Foreword

When people get old, some people think very clearly: "Retirement has nothing to do with children. The only way is to have money." These people have money in their hands and speak well. Very ambitious. They don’t even count on their children to provide for themselves in old age.

I think, if you are so rich and ambitious, why would you even hire someone to take care of your last things for your children? Then didn’t you raise your children in vain? Do you think you are a very smart fool? If you think this way, what will your children think of you? Have you ever thought about it?

You have money, you have figured it out. Everything can be solved with money. However, some people don't understand, why? They have no money.

So please don’t just think about yourself, but also think about the poor people. They have no money. Who can their children rely on if they don’t rely on themselves? Can Northwest Wind help them provide for their retirement? This is completely impossible. So your question is rather one-sided and does not consider the overall situation.

Regarding the topic of "old age care has nothing to do with children, having money is the only way to go", here are the following five points of view to analyze.

As long as you have money, it is not king. Health is king.

Having money yourself is not the right thing to do. As you get older, health is king. It’s great to have money and be able to take care of yourself in daily life. You can buy whatever you want to eat, travel if you want to, and have fun if you want to. In short, anything can be done.

But, have you ever thought about it? When you are feeling unwell and lying on the bed at home, who will bring you tea, water, soup and meals?

When you are sick and hospitalized, who will help you register, help you pay, and help you do various examinations? Who will help you to go to the toilet? Who else would serve you so diligently, patiently and carefully if it weren’t for your children? Therefore, having children to take care of you is the kingly way, and health is the kingly way.

Secondly, having money yourself is not the right way. Having children by your side is the way to go.

If you have money, you are naturally king. You don't have to worry about food or drink, clothing or shelter. But the best thing you can do is not have your children and grandchildren by your side. Because you are lonely and lonely. So I say, having your children and grandchildren by your side is your blessing and your kingly right.

Three, having money yourself is not the way to go. It is better to hire someone with money than to have your own children.

Maybe you would say that you can pay someone to do anything. Including cleaning, laundry, cooking, etc. But there's one thing I'm sure you won't pay someone to do. Excuse me, do you also hire people to eat for you? To be honest, spending money to hire people to do things is not as satisfying as having your own children do it well. Only your children know what you want and what you want, and they will buy you what you want.

Four, having money yourself is not the right way. Children are the most unfilial, but at least they will die for you.

Having money in your own hands is not a king. In the end, others are the best to you. Others treat you well because of your money, not out of their hearts. The worst thing your children can do to you is the flesh that falls off your body. No matter how unfilial they are, they will have to die for you. Hometown water is sweet or not, family is not close to me. Do you think so?

It is not the kingly way to have money yourself. Mutual respect as a family is king.

Having money yourself is not the way to go. The family is together, talking, laughing, and lively. You respect me, I respect you, mutual respect is king. Family harmony is king.

When people get old, they need to understand. Having a good relationship with children is the way to go. Having money is not necessarily king. It is wrong to say "old age care has nothing to do with children". This can easily provoke family conflicts and cause your children to be dissatisfied with you.

Money is something external to the body. It cannot be brought to you during life or taken away after death. The people who care about you the most are your children. Although they did not take good care of you and serve you for one reason or another, they are your biological children after all, and I believe that parents will understand and forgive their children.

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I very much agree with this sentence: caring for the elderly has nothing to do with children, having money is the king.

It is undeniable that for those of us born in the 1970s, we can already put the issue of our own retirement on the agenda. Besides, most of the children of our generation are only children. After starting a family and starting a business, two people have to take care of four elderly people. It is indeed not safe to rely on children to support the elderly!

Perhaps, with the progress of social development, the problem of community elderly care for residents should be solved in 20 years. However, we know from our own experience: Children cannot be relied upon to provide for the elderly in the future, and the government cannot be relied on. After all, we must rely on ourselves to provide for the elderly. We can start preparing for retirement plans from now on, take precautions and nip problems in the bud!

In the past, raising children to provide for old age was a matter of course.

Raising children to provide for old age is a long-standing traditional concept in China, and it was also the reason why sons were favored over daughters in the past. In the past, only sons could inherit the family business and support their parents until they die. If you don't have a son, you have to adopt someone else's child to inherit the family business, or adopt the method of providing for the elderly by having a son-in-law step in. In the past, the only people you could rely on for retirement were your children.

Due to the restrictions of the social system, people have a strong sense of family morality. It is only natural that the old self will be as old as other people, and the young self will be as young as other people. In addition, there are many children, who basically live in a large family, with very few opportunities to work outside the home. Even if the children grow up, their lives mainly rely on their parents' family business to make ends meet. For the elderly, there is generally no problem.

