As a result, it often leads to more problems, so that marriage breaks down.
So is it the same for women to cheat and men to cheat?
Today, we will focus on the consequences of women's infidelity and the reasons why society is particularly strict with women's infidelity.
In fact, it is not difficult for us to see many cheating women. Even some women who choose to cheat because of their husbands' impulsive cheating often end up with only two endings: marriage breakdown, divorce or divorce, and strange strange bedfellows.
The first result of cheating women is divorce. Divorce is the way most men face their spouses' infidelity. Whether they have children or not, whether women are wrong or not, most men will choose divorce, and they will hardly give women a second choice.
First of all, children will not be a factor for men to forgive women, because in most families, children are taken care of and loved by women.
Most men's feelings for their children are far from the love that women bring from their mothers, and children will not be a reason for forgiveness.
In order to raise his head in front of everyone and not be laughed at, men feel that they must leave this woman who humiliated themselves to save their lost face; And they will identify this woman as easy virtue. If she is left alone, maybe such a thing will happen again, so divorce is necessary.
Of course, not all women who cheat will divorce, and a small number of men choose to let this marriage continue after discovering that women cheat.
There are two reasons why men make such a choice: First, women are stronger than men, and men's economy and life depend on this woman, so even if women cheat, there is nothing they can do; Another one really loves this woman and feels that he can't live without this woman, even if he is betrayed.
But in any case, although they have made the choice to continue their lives, their inner feelings, even their physical intimacy and trust in life will be greatly affected. Some men even resist having sex with their wives and even retaliate by cheating, or use it to suppress women from time to time.
Although there is no divorce, most of their marriages are close and unfamiliar strange bedfellows, and it is difficult for such marriages to come to the end.
Therefore, after a woman cheats, whether she is forgiven or not, the ending is sad.
Correspondingly, when many men cheat, they not only feel ashamed, but also feel attractive and complacent.
After being discovered, it is often only necessary to coax. At first, spouses are often very painful and unwilling to believe, and then they will blame themselves and reflect on whether they have done enough. When men express their return, they will be willing to give opportunities and spend more time running their families.
Therefore, it is not difficult for us to see that after a man is forgiven for cheating, the two sides are reconciled as before. Because of mutual reflection and management, life is happier than before. Even public opinion tends to be more tolerant of men's infidelity.
Men cheat, and the argument around them is: men, it is inevitable to make mistakes occasionally, and the past will be fine. Anyway, he is still very good at home, there is no need to struggle for this little thing; But when a woman has an affair, the discussion around her is: This woman is really bad in conduct, morally corrupt, easy virtue and so on. This is an unfair but existing reality.
Then why is this happening? Why are women more condemned for cheating than men? What is worse?
First, the physiological structure is different.
As we all know, compared with men, women's physiological structure is relatively complex, male convex and female concave; Even if you have sex, men shoot out and women suck in, which determines that women are more likely to be infected with sexually transmitted diseases when they cheat (by the way, women, even if they are in love, please remember to take safety measures).
In addition to this obvious feature, the more subtle reason is that if a woman cheats and is pregnant with the child of an extramarital lover, the consequence will be that her husband will raise the child for others, which is fatal to men.
Therefore, for a man, since he has to pay for this family, he must consider many risks; In a more popular way, no matter how the woman's husband cheats, the child in the belly can be guaranteed to be his own. If this man's wife cheats, then the child born by his wife may not be guaranteed to be his own.
Before the advent of DNA technology, women's derailment could only be limited by public opinion. In the long run, people's infidelity to women becomes more severe. In addition, after cheating, women are more vulnerable to the risk of lover violence, extortion and love rat's entanglement.
In our previous case, I received a sister who found herself wanting to break up with someone after having an affair. As a result, she was forced to pay a breakup fee under the threat of indecent photography to get away. Such news is not uncommon, not to mention many sisters who are troubled by sexually transmitted diseases.
Of course, men will also encounter the confusion of sexually transmitted diseases, but relatively speaking, if a man wants to run away from home, most women at home choose to accept it. At most, it may be that extramarital affairs are entangled by women, and the risk of violence is relatively low.
Second, the reasons for cheating are different.
Men cheat first, and women cheat first, emotional infidelity. We can see that not all men who cheat are unhappy in marriage. On the contrary, some people are even happy.
However, most cheating women are very embarrassed or painful in marriage. Many times, men who cheat are born for sex, while women who cheat live for love, which means that once women cheat, they will put more emotions into it and it will be more difficult to get out, while men often just have sex for sex. "Know" who is suitable to be a wife and who is a lover, and it is easy to get out when necessary.
Men who have an affair are basically more concerned about the feelings of the lower body at first, while women who have an affair are more concerned about the feelings of the upper body. Therefore, in the face of an affair being known by the other party, men usually say, I am confused for a moment, take part in accidental amusement, have sex after drinking, and I still love you; And women will say, because you are not good to me, you don't love me, and you don't understand me, I will get in the way and we can't go on.
Of course, there are also some long-lasting relationships, and finally I don't know whether it is because of love or because of sex.
Third, the division of labor given by society is different.
In the previous era, men were often hunters and women were left behind, so men often needed to go out to find prey to prove their masculinity, which resulted in a characteristic that men liked to pursue novelty constantly, and society also developed an atmosphere of tolerating men's pursuit of novelty.
Women are left behind, and society entrusts them with more responsibilities to defend their own territory and raise their own children, which is one of the reasons why women always resist fiercely when someone tries to violate them.
Then in public opinion, women should stick to their homes. If this woman finds another man, she is dereliction of duty, a traitor and can't tolerate it. But when a man brings back a new woman, he is often considered capable.
Even in today's society, more and more women go out of their homes, become independent and self-reliant, and even hold up half the sky. However, thousands of years of traditional customs will not change at once.
We can often see that even if a woman is very successful and financially independent, she is still attached to a man in her heart, so she will not take a strong divorce when her husband is cheating, and she will even be accused of "you are too powerful, and the man is cheating". If a woman cheats, everyone will accuse her of immorality, moral corruption and misconduct.
Therefore, even if the social division of labor changes, people's inherent thinking and views will not change at once, and the society's accusation of women's infidelity is still more severe than that of men.
Of course, analyzing these is not to find reasons for women or men to cheat. In the final analysis, cheating is wrong, both men and women are against social morality.