met Zhao Li at the Xingfu Plaza in Liangjiang, Chongqing. The 30-year-old girl looked a little haggard and her complexion was yellowish.

Zhao Li works in a nearby advertising design company, doing movable model design, while her husband works as an engineer in a factory in Shapingba, and only goes home once every three to five days. After getting married, the husband often lived in the dormitory of the work unit, so the income of both of them was used separately.

"He will give me some basic expenses at home, such as the mortgage." Zhao Li said that this was a house he bought with a loan before marriage. Even though her name was not on the property certificate, her husband said, because I I live here for a long time, so I also have to pay part of the mortgage.

Zhao Li said that the money given to her by other husbands can be calculated almost accurately. "If I want to buy something, he will tell me what he wants to buy, and you can buy it yourself." Her husband is extremely stingy and feels that she should not spend a penny from him. He also made a stipulation with Zhao Li that she would spend the money herself when she is sick. If your parents are sick, you have to spend your own money and take care of them yourself.

I want in vitro fertilization

He said: You have to pay for your problems yourself

Although Zhao Li was dissatisfied with her husband's terms and conditions, she did not resist. Except for necessary household expenses, Zhao Li basically buys her own personal belongings. "After so many years of marriage, he rarely gave me gifts, that is, on my birthday or wedding anniversary, he would send me a red envelope worth one or two hundred."

Until last year, the couple decided to have a child. But more than half a year later, Zhao Li's stomach didn't move at all. The doctor said that one side of Zhao Li's fallopian tube was blocked and the chance of pregnancy was low. He suggested that the couple consider in vitro fertilization.

"The cost is about 60,000 yuan. I suggested that we save money together for in vitro fertilization, but he actually rejected me." Zhao Li said that her husband said indifferently that if he could not give birth to a child, it would belong to Zhao Li. As for Li's own illness, the money for treatment should be paid by Zhao Li herself according to the previous agreement. Either Zhao Li pays for in vitro fertilization, or Zhao Li goes to a doctor to regulate her body and successfully get pregnant. This incident broke Zhao Li's heart.

"My salary is about 5,000 a month, but I haven't saved much money. After a couple gets married, shouldn't they have to bear all the burdens together? Why does he have to let me bear it myself?" She couldn't bear what her husband said. Can't figure it out.

Father-in-law is suffering from cancer

He said: You are responsible for your parents

Zhao Li said that her parents have been living in her hometown in Bishan. Half a year ago, her mother gave birth to She called to tell her that her father had been diagnosed with cancer. "When someone else's husband heard that something happened at his wife's house, who wouldn't be the one behind the wheel?" Seeing her husband's actions, Zhao Li's heart went cold again.

After my father was diagnosed, my husband went with me to visit him at home once. Because the cancer was in the advanced stage, the family decided to treat him conservatively. The husband successively took 6,000 yuan as a gift. Zhao Li said that although her husband didn't say it, she understood what he meant - she was responsible for her parents' illness.

“No matter which parent is sick, shouldn’t both parties bear the responsibility?” But the husband only thinks that he has fulfilled his obligation by giving several thousand yuan, and he still thinks that he should have done so. It is Zhao Lilai who takes full responsibility.

Nothing can be counted on him, he is like a tortoise. What's the point of such a marriage? During the interview, Zhao Li kept sighing.

The husband responded

He said: I don’t know what she is dissatisfied with

Zhao Li’s husband, Mr. Chen, believes that he has already shouldered the main expenses of the family, " I bought the house, and she is not even willing to share the mortgage. My income is higher than hers, and I also bear the family’s living expenses. She also has a job, so she should not be completely dependent on me financially. ”

"I don't know what she is dissatisfied with. There is nothing wrong with taking care of her own money. I will definitely be responsible for raising children when I have children in the future." As for the issue of taking care of her sick parents-in-law, Mr. Chen believes that Zhao Li's money is basically all She went to support her parents. She was not filial to her parents and had no savings.

Source: Beiqing.com