6 Simple and Efficient Tenets of Life

Don't Make Any Decisions When Your Mood Fluctuates

The brain basically has two systems: one that deals with emotions and intuition, which is mainly handled by the amygdala: and another that thinks, analyzes, and makes decisions, which is mainly handled by the prefrontal cortex, and the two systems rise and fall on top of each other, inhibiting each other. When you feel mood swings, the prefrontal cortex is inhibited, so our ability to judge, to think and to control, is actually at its lowest point.

So when you feel any emotion, including but not limited to fear, anger, anxiety, or stress, make sure you keep these questions in mind and ask yourself the opposite.

★What is the thing/things that triggers me to feel this emotion?

★Are the actions and decisions I'm about to take something I'm happy about?

★Will there be any bad consequences if I hold off before taking action?

Once you start allowing yourself to think about these questions, you actually activate the prefrontal cortex, which also inhibits our emotional responses. All attempts to get us to give up rational thinking and follow our emotions must be met with a question mark, because giving up rationality also means giving up the power to dictate our own actions to someone else.

A simple way of thinking:Nothing is so imminent that it can't wait even a few minutes. When one is caught in a mood swing, it's always a good strategy to step out and make decisions first.

Weighing the pros and cons and still not sure whether to do it or not, then do it

Psychology, there is a classic model of regret, called the "time model of regret", in the long run, we are more likely to regret that we did something than that we didn't do it. We are more likely to regret "not doing something" than "doing something" in the long run. Although this is not a rational phenomenon, it does exist, and it will continue to irritate you, causing you to ruminate on it in the dead of night, creating feelings of regret and loss.

If something you've thought about carefully and thoughtfully and still don't know whether you should do it or not, that means that the risks and benefits of doing it are roughly equal. You can't easily put it down, and it's hard to get past the risk. Then, at this point, you should understand: it is difficult to think about this thing again and continue to have a clear result, just in the waste of time and energy.

So don't think, act. Even if the result is not as good as we would like it to be, we have at least gained experience and enriched our lives a little bit, and there is nothing wrong with that. Of course, the "hot head" does not mean that we let ourselves go, but do not spend energy on thinking about "to do or not to do" on the first, but first go to action, and then think about how to do well. The following thinking method for reference.

★Consider what the worst-case scenario might be, and be mentally prepared;

★Consider how things might evolve in a few directions, and do a good job of contingency planning and plan B;

★Consider the indicators that might be generated in the course of the development of the matter, and do a good job of forecasting and monitoring, so that you know whether things are in accordance with their own expectations of the development of the... ...

Most of the things you worry about don't happen

Make an "anxiety box" for yourself. When you feel anxious, write down the problem and the expected negative outcome, put it in the anxiety box, and note the time. After a period of time and then come back to see, you may find: this table recorded in the problem, the vast majority of the pressure did not happen. This phenomenon is also supported by research. In 1999, a researcher conducted an experiment with the following findings.

1)About 85% of all the things we worry about never happen.

2)If the things we worry about happen, about 79% of them turn out to be much better than we thought.

3)Those who are able to let go of their anxiety are in better physical shape than those who are constantly stressed and worried, as well as being in better shape and able to deal with the problems they really face.

Remaining with the small chance of a problem occurring and the possibility of some unforeseen challenges, keep yourself in mind of one basic fact: anxiety and fear will not help you solve the problem, but will only sap your energy and sharpness. The only thing that can really help is your own resources, abilities, experiences and mental qualities.

Facing problems and challenges, you always tell yourself, "There is a very high probability that this problem will not occur, and even if it does, I can handle it. In order to deal with the problems that do occur, you should work on getting stronger now.

Consider whether you can cooperate first when encountering games and encounters

Political scientist Robert Axelrod, in his book, "The Evolution of Cooperation," proposes a game of chance:Suppose you're involved in a game in which you have an opponent, who is different in each round. Each round you can choose to either cheat or cooperate.

When you choose the former, you lose nothing:When you choose the latter, you lose 1 gold coin and your opponent gets 3 gold coins. If both players choose to cooperate, they each net 2 coins; if they both choose to cheat, they lose nothing and gain nothing: if one player chooses to cheat and the other chooses to cooperate, the former gains 3 coins and the latter loses 1 coin.

So what's the winning algorithm in this game? It's an algorithm known as "an eye for an eye": you start by cooperating and releasing goodwill, and then in each subsequent round, you mimic what the other player did in the previous round. This algorithm is not the most profitable in a single round, but after many games it ends up being the most profitable on average.

What a game can convey to us is the belief that in this world, the pursuit of **** knowledge, win-win and cooperation is always a strategy that benefits both sides. Adhering to the concept of "prioritizing cooperation" always yields a good result. But when it comes to conflict situations, it is not to make you weak, but to tell you: first consider cooperation, if cooperation is not possible, then consider competition. If the other party has absolutely no willingness to cooperate, false and insincere, then there is no need to be afraid of, an eye for an eye can be.

1)I believe that the majority of people in the world are well-intentioned, and if there are practices that are good for everyone, there is no need to do harm to others.

2)In everything you do, prioritize the satisfaction of those involved (e.g., users and partners) before yourself.

3)Try to take care of everyone, don't feel free to sacrifice anyone's preferences and feelings, everyone deserves to be noticed.

Face the external world to be immersed, face the internal world to be withdrawn

When we face the life, face the external world, adopt the perspective of self-immersion, to devote to the life, reduce unnecessary thinking and thoughts, let yourself follow the atmosphere of the scene to feel, express and react, temporarily drive distractions out of the mind, which can stimulate oneself to enter into the state of the mind flow.

This is the only way to stimulate your mind to enter the flow state.

So I'm trying to shut down my mind for a while, not to let my brain be in high gear, and to focus more on my senses, to listen, to see, to touch, to experience, to feel, to respond, and to integrate.

This is a way of relaxing and becoming better, more engaged in life. In turn, when you face your inner world, when you face your fears, worries, shame, embarrassment, and hard feelings, you should withdraw yourself from them, and allow yourself to look at and observe them with a third-party perspective, so as to avoid these negative shadows, which are hidden deep inside, from influencing and interfering with you.