Listening is the most important part of interpersonal communication. If this part is not handled properly, it will often lose real communication and hinder the connection between hearts.
There is a famous saying in the west: "eloquence is silver, and listening is gold." Therefore, in interpersonal communication, try to talk less and listen more. If you want to create a harmonious atmosphere, you must learn to listen patiently. This can narrow the distance between people and hearts, even if there has been a gap, it will be eliminated because of good listening. Listening is an art of communication. Only by learning to listen can we win people's hearts.
I am lucky to study with deer students. He is optimistic, good at research, independent and has personality. I quite like him. I'm good at talking, but I don't like math very much. In the process of communicating with the deer, I found it too important to listen to the children's voices, and the children hoped that the teacher would give them too much attention and encouragement. He communicated with me that he didn't like his math teacher. I asked him why. He said: "The math teacher is young and always talks about him and treats him as a poor student." Ask me, teacher, do you think I am poor? I said, you are not bad, you lack proficiency in using careful calculation to change inertia, and you are excellent. The deer has a smile on its mouth.
Listening is a part of education, a part of daily life and a part of each of us. Who is not listening and being listened to, who does not respond to listening, who is not "alive" or even who is not really "alive".
Teachers should know what to listen to and how to listen.
In the process of education, teachers are often unable or difficult to listen to students' voices, resulting in deafness, which has various manifestations and reasons. Listening has important educational value, which is embodied in morality, communication or therapy.
The process of education is that educators and educatees listen to each other and respond to each other. As educators, teachers have the responsibility to cultivate and develop students' listening ability, and also have the responsibility to develop and use their own listening ability. For the latter, it can be considered that it is the moral responsibility of teachers to listen to the narrative of the educated.
However, in daily education, the phenomenon of teachers' "deafness" is common, which has caused many adverse consequences, forcing us to explore the root of deafness and examine and ask about the value and significance of listening in education.
"Deafness" occurs when a student's narrative or speech is ignored by the teacher and omitted intentionally or unintentionally. Can be divided into different types. To some extent, there are complete deafness and partial deafness. The former turned a deaf ear to almost all the students' narratives. This kind of teacher deprives students of the right to be listened to, and also gives up their own rights and obligations to listen, losing the ability to listen. The latter only chose to accept some of the students' speeches intentionally or unintentionally. From the time dimension, there are temporary deafness and long-term deafness. Temporary deafness is a phenomenon that any teacher will have. People can't keep their ears open all the time, and occasionally "sleep" or "sleep". Long-term deafness is an abnormal phenomenon, which shows that teachers have long turned a deaf ear to students' words.
Listening to each other can not only make them enjoy communicating with you more, but also make you learn more from each other. When two people communicate, they are both expressing their existing ideas and getting ideas from each other's hearts. If you just talk and don't listen, it's like a glass of water flowing out without flowing in, and it will dry up one day. We need to constantly replenish ourselves and enrich ourselves. Listening is a good way.
Teachers need the correct way of "listening"
One is an imperfect listening process, which is also a pathological listening process. When the normal listening process is blocked or disordered, the communication between teachers and students will be in trouble, and the crisis of education will also appear. Educators should bear the main responsibility for this.
The second is false listening. The so-called "false" refers to a false posture, that is, the teacher puts on a listening posture, opens one ear to accept the student's voice, but lets it flow out quietly from the other ear, which fails to make the voice stir up any ripples in his inner lake, and also fails to make any changes in teachers' words, deeds and attitudes related to this listening. The worst listening is this: the teacher didn't even open an ear. He just sat there and let the students speak, but he didn't accept or respond.
The third is that I heard it wrong. Misunderstanding means that teachers fail to accurately grasp the connotation, direction and potential significance of students' voices.
On the third day of contact with the deer, the deer summed up a few words for me: teacher, I like you. You are the gold teacher. You are young, mature and experienced. He kept saying, I'm afraid I left a message, recording it. By listening, I express my concern, praise and love for my teacher.
Listening is the origin of education and educational thought.
If a so-called "famous teacher" can't arouse my heartfelt respect, it is often because he lacks the ability to listen to others. Its root lies in "arrogance", which comes from the arrogance of seniority, honor and status, leading to contempt, refusal to listen and failure to listen to others. This may be the normal state of life.
Studying with the deer, I found that the deer had mild rhinitis, so I had to blow my nose with paper. He told me that the teacher allowed him to blow his nose in class every day. He knew it would also slightly affect other students. He raised his hand and the teacher didn't shout. He sits in the last seat, of course, the teacher will miss something in class. If the teacher pays less attention and encouragement to him, the deer will feel uninterested day by day. Interest is the best listening requirement of students.
Whether our education can respect and pay attention to discovering, caring, satisfying and promoting "listening needs", whether our teachers have the sensitivity and consciousness of listening, and what kind of "listening ability" and "listening habits" are the starting point and key to the success of education.
The deer asked me, teacher, what can cure rhinitis. I brought a medicine patch for the deer, and told him to stick it for 15 days, so that he wouldn't blow his nose in class. That would be great. The deer was very obedient and started posting according to my suggestion. How he wishes he could make the teacher listen patiently and pay more attention to the lecture like other students.
God's wonderful creation of mankind can also illustrate this point. When he created man, he only made one mouth, but two ears, which means we should talk less and listen more. A person who always wears ears is always more pleasing than a person who only has a mouth. When communicating with others, if you only talk about yourself, you don't care whether the other person is interested in listening. This is a very impolite thing, and it is easy to make people feel disgusted.
In fact, listening is sometimes more important than speaking. Everyone who can achieve great things knows this truth, and every successful person will do it. Because they know that the only way to get others' respect and not be annoying is to talk less, listen more, be quiet, be patient and listen quickly.
Maybe interpersonal communication is not an easy thing for some people. If you want to get along better with others, you must first learn to listen. Because people are always eager to express their thoughts and opinions. A person who is willing to listen to others will naturally have more friends.
Whether teachers have the sensitivity and consciousness to listen, and what kind of "listening ability" and "listening habits" they have are the key to the success or failure of education. Teachers should have the ability to listen, and students should also cultivate their listening ability. In this era of big data informationization, listening is particularly difficult. However, in order to really enter the students' hearts and promote their growth, we must start from listening!
Teacher, please be patient!
Anshan, Li Bin, Liaoning
20 19 February 13