Nowadays, "supporting the elderly and protecting children" is forced by the situation.

With the continuous development of modern society, it is becoming more and more difficult to raise children and provide for old age. This is especially true for people born in the 70s and 80s. If they rely entirely on their children to provide for their old age, it will certainly be a heavy burden for an only-child couple to support two families of four elderly people. Although most elderly people now have retirement wages, various medical insurances, etc., they basically don’t have to spend their children’s money on pensions and medical treatment.

But now, young people are pursuing a comfortable life, and comparisons in consumption are common. Cars and houses should be obtained by their own hard work. However, some unscrupulous children have the problem of nibbling the elderly and hope that their parents will provide money to satisfy their needs. desire. Parents will definitely be angry if they don't give, but if they give, they will have to use their own pension. This is how the strange phenomenon of caring for the elderly and preventing children appears in the current society. Forced by circumstances, we need to take care of our children for old age, and ultimately we have to rely on ourselves.

As we age, we understand that it is better to rely on ourselves than on anyone else.

As people grow older, they will understand that it is definitely insecure to always rely on others for old age care. Regardless of your children, relatives and friends, they all have their own careers and their own lives to live, and they cannot always accompany you throughout your life. Sometimes when difficulties arise, you can't ask them to help you solve them anytime and anywhere. Only by yourself can you live the life you want.

When people reach old age, they should understand: time is running out, so there is no need to be harsh on yourself; you have money, so don’t panic; keep your house and make arrangements for your future. A child's wealth is due to his efforts, and a child's filial piety is due to his gratitude. We don’t have to refuse their filial piety, nor do we have to give up their support. However, we still have to rely on ourselves to provide for our retirement and arrange everything ourselves so that we won’t have any worries.

Conclusion

Raising children to protect against old age is a sense of self-protection that the Chinese have developed since ancient times. It is also caused by the lack of official pension measures. If nursing homes can be people-oriented and charity-oriented, people's concept of raising children for old age will naturally change. This requires continuous development and progress of society, and it is a long-term process.

However, there is no need to worry too much about future pension issues. With the development and progress of society, I believe that our future pension forms will definitely show diversity and socialization, and more community pension methods will also serve. To the common people. For us, we can’t ignore retirement care, and we don’t need to be too anxious about it.

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The idea of ??raising children for old age has a strong foundation in China. Especially in the 1950s and 1960s, a pair of parents would have many children. Their inherent The thinking is: more children, more blessings.

In addition, China was still relatively poor at that time, and social security was far from perfect as it is today. Many people wanted to protect their lives in their later years by having more children. These thoughts are understandable.

However, times are changing, and so are people’s thoughts. After entering the 21st century, many people are unwilling to have another child. Even if the country relaxes the two-child policy, the number of people willing to have one more child has dropped sharply.

Because today’s people’s concepts and economic conditions determine that people behave differently from the older generation.

1. Raising children to provide for old age has always been the concept of the older generation of Chinese people. But in reality, the more children a family has, the older people’s security in old age may not be satisfactory.

The more children they have, the more parents worry about: whether they have enough food and clothing, how their academic performance is, and whether they go out to cause trouble. Annual tuition fees, training fees, tutoring fees, etc. are a large amount of expenditure. After graduating from college, you still have to worry about getting married. If you are a boy, you should at least prepare a house. It is best not to have a loan, otherwise you will not be able to find a wife. After the children get married and have children, they have to help take care of the children. Fortunately, after a lifetime of suffering, I may not be able to gain the understanding of my children in the end.

When they really want to enjoy happiness, some children often push back and refuse to take on the responsibility of raising their parents. This kind of ending is something many parents don't want to see.

2. The concept of raising children to provide for old age is no longer popular.

As China opens up, foreign parent-child relationships have also affected our ideas.

Abroad, parents and children have always maintained an equal relationship. They respect their children's decisions, support their children in participating in various activities, and always provide them with the most basic help in life. When they encounter some problems, they encourage them to solve them on their own. Encourage children to live independently as they become adults.

In the eyes of Europeans and Americans, a child is an independent individual, and they need to walk their own future lives.

Many Chinese people have begun to realize this. Children will always leave us. We cannot tie them to us. They have their own lives.

3. Improvement of the social security system.

With the development of the country’s economy, the social security system is becoming more and more perfect. Once the elderly encounter illness or other situations, medical insurance or rural insurance can pay a large amount of income, and the annual pension can basically guarantee the daily life of the elderly. Therefore, even without the help of children, the life of the elderly can be effectively guaranteed.

