It is not uncommon to reorganize families now, and most of them are relatively happy, probably because both of them have experienced the frustration of marriage, so they know how to cherish it more.
It is normal for families in China to get married with a bride price. In some places, people even look up to it in the amount of bride price. Like many people, I object to this irrational comparison. The bride price is originally a wedding gift, just a blessing to the couple.
Today, I want to discuss such a problem with you. If the woman is newly married, it is understandable to give a bride price. But if the woman remarries, should she still be given a bride price?
Reader Wang Jun is a famous "older youth" in the village. When my family was poor, my mother was always sick and relied on drugs all the year round. His father is also an honest farmer. His family's income comes from farming, and his father does odd jobs during the slack season.
After graduating from junior high school, Wang Jun followed the villagers to work in the city. He stayed at the construction site for a while, then worked as a waiter in a restaurant, and then got a job delivering food. Although it rains every day, compared with the previous two jobs, food delivery earns the most money.
In recent years, Wang Jun has saved some money in addition to sending living expenses home every month. Wang Jun wants to work for a few more years, then go home and build a house and marry a daughter-in-law.
The Spring Festival is the saddest time in Wang Jun every year, because all the peers in the village are married, and some children can get soy sauce, but Wang Jun is still single. Although Wang Jun sometimes feels unbalanced, on second thought, Wang Jun is relieved.
That year, Wang Jun met a swallow while delivering takeout food. She is also a woman from the countryside. Swallow is also a retribution woman. /kloc-when he was 0/8 years old, he was forced to get married by his parents. In-laws treat her badly and make things difficult for her all day. Her husband is also an alcoholic. Every time he gets drunk, he will scold the swallow and touch her. Swallows are often covered with scars.
Later, under the coordination of the local neighborhood Committee, Swallow and her husband broke off their engagement, and Swallow was able to regain her freedom.
Knowing these things, Wang Jun also sympathized with the little swallow. In this city, two people encourage each other, rely on each other, and slowly spark love. At first, the swallow escaped this feeling, but in the end, it failed to resist Wang Jun's offensive.
After two people established their relationship, they began to prepare for marriage. Both Wang Jun and Swallow are eager to have a home.
On the Mid-Autumn Festival that year, Wang Jun decided to take Swallow home to meet his parents and try to settle their marriage. Actually, Wang Jun and Stefanie didn't have a long relationship. Wang Jun told her parents about herself and Stefanie. Parents were a little upset to hear the news of Yanzi's second marriage, but considering the conditions at home and the age of their son, the old couple had to spit.
In order to make a good impression on future in-laws, Swallow has made great efforts. After arriving in Wang Jun, Swallow didn't treat himself as a guest at all, but helped to prepare the meal with his heart, and the family also had a reunion dinner.
After dinner, Wang Jun began to talk about marriage. At this time, the swallow also said smoothly: "We have a wedding custom there, and we need the man to get 50 thousand bride price, but I can make the decision and get it back after marriage."
After listening to Swallow's words, Wang Jun's parents' faces immediately cooled down, and their long-held resentment finally came out: "You are a divorced woman. It's good that someone is willing to marry you and you dare to ask for a bride price. Really ignorant. "
When this was said, the scene was instantly embarrassed. Wang Jun didn't know what to say at the moment, because in Wang Jun's heart, he also felt that he shouldn't give the swallows a bride price. The swallow looked at Wang Jun and saw that he didn't say a word. The swallow immediately got the answer in his heart, stood up and said, "since you all said so, I have nothing to say." That's it, we won't talk about it again. "
When the swallow said this, Wang Jun was a little flustered, but the swallow's heart was cold. No matter how hard Wang Jun tries, the Swallow won't give him another chance.
In my opinion, it is entirely the fault of Wang Jun's family that things have become this situation. Because deep down in their hearts, they always think that the second-married woman is inferior and that the swallow is lucky to be married to their family for the rest of her life. Not only was she ungrateful, but she even brazenly asked for a bride price.
I really can't spit out this mentality of Wang Jun's family. Fortunately, the swallow saw Wang Jun's family in time. If she is really married, the swallow may not be really happy.
In fact, I always think that the bride price is an attitude and sincerity to the woman's family. Whether the woman is married for the first time or for the second time, it is a great fate that two people can tie the knot.
Furthermore, the bride price has always been a tradition in China. Don't always think about deliberately suppressing each other in bride price. You know, all this will eventually break out in marriage. To sum up, bride price is valuable and marriage is priceless. Don't lose big because of small things.