Talking about how old is the best age to get married? How old is the best person to marry? There is no precise answer to these questions, at least with the development of society, the progress of the times, living in different regions, this answer is subject to change. For example, in ancient times, when the population was small, the rulers in order to increase the population, strengthen the national strength, to encourage the promotion of early births and early childbearing, then the girls 16 years old to get married and give birth to children, or even earlier, after 20 years of age unmarried even if the old girl. At that time, boys were also married at about 17 or 18 years of age. However, things are different now. Society has developed and the population is so large that it is too late for family planning to be implemented, not to mention early births and early childbearing. Nowadays, in general, the more big and medium-sized cities get married later, it is very normal for men to be 34 or 35 years old, and there are many unmarried women who are 30 years old. Moreover, the more developed countries get married the later, Britain and the United States on average much later than our country, and more and more people choose not to get married. The more backward regions or countries, such as rural areas, married relatively early, as far as we know, most of the rural boys married at 18 years old, and they like to find a 20-year-old girl to get married, can help do farm work. We can see that different regions, different countries, different times, the requirements for the age of marriage are different.
Considering that most of the readers of this article are townspeople, let's discuss today: at what age is it appropriate for young people to get married in the towns of contemporary China? How old is the best age to choose a partner? When it comes to this issue, the traditional view may be that men and women are 25 years old, 26 years old, men are older than women 1 year, 2 years old is best. In fact, the traditional view may not be correct, just as in the previous thousands of years, all people thought that the earth was flat and carried on the back of a turtle. Whether something is right or wrong can only be known after careful scrutiny and practice. Research and studies have shown that in modern times, inside the big and medium-sized cities of our country, it is more appropriate for a girl to be 24 to 25 years old to marry a man between 32 and 35 years old. To put it another way, it is better for a girl to get married before she is 25 years old, and it is appropriate to marry a man who is 5 to 14 years older than you. If a girl doesn't marry herself off soon at 25 (26 at the latest), it will be harder to marry ideally later. But boys are fine, as the saying goes, "a man 40 a flower it", "women 40 years old". Nowadays, more and more boys in big cities are concentrating on getting married after 30 years old. Why do you say so, there are many reasons, listen to my further talk:
Rationale 1: From the appearance of men and women, physical changes, the girl is generally over 25 years old, day by day decline, and the speed is very fast, to the age of 30 years old looks a little old. Women are like the moon, 25 years old to reach the full moon. Why do girls age faster, in addition to the role of genes, but also because women have a monthly period, the loss of the body's essence of the adult years. Boys are different, they grow and develop slower than girls from an early age, and don't start to decline until about age 30, and at a much slower rate than girls. A woman in her 50s said she fell in love with a man 16 years older than her when she was 20 years old, and then her parents said the age difference was too big for her, but 30 years later, she said the man looked younger than she did. As the saying goes, "women live through life but not through old age, men live through old age but not through life", which fully illustrates the physiological differences between men and women. We say that the boy should be at least 5 years older than the girl, this is the reason, the maximum difference of 14 years is a psychologically acceptable range, but the best gap is about 9 years, the reason I will continue to say.
Rationale 2: From genetics, from the birth of offspring, the offspring of the health mainly depends on the mother, because the baby to grow in the mother's body, the offspring of the smart mainly depends on the father, this is genetic. Young mothers can ensure that their offspring are healthy, while only older fathers have a greater chance of their offspring being smart. Or the reason why men and women are physiologically different, women's IQ development to 18 years old basically no longer grow, so a lot of very old women, still look very naive is this reason. Men are different, men develop later than women, but the development of men's IQ is constantly growing, a bit like endless, the older the more intelligent, the more we say smart is not a good memory, but the problem solving ability is strong. Modern scientific research suggests that the IQ of the offspring is mainly inherited from the father.
To give a few examples:
Confucius: 54 years difference in age between his parents, founder of the Confucian school of thought, China's greatest philosopher, thinker and educator, whose ideas have influenced China for more than 3,000 years and still serve as a code of conduct for the Chinese people today.
Tchaikovsky: Parents 18 years apart in age, the greatest musician of all time. Famous for "Swan Lake" and "The Nutcracker".