There are also more and more various types of elderly care institutions, and many places have introduced various new measures for elderly care, such as home-based elderly care, housing-based elderly care, etc., which effectively protect the elderly's life in their later years.

In short, we cannot completely rely on our children to provide for the elderly. In most cases, we can only rely on ourselves. Moreover, the country’s social security is becoming more and more perfect. Even if we don’t have much money, we can still be happy. Spend your remaining years peacefully.

Yes.

I know that many people do not agree with this sentence. In our Chinese concept, raising children to provide for old age is the kingly way.

Because when you are old and unable to move, can you safely entrust your body and life to strangers who you have no trust at all, those nursing homes, those caregivers, and nannies?

It seems unlikely. Our society has no sense of trust in strangers at all. Even if an old lady falls on the roadside, you don’t dare to help her. If you are old and have no children around you, you may I feel like the whole society is a cold and cold place. You will be afraid. There is no such person who can truly take care of you.

But here comes the problem. The pressure on young people is too great, and the pressure on young people will be even greater in the future. They may have to pay for housing, and they have their own children to raise. They may not be able to save much money financially. They may need 996 for work. If so, For a one-child family, there are at least 4 elderly people who need to be taken care of. How can young people stay busy?

After all, if you are not the first rich generation, then they are not the second rich generation.

There is a high probability that we will still find you a nursing home, a caregiver, and a nanny. If you are a conscientious parent, you will accept this arrangement for your children. After all, it’s not easy for young people. Who doesn’t want their children to be well? When the elderly are old, they will have less burden to future generations. Or euthanasia could be done earlier to save some burden on the country.

Our society will continue to age, and the speed will become faster and faster. This is a trend. There are fewer and fewer young people. Just like in Japan now, young people are going to work in big cities. Rural areas and some small cities are gradually being hollowed out by the aging population. In big cities like Tokyo, although the population structure It is not as exaggerated as in rural areas, but the population base is large, and the number of elderly people is increasing even more than in rural areas. Therefore, the elderly are gradually becoming a big problem in society. Young people alone cannot afford to support them, and the burden on the country is also huge. Very heavy.

Especially for civil servants, the pensions in the park are relatively high, and a large number of civil servants will retire in the future. Raising a retired civil servant is equivalent to raising three other elderly people. So this ratio is very scary.

So you said you need a lot of money when you get old? Because it is difficult for you to rely on the government and it is also difficult for you to rely on your children. Because for a very simple reason, only if you have money can you have a chance to be happy when you are old. If you get old and have no money, who can you rely on? Rely on the government or rely on your children?

From birth to death, in the final analysis, a person still relies on himself and his destiny.

Yes, you have to rely on yourself for retirement. But I didn’t understand until I got older. It’s a bit late. I should have understood it earlier.

In fact, no matter what age you are, you must believe in human nature. There is still a certain truth in the saying that there is no filial son in front of the bedside of a long-term illness. When the son has no time to take care of himself, how can he come to the bedside of a long-term illness to fulfill his filial piety? You know, people are getting older and older now. Some people are 90 or even 100 years old, and their children are almost seventy years old. How can they be filial? If you still need someone to take care of you, how can you take care of your older parents?

If you have money, you can hire someone to take care of you and not bother your children. This way, your life will be easier. Especially nowadays, people’s physical constitution is really not as good as that of the previous generation. When they reach middle age, they are often tortured by various diseases. , even if you have the intention, you are powerless.

The pain involved is only discovered when the elderly can no longer walk, which is a bit late. When it comes to old age, you must take precautions. The couple relies on each other. Don't let them get old or sick, and no one can give you a sip of water. If you can move, try not to hire anyone to take care of you, because you don't know how long you have to live. If you don't die, just take the money. Don't let it go. At that time, I had no money and no one to care about me. I couldn’t survive even if I wanted to. After working hard all my life, it would be so miserable to starve to death in old age...

I think that “parents’ care for themselves in old age has nothing to do with their children. It is very reasonable to have money yourself. Moreover, good health is the king of kings.

1. Countless real-life experiences tell us that parents must not count on their children to provide for themselves in old age. Parents are too old to move. Even if their children are filial, in most cases they don't have time to take care of you. This time my father was ill and hospitalized, and I had a personal experience. Although I have three brothers, they are all very busy and cannot stay at the hospital bedside for a long time. I had no choice but to find a caregiver, which cost 280 yuan a day. It will be even more troublesome if you are bedridden after a long illness. People say that "there is no filial son in bed for a long time", which is a true portrayal. Not to mention those children who don't want to fulfill their support obligations. When their parents are sick, they stay away from each other.

