Although I have certain social experience and capital, I have reached an awkward age. There are parents to support and children to support in the world, especially men should shoulder the responsibility of being the head of the family and become the pillar of the family.
Moreover, taking care of your career and family, you have to spend a day in a hurry, and occasionally you have to socialize late into the night. Many times, no one knows whether you are bitter or tired.
Many people use it in different ways in pursuit of a better life, resulting in different quality of life. If a middle-aged man is still bragging about this, he is doomed to never turn over.
0 1: Take health as a joke.
In the relatives' hospital, I often meet my daughter-in-law who drives her children to and from school in a hurry, goes shopping unkempt and dumps the garbage upstairs and downstairs.
I can't help sighing every time I see her. The enviable family is now cherished.
The sea turned out to be a policeman. He was tall, powerful and handsome. Because of his popularity, love to make friends, many friends and super ability to handle affairs, he is the prime minister who has done his duty at any wedding.
In the sea of people with temperament, there are not only many people, but also many wine fields. Whenever a friend drinks, he will definitely push a cup for a change. Every time they drink, the atmosphere is high, they are excited, and they are still exhausted.
An accident after drinking in the sea brought my son into this world. When the joy of the two children has not faded, I found my son's intellectual problems.
At the beginning of pregnancy, Dahai's daughter-in-law hesitated to take the child away, but she was lucky when she was old. Now she has something to say and is reluctant to let go, so she took the risk of giving birth to the child.
With my son's sea, I look at my sensible daughter and daughter-in-law who have no fixed income, and my brow is more sad than a smile. The depression at home kept him shuttling between wineries.
After drinking a few glasses of wine in a wine shop without warning, the sea suddenly suffered a stroke and fell to the ground, never leaving the wheelchair again.
Drinking too much is fun, but drinking too much is harmful. If a person simply likes to drink a little wine, as long as it is moderate, it will not cause harm to the body, but will have certain benefits.
If you always like to go out with friends and drink a lot, you will be hollowed out one day. When you are young, the big wine you drink will give you a heavy blow when you are old, just like when you are young, you have buried a hidden danger to your body, and you don't know when it will detonate.
02: Addicted to bad habits, not enterprising.
Liu, a junior high school classmate, joined the army after graduating from high school. After demobilization, he was assigned to a state-owned enterprise directly under the city.
Good unit benefit, not only high income but also relatively easy. With a stable job, Liu Ziran got married and had children early.
This used to make those students who have not found jobs for the time being jealous.
Liu, who loved to play in junior high school, looked at the days when he was smeared with honey and regained his old love-playing cricket.
At first, I drove to the suburbs at night to catch crickets. Later, I raised them and thought my crickets were invincible in the world. I took them out to fight, and fighting was not enough, and I added a bet. Later, I simply gambled on more and more platforms.
Liu, who has a family history of hypertension, gradually found that his blood pressure fluctuated after middle age, relying on his youth and never taking medicine.
On a sunny night, Liu fought to the death with a group of cricketers. With the increase of gambling money, his blood pressure also rose unconsciously, and his heartbeat fluctuated up and down. Finally, after gambling all night, he collapsed.
Two months later, a group of students met Liu, who had passed by death and had craniotomy, in the brain rehabilitation treatment area and asked him with a smile, "Do you still play cricket after discharge?" Liu lisped and mumbled, "Don't fight."
Everyone has hobbies of one kind or another, because hobbies can greatly enrich people's spare time and enrich ordinary days. Hobbies are good and bad.
Good hobbies are like taking a dose of stimulants, which can make people happy physically and mentally and make life full of sunshine; However, bad hobbies often make people complacent, not enterprising, not only lose the ability to work hard, but also cause physical and mental damage, break the original happiness, and the quality of life will also decline.
03: Accumulated negative emotions
A few days ago, I met my long-lost friend Xiao Nan in the street. No sooner had she said a few words than she began to bombard her ex-husband.
Xiao Nan's first marriage was after four years of marriage. Because of her divorced personality, after years of careful choice, she re-entered the besieged city and sang with her current husband Qin Se.
What makes Xiao Nan angry is that her ex-husband has been ignoring her daughter for more than a year, not only ignoring her daughter, but also giving her nothing.
Xiao Nan remarried shortly after her ex-husband divorced her. Because of domestic violence, I went to the police station with my second wife. A few years later, the days of chicken flying and dog jumping parted ways.
In a few years, I divorced my second wife, and then divorced again. After several years of tossing, I broke up completely.
When I was looking for my third wife, I didn't have a second wedding in a big way, but a low-key wedding.
After the third wife gave birth to a son, it became more and more difficult to raise a daughter-in-law, a son and a daughter whose ex-wife had no job.
I sold my house and started a business. Not only did the business not make money, but it also lost money. The house didn't change, so I bought it in time. Then the price went up, and I couldn't afford it anymore.
I rented a house outside a few years ago and raised two children. I spend less money to come in and more money to go out. I heard that I lost money thinking about speculating in stocks to make money, and I wanted to invest in foreign exchange to get rich overnight, and my health was out of order again. It seems that the crisis of middle-aged people is all about one person.
The old man in the family fell ill and died, because money was not in harmony with his brothers and sisters, and because money always suspected that his daughter wanted money beyond her ability, she simply beat her daughter after a conflict.
In fact, Xiao Nan knows very well that her ex-husband's long-term depression caused serious psychological distortion.
Some middle-aged men have experienced one or two unhappy marriages. Instead of looking for the reasons themselves, they are addicted to fixed thinking and cannot extricate themselves. They put all the responsibilities on others, never try to correct their mistakes, and blindly blame others and lament the injustice of fate.
Even being in a bad mood for a long time leads to depression and depression.
04: Be a big man.
Some people say that a person's personality determines his fate, and his pattern determines his outcome.
It is especially difficult for people to reach middle age. Looking around, he is surrounded by people who depend on him. Looking around, there is no one he can rely on.
A good man should shoulder heavy burdens and responsibilities; Can stand loneliness, can stand grievances, can endure hardships, and can support themselves; Don't be greedy for pleasure, but be willing to do it no matter how hard and tired you are; Don't indulge in bad hobbies, manage your emotions, and don't be a slave to emotions; Taking care of your body and always putting health first is the greatest love for your loved ones.
Life is halfway through, only after suffering can we know that life is dull, and only after suffering can we know that health is a blessing.