Gogol: the age difference between his parents is 14 years, the pioneer of satirical literature, the founder of critical realism literature, the father of prose. Representative works include "Diary of a Madman", "Coat", "Chinchilla" and "Dead Souls".
Beethoven: the age difference between his parents is 14 years, one of the representative figures of the Viennese classical school of music, the king of the symphony world. Representative works include Symphony No. 3 (Hero), Symphony No. 5 (Destiny), Symphony No. 9 and so on.
Madame Curie: parents age difference of 11 years, Poland's most outstanding female scientists, research on the phenomenon of radioactivity, the discovery of radium and polonium two radioactive elements, a lifetime of two Nobel Prizes.
Einstein: by far the smartest person in the world. Parents age difference of 11 years, the greatest natural scientist of the 20th century, his theory of relativity became the cornerstone of modern physics. Awarded the Nobel Prize in Physics in 2007.
Rationale 3: the old husband and young wife combination is more conducive to the man's achievement of the cause, conducive to the health of the offspring, like,, etc. Many accomplished people husband and wife age gap is very large. Sun Yat-sen and Song Qingling, and Wang Guangmei, Lu Xun and Xu Guangping, Xu Beihong and Liao Jingwen, are more than 20 years apart. Fateh and Suha age gap of 34 years, Zhang Xueliang and Zhao Yidi age gap of 12 years, Qiao Guanhua and Zhang Hanyi age gap of 22 years, Chen Yun is 14 years older than his wife, until Chen Yun died, he and his wife life **** with the life of 57 years.
Rationale 4: from the economic aspect to consider, men in their 30s the ability to raise a family to be much stronger, there are a lot of money, have, have a car, at least there is a certain amount of the wife of the book, which is 24 years old, 25 years old boys can not be compared to 24 years old, 25 years old boys, just graduated from the university, no money at all, no son, this life, whether it can get up son? It's all unknown. Can you find a job? When the work can be stabilized? Or is it the same thing, even if you find a job immediately, the wage is not high, just can support themselves is good. Nowadays, it is so difficult to find a job that many college students offer to take a free trial without salary. So a 23 to 25 year old girl who marries a guy in his 30s basically doesn't have to suffer from poverty, has an easy life, and immediately lives a stable life, or even a good life. At least a thirty-something man looks on the beauty of the ugly, body fat and thin, the appearance of young and old, career into a dragon into a worm has been able to see roughly.
Rationale 5: Men in general have a kind of love for the weak psychological, so the age gap is larger, the woman will be very favored, at least will be shared a lot of housework. There is an example on the Internet, a girl graduated from college and married a boy in the same class, three years later, the reunion, she said she regretted that she should find a man a few years older to get married, because the boy did not know how to love her, she worked half dead, he read the newspaper. Examples of this abound, which shows that men generally like to love the weak and vulnerable. We are all the same age, do we still need to love?
Rationale 6: Older men are mature, tolerant, and will rarely argue with you vehemently, so the marriage will be more stable. Smaller boys are the opposite, there is no way, we are all young and vigorous, who do not let anyone, who do not serve anyone.
Rationale 7: According to popular statistics on the Internet, 85% of college lovers break up after graduation, only 15% will get married, and graduation year is the year of breakup. According to a newspaper we saw, that breakup rate is 95%. Regardless of whether 85% or 95% is correct, it's about 90% anyway. Why does graduation mean breakup? The reason is also very simple, forced by the harsh reality of the pressure. We all have no job, no money, no son, most likely home is not in a city, not to break up and wait for what.
Rationale 8: According to statistics, in recent years, "the smaller the age gap between couples, the higher the divorce rate", divorce within three years is quite common. According to the "Wuhan Evening News" reported, Wuhan Hanyang District Civil Affairs Bureau of the year divorced couples survey found that: couples of the same age has become the highest divorce rate of high-risk combinations. At the same time, Yichang marital status also pointed out that the Xiling District, the age difference of 1 year couples with the highest rate of divorce, amounting to 19.85%, the difference of 2 years of age divorce rate of 17.44%. A difference of 3 years are considered the same age. The reason for this lies in so many points, first, we are young, character is very childish, lack of patience and tolerance. Secondly, for economic reasons, the economy is already bad, and having children is even more stressful, which can easily lead to quarrels. Third, men and women are in the beginning stage of their work is very busy, physically and mentally very tired, communication time is very little, or unwilling to communicate. Fourth, men and women good face spawned slaves, car slaves, monthly loan repayment, every day mood is not easy, encounter family problems mood irritable. Fifth, both sides of the income is very little, the lack of material basis, relying on both parents to help, and a variety of conflicts caused by the conflict.