2. Elderly care has nothing to do with children. It does not mean that children really have no responsibility, but that children may be powerless. "The child wants to be raised, but the relatives are not waiting for him." Our parents are old, but we are still working hard for our own livelihood, and there is nothing we can do. This is also a real problem.

3. If your parents are old and you have money, the situation will be much better. At least you can hire someone to take care of them. You can hire nannies or hourly workers. If the conditions are good, you can live in a nursing home, and the level is optional. Parents who are rich and do not rely on their children are the greatest help to their children. It relieves their worries and is also conducive to family harmony.

4. The most important thing: parents must plan for themselves first. This is what I often say to my parents. Spend money on yourself and take good care of your body. That is the right way.

When people get old and sick, even if they have money, if you put the money in the hands of your children, they will say: Mom and Dad, hire a nanny! If you are old, eighty years old, and can still sing, dance, box, swim, travel, and climb mountains, your children will definitely say: Mom and Dad, you are so smart. You see, this is the essential difference: good health is the king of kings.

I hope my words will inspire everyone, thank you.

When people get old, they must understand that providing for their children has nothing to do with them. Having money is the only way to go.

I won’t say this for a moment. Family harmony is the kingly rule. Now that you have children, you should trust your children, but there are also a few people who are not filial. That's just a minority.

Although people are old, it is the wish of every elderly person to live without increasing the burden on their children. It is not how much money is king. The main thing is to have a healthy body and a happy life. In a family, the elderly love their children, and the children can respect the elderly, so it doesn't matter whether you have money or not, a happy life is the way to go.

In my opinion, this sentence expresses the aspirations of some people.

But it does not represent the thoughts of all people, and it even makes people ignore the existence of family love.

After all, money is not everything. There are some things that you can’t do even if you have money!

For example, if you are uncomfortable, have difficulty moving, are sick in bed, and need someone to care and take care of you, run around to do errands...

I don’t have any children by my side, I just pay people to serve me.

There is no sense of security or trust in the establishment of this kind of relationship.

There is no relationship at all between you, it is just a relationship based on money.

The life you want has not appeared!

Having said that, even if you have a lot of money, how much can you eat, wear and use when you are old?

Unless you get a few serious illnesses, there won’t be much left.

No matter how much money you have, you will not be happy alone!

In fact, it is wrong that retirement care has nothing to do with children.

This is just theoretical wording and is misleading in real life.

It’s a distrust of family members!

If you have children, you have children. No, just no.

When you are old, even if they are not filial, they will still be your children.

It is impossible for them to remain indifferent and show no sign at all.

At least your mood,

Seeing how well your family is doing will make you feel a lot more happy!

Old people are afraid of being alone and getting sick. I'm afraid that a person will die at home for a few days without anyone knowing...

This kind of news is not uncommon. We see it all the time, which makes people sigh!

It's not that they don't have money, it's not that they don't have money. There is no kingly way, but there are no children around.

Their old-age care is related to their children!

When we are old,

we do not long for money, we do not long for kingship, we only long for the health of our children. alive.

And so on!

"When people get old, they should understand: caring for the elderly has nothing to do with children. The only way is to have money." What do you think?

In my opinion, this is the idea of ??an independent old man and cannot represent the opinions of the majority of people.

Even the relationship between flesh and blood has turned into a money transaction, regardless of right and wrong.

The idea is good,

but in fact we cannot ignore the existence of our children,

and children,

also It is impossible to ignore our presence.

There is still a connection!

We should support each other,

until the near future!

Now,

Everyone should bear their own responsibilities.

In this world where people on earth don’t care about money, of course having money is king. It is unreasonable to say that children do not rely on children to support themselves in old age. China's history of thousands of years does not mean that the changes can be solved by explaining the changes. That's where the name of moral literature lies. I have traveled to many places in China and met many ethnic groups. Whose parents do not respect whom? In all aspects of social life, it is true that everyone, no matter what age, should be proud. If you are not dependent on your children, then your family is not independent. That's not possible. For the family, it can be alleviated from all aspects with the children, but it cannot be left to oneself alone. If the children are not filial, then they can clear the way and learn everything.

This problem not only affects your children, but also affects the good children of all mankind. We must unite and love the next generation. The next generation is our support and our country. We don’t have to Unite the next generation, maintain good love for the next generation, and hope that the next generation of Chinese people will be more confident! Even more brilliant and powerful! Forever passed down to all generations. I hope you will be an old man, your children are far away, and your filial piety is by your side.

Personal points, I hope it will be helpful to you.

It should be like this. They are all only children now, and they have a heavy burden on themselves. If both parents depend on them, they will have a hard time, so it is not too old now and they can save more money to prepare for the future. , only if you have money, your pension will be guaranteed, and your children will be happy.