Your present level is reflected in what you can do well at ordinary times. Your ability will not be improved because you make up your mind or set up your hopes. People also judge you by what you can do now, not what you think you can do.
Just like chicken soup for the soul, there is nothing wrong with the logic of your thinking about this kind of thing, but you see the problem too simply.
About ten years ago, people working outside the home in our village earned more than 1000 yuan a month. At that time, ten thousand households were still a rare phenomenon. At that time, I thought that if I went out to earn money, I would send 500 yuan to my family every month, so that I could build a house at home. Now my monthly income is almost ten times as much as before, but I still can't send back 500 yuan every month.
Is it really stingy? No, it was too simple to think before. I just thought about the problem statically and didn't consider the future changes. Apart from macro factors such as economic development and inflation, people of this age need friends, save money to buy a house, travel and have children in the future, so they can't afford the monthly expenses. In the end, what we can do is to turn the money we originally thought of giving to our parents every month into a one-time Chinese New Year payment every year.
For another example, everyone knows that staying up late at night is harmful to health. But most people stay up late. Because I am no longer young at school, I have told myself countless times that I must go to bed before 10: 30 at night. I think I can do it as long as I make up my mind. But the truth is, when I made this decision for the first time, I persisted for three days, and then I stayed up late. As for why I stay up late, play drama, read novels, play games and eat midnight snacks, there is always a reason to give in.
Every once in a while, I will regret staying up late, then blame myself and start a new cycle. It's been more than three years now, but I still can't make up my mind to do it. The good thing is that you can only stay up one or two days a week now.
And running, which a normal person can do. Since May this year, my colleagues and I have agreed to run every day on weekdays. Every time I run, I feel sweaty and refreshed. I always say that I should keep running the next day. Up to now, I am the only one who continues occasionally. But I did it, because I worked hard for three years.
The most typical is to do foreign exchange trading. I have seen that people who have never engaged in financial transactions will never know how fragile human nature is. I believe.
I started to contact foreign exchange trading from 20 10, and the first year was a trial stage, so I felt that I had accumulated experience and lessons. In the next few years, at the beginning of each transaction, I told myself that it would be good to "take advantage of the trend, reduce the position, stop loss and take profit" when trading. Then every time I failed, I was always carrying orders because I started in the wrong direction and didn't want to stop loss. I slowly increased my position to spread the cost, and then I became a heavy position, went against the trend, didn't want to stop loss, and was finally cleared.
So stop loss is really the most important, because the longer you go in the wrong direction, the greater the loss. What is lost is not only money, but also time. Business is like this, so is work and life.
We are all adults, so don't just look at the problem. Behind every problem, there are strict logical relations and social psychological factors, and they will change from time to time.
I used to see my colleagues speak freely in crowded situations. I guess I just don't want to talk. I know everything I have to say, and I can say more. In fact, putting yourself in that role only shows your normal self, but you can't show your expected self at all.
Some people look at other people's copywriting and PPT, and think that if they want to do it, they can do it well by spending some time and energy on it. But once you start doing it, you will know that you really just think too much. You don't know how to do it at all, and you have no mind to study it.
Others can do it well, which is a lot of efforts and long-term accumulation. It is not an imaginary determination that can become a reality.
Therefore, if you make up your mind to do something, you may not be able to do it well at first, but as long as you persevere, you will certainly achieve your expectations.
After this process, you will understand that what you think you can do is actually impossible.