Rationale 9: Couples of the same age do not divorce within three years, even after the bonding period, but to be married for 10 to 20 years, the possibility of divorce than non-peer couples is getting bigger and bigger. Why is this? Ancient people have long seen through, said: "women with color, color pine love Chi." That is, the woman is older, not beautiful, men feel uncomfortable in their hearts, they do not like. There is also a saying: "Women live through the old, men live through the old". That is to say, the woman aging faster than men, if it is the same age couples, after a decade or two, the woman appears to be older, the man also appears to be very young, the man's heart will be dissatisfied. So, couples of the same age, marriage looks very good match in appearance, but after ten years, the woman aged very quickly, will be more and more mismatched, the possibility of divorce is growing, he does not care about you from the past you accompanied him with the **** bitter, survived the initial hardship, the best of the youth are given to him. What's more, some people think: "promotion and wealth dead wife". But on the other hand, more than twenty girls married to more than thirty men, although just married to the appearance does not seem to be a very good match, but after ten or so years, with the passage of time, the woman gets older faster than the man, the two will become more and more compatible with the appearance, the stability of the marriage is getting bigger and bigger. So another statistic, "the larger the age difference, the lower the divorce rate of couples", and here's why.
Rationale 10: Men generally don't like strong women, so don't make yourself too strong, women are too strong will give men a lot of pressure, resulting in no one wants. Therefore, girls had better not go to what graduate school ah, PhD ah, when the big boss ah what, can not count how many female doctors, female strong, female high-paying white-collar workers can not find an object, abound, even if you want to read to be married before reading. According to reliable data surveys show that the ratio of highly educated unmarried men and women is 1:10, what a terrible number! Shanghai men and women dating ratio of 1:10, Guangzhou older unmarried 70% of women, men and women dating ratio of 1:8, Shenzhen men and women ratio of 1:7. So the girl do not let themselves age, do not let themselves become too strong, undergraduate just good, while they are young, in 25 (the latest 26 years old) years old before finding a good condition of more than thirty men to marry themselves, do not be too picky, no one is perfect. We know a few examples, was a school beauty, too picky, see who have shortcomings, pick 5 years, 6 years, nearly 30 years old, now there is no man interested in her, one is she is not very beautiful, the second is that we all know that she is too picky, no one can stand, her family said that she is psychologically abnormal; another beautiful woman, picking to the age of 30 years old, no one wants to, and finally took the initiative to go backwards! A divorced old man, but also with a child, you say this is why the pain. So female undergraduates, only two years after graduation, up to three years of time, must be married off as soon as possible, the more you pick will only be the worse conditions, will not be the more you pick the better, after 26 years of age, almost lifelong hopeless. Vision is too high, the bad luck is their own. Unfortunately, these reasons, not many women understand, now more and more large and medium-sized cities are high-age, high-income, high consumption of the "three high leftover women". It seems that they do not intend to get married in this life. Girls do not go to graduate school, there is another important reason, the higher the education of girls the more difficult to find a job, professional good point, professional bad about the master's degree can be 30% of girls to find a job, female doctor can be 10% to find it is good. Don't be afraid to tell the truth, last year our school's female doctorate contract rate was 0%, the school dare not tell the public. This is exactly the opposite of men, who are highly educated and have a better chance of finding a job. There is no way, men and women are different, different in every aspect. So people live in the world, the most important thing is to recognize the situation, not subjective. Some parents do not understand anything, said to their daughters, continue to go on, as high as you can go on as high as you can go on as good as you can go on as good as you can go on, in the end, the age is also old, can not find a job, can not find a husband, this life is over. It may be a good thing for nation building, it is a life tragedy for yourself.
