In addition, modern psychological research points out that white lies can be divided into two categories: one is the white lies of the object, and the other is the white lies of the subject.
The so-called white lie of the object is a white lie whose starting point is completely for the benefit of the other party. It states the object of white lies more, such as praising a mentally retarded child and saying that he is smart and giving him confidence. This kind of object lies in goodwill and undermines honesty, which is a chronic poisoning.
The so-called white lie of the subject is a white lie whose starting point contains the elements of safeguarding or seeking self-interest. It states more about the subject who lies in good faith. For example, a child does not listen carefully in class. When he got home, his mother asked him if he had listened carefully. He didn't want his mother to blame him or feel sad, so he lied and said that he had listened carefully. This subject's well-intentioned lie obviously undermines honesty and is an acute poisoning.
Another debater's misunderstanding that white lies do not hinder honesty is nothing more than the hidden influence of white lies on the integrity of the object. You don't see the essence through the phenomenon, and you don't realize that this is a chronic poisoning.
Why is the object of white lies chronic poisoning? Psychological research explains that because the white lies of the object destroy the integrity, they will not be directly perceived by people, but will gradually corrode people's integrity system over time. The concept of dishonesty is hidden in their subconscious, and there is "for others!" This sentence will become his inner excuse for undermining integrity in the future.
For the above reasons, we believe that white lies hinder honesty!
There is no doubt that a white lie is itself a lie. Lies, lying is cheating, cheating is immoral, immoral things are unpopular. These are all instilled by teachers since childhood. But we ask ourselves, who hasn't lied? For our relatives, friends or strangers, there are many purposes, but when we add "goodwill" to a lie, it seems that everyone can accept it, which is the concentrated expression of human weakness.
Mark. Twain once said, "When you can't make up your mind, tell the truth. It will embarrass your opponent and make your friends feel relieved. " So the psychologist's point of view is: don't lie easily, even if it is a white lie.
We think we should distinguish things from the definition and synthesize the interpretation of Kangxi Dictionary. A white lie is not seeking truth from facts, telling lies and empty words, exaggerating, covering up and distorting the truth. From the structural analysis of white lie phrases, it is a partial phrase and the head word is a lie, so white lie is a lie in essence. It is an indisputable fact that white lies are often used by some "professional liars" because of their uncertainty. A "lie" itself is dark, and the likes and dislikes of things are not measured by the purpose of things. A white lie itself is a lie. Although he has shed his beggar's clothes and put on his cheongsam, he still can't get rid of the essence of lies, which means cheating and hinders honesty. White lies have a good starting point, but once they are exposed, they will do more harm to each other. As a lie itself, it is already a violation of good faith.
Among the 20-character moral standards put forward in the Implementation Outline of Citizen Moral Construction promulgated by the Central Committee of the Communist Party of China, "sincerity" is a very important criterion, which means seeking truth and justice. The ancients said that "true self" was sincere. Not refined and sincere, not moving.
As General Secretary Hu Jintao said in his speech: "The socialist harmonious society we want to build should be a society with democracy and the rule of law, fairness and justice, honesty and friendship, vitality, stability and order, and harmony between man and nature."
From the above analysis, we believe that no matter whether a lie is for a good purpose or not, being a lie will inevitably hinder honesty.
Counterparty: Honesty is a means, not an end. The fundamental principle of communication with people is seeking truth from facts and being kind to others. A white lie is also a means, which has the same effect as honesty. Considering the patient's endurance, in order not to increase the mental burden of the patient, it is in line with the purpose of honesty to temporarily conceal the illness and fabricate white lies. Malicious lies are to achieve ulterior motives, fabricate facts, reverse right and wrong, confuse black and white, and create rumors. It is fundamentally different from a white lie.