According to the "China Social Marriage Survey Report" jointly written and published by the School of Psychology of Beida Normal University, Countdown Information and the Lily Marriage Research Institute in 2007, the results of the report basically coincide with our point of view. According to the report, more than 90% of women believe that men between the ages of 23 and 26 are ideal marriage partners, while men around the age of 30 are "favored" by only half of the women; however, the results were fundamentally reversed in 2007, when the ideal age of marriage for men in the eyes of women was postponed to 31 years old, and the favored degree of men in their 30s and 31s jumped to 80%. Even a sudden increase to 80%, that is to say, about 80% of the women think that men in their prime years are the most suitable for marriage. This shows that many girls gradually understand now, about 25 years old men are not very suitable for marriage, but we have to say, understand is not enough, 31 years of age, the ideal age in fact, but also to push back 2 years, 3 years, especially men to support their families, we must achieve a certain social status, whether ancient or modern, are "wife to husband as noble, mother to son as precious! "With the rapid development of society, competition has become more intense, which has become more difficult for men, this age will be pushed back a few years, for example, the average age of marriage for men in the United Kingdom is now 36 years old, there is no way, people are more developed than us. And the more developed you are, the more pressure you are under and the more people choose not to get married. The report also shows that the majority (over 65%) of men believe that the most ideal marriage partner is a 25-year-old woman, and from the age of 30, their chances of getting married plummet: at 30, 25.5% of men think it's OK to marry her; at 35, only 12.5% of men are able to accept it. Men are much more relaxed, even at the age of 35, there are still one-third of women willing to marry him, and at the age of 40, there are 15.2% of women to choose him. Although official statistics show that the total number of men in China is higher than that of women, it seems that in reality there are always more women than men. The report also said that the character of similar people are more likely to love each other, "male strong female weak" high marital satisfaction, more than 20% of couples within three years of marriage "regret marriage", income and marital quality is not a significant relationship between the wife has a bachelor's degree or above, the husband's marital satisfaction, significantly higher than the wife is a college degree or below, the husband's marital satisfaction. Higher than the wife is a college degree or less husband; husband's education is higher than the wife's education, marital satisfaction is significantly higher than the wife's education is higher than the husband's education.
The requirements for a good wife are: young, beautiful, pure and gentle; the requirements for a good husband are: a certain social status, the ability to earn money to support the family, supporting parents, raising children, loving wife,. So girls must not go against these four requirements of the thing, the girl's age began to get older, these advantages with all the disappeared, there are girls and boys to talk about friends and even play house, in addition to wasting feelings, damage to their own merits, we can not see the benefits of a little bit of those early 20-year-old boys can only play with you, really think that you can give you what the guarantee of life and happiness? Some years later he will only make you hurt, even he himself in 30 years old before they did not want to get married, he wanted to get married also do not have the basic conditions. But as a girl you can not afford to play, 25 years old is near the end of your life, so you have to start from the age of 20 years old will be for their own life plans, can not learn from the boys to play just. Talking about feelings to engage in object, do not like to engage in what rally, a get 5 years, 6 years, and finally get blown how to do? The last no life security how to do? Girls are very hurt, exaggerated, there are two or three months, can see a person's basic nature on the line, girls can not afford to delay. If a college girl really want to talk about friends, you can find a master's degree or PhD students better, unmarried college teachers are also good. In short, don't play relationship games with your classmates, it's not going to work, ten reasons are written in front of you. But there is one thing to pay attention to, to make sure that the other party is no wife only, don't accidentally be treated as a second wife will be miserable. The years are too cruel to women, picking the object is very unfavorable to women, only 20 to 25 years old these years, but men are much more relaxed, about 28 to 38 years old have ten years. There's no way around it, men and women are just different in every way. So for women, you can never be too picky, meet the conditions of the good to marry it, otherwise it is definitely the more you pick the worse. The first thing you need to do is to get a good deal of money to pay for the services you need, and then you can get a good deal of money to pay for the services you need.
Lastly, to get married to find the conditions of almost good, do not what complementary, complementary is the extreme inappropriate, the best people in the north do not look for southerners, the best people in the city do not look for the rural people, not too big a difference in qualifications, *** the same hobbies, the more the better, living habits do not differ too much, the view of things similar to the best, in short, is the difference between the smaller the better, the more stable the marriage. All divorces are caused by conflicts, and conflicts are caused by too big a gap in one area. The right family is indeed the point of marriage.
All the unmarried girls under 25 and unmarried boys under 30 reading this are lucky, and I wish all of you to set up